| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:18:18 AM | | Ok guys i'm seeing this guy and he is super nice and we get along pretty good but he follows me like a lost puppy. When he wants to kiss me i just kiss him back and there is no feeling. I know he wants to sleep with me but i am not attracted to him at all. How do i tell him that i'm not interested without breaking his heart? | |
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 12:27:50 PM | | Tell him your interested in someone else (the truth is you probably are whether or not you're actively pursuing it, right?). It drives the point home mercifully and quickly and does not lead to a debate. You haven't rejected him you've chosen someone else. I know it's a lie but I think it accomplishes your goal of sparing his feelings. | |
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 12:34:46 PM |
How do i tell him that i'm not interested without breaking his heart?
that's were people make things worse. You have too lie if you want to spare his feelings and really he'd rather hear the truth and be hurt at first but view you as a friend in the long run. All you have to say is "I'm sorry but it's not working for me". No explanation is needed. And if he asks for one tell him "you just aren't feeling it."
If you tell him this you aren't lying and you may keep him as a friend. | |
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 1:48:00 PM |
How do i tell him that i'm not interested without breaking his heart?
You can't. He will continue to get his heart broken over and over until he realizes that kissing a woman's ass, being "nice" and having no individuality or strength of self is not attractive. That applies for men and women.
You can't be held accountable because he is a wimp. Just be honest and tell him. The longer you wait the harder it will hurt.
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 1:55:16 PM | | Wait a minute....you dont want to break his heart? So, I am assuming you care about his feelings. How is it, then, any less unkind to lead him on? I think you may be afraid more of how it will affect you then how it will affect him. Do what you need to do, but it is probably best to stop toying with his emotions. | |
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:05:22 PM | | Just tell him that you might want to be friends with him, but you aren't interested in dating him. Rejection is a part of life whether it's dating, employment or anything else. It usually hurts initially, but most people will get over it. | |
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:30:59 PM |
Ok guys i'm seeing this guy and he is super nice and we get along pretty good but he follows me like a lost puppy. When he wants to kiss me i just kiss him back and there is no feeling. I know he wants to sleep with me but i am not attracted to him at all. How do i tell him that i'm not interested without breaking his heart?
Well... you can always leave him standing at the altar. That way... you don't have to deal with your guilt. As well, you avoid the "soppy tears" that would make you feel worse for misleading him after all this time.
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 4:04:47 PM | | Be honest, be polite ,truthful and ensure that when you tell him that he is under no illusion of a reconciliation. It will be paifull for both of you but if you dont do it sooner rather than later youwill start to resent him tread on his aemotions and he will probably become more anxoius to please. An unbalanced relationship damages both parties and also takes up wasted time so be honest- and be true to yourself. | |
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| Don't find this guy attractive but he loves me to death
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:33:27 PM | You can't tell him without breaking his heart, if he is really in love with you as you say.
I'm guessing you know that already, but, like most people, you are simply too afraid to tell him. It's a tough thing to do, but it has to be done. Be strong and tell him bluntly and honestly. | |
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