| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 6:19:28 PM | Anyone else here not planning to breed, and why not?
Myself, I don't like traffic jams, over crowding, over consumption, pollution or the destruction of the environment. Seems to me 6 Billion people is plenty, so I'm not really interested in contributing to it. Now even the most environmentally consious environmentalist living in the city with kids will have more destructive impact on the environment in the long run than I will with my gas guzzling van. :P | |
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guyrob
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Joined: 12/11/2004
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 6:26:36 PM | Having kids is a personal thing, has nothing to do with overpopulating the world. What is it about them you don't care for? Are you being pressured? Why do you make a point of saying you don't want kids? Never say never, if you find the right one, ya just never know!
Children are a good thing, it's healthy to have a family. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 6:40:27 PM | Yep Guyrob your right with your answer to this post !
And I can't say I am or am not planing to have kids !
All I am planing is to catch a sweet lovin lady to be my lovin sweetheart !!
And once I do if she has kids or not is fine with me . And if my love& I decide to have any then I'm ready for that also . As for me I have no probblem with kids & yes kids are a good thing always !!  | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 6:41:08 PM | More babies...Hell no, I have grandbabies now.
Omg could ya just see me having another baby? Yep there goes my diet all to heck.
Im sitting back waiting on my great grandbabies now, lol...
And yes I am only 38. Well 39 next week... | |
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guyrob
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Joined: 12/11/2004
Msg: 5 | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 6:56:08 PM | i can't have them.
and my fiancé left me because of it.
i'd like to find some man who believes in *you and me against the world*, because that's what you'll get with me.
but there are very few like that out there - especially when you factor in age and weight.... :( | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 7:30:33 PM | Having kids to me has everything to do with overpopulating and polluting the world, but you are right that for the large majority of people, it doesn't. People can be starving to death and they'd still have kids, then complain about being hungry... For most people they have to make the decision based on instinct and emotion, so for most people I understand why it's impossible for them to understand how I can rationalize my way out of it.
Perhaps I should have worded it another way. Who here is not having kids, and why not? I didn't want to start a thread as to why people should or shouldn't have kids.
Thankfully, I don't have to worry about the person I get together with expecting me to change my mind, or having an accident. I had a vasectomy already so any doubt someone has in my position should be thoroughly taken care of early on.
I didn't mean for this post to sound hostile, but no matter how I bring it up, and there's softer ways of expressing myself on the subject, it doesn't matter. It's been my experience that most people for some reason get offended at just the idea of someone not wanting or choosing not to have kids.
The reason I make a point of saying I don't want kids is because it's a HUGE difference of opinion and effectively cuts down on the number of possible mates to choose from. So naturally, I am curious how many are active on this forum that are not having kids, haven't had kids, and less importantly, why. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 8:09:10 PM |
i can't have them.
and my fiancé left me because of it.
i'd like to find some man who believes in *you and me against the world*, because that's what you'll get with me.
but there are very few like that out there - especially when you factor in age and weight.... :(
That's really heartbreaking to hear about your fiance divinebovine. If he let the relationship get that far along, and broke up over that, perhaps he really didn't know himself as well as he should have.
As for your age, are there really that many fewer single males in the same range? Actually I think your age would help in the not able to have kids department since most by then have already gotten that out of their system. I don't think your weight should be too much of a problem if you're really looking for a nice guy. ;)
I'm the nicest guy I know, 135lbs, and I haven't gone out with anyone who weighed less than 180lbs. | |
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thacks
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Joined: 10/15/2004
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 9:35:33 PM | definately want to have a couple kids but not for another 7-8 years or so...have to carry on the family name and i think for many people its a feeling of comfort in their later years knowing they have their children who will remember them and look after them
i also want the opportunity to be the dad to my kids that my father never was or could ever be | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 9:54:30 PM | Well like they always say any plan can go wrong !!lmao
So just cause someone says their not planing to have kids don't make it a for sure one !!
As you never know who your gonna meet and fall in love with !
And this planing not to have kids can't be a for sure plan now is it ??? | |
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guyrob
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Joined: 12/11/2004
Msg: 12 | |
| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 5/14/2005 10:13:59 PM | | wolfreak: You are very lucky to be living in Canada where hunger is usually not a problem!! Actually, the amount of kids people have nowadays in the "modern" world seems to be decreasing. So, it sounds to me that you simply do not enjoy being around children, since you did have a vasectomy early in your life. Hey, everyone's different. And to "narrow" the amount of potential mates for you doesn't make much sense, why would you want less people to choose from? The one thing you forgot to mention is that a lot of children in third world countries die and the parents have a lot of kids to increase their chances of having some survive, not because they are being careless or whatever. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 3/29/2007 9:42:37 PM | How does having a vasectomy mean that one doesn't enjoy being around children?
I enjoy being around children but would not want to have any of my own nor would I be in a relationship with anyone who has children. I'm not looking to be a father or father-figure to anyone.
I try to live my life with spontaneity and having children would not allow me to do this.
And we do have a hunger problem in Canada. If we didn't we wouldn't need all the food banks that we have.
Anyhow I can be counted as someone else who is not planning to have kids. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 3/30/2007 4:19:12 AM | | i know i am quoting the bible here but it says" happy is the man when his quiver is full of them...."i believe they meant children there,and it seems to me that having them would enrich your life rather than curse it.(but there are times though you wish you didn't have them).as for me,if i want them and my fishie wants them then great i am open to it. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:59:09 PM | Although I would love to be a biological father and have been told by numerous people that I'd be an excellent dad... through my own opinion... I also feel that there are too many extreme injustices both by humanity and through the laws of nature for which I personally believe children deserve to be in a far better global environment than what we're in... even into an abundance of wealth.
The one I have been in what we had first agreed to be a temporary relationship with who still very much has the desire to become a mother... recently made it known to me that since I'm the only person who can truly captivate her heart... to practically let whatever happen, except... I'm rather hoping to be in a lifelong loving commitment with one woman who has already had her tubes tied or of the sort for the assurance... and besides... unprotected "safe" sex feels a whole lot better. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:34:06 AM | | I probably don't want any since I don't plan to spend my entire 50s chasing some elementary school age kids around and then have to deal with teenagers throughout my 60s. I would rather travel whenever I want. I'll still be a dog owner though. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/12/2009 12:18:08 PM | The governments in the world wants to make sure that our planet continues to overpopulate, just not us who already live here in Canada. That is the explanation of the continuous increase in taxes. The high taxes will ensure that many so-called middle class citizens hold off on marriage and ulitmately hold off on having children. The poor and the rich will continue to populate, and people who immigrate here with family already. If they have money, they will have more children, but sooner or later, the taxes will stop people from having more. While there are many countries in the world that have overpopulation going out of control, countries like Canada will continue to bring in record amounts of immigrants to help ease the problems in those parts of the world. In the meanwhile very few Canadians are having children. In the minds of the government, they need more and more people to help pay more taxes, so that the government can fill their coffers.
The environment has nothing to do with anything, it's all about money. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/12/2009 12:49:57 PM | The goverment taxation nor the enviroment were considered, while having a conversation with my spouse at the time to decide when to have children.
However increases in cost of living have made some decide to downsize in family planning in regards to the number of children, in this day and age, Some ethnic backgrounds couldn't careless, but some do. | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:47:28 PM | | i don't want to 'breed' either, mostly because i'm just not into kids. And i don't want to pay for them, feed them, take them on vacations, watch the teletubbies! Or listen to their backtalk, change diapers etc! now don't get me wrong here, i don't mind if someone has a kid, i just don't want any of my own | |
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| Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/15/2009 6:17:34 PM | All my life i have know that i do not want kids. I don't even like being around kids. mind you hate is a strong word so i'll just say that i can't tolerate them and i can't rationalize why anyone would want them.
In my opinion kids are expensive ungrateful pets and a lot of the people that have them shouldn't be having them.
I got my tubes tied at 21 and it was the best decision i could have made for myself. sure it seems to limit my dating options at 25 but eventually i will find a like minded person. | |
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