| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:35:30 PM | | Most of my life I have been an incurable romantic. I have never been married but discarded the notion a few years back that expecting a red hot chemistry kind of relationship at this age (51) was probably unlikely. For one thing, most people my age have children and grandchildren. I find it hard to relate to this as I have neither. Also most people my age, me included, have at least one or two medical issues that makes us unlikely Romeo and Juliets. So I reasoned that if I could find someone around my age that was a nice person that is about as much as I could hope for. Well, I met such a person and we have dated sporadically for several months now, but I have come to the conclusion that I am just not going to develop feelings for this person. There just seems to be nothing there. Before I terminate this thing can anyone tell me if I am nuts to expect to find red hot romance at this age? I mean the kind of thing that inspires you to write poetry or paint pictures, that sort of thing? | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:45:20 PM | I am 46 and I hope that I have the energy (I'm pretty sure that I will). I will have to take vitamins for stamina, energy and vitality. I feel that it's very possibly for romance to be red hot at 50. I'm pretty close to 50. I can't do some of the things I used to do when I was in my 20s (not as flexible), but if you're with the right partner they will accept you for who you are. Hopefully for your sake they will. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:57:21 PM | | God, I hope it's possible. I'm almost 48 and feel like I've never had any great romances, just a 21 year marriage that failed and alot of relationships that failed. So far, it's all been a disppointment for me, and I really don't have high expectations, just honesty, humor, respect, faithfulness, and a man who showers every day. Is that too much to ask for? I guess it is, but hope springs eternal. As long as I'm breathing, I hope to meet my soul mate. Guess I should be looking. That might help. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 12:04:13 AM | sure...anything is possible! But is it likely?..No! Our priorities are different, I believe. The desire is there, but it is more controlled, I think. It might be that we are more interested in making love that just havinga hot f*k. Passions are more controlled, though not less intense. None of this applies to everyone, though Each of us are different........................JMO | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:14:53 AM | Yes, lust, romance... love happens at any age.
I have not written any poetry lately.
Skip, passion is a feeling which cannot be controlled, if one has it.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:29:31 AM | Nothing about me....is controlled (LOL) I am a free-spirit with a passion for life, and looking forward to a "red hot" romance. My priorities are not different....to find love.....
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:40:54 AM | | A man walked alone in the cold and rain of the forest, hungry and chilled to the bone. He found a small empty cottage and walked in. There was a small fireplace beside which was kindling and wood stacked. He put some kindling into the fireplace and laid three pieces of wood across, then sat back to wait. He rubbed his hands, hugged himself with his arms, and watched the wood in the fireplace, wondering if it would ever burst into flame. The box of matches lay untouched atop the mantelpiece. He would not use them, having once burned his fingers. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 6:03:46 AM | Turned 52 last week, age is just a number. Attitude is a whole other story. What you search for is what you can have. Once you find it, either its there or its not but the choice is yours if you want to settle or not. If your not feeling it by now, move on if you want something more. Its always out there.
Im having a great time, meeting lots of people and I'll tell you, if they act old, they are, if they are optimistic, charming, funny and makes me laugh until my sides hurt, well.....whole other story.
Enjoy yourselfs regardless. 65 years equals 25,550 days only. Who wants to waste one of those days now. Subtract your age from 65, then multiply by 365, man oh man, with so few left this girl dosent waste any of it. Smile enjoy and keep searching. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 6:23:00 AM | If you have no feelings for the person, please do the kindest thing for the both of you and tell that person that they fit into the friend catagory.
I am begining to dislike the word romance as it seems to be used by most people in datingland. Poetry, Romeo and Juiette have never been my thing. I cringe when someone on pof sends me a poem. So many posters quote love songs.
My idea of romance is far more practical. Is it based on intense feeling, not how artsy people get about each other.
I had the hottest romance of my life started shortly before my 50th. birthday, so the answer in my case is yes. I can still remember walking around in a fog after we left each other and went to work. My mind was definately focused on him 24/7, like his presence was still in the room even though he wasn't in reality there. This relation ran it's course. A couple of years later fate brought us back together. He told me word for word how our relationship made him feel. Word for word it was just how I felt. You would think with all these feeling the relationship would have worked out, but it didn't.
He couldn't stop blaming himself from thing that had happened in the past, and that brought the whole thing to an end.
So yes, it is very possible. I believe that the chemistry has to be just right though, and that both parties must be free emotionally to be involved with each other. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 6:55:38 AM | | Thinking that anything much in your life, including ramance, has to change just because you've passed 50 is completely and totally ridiculous. If more people lived their lives they way they actually felt, rather than the way they think they're "supposed to", more people would understand that artificial age limits are just stupid. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:25:18 AM | can anyone tell me if I am nuts to expect to find red hot romance at this age? I mean the kind of thing that inspires you to write poetry or paint pictures, that sort of thing?
Oh no you're deinitley not nuts - I have enjoyed red hot romance (with red hot chemistry) after age 50 . . . you go for it!!!! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:28:19 AM | | Since I still have a pluse I have the copacity to fall head over heals, get stupid ,silly,sweaty palms heart racing, act like a Jr High School kid , drunk with romance red hot to white heat in love. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 8:06:19 AM | Some people don't even have the capability to have "red hot romance" in all the years before turning 50.
It's just not in them ...to let out, (and this is not a 'wrong' or 'right' statement).
Possibly you are just one of those people?
If so, not too sure if you'll have it after "50" either. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:11:43 AM | Anything is possible, people still get married in their 80's and 90's! So don't give up hope just yet, sometimes things happen when you least expect them to. 
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:17:13 AM | | According to the poster above, I have only eleven days left (lol)! To OP, I can tell you that it is possible at any age I have ever been to light that fire. The older I got, the more open I was to it because I was less afraid of it. Talk to the staff in any nursing home and they will tell you. Whether it is possible for you is another question. I do believe it is part of human nature, so you may have to address what stands in your way. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 10:09:37 AM | Darn ... I'm older than you and ... well I don't kiss and tell.
but as so many have said .... anything is possible.
just don't be looking for it..... feel for it.
to be red hot and inspired.... well .... I do write poetry
with or without a hot romance.
in fact more without.
you need to practice art to be able to act upon those fleeting inspirations.
yes they are fleeting
especially as we age
I forgot what I was saying
that happens too ... when I walk into a room
see something and get distracted into another tangent
oh well
that can be hot too
red ... well maybe
maybe blue or green
who really cares as long as its not black and white or vanilla.
If you do what you love
then love will stay with you
the heat is just letting your feelings get touchie feelie
relaxing into a good cuddle
no pressure
no expectaions.
you probably have another 30 years ... so
don't get down on yourself too soon.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 10:29:48 AM | I think the poster who said that if you haven't had a hot romance by the time that you are 50 then you probably aren't going to have one after 50 raises a good point.
Some people can be more hot blooded than others. It is also key to find a person who can make your blood boil. This isn't something we can learn to do. If is either there or it isn't. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 11:16:44 AM | If by "red hot" you mean sizzling hot, make your heart race, your palms sweat and your thoughts focused on them night and day as well as write poetry and the world's finest love letters....
....the answer is yes!
*C* & D
50 & 56 | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 12:34:29 PM | Everyone is different....people show their "passion" in different ways.....maybe you aren't the "red hot" type, and you think you "should" be, so what, in actuality is "normal" for you seems like it isn't?
Only speculation on my part because I don't know you or your partner. Many times we read and hear things about how other people experience "romance", and feel that because that is not our experience that we don't "measure up." Lighten up on yourself, and I believe you'll get your answer. | |
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