| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 10/8/2007 5:43:56 PM | I'm someone that's never found it difficult to chat women up 'in real life', but I'm new to this internet dating thing and I'm getting absolutely nowhere.
Sent off a few messages and started a few IMs with people, but the only ones that respond with any sort of interest are, to be honest, people I could do better than.
I'd like a bit of advice on how I could change my profile to make people a bit more inclined to reply to me, and also what sort of things I could try putting in messages. I've varied them quite a lot but have basically had hardly any luck. I think there's been only one or two people who've taken it upon themselves to message me first, as well. | |
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| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 10/8/2007 6:52:29 PM |
Sent off a few messages and started a few IMs with people, but the only ones that respond with any sort of interest are, to be honest, people I could do better than.
Get used it. Seriously, I think it's pretty normal for most of us to be interested in probably about 10-20% of the messages we receive (some less, if you're really picky).
couple of things to keep in mind:
1) The more you're on, the more times your face will show up as the someone who is online and who has recently checked their email
I rarely search for users in my area anymore. I just check my mail, and look at the lists of who's been on recently or who has viewed me. If I see someone who catches my eye, I may message them, but rarely.
2) There's very little effort involved in keeping a profile on here-you basically just have to check your messages. So, when people say I am not meeting anyone good or I am not meeting someone fast enough, I always say: So what? How much work are you putting into this? You think going to the bar or endless social events would be any better?
It's not perfect, and I am not saying you dont invest time when you do try to meet someone IRL. But at least your not having to out and about making yourself available all the time.
3) Don't be shy about making first contact. You'll probably get ignored most of the time, since women often get a lot of messages... but who cares. If it looks like you might have something in common, go for it-you have nothing to lose. | |
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| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 2/17/2008 12:21:51 PM | | Delete "you'll have to deal with it." That would turn me off. Otherwise, your profile is good. There are 3 times as many guys (148 to 452) as gals from 18 to 25 within ten miles of your cities so expect girls to be overly picky. | |
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| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 2/17/2008 11:14:30 PM | What Kevin said.
Log on, waste a few minutes looking at who viewed you, maybe hit the who is online page and from that point on, you're on your own.
I guess for whatever reason I got an e-mail almost the first day I was on here. We have met, had dinner a few times and we totally enjoy each others company. So, for what that's worth, maybe this site is good for something.
You're a guy, so just keep your face out there, make your profile as short as possible, try not to misspell too many words, and then wait. Women probably get 100 e-mails a day, all they have to look at is your picture. Forget the nice guy stuff, you could be flat broke, dumber then a fence post but if you look like George Cloney.. you're gold!
So be shallow but mature in your pictures since that is the first and only thing most will ever see of you.
Sounds a bit harsh probably, but sometimes the truth is like that.
BlueMax
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| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 2/18/2008 6:31:42 AM | | I thought your profile was good to be honest. Though I think girls get four times as much mail as guys so a lot probably dont feel the need to send out messages and instead wait for their inbox too fill! When you do send mail dont send a generic mail send something that relates personally to their profile. Also not related to this subject what is a football trader? | |
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| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:37:22 AM | Good basic profile. Nothing that makes you stand out in a crowd but if a girl reads it and sees similiarities, you do sound sincere and honest.
I like the zoo for a first date too and have it in my profile, just with twists that make it me.
What I found worked for me in developing my profile is to read a bunch of profiles (men and women's). I saw a lot of people saying the same thing over and over again. But along the way I saw profiles that stood out and made me smile. I looked at what ingredients they used and have worked mine to include those ingredients, yet keep it me. What appeals to you will probably appeal to the right kind of lady for you, be it humor or thoughtfulness.
Profiles are works in progress, just like people. I tweak mine every couple of weeks. | |
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| fed up with being ignored on this, should I change my profile?
Posted: 2/18/2008 10:43:50 AM | I just read a profile that had a little phrase that just describes what I have been trying to say for years. So the lesson here is, read the profiles. Some times other people can put into words what you can't.
Use their words to describe your thoughts. It really does help. | |
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