| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:34:06 PM | | Is there a certain age where men start to want women for more than sex? At what point do they start appreciating a woman for her personality and strengths and not just her body? And do men find a woman who says what she wants a turn off?? | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:37:27 PM | | This probably all depends on the guy. I started getting a conscience about this stuff when I was around 25. Maybe it's just my imagination but it seems like I had better luck with women BEFORE I got that conscience. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:39:22 PM | OP,
Im not a guy. :) I think age is only one of the factors involved. It seems to me that, as a general rule, men over 45 are more interested in the whole package than are younger men. Thats not to say that no men under 45 dont want the whole package. This has just been my experience. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:46:36 PM | | I think it all depends on the guy sister. When it comes down to growing up some people take way longer than others. Some people confuse sex with love and sometimes it takes a long long time to clear that up. Others learn early that love can happen without the act of love making. But everyone leads different lives and learns things differently so sorry to say sister it is a crap shoot when it comes to finding someone that isn't just in it for the sex. Personally I think friends before lovers is a wicked method but a lot of other people feel the exact opposite. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:47:11 PM | 1. No, we're all somewhat different.
2. Again, we're all different.
3. Only if it isn't what I want.
I don't get involved with a woman if I can't appreciate her for anything other than sex. If I wasn't that picky I'd probably be having better luck with women, but w/e. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:48:17 PM | Most of us have always been looking for more than just sex but since some of the emotional stuff is so complex and hard to access sometimes we seem to concentrate on the sex parts. As much as some women think men are only attracted to how a woman looks if that were so then all the very beautiful women on just this site would never have to even post a profile---they'd be swamped with offers galore. Sure there are guys of any age who'll defy this and only go for the "trophy girls" but if you notice they have a constant string of new chicks quite regularly in order to keep whatever thrill they derive from this alive.
It is probably true older guys have seen how superficial attaction leads to nothing more than bragging rights but even then we're just beginning to act upon seeking more, it was always there just not as out in the open as the pursuit of Barbie, the doll or Benton, whichever generation you're from!
Older guys rock! LOL | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:04:26 PM | I'll concur with the "it depends on the guy" sentiment. I started to crave companionship from girls (and not just sex) from the age of 16. I don't think anyone needs me to tell them that there are quite a few 16 year old males who want nothing other than sex.  | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:13:52 PM | Well I think it varies from guy to guy. Also when you meet someone certain things stand out as you get to know them.. if they got a great body, personality, mind, or what ever that goes in the plus side. And that may be the thing that holds a person to you.. I myself and attracted to a woman with a great body physically but that doesn’t mean I am attracted to them on every level or that it would work out.. You need to be firing on all cylinders not just one..
I would say around 28 guys start to calm down a bit and look for more then booty call. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:23:54 PM | Is there a particular age when women actually GROW UP and stop making these completely inaccurate statements and assumptions about men? Is there an age when women actually start admitting they like sex JUST AS MUCH, were not coerced into actually spreading their legs and producing a kid or two as a result and PROOF that they do, instead of trying to play it off as some abusive dirty nasty trait that only men have? Is there an age when women finally stop trying to place themselves 'holier than thou' and above every man out of their own inferiority complexes? Is there an age when the woman actually acknowledges that men also need more that just sex? Is there an age when she actually stops pretending SHE'S the only one with the emotional needs long enough to actually listen to HIS??
Are you quite done with this????? | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:32:10 PM | Nope. All different for different men. Some at 7, some at 17, some at 27, some at 57, some never. Also, we go through different stages in our lives. Sometimes, we've come out of a relationship, or have other difficulties, and we're not interested in a relationship at that point. Can last for years.
This probably all depends on the guy. I started getting a conscience about this stuff when I was around 25. Maybe it's just my imagination but it seems like I had better luck with women BEFORE I got that conscience. My younger brother said exactly the same, musicjunky1967. Before he wanted a g/f, he got loads. Once he wanted one, they all dried up. Ended up moving to Taiwan, and of all things, his g/f is Japanese. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:50:01 PM | Is there an age when women finally stop trying to place themselves 'holier than thou' and above every man out of their own inferiority complexes? -- dashriprock223
Wow, do you think YOU might have a complex??? I didn't imply that I don't like sex anywhere in that question!!!
Thanks guys for your responses... I guess it's just luck of the draw! | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:57:16 PM | When he's 6' under, senile, gettin' it on the side.
Depends on what she wants. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 8:36:05 PM | I belive also it pends on the guy, I myself have been searching for a woman for a long while now, i'm 22 and not ashamed to say i'm a virgin so I guess i'm not after a woman for sex then right? I've learned since a young age to treat woman with respect just as with anyone else, its more a you treat me like crap I treat you the same back kinda deal.
You get all diffrent types, the ones after sex, the ones waiting for something special, the ones who just don't care...you get the drift lol. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 8:41:51 PM | I would say about 25 I started paying a lot more attention to that sort of thing and actively seeked it out.
I always wanted her for more than sex, from the beginning, but I have ALWAYS wanted sex. Don't get that confused. I doubt that will ever leave my #1 priority.
Check list:
#1 - Sex worthy - Check
#2 - Personality - To be determined. If instantly failed, refer to sex worthy qualification. If later failed, refer to sex worthy. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 8:46:13 PM | I never want women for sex. Sex is vile. I like women to give me money, take my car to the car wash and fix me dinner. That is what women are supposed to do. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 10/21/2007 9:04:48 PM | For me, I think it was around 17 that I started to want women for more than sex...any relationships that I've been in that were mostly about the sex have ended after a very short time. I need a more full-time companion than that, and that requires an appreciation of the "total package." I certainly know some men my age and even older for whom this is not true...for these guys, women are sex toys and will never be anything else to them.
Some men find women who know what they want and aren't afraid to call it out a turn off, but not all of us - and certainly not me! I think you'll find if a turn off for your more controlling, neanderthal, chest-beater types. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 10:35:04 AM | | What does a woman have to offer a man other than sex? I’ve yet to meet a woman that brought anything positive into my life (that I didn’t already have) other than sex. When I meet one, I’ll stay with her forever. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:15:45 AM |
I always wanted her for more than sex, from the beginning, but I have ALWAYS wanted sex. Don't get that confused. I doubt that will ever leave my #1 priority.
Check list:
#1 - Sex worthy - Check
#2 - Personality - To be determined. If instantly failed, refer to sex worthy qualification. If later failed, refer to sex worthy
I couldn't think of a way to word it, but that is excellent. And it's true for me as well...There are people I'd have sex but I wouldn't enter a serious relationship with for some flaws that don't work for me. There are some people I get along great with, but can't start a serious relationship with due to that lack of sexual attraction.
but like it was mentioned before, all depends on the guy...crapshoot as with most things | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 12:20:30 PM | Yes - it's the same age that women stop trying to change a man and start appreciating him for who he is...
What I find a turn off is women that say what THEY want, but don't LISTEN (or worse, even let me SAY) what *I* want. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 12:53:46 PM | | We're all different. I can't remember a time when I wanted anything less than the whole true love thing. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 1:41:19 PM |
Is there a certain age where men start to want women for more than sex? At what point do they start appreciating a woman for her personality and strengths and not just her body? And do men find a woman who says what she wants a turn off?? There is, in fact. And by some strange coincidence it is the exact same age as when women start seeing men as human beings instead of as sex crazed morons. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 1:57:12 PM |
What does a woman have to offer a man other than sex? I’ve yet to meet a woman that brought anything positive into my life (that I didn’t already have) other than sex.
Ouch!
Can you spell Bitter? B-I-T-T-E-R
Hmmm, you always claim not to be player because you are honest,
so do the 3 girls that you are dating now know that they have not brought anything but sex into your life?
And do men find a woman who says what she wants a turn off??
I think the issue is how one says what she (he) wants.
If a person is controlling and arrogant, I think that everyone would find that a turn off.
One can express herself (himself) without appearing that way... I think.
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 2:04:27 PM | There is a certain type of person opposed to age or gender.
And by some strange coincidence it is the exact same age as when women start seeing men as human beings instead of as sex crazed morons.
Sssshhhhh don't let them know we know the secret !! | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:45:30 PM | Since not all men (or women) are alike, we tend to mature at different ages. As for myself, somewhere around my mid forties a bell went off and suddenly I became aware of who I was, what I'd been like and how badly I had treated the women in my life. (if I could go backwards in time, I would apologize to the ones I treated so badly)  My problem is...I did a 360 and went completely the other way.....now I'm more concerned for "her" needs than my own.
As for women that know what they want and aren't afraid to go for it.....I admire them. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:52:32 PM | | I'd like toknow if there is a female age where this er...stops...you know what I mean... | |
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