| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:54:26 AM | Maybe it is just me but I notice just as many women over 30 who are looking for men 10+ years younger than themselves as women looking for men older than themselves.
I have no problem with this. I hope everyone finds happiness. I am curious though to undersyand why this is? Why and how have we as a society changed our attitude. Until maybe 20 years ago women always looked for men the same age or slightly older..that has changed and I am wondering why?
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:01:43 AM | | My thoughts are along the lines that 20 years ago women needed a man to take care of them. Today we don't. We have our own homes, good jobs, and know where we are headed. We are of the mind to choose someone to have fun with. I find most of the men my age and older, are not that much fun. I will not hesitate to date someone 10 years younger. Maybe some day when I am old and no fun anymore, I will date someone my own age. But I'm sure there are plenty of others who will totally disagree with my thought process. That is what makes these forums entertaining. | |
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nogo3
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:55:43 AM | I have found in my own experiences that the nice in shape girls in their 30's into their 50's become alot more horny than they were when they were younger.
they seem to be getting better earlier and lasting longer age wise, BUT hey its all good. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:55:57 AM | I personally prefer slightly older men but I know plenty of women my age who prefer men who are younger. I think it's just superficial, the same with older men dating younger women. Like the lady above says, allot of women no longer look for a man who they feel can support them, because they are strong and independant, they just want to enjoy looking at them, and whatever else goes with it  I'm strong and independant allso, but I still prefer my man with a more mature look and attitude. | |
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OHM2
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Joined: 9/23/2007
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 11:55:05 AM | In the Chinese zodiac, which measures centuries as well as years, the 21st century is the century of the cougar. This means, apparently, that older women will roam the earth in search of buffed guys.
For what it's worth. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 12:27:33 PM | I prefer someone close to my own age, a guy 10yrs younger, might still want to have babies and all of that stuff.... I am looking to find someone free or almost free of raising children........
So that we can look forward to adventure, quite times, spur of the moment things in life that dont include packing a diaper bag or censorship due to the under 18 crowd being in tow. I mean its not likely that your going to find a secluded wayside on your vacation ....... for a romantic interlude with the kids in tow. Or go chunky dunking while camping by the lake .......... Insert your own idea here.....LOL
I love my kids, I would love someone elses kids......... but I have been mommy for over half of my life, I am looking forward to a break....... In a few years to come 
Something to hope for anyway!!!!
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:25:42 PM | ~OP~ I'm not sure on the sociological aspects of why this seems prevelent today. I personally have always dated younger. Not much younger ~ but even in high school, my first love was a year behind me. I married some years ago, he was 9 years younger. It was not discussed, noticed or an issue for him, me or anyone else. In fact, I'm not so sure anyone knew he was younger. We fell in love and married ~ it was pretty simple. I didn't need a birth certificate to tell me I loved him, it just happened. Fate and destiny can be such cruel things ~ I'd give my soul for one more minute with him. Sometimes, it's just not about chronological age. In many ways ~ he was older and much wiser than me, that is what I miss the most. Today, I'd feel absolutely silly with someone in their young 30s, and younger than that ~ oh hell no. BUT, I would feel even sillier with someone 10 years older, that just wouldn't be me at all. 40-45 is my deal. Same time-zone so to speak ~ to each their own, I just wish everyone could find someone wonderful that makes them feel as I once did. JMO  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:51:09 PM | | ^^^^I agree with you I am wondering why (like I said earlier) we have changed as a society. I remember when I was 17 years old I briefly dated a 22 year old woman. My parents had a fit because "Men do not date older women." My sister was 16 and dated a 21 year old and they were okay with it. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:54:44 PM | Funnily enough, i was dating a 45 year old woman for a short time and im 10 years younger than her.
She had a busy life career wise and just didnt have the time for the whole dating game etc when she was younger. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:47:03 PM | | THANK GOD....as men die ten years earlier it should be a perfect match, and you dont have to deal with all the games of a less mature woman. As the rumor is that women hit thier peak when they turn forty, thats just fine with me. Also, she probably already has her tubes tied and you dont have to worry about starting a family again. And being a little more mature and more responsible is always an attractive trait. Not that I offer those traits of course..heh heh heh | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:58:32 PM | .
Maybe it is just me but I notice just as many women over 30 who are looking for men 10+ years younger than themselves as women looking for men older than themselves.
Sure, that’s been going on for quite a while. There are lots of middle-aged divorced women around looking for a little action, so it’s not surprising that some of them go for younger guys. After all, the younger guys are often easier for them to get into bed -- and they are also easier for the older woman to shoo away when they are done playing with them because few younger guys want to keep an older women long, anyway.
Hell, a lot of middle-aged guys go after younger gals, too, so it all evens out in the end.
What has been somewhat of a surprise to me is the number of very presentable younger middle-aged women who are interested in older guys like me. I mean, I don’t look wasted and decrepit yet, but even so, I’m about 25 years older than some of them who show interest. Of course, it often happens that I’m the only active older guy around who is also single, so that might have a little to do with it. That would be like dating my daughter. lol
Sooner or later there comes a time in most people’s lives when they decide they want a good friend and companion, as well as a lover. That’s when they give up that middle-aged fling foolishness and look for someone they may have a little in common with who can be a keeper. The problem is that once a woman gets over 60 there are not enough active men to go around. Worse yet, a lot of us (like me) do not like dating around.
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:09:05 PM | Younger men are beautiful, sexy, open and cool. I can't remember a time in my adult life when I haven't loved them.
Older men, on the other hand, are domineering, set in their ways, (generally speaking) too sexually forward with people they barely know, and have way too much sexual mileage for a 'clean' person. Ick. JMO
Culture plays a huge part in why our foremothers sought older guys, the answer is they had no choice, survival ranks higher than freedom of choice.
P.S.
To the woodcarver who said "The end of the human race is nigh"...
If only, the sooner the better.
Sincerely,
Ms. Ann Thrope | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:22:42 PM | It probably has something to do with women in their 30s are probably getting out of relationships that they've been in since they were in college... They realized that they had gotten into a rut or have been living a rather mundane life of job, mortgage, kids, etc... and are now looking for something a bit more exciting.
They want to get with someone younger, that hasn't settled into a routine. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:29:31 PM | | It has been proven that guys live shorter lives than women. I am active and still full of life when most older men are couch potatoes. I will consider guys younger than me. Though most of my interests have been 40-44 years old. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 7:44:27 PM | think its b/c us 'older women' were tossed aside 20-30 yrs ago & some of us had enuff.. sooo whats good 4 the goose is good 4 the gander?.. *shrugs*..
disclaimer: i like older men.. still..   .. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 8:26:07 PM | | so maybe that would explain the masses of 40+ women messaging me this past month. hmm... I was starting to wonder if it was my profile. | |
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Xavery
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:12:15 PM | | I am not sure if it is a trend or not, but I will point out the obvious. Men have been doing it for years and see nothing wrong with going 20 to 30 years younger. I see nothing wrong with either sex dating a person 10 years younger, if they are over 30. If the age gap gets too big, I think things could be complicated. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:16:03 PM | | Guys do it ALL the time. Why shouldn't we. After all, we are in our sexual prime and so are they. I hang out with a 22 year old some times, and let me tell you...My intentions are completely dishonorable. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/23/2007 11:19:45 PM | There is no way I'm ever dating Joan Rivers.
Just so you know.
> so maybe that would explain the masses of 40+ women messaging me this past
> month. hmm... I was starting to wonder if it was my profile.
Been happenin' to me, too, RichGuy. Well, if 2 = "masses".
I'd thought it was the full moon or something. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 6:22:15 AM | Since high school I always dated someone my age or within a year or two. Always. Not that it mattered or that I preferred it, it just happened that way and they were nice compatible relationships. I ended up marrying a man that was almost 5 years older than me. We were very different and unfortunately discovered it way too late. Three beautiful children and 19 years later....here I am. I have dated a couple of men that were younger than me since I have been divorced. I knew they were not for me because they wanted children and I can no longer have any.
I try to find someone close to my age and who has shared some of the same life experiences. Only because it gives us more common ground and a better understanding of where the other is coming from and where they have been in life.
I don't want to be a "Mrs. Robinson " to some much younger man. (Hmm...or maybe I should be???) Just kidding!!! That might be fun, but I am much more interested in finding a mature, experienced man to share my life with, who has lived and loved and is ready to give their heart away for the very last time. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 8:29:00 AM | well consider this.
i'm 35. if men my age are dating women younger than i am then there are fewer men my own age. so where does that leave me? either younger or much older. since the young ones seem to just love me, i'd be crazy not to give them a chance. as my girlfriend said to her husband when he asked what i would see in a younger man "honey are you telling me if you were single and a 20 something girl wanted you, you'd turn them down?" | |
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