| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:21:59 AM | I recently put a thread out and got some interesting feedback. Made me think of this one. In the mind of a Player...let's hear your stories about being a Player.
satisfaction?
fun and games?
ego? vanity?
attention?
fantasy?
revenge?
emotional connections?
How do you deal with the "difficult" ones that you landed?
How do fare in the "meetings" for coffee, drinks, meals etc.? | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:34:31 AM | I'm not a player but I got a story about one...
Met this guy at the bar. He hit on me relentlessly one night. I told him I was not going home with him numerous times but he just wouldn't get it. Finally I told him I would go home with him so he'd leave me alone then as he was turning right out of the parking lot, I turned left and went home. Bruised the ego there I'm sure. Figured he'd never speak to me again....Went to the same bar, he was there again and again he hit on me and this went on a few more times I went. One night I decided hey, maybe he's not the player I think he is so I seen his truck at the bar and decided to wheel in for a drink and chat with him.... he's there with one of the waitresses who he'd apparently been hitting on as long as he'd been hitting on me. Too funny...and he still tries to talk to me whenever I go to that bar.... | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:40:11 AM | Oneofthefishies you came to the conclusion that a guy taking to a woman in a bar is a player. I thought that's what going out to bars was for, meeting or trying to meet people of the opposite sex. I had no idea that talking to the opposite sex in a bar made one a player.
You might want to look at your own actions in the senario you mentioned, seems to me you might be the one playing games.
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:41:59 AM | sorry tdh46,
I looked at search threads.... it was woe is me stories..or how to spot a player....etc.
I want some good stories from Players themselves. Their perspective.
It should be highly entertaining and illuminating...and maybe funny! And...it will also be sad.
They have their time on here, too. Raise the spotlight and here is your stage... | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:45:42 AM | | Honestly OP do you really think that anyone that's a true "player" is going to come into this thread and out themselves?. The only ones that going to be coming in will be people who think they were "played" at some point. Which you can find pages and pages of those threads just from typing in the word "player" in a search. | |
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ponie
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:51:26 AM | Tdh46, and what brought you here to post?
The only ones that going to be coming in will be people who think they were "played" at some point.
We have all been players in our lives. In one way or another. | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:51:43 AM | oneofthefishes..
so what if he was talking to a waitress...it hardly makes the guy a player! If anything..You were the one playing the game!
You said you werent interested..then said you were only lie and n ot follow the guy when you said you would..and then you go looking for him again.
what are you............. 12?
and daisy..You ask what satisfaction it gives a player to do what they do...whats the point?
If they are players..they arent goint to get a straight answer anyway. They do what they do..because they get away with it. Simple as that! | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:52:27 AM | I hear you both!!! While I would be interested in having a "true professional player" in the hot seat, I'd rather do it at a town hall type meeting. He could have a bag over his head to protect his identity BUT he'd have to be the absolute REAL thing. Short of that scenario I don't think it'll happen. You'll get players playing at being players and you'll get wanna be players who might learn too much. You get people who think they are being funny, you get all sorts of mainstream and oddballs.
Maybe you can talk a real player (I think they do it for the sport and I believe they do have emotions, twisted as in getting something by someone as in I guess I fooled her!) into writer a book BUT no bull crap allowed!!!!! | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 11:57:29 AM | Judging by their level of success, it probably feels very rewarding. The chase followed by the catch must be exhilarating. The bigger the challenge and the ever increasing ability to persuade any woman... a player must feel like a real champion.
Now is the feeling of repeated conquest more fulfilling than of that of being in a committed, respectful and affectionate relationship? According to a player I know, he claims it is. Surely they must provide something that is in great demand in the world of dating... how else could we explain their existence?
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 12:39:01 PM | Oneofthefishies: That story doesn't sound like a player to me. :)
Just someone who is asking out ladies in the hopes that he gets a date. What's the harm in that? One of them is bound to say yes at some point. | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 12:47:04 PM | Well actually as a female player - I pretty much would say
ripping his heart out gives me the most satisfaction.
Playing on his stupidness and him being blinded by my beauty
and my pooter gets me everything I want- I get all the attention- his money
and everything that goes with it.
No player is going to come on here and tell you how they play people-
at one time or another everyone gets played or plays someone.
These player threads are just unbelievable- he plays you or she
plays you because you allow it.
No Im not a player but God man-- you have got to be to smart
and way too old to fall for the player crap.
curlygrl~ | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 1:25:18 PM | OP,
IMHO - you need to move past whatever/whoever it is that is making you start this and the other thread. With any luck you still have everything you had before including your self respect. If your ego got bruised - welcome to earth - where men (and on occasion, women) are pigs. No rhyme, no reason.
Curlygrl - Is a "pooter" what I think it is - manoman - there has got to be a nicer word. | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:08:20 PM |
Playing on his stupidness and him being blinded by my beauty
and my pooter gets me everything I want- I get all the attention- his money
and everything that goes with it.
No player is going to come on here and tell you how they play people-
at one time or another everyone gets played or plays someone.
I don't think the guys that you played were player, but rather your average suckers. Did they buy you drinks? Roses? Took you out to dinner? Yeap? Suckers.
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:15:13 PM |
Judging by their level of success, it probably feels very rewarding. The chase followed by the catch must be exhilarating. The bigger the challenge and the ever increasing ability to persuade any woman... a player must feel like a real champion. That is exactly right. There's something very exciting about the chase and winning. Once you've won though... well it gets pretty boring and you need something else to entertain you.
Now is the feeling of repeated conquest more fulfilling than of that of being in a committed, respectful and affectionate relationship? According to a player I know, he claims it is. Surely they must provide something that is in great demand in the world of dating... how else could we explain their existence? I don't think it is. It was great when I was younger... but as I got older I realized that it just wasn't right. I hurt too many people even when I wasn't trying to. The funny thing is the more you tell a man the truth about how you operate they more they fall in. I made a very strong effort to break this chain of behaviour over the years and I had a very successful relatonship in which I was faithful for 7 years. This time around I found myself still having to break myself of the old habbits but thankfully I find I have more patience for slowing down now and less of a need to "win". | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:18:02 PM | Yeah Apocalypso- its what you think it is.
I agree with what you have said to the OP.
Whoever "played" you was not nice and Im sorry for that.
Obviously it has left you very sad or this would not be the second
thread that I have been on concerning this subject that you have started.
Sometimes people play people and sometimes the person being played
just wants that attention so much that they turn a blind eye to what is
really going on. It goes on all the time- someone who has played you
will not necessarily play the next girl he becomes involved with.
Its just something that happens.
Play smart and be kind to yourself- I doubt very much you will have
people here telling you how they play others- you most likely will
just get more bashing stories.
curlygrl~ | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:27:20 PM | that isnt a player @ oneofthefishes
think about it, u went there 2-3-4 times, rejected him each time
so finally after so long u say ok maybe...and he is hitting on another woman
big deal, u expected him to just sit and wait for you forever
and it doesnt really mean he is a player because he "hits" on more then one woman at a time...he wasnt your bf or anything
i am not into dating more than 1 female at a time
but thats different, you were not dating him | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:28:09 PM | to rain....
lol....satisfaction?
Satisfaction as defined: being gratified, act of fulfilling a need, desire or appetite...
Maybe it belongs in the file of fetishism
Now that it is a legit fetish...let's hear some stories!!! | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:32:41 PM | Player: as defined - a person who participates in/or is skilled at some game....(See Word Web for this!) A theatrical performer (Word Web) or Imagined as in a play (Word Web).
I think this is sums up the definition. | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:38:43 PM | Apocolypso...
I have only been on here for a couple of weeks and I have never been played yet...and don't plan to be. I have lots of smarts in my lovely head.
Hmmmm...does experience qualify for stereo typing a man? I have lots of dating experiences and short Aries men have nasty ways about them. Have you ever got over being short and arrogant? | |
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| Players! What is it like to play? C'mon be honest!
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:39:32 PM | Some people think of me as a "player" because I'm not particularly interested in a long-term committed relationship. (Personally, my definition of a so-called player would be someone who LIES about that or their true feelings for someone to get dates/sex/whatever, but other people apparently disagree.)
Anyway, my motivation from your list are:
1) Fun & games (good company, good conversation, laughs, getting out & doing stuff, in some cases sex);
2) Emotional connections (just because I may love anyone again, I still feel affection).
That's it. | |
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