| ex-boyfriends & motels.
Posted: 10/15/2007 6:10:38 PM | I recently broke up with my live in girlfriend because I caught her spending nights with her ex-boyfriend. She left the house (not permanently) because we were fighting bad. After a few days I caught her with her ex-boyfriend who is living in a motel in my city. She denies that anything happened, but I caught her there 4 times in 3 weeks. She still denies anything happened. Says I know her morals and that she would not do that to her body. Also says she knows he is not the one she wants to spend her life with.
To make this short, and ladies I would love an honest opinion from ya'll too, is it possible to spend that much time with an ex-boyfriend and not have sex with him even if ya'll spend the night with him? | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 7:40:54 PM | *sigh* LJ1969 TAKE HER STUFF OUT OF THE HOUSE (are you the one buying/renting it?) AND PUT IT IN BOXES AND FIND HER, GIVE HER A RESTRAINING ORDER AND TELL HER TO GET HERSELF & HER STUFF OUT OF THERE!!! in your profile you said your "are looking for a wife.." THAT is NOT "wife-material"     with her ex-boyfriend? in a motel? 4 times?!? she is telling you what she thinks you want to hear to keep her around.... she need to go find someone else to make miserable & fool around on behind...NOT YOU....you deserve better..... don't let her tell you any sob-stories.... Geez.... she may be female, but she's not a Lady..... Good Luck to you  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:08:18 PM | What a cold hearted selfish (insert insulting word here).
Do not let this "wench" play you, throw her belongings in the street and break off contact, me and you both know what she's really doing. Safe yourself for someone who's worth it man, she isn't the one for you. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:12:12 PM | If I may quote Shaggy here.....again......
She's gonna say: "It wasn't me!!!!!"
Of course she's f*cking him. Are you on crack?????????
Question is: "What are you prepared to do????????????" | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:19:21 PM | OP...
Please tell me you're not so naive!
All I can say is…OPEN YOUR EYES.
Bottom line...
If I go to a hotel to meet/see my ex...it wont be to talk!
Sorry fella, but let this one go. It just aint worth it.
Life is too short to loose it over some loose legged girl.
Edit***
That girl is open like Denny's 24/7!
(puts a whole new perspective on things doesnt it) | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:36:25 PM | *flame suit on*
Are you FU(KIN KIDDIN ME?!?!?!?
ok dude, SHE stays there all night with her ex b/f in a fracking motel room and she says SHES not having sex ??? Come on...is she sleepin on the floor or in the tub or something? I'd ask for some PHYSICAL PROOF like......PANTY CHECK  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:48:04 PM | dang.... so it isn't possible for a man and woman to spend time together without sex??
me and one of my ex's are great friends... and if I needed anything he would be there... and no we don't get naked anymore.....
bottomline... trust... if you don't have it... you don't need to be there... and if you are broken up... why does it matter what she is doing with him??? | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:53:30 PM | | ^ perfect example of someone in denial, its people like you that make things really hard for everyone in society. If you and your ex got along so well then why did you break up in the first place? Makes no sense right? You keep him around because you are insecure keep him as a back up incase a future romance doesn't work out. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:00:15 PM | ^^^^perfect example of a person that doesn't know either individual to make such remarks.
OP, while it is possible to be alone and not have sex, it is highly unlikely from what you have posted. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:00:59 PM | Blueguy.... you are wrong...
I keep him around because he is a great friend... and we should have never dated... we should have just been friends... we don't want the same things from life.... and thus don't work in a dating life.... and I am not insecure... I have had several relationships since he and I broke up... and really don't have a problem dating... in fact most of the time we hang out... I think we forget that we ever dated... it has been over 5 years since we broke up.... and have been hanging out without sex.... sorry to burst your analogy.... but,..... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:01:18 PM | | panties discharge? and when you do it with her cant you tell if she is cheating this guy must be good and you can tell if you look feel. not telling you is a bad. but cheating is low. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:03:09 PM |
I'd ask for some PHYSICAL PROOF like......PANTY CHECK What if she went commando? | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:08:48 PM | | I know enough to see when someone is in denial and will surround themselves with false truths and modern views to make themselves look like they are doing nothing wrong. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:09:46 PM | WOW.... I feel for you Blue... it must suck to not be able to have a platonic friendship with a woman...
ah.... never mind.... I went to your profile and see you are 21.... that make sense... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:19:04 PM | | Well I don't know but if she said she did not then you have to take that as face value. When I say I did not then I did not. When I say I did then I did. I believe people generally say it as it is. What you should be most worried about is your self worth here. You are now officially less important to her and each event you are even less important again. Let her deal with all her own drama and you go snowboarding. Sheesh, the only time YOUR LIFE gets ruined or full of drama and upset is when someone else comes into it and does it. If you met a girl who adores you then do you think you would have any of this trouble ? NOPE you would not. Lets go snowboard and leave her with her ex and a washed up old relationship and you go find the true value in your life. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:19:28 PM | WOW.... I feel for you Blue... it must suck to not be able to have a platonic friendship with a woman...
ah.... never mind.... I went to your profile and see you are 21.... that make sense...
I have platonic friendships with girls, I just don't hang out with them alone when I have a girlfriend, and if I do hang out with them I make sure my girlfriend comes along as well because I'm a loyal guy who doesn't play head games and I'd like the same treatment in return. When did I say I don't have platonic friendships with girls? Also what does my age have to do with my morality?
But hey... your 41 with a master's degree that must mean you know anything and everything about life that is why you are single at 41 and you work in a bee hive (sarcasm) | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:36:23 PM |
I know enough to see when someone is in denial.... Blah blah blah... you obviously don't know enough when you don't know the individuals you are making such blanket assumptions on, based wholly on incomplete information. But, you are 21 and know it all. Go on with your rat killing... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:45:12 PM | Yes I am 21 and you are a 39 (or so you claim).
I never said I knew it all I just said I know when someone is in denial. But of course since you are double my age (or more) , you feel that you are somehow superior because you can't stand the fact that someone younger than you may be right and that you are wrong, grow up and stop quoting me on every thread I post in. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:55:49 PM | | What does hanging out with someone of the opposite have to do with morality too??? it is possible to trust your partner and know that whether with you.. or without you there... they will make the best decisions for your relationship.... because trust if someone is going to cheat... they aren't going to ask you to come along... or tell you where they are going... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:02:02 PM | See the thing is my ex pulled that on me, the whole "if i told you then why would i cheat?" , turns out she was cheating, its called a double whammy, aka reverse psychology to trick the other person. People who cheat don't necessarily hide it from you, they might try to trick you into thinking they aren't doing anything bad like the OPS case for example. Morality has a lot to do with it because my morals compel me not to put myself in situations where I would be tempted to cheat if the opportunity were to arose. See I care about my SO (if I have one) not to pull any crap like that because I'd want them to do the same for me. I'm old fashioned and I don't like all these modern views that are responsible for all this confusion society has today.
Trust is important, but so is respect. The two are inseparable, you need both for a relationship to work. You can't have your cake and eat it too. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:16:01 PM | | Pack her rags, buy the cheapest bottle of wine you can find,and a cheap card., with congratulation, you deserve each other written in it, Then they can both attend the liars seminar, Lots of nice decent women out there, good luck, God bless you, out there | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:17:59 PM |
See the thing is my ex pulled that on me And the truth shall set you free. This isn't about her and her relationship (platonic as it may be) with her ex, it's about you and what your ex did to you. I am sorry that happened to you, and it has happened to me as well. But where you and I differ is that I realize that all women aren't going to do that to me and I do not judge women I may meet on the actions of those I have met before. So, will the next woman you meet be met with the same doubt and insecurity based upon the actions of your ex? I feel sorry for her to have to prove herself against your past.
Nowhere in my posts have I said I was superior, I have a habit of pointing out flaws in the logic applied. I am human and not infallible at all. I have been wrong before and I will be again. When it applies to this scenario, I am correct in saying that you do not know the individuals well enough to be making the statements you have. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:20:47 PM | | You are a clinger, lady, and i bet your jealous of your exes lady friends, thats why you cling, | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:27:23 PM | | Hey give the young man a break , by his morals he must come from a decent, loving intellictual family. | |
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