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Posted: 10/4/2007 11:59:00 AM | I guess yo get what you pay for. I paid nothing and got nothing .
But I did spend a lot of time thinking that this was a dating site. Now I know that it is a game and you are not really supposed to actually meet someone.
The foums are to vent
Views are censored and eeleted if a moderator does not like you
The women are not serious and a lot of guys are realing it but still like to post to the fourms since they too have figured that this is not a place to meet someone.
Lastly, the ones that DO meet someone, i wonder about the people they meet. Are they jerks, losers, ugly, ???
And I wonder if that 'soulmate' will be around after the kid is born or if the relatioship will still be on great ground a year from now.
They need one more sub foum.
Sucessful relatioships one year later.
Bet there would be no one writing on that forum.
I could go on but won't .
The forums serve a purpose. They tell you who to avoid. So maybe that is worth something and makes this a viable site.
But just don't come expecting to date.
Maybe things will get better when people are less angry and people are just too angry in this new century we live in. OR maybe it is just in this country. Whatever. And I believed the last century stank but high hopes for the new one.
How I miss the 90's (never thought that was possible)
As in Mission Impossible , this post will be deleted in 30 seconds whether you choose to believe what I wrote or not. | |
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/4/2007 12:09:08 PM | | I have only met one person from Plenty of Fish and I got what I was looking for... A great friend. | |
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/4/2007 12:18:01 PM | | I can share your feelings, and I entirely understand where you are coming from. The way you feel is exactly the way I feel. I was beginning to wonder if I was the only one who feels that way, and now, thank God I know I am not alone. I think the site might have inadvertently lost its intended purpose and direction, and assumed a totally different character. It is not as good now as it was when it first began. I am afraid a lot of people will end up taking this site as a joke for jerks rather than as a serious dating site, and if that should happen, what a shame it would be. We love this place, and we hope it regains its original focus, decency and respect. There are a few good people on here, maybe it just takes time to separate the wheat from the chaff. Thanks for an opinion well stated, Moneyman2007. | |
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/4/2007 7:24:50 PM |
Views are censored and eeleted if a moderator does not like you
Actually, if your views, or the way you express them, are contrary to the posting rules, as a few yours have been, your posts will be deleted whether a Mod likes you or not. 
Ain't no Freedom of Speech rights here.
You post within the guildlines, rules, and Terms Of Service that you agreed to when you signed up, or DON'T POST!
The women are not serious
The vast majority of the women here ARE serious - They're looking to be more than just a casual receptacle for your sperm.
Last I checked, an Intimate Encounter is considered CASUAL.
YOU are seeking an Intimate Encounter on a site geared mostly to "serious" relationships.
Lastly, the ones that DO meet someone, i wonder about the people they meet. Are they jerks, losers, ugly, ???
This being the internet, there's no shortage of jerks, and losers.
Here they usually troll the forums and/or other members, and if they have the opportunity, start whine threads lamenting their lack of success.
Sucessful relatioships one year later.
Bet there would be no one writing on that forum.
I could go on but won't .
You'd lose your bet.
There are some of us still active on the forums, but there are many more successful relationships as a result of this site.
Why would YOU be concerned about other people's relationships after a year, anyway?
"Intimate Encounter" by it's very name implies a unique event, no? 
The forums serve a purpose. They tell you who to avoid. So maybe that is worth something and makes this a viable site.
THEY CERTAINLY DO!!!
God! I[ i]LOVE irony!
But just don't come expecting to date.
No, just don't come here expecting that every women just wants to jump your bones!
Most of the people ARE here to date, not screw! | |
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/4/2007 7:52:56 PM | If you are going to leave, just leave. No need to anounce it to the planet. If it didn't
work for you, than go somewhere else. Nobody likes a cry baby.  | |
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/4/2007 8:19:16 PM | Now that I went to your profile, I can see 2 reasons why you are not meeting anyone.
1) because your profile says:
I am just loooking for a good time now.
2) because your profile starts out with:
Interests:
Jack Daniels or whatever gets me through the night.
It looks to me that you are not trying to meet anyone.  | |
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| so long, don't let the door hit you in the asz
Posted: 10/4/2007 8:19:43 PM | err...maybe you're having a hard time meeting someone because you're listed as intimate encounter. frankly...you are not hot enuf to have such a profile. thus, the lack of response is entirely to be expected. then, there's the whole whining attitude bit....definitely unattractive. think on it, dude.
if you wanna avoid me, well, that will be welcomed!! | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 1:39:01 AM | So did I and agree wholeheartedly. I have met more timewasters and people who only want to have internet or phone sex than I ever want to in the rest of my life. No -one seems interested in meeting, they are all into virtual reality. One I met had such a drink problem it was embarrasing...
Those who did make a small effort would not travel 25 miles to meet, so I shall search pastures anew and hope the genuine men are still out there, hiding in the wainscoating!! | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 4:46:29 AM | wow, and you gave it a WHOLE WEEK!!!
too bad i missed you. anger and bitterness and blaming EVERYONE except yourself are soooooo attractive in a man!
yeppers, i missed a winner, here. a whining self-absorbed WINNER.
i'm luckier than i thought i was!
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Posted: 10/5/2007 5:08:59 AM | It all comes down to...input/output.
What you put in (energy, attitude, sincerety, joker/serious, respect/uncaring)...
...Is what you get out of it. That goes to PoF, dating, friendships, enemies and life in general.
Is PoF a meet market or a meat market? It's both. It's a reflection of what's out there. Winners and losers, has beens and coulda beens, and everything else in between. I admit, it can get frustratingly tricky, because of the detachment proximity thing, and since people are so visual, and men even more so, the cuter photos get a lot more hits, so the cuties get a lot more picky, so the contenders have to resort to new tactics, and some losers have to resort to outright lies and stretching of truths, which also affects the dynamics of webdating, so you either throw in the towel or persevere, hoping that you'll get lucky and meet your equal, the one with the similar input/output...
Then there's the test of time...good luck in the fishpond! | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 6:12:52 AM | well sorry u did'nt meet someone i met a few but no dice most of them don't even have time for a date it's just keep callin' them
who me hell no i have better things to do.
many don't even know what they want themself i've been on here more than 3yrs iand i could say many do like playin' games
like forgettin' to tell u they have boyfriends in jail or they still live with their husbands
so am outta here myself
HEY LISTEN THE ADVENTURE CONTINUES
spellerlittlewing.com
ps keep ur chin up life is full of people that play games | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 6:15:29 AM |  While you sound very frustrated...and trust me, we have all been there, dont...as they say "throw the baby out with the bath water" it is not the fault of this site, clearly the people you have run into are less than admirable, we choose who we talk to or meet. There are a ton of loosers out there, players, users...whatever you want to call them, we have to discern and try to weed them out..which is very difficult. If you see a comment deleted, and I have had mine deleted, its usually because its redundant...or been talked about a million times. Its a shame u want to leave, but trust me on this one...the paying sites have the very same jerks on them !!! | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 7:11:27 AM | very sad your opinion . I have been on here for about a year now, not really paying attention,, I answer just about everyone who writes, im polite, I have met some very interesting people and even found love once... granted there are alot of wierd people out there and I agree with you about several points you made... but you sound like a nice guy and I just can't imagine a nice guy not meeting a nice woman, internet or otherwise ! I guess it depends on what your looking for and your expectations ... don' t give up ...you have nothing to loose  | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 7:29:50 AM | | Owlbeyou is right on with all feedback. My personal experience here has been mixed. I have been out on "real dates with real people who appear genuine," and have also been frustrated by a few "potentials" who really just want a cyberspace relationship but will not come forward with their truth. When it is clear that games are happening, I end the contact and move on. I don't have time for that as a single parent. I am only looking for local available men to date and make it clear on my profile. I have found the forums very interesting, helpful and entertaining. There have been great success stories here and giving it time and using good judgement is the path I'm going to take as a member. | |
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Joined: 8/14/2007
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/5/2007 7:37:15 AM | "it is a game and you are not really supposed to actually meet someone"
So then that very nice, real, sane, and NOT ugly lady I had drinks and great conversation with last nite, that I met thru this site, was what, a figment of my imagination or something?
Yeah, I looked at the OPs profile too, nice 'tude. Wonder why he didn't meet the girl of his dreams in the week that he gave it. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 8:14:06 AM | I read your profile....your an absolute joke!
Maybe your looking at the site as a way of saving money instead of spending it on a hooker?
Good luck in life! | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 8:43:37 AM | Joesey, did you actually read his profile???? I can't believe you did and made this comment:
but you sound like a nice guy and I just can't imagine a nice guy not meeting a nice woman, internet or otherwise ! I guess it depends on what your looking for and your expectations ... don' t give up ...you have nothing to loose unless of course you were being entirely sarcastic and then I agree with you.
The guy only joined one week before this tirade, and if I had read his profile I wouldn't have wanted him either. Too bad they don't have a smilie for "loser". | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 8:45:05 AM | | Pfffft, what a dork..The forums do suck, but the people here are great, I've made some really good friends here.. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 8:47:07 AM | FWIW it's a self-fulfilling prophecy as you can see by your replies. If you want to make it work, here's some bullet points which will help. Guaranteed. If not, best of luck finding what you seek elsewhere.
1. Give careful thought to who you are really looking for and make sure your profile doesn't send any red flags to those individuals.
2. Enhance your profile with a few clear pictures and some clever text which you feel will appeal to your match. Be yourself.
3. Be patient, especially if you are looking for a very atypical type of woman. Odds of success within a system like POF is all about "numbers over time".
4. Grasp that our culture is straining and therefore many of the women you meet here will be on a different path than yourself. Don't dwell on the mismatches, focus on the matches.
5. Don't wait for them to contact you, message women you are interested in -- and don't let the unanswered ones get to you. Stay active, optimistic and honest.
6. Learn that part of being a man is understanding how to communicate with women, even when you disagree. We think differently. If you really want to be a happy part of a woman's life then you have no option but to learn the dialect.
7. Pace yourself. We all move at different speeds. If you are truly seeking to connect with someone then the pragmatic thing to do is be sensitive to where they're at and adjust your speed accordingly.
Anyhow happy days my man, I hope it all works out one way or another. Even Sid had Nancy. :)  | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 9:49:32 AM | moneyman I agree with you one hundred and ten percent except from a females point of view.
I, too, am out of here. It suddenly came to me that the kind of people I am trying to meet would never be on internet dating anyway. Silly me, now I will go and join the real world. | |
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:22:19 AM | Too bad there's not a choice of "Sperm Receptacle" in the area in which you post what type of relationship you want here. Have you actually ever READ your OWN profile? Dude, even your right hand does not want an intimate encounter with you!
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Posted: 10/5/2007 10:32:07 AM | Hey Moneyman,
First of all, I read your profile. Even your screen name sucks. It looks like you are looking for a hooker.......why else would a woman respond to a name like "moneyman". In case you haven't noticed it, women want a nice friendly man, not a man who's only goal in life is to get money and DEMAND women go to bed with him, and you are not even on this site for a week!
Also, I am not looking for an alcoholic. If you think your idea of fun is drinking alcohol, you have just cut down the number of women who may be interested in you. Also, most women on this site want a relationship. You make it clear that you are turned on by money and wanting an "intimate contact" immediately. The only women that I know are like that are whores.
Also, you do have a whining tone to your voice. I'm glad we live far away from each other. I would have liked a coffee date or a juice date, but it seems that the drive, the negative expectation, and your demands of an intimate encounter right away, without seeing how a relationship would work out is a BIG TURN OFF TO WOMEN!
Are you spiritual? Into love? Looking for the right girl for you? I guess not, because you did not bring up any of these subjects in your profile.
I guess the best thing for you is to go to Las Vegas and pick up a Hooker there. They are into money there and intimate encounters.
Look, I don't mind intimate encounters! I just want to know that I am cared for, cherished and loved. I don't think that is too much to ask for.
You have to be corteous and kind to the woman you are with. You don't seem to be that type.
You should change your profile. Make yourself look better. Your picture looks like you hate every woman on earth! Don't bring up alcohol.......it looks like it's the only thing you enjoy..........which only leads to problems with the woman. She is interested in more things than getting drunk. Not all women go for money. You should know that by now.
Look, think of yourself as a woman. Read your profile. Would you want to date a woman who sounds like you? I doubt it.
Also, you are not giving this site enough of a chance. I could understand if you have been here for more than a year, but you are on here for a week, state you like money and booze, and are upset that you didn't get to have sex right away. Don't you realize that women DON'T WANT THAT!
I have met some nice men on this site, and I have met some men that I didn't get along with. That's why it's called POF.........there are more fish out there, but you have to be patient and make yourself look desirable and attractive. I would start with ditching your screen name "Moneyman". You look like you are out here to pay women to have sex.
You are not a total loser.........just make yourself look more attractive, inside and out. You sound like a sore loser.
Better luck to you next time. You should write to me. I am a woman and know what women want. I could help you with your profile.
Write to me at KarenSundae.......oh and check out my pics.....you can see that I would like to have an intimate encounter, but I feel like I can't trust you. Like if I went out on a date with you, you might chop off my head!
Let me help you. I can make you look better and more attractive to other women on this site.
Please give it another try. You sound like, "Well, I didn't get what I wanted in the first week, and all women are into playing games." That's not the truth.
In fact, you would be a good candidate for somespamsites............they are more into having sex on the first date. POF people are, in general, looking for dating, excitement and adventure with a respectable man. Make yourself into that man and I guarantee you someone will respond to you.
Write to me.........I'm a Life Coach and I can help you with your profile so you get more responses.
Sincerely,
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mxk883
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Joined: 8/14/2007
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| Oh well I tried POF. Time to go
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:43:33 AM | Karen,
While I know your intentions to 'help' this guy clean up his profile are probably sincere, don't you think to a certain extent if he does so, he will be selling a false bill of goods to women, who might then correspond with him or meet him, only to find the attitude that is present in the original profile/posting?
Seems to me that that's the biggest complain from women here...that the guys they meet are nothing like their profiles (either physically, age, or personality wise). Why encourage someone to put up some front that depicts a person that is not who he really is? | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 10:54:17 AM | u r UNBELIEVABLY bitter
this site is just like life u win u lose some lose alot some win alot
go figure
u gotta gets some gonads and KEEP ON diggin
whateva its not the YEAR but where U r at in 2007 quit cryin around
and keep on diggin
thats ALL u can do and i resent the fact u say no one is sincere in here if its an argument ur lookin 4 sorry u wont get it here
good luck and God bless
kathi | |
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