| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/15/2005 7:31:50 PM | Is it feasable or is it doomed right from the beginning? The electricity is in the air, but I have my 2 kids, do I have the right to deny him the chance of his own children? I really am discovering very strong feelings, I'm just not sure if I should act on them or not? Any advice?
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/15/2005 7:42:34 PM | My stepson is 22 his FIANCE is 36, she has two kids and they are cool. Both have downs and I am amazed at how much he loves his soon to be and thier kids. 
I dont like the term "Step" much so pardon me...my son.........
He's mine I love em!
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/15/2005 7:45:56 PM | It's one of those things that varies from situation to situation. It may work for one couple and may not work for another couple.
Is he truly a mature person? Can he handle straight talk? If so, then you need to lay out your worries and fears.
Just sit down and talk with him about it.
Then use a combination of what you feel in your heart and what your common sense indicates.
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/15/2005 8:03:55 PM | you know what? if the spark is there and he's ok with the kids and is good with them go for it! I had a crush on a 20 year old and i still have feelings for him, wish i woulda said something a year ago when he wasn't dating anyone but oh well. GO GO GO!  | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/15/2005 8:08:40 PM | | Thanks geekgoddess :) I always tell myself to try and regret a little if it doesn't work out, instead of not trying and regret it for a long time. I'm just wondering on how to approach the subject... | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/15/2005 8:52:29 PM | carrie, im 41, boyfriend is 26, we met when i was 39 he was 23, all is well, didnt really expect this at all. having the best time of my life actually.
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 12:50:34 PM | Age itself is not a factor on whether the relationship will end or not.
It's the other things like common interest, communication, sex, religion etc. You said something about should you deny him starting a family. First of all it's his decision not yours. However, you need to be honest and up front with him and tell him you do not want any more kids. Than it's up to him to decided whether he wants to go down that road or not since it's his life. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 1:31:27 PM | My ex girlfriend turned 26 this spring (I'll be 42 soon), we had a great time together, loved every minute of the year we were together, we are still good friends and I wouldnt have traded that year away for anything. She has moved on to another relationship and I'm looking to.
The one thing you have to consider is what life will be like when you are 60 and your partner is 45. You have one eye on retirement (and all the planning involved) while they are in the prime of their career and one of the LAST things on their mind is retirement. I considered this for a long time before we discussed the issue and we agreed to part ways, we both agreed that it was working fine in our hearts, but in our heads we could both see trouble in the future. 15 or 16 years isnt that big a gap right now, but that gap will seem much larger in the future. After all, when he reaches your current age you will be 51....how much will you have in common then? | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 5:01:29 PM | Thanks meow, nice to see it can work :) But how did you end up admitting to each other there was an attraction there? How did you act upon it?
Thanks again if you read this question. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 8:17:06 PM | The older you are, the more likely it is that you KNOW what it's like to be hurt. You are less likely to make stupid decisions, as you've already made them, and know the conciquences (sp?).
Date an older woman? Hell yes. Why not? Don't women live longer than men anyway?
Bleh. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 10:48:28 PM | If it works, it works.
If it doesn't, it doesn't.
Don't get so hung up in the ‘what ifs’ that you miss the good times that could be had.
Age is something you can’t change, and why should you?
Life is what it is, and you make of it, what you will.
If you feel like there could be something real…. something, special…. go for it.
Don’t let other people dictate your life, because once that starts happening you lose out, in more ways than one. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 11:29:33 PM | I had a friend in high school, she was 17 when she quit. She quit to get married, and everyone thought she was nuts, especially considering she was marrying one of her dad's friends (which didn't make him too popular either), who was 47 at the time. Just about everyone laughing then has gone through a divorce (in some cases two or three). It's 20 years later and she has two kids and is one of the happiest people around.
Sometimes age doesn't matter. :) | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:39:08 AM | 21 year old guy....lol
Wow I am in my 20s and MANY guys in their early 20s are very inmature. Comes with the age. And at that age, are they really going to be ready to settle down with you and your kids?? He just hit the prime of his life, and most will figure that out and go crazy.
Some maybe ready to be serious...but...not many...20s are for bars and friends and crazy nights...let them get it out of their system so they can grow up and be adults. I think that goes for any gender at that age
I doubt I would date a 21yr old now. | |
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