| Responding to emails
Posted: 10/8/2007 6:09:50 AM | | Doesn't anyone respomd to emails anymore?? I was raised to at least acknowledge someone if they talked to you, it's common courtesy (which doesn't seem too common anymore). Uppity people really p!ss me off, and if you don't have the common courtesy to respond to an email when someone sends you one, that is just plain rude. I read some of the forums both in NH and the others and hear the same things. .. "Are there any people on here?" From what I have seen there are people on POF however most of them seem "uppity" in the respect that they don't even bother to respond to an email. This is exactly why I have no faith in online dating. | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 10/21/2007 12:00:19 PM | | Dont lose the faith. Some people are just on here for the wrong reasons. | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 3/21/2008 6:19:32 AM | | exactly.......i always respond even if its a simple one.........but i wouldn't lose faith in it,there actually are some decent people on here......... | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:58:02 PM | There are some good people on here, look were here with our manors. We're honest and sincere and are looking for the good thins this dating site offers. Write to me, I promise I'll write back.
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:54:13 PM | | I try to respond to all emails that I get, but it can get time-consuming, so there are times when I just need to respond to the people that interest me the most and wish the best to the others that I don't get a chance to talk to. Don't take it personally. We're all here looking for a fit. You're not right for everyone and neither am I. The one who is right for you will respond to you. | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 10/10/2008 8:16:47 PM | "Read/delete" is an more easier & passive answer than writing back a rejection note and perhaps getting flamed for it. Some women on this site complain of getting dozens of messages a day and they don't have the time to go through all of them. There are way more guys on this site than women.
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 11/6/2008 8:37:18 AM | I agree, it is common decency to at least acknowledge an email. However, there can be exceptions. Some guys think that if you respond, then you're interested and want to take it further,when really you were just being polite. Then they grill you as to why they aren't your type and get really mean about the whole thing, so some women just delete instead.
I have another question about emails. If the woman initiated the connection and it goes back and forth for a bit but then the guy doesn't initiate new threads on his own...should you take silence to be an answer?
I think I know the answer, but I just wanted to hear opinions. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 6:30:58 AM | | Still waiting for my "polite, not interested" response. | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 11/14/2008 10:04:02 AM | Well, I will tell you my pet peeve... when a guy writes to you and you respond and get a read/deleted. What is that all about?? I mean why bother? Is it like a score card for them or something?
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 11/19/2008 10:00:09 PM | I agree- common courtesy is never out of fashion. If they can't fire back at least "Thanks, but no", they will most likely be that way in a relationship as well- ungrateful and unappreciative.
Class is what a person is inside- don't get discouraged, just keep going and be glad you aren't investing time with folks that are too busy to be well mannered. | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 12/21/2008 6:09:16 PM | | When I read profiles and find out that the person is a veteran or supportive of the military I will normally drop them a thank you note. I do not expect a response. If I get a response that just says thank you, that is a quandary because you don’t know if the person wants to continue a dialog or just acknowledging the compliment. If it is accompanied with a question, that indicates a response if sought. It is always a good idea to leave no doubt that you wish to continue the dialog in your response. If you did and they deleted your email, they're just wrong and definitely someone that you don't want to maintain contact with anyway..... | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 1/25/2009 12:20:22 PM | I agree, it is just common courtesy to respond to communication. However, it can also be confusing at times in the cyber world. Don't take every communication to me to be a romantic interest. It might just be a comment - like, what a funny profile or love the such and such photo, etc. Or they live 7 states over, so what are the odds its an interested in dating you inquiry? I've written to lots of people to comment on their gorgeous log cabin or really cool motorcycle or absolutely amazing underwater photos - who live in the other part of the nation -- that's just a comment, not a contact interested in meeting them!
Timing is everything. You may be interested in someone you're communicating with right now and just waiting to see if that is going to work out. (News flash! Probably NOT! Hahaha!). So you just kind of hold off on responding to emails from others until you check this one out further. You can't say you're involved with someone, cuz you are not. You can't say you just aren't interested - because you really don't know that -- you just are focusing on one person that has really piqued your interest right now. I am guilty of that sometimes. I really prefer to date only one person at a time and see if it works out. If so, hooray. If not, then move on. Sometimes you email a few times and want to meet right away. But sometimes the prelude to dating someone is emails back and forth for a while. During that time frame, I may be momentarily intrigued by someone and not looking beyond that today or this week. That's when I am guilty of not responding but not deleting your message either. I know - its a cop out! But why burn a bridge that you may genuinely be interested, but you're just not sure at the moment? If I am dating someone, I will let folks know that. But I'm talking about that 'tweener stage. Am I alone in that????? It may border on it at some level, but its not being a player either.
What gets me is sometimes you respond to someone local's email to you, and then THEY don't respond? What's up with that? You contacted me, Bozo and now you won't respond to my answer to YOU? I could understand if my answer was political or outrageous or something, but otherwise my answer to your email should be responded to! If it is a simple one word answer, I can get the message that you've decided to move on. But if you asked me a question in your email to me, that is asking me to write you back! One guy who we had contacted back and forth several times but never expressed an interest in meeting - just kind of neutral interest - but we had similar profiles, live near one another and had five or six key interests in common, wrote to me and when I responded to HIS email to me, with "please do not contact me again". - hey, you're the guy who wrote to me, dufus! (Did your airship just fall into a wormhole or something???)
I am really easy going and hate conflict, so I try to avoid it when possible. I assume a generic response with no questions is their own polite way of saying no, thanks and I do use that approach most of the time, too. If you're interested in more contact, you're gonna have to ask another question or show a personal interest or initiate a subsequent contact. A simple thank you or whatever says to me, thanks but no thanks without hurting anyone's feelings.
An email string that shows a bit of interest but stops short of wanting to talk on phone, meet, etc. is not necessarily a no, thanks in my opinion. It is probably someone whose vote is still out or still seeing someone but not ready to close the door with you either. Some of the best relationships I have had on this site are with guys we emailed back and forth intermittently at different times and developed a sense of casual friendship first. By the time we did meet, we already felt like friends and it was great! So stopping short of pursuing someone right now does not mean there's no interest. Again, timing is everything and the time may just not be right for the two of you yet. | |
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| Responding to emails
Posted: 2/11/2009 4:46:59 AM | Thatguy67, I never thought about it from that perspective before. I've always responded to all messages, even with a simple explanation of no thank you, and yes, a few times I've gotten flamed, but seeing that more men are online than women, it makes sense. The read/delete is awful, though, to me its a form of disrespect, but then again, perhaps the guys don't want to waste their time if they aren't interested.
To each their own, I suppose.
-Stacy | |
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