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 1UniquePerson
Joined: 1/1/2007
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My friend is in a funny situation and I'm curious about the responses here on this. My friend found out that her boyfriend likes to join chatrooms and have webcam sex with annoymous females where he'll jack off on one cam and the female will be naked on her cam. Since the act is not really physical, would you count that as cheating? Personally I wouldn't be really bothered until something like that gets physical, to the point where he's actually meeting women from online for sex. I mean in a sense, it's sorta like him looking at porn, only it's a live female on cam. Anyway she's upset but do you think webcam sex is really a big deal when you're in a relationship?
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 2
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:22:27 PM
if he is hiding it and lieing about it its cheating


now maybe she could join him and make it forplay ... every one get in a cyber pile
 veryhandsome00
Joined: 10/8/2006
Msg: 3
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:29:16 PM
MY THOUGHTS IT ISNT CHEATING, IF THERE IS NO ENTER COURSE. I WOULD LOVE FOR SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO HAPPEN TO ME.
 .Marc
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:32:14 PM
Anything sexual that is done with someone other than your partner is cheating unless your partner is present or gives you permission to do it.
 veryhandsome00
Joined: 10/8/2006
Msg: 5
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:34:58 PM
SO YOU ARE SAYING MARC. IF SOMEONE LOOKED AT A PLAYBOY AND MASTERBATED THAT WOULD BE CHEATING?
 smokemifyougottem
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 6
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:38:38 PM
Damn, I didnt know that playboys were interactive..and would consider cyber sex with some one other than your partner cheating...So what if you pull out your 1993 playboy with anna nicole smith..are you then a necrophile? O lawd forgive me...
 brentos
Joined: 1/6/2005
Msg: 7
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:41:55 PM
YOU ARE NOT HELPING ANYBODY BY TALKING LIKE THIS AND SAYING THINGS LIKE "ENTER COURSE" PERHAPS YOU SHOULD STOP FOR A SECOND AND ENJOY THINGS LIKE PUNCTUATION AND LOWER CASE LETTERS.

Anyways, I think this isn't a very cool thing for somebody to do while in a relationship, particularly if she doesn't know. While it isn't as intimate as a personal one-to-one, real life situation, it is far different from doing your thing to a magazine or video.
It all comes down to personal feelings on it, if she feels it's wrong, she should talk to her boyfriend about it. There is no real right or wrong, but I wouldn't approve of it.
 .Marc
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:43:28 PM
Very- A playboy wasn't a person the last time I've checked.
 whatdoes2008hold
Joined: 3/29/2006
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 Bionic Woman
Joined: 4/6/2004
Msg: 10
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:58:38 PM
No it is just fun, cheating huh for heavens sake,

Like watching a porno.
 Squid VT
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 11
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:58:59 PM
It all really depends on what they have defined as their relationship. I would consider it cheating as would most of my firends with out prior discussion. I happen to know that as an exhibitionist I would love to do something like that but I would not do that if I was dating someone with out talking about it first.
 marcob
Joined: 10/4/2007
Msg: 12
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:09:16 PM
Anything not previously agreed upon as a couple, should be considered cheating.
 Fly on the Wall
Joined: 8/21/2006
Msg: 13
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:11:36 PM
Cheating cheating cheating. Theres interaction going on between two people...sexual interaction as they perform for each other...and one isn't the others partner, so it is cheating.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:14:18 PM
Maybe some see it as not cheating but it is very disrepectful
to your friend what he is doing.
she has every reason to be upset- he is not touching them or anything
but they are getting to see the shit- his shit.
He sounds like he loves the attention from his webcam- maybe he
likes to be watched. Either way he is making her feel bad and thats not good.

Regardess of it being cheating or not and you will get a lot of views
here, he is doing something that is hurting her and if he has any respect
for her , their relationship and if he loves her he will stop.
And yeah it is a big deal when you are in a relationship.

curlygrl~
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:11:46 PM

if he is hiding it ...
gives you permission ...
Anything not previously agreed upon as a couple....
disrepectful...


WOW There is a lot of angst here.
OP, one of your questions involved the phrase : “..a big deal”.
The fact that the SO thinks it is answers the question for your friends. Now they get to decide for their relationship what is right wrong and if both things continue.
But, in general, i would answer “no”. Picture:
A woman reaches into the night stand, fumbling for B.O.B., but then stops and thinks: “I forgot to ask Joe for permission...”
A guy gets stuck taking the Big Out Of Town Client to the local strip club. Lap Dances ensue ...
A Woman flirts at an office Xmas party where mistletoe is not the only thing “hung with care”
A web search for supplies for the Old Livery Stable leads a person to Pony Girls Are Us.com ....self gratification seems the only response for this stroke of luck..
A person makes a call for Phone Sex from a motel room while on a business trip instead of hanging out in the bar downstairs with their co-workers and the Pros.
Erotic Dreams about an old flame ....
The new Harlequin Romance is out !
The neighbors kid with the great @ss is washing his car again....Time to grab my bikini and get some son....errr.. sun!.
Where above is the line crossed ? Mentally i suspect that many of us skate on thin ice often in what we think and then act in ways we would not if the paparazzi were hiding behind the bushes.
Performing with a web cam is sort of a new phenomena. Is it less “evil” than a person fantasizing about the attractive co-worker? Would my wife/husband be PO’ed if they knew “how much i wanted to lick the salt off of that six pack” ? Would not admitting to this be “hiding” something ?
People flirt. When does the flirtation cross the line ? “ George complimented me on this skirt last time i wore it. I’ll make his day and skip the panties today” Is that “two people interacting”?
We can not, nor should we want to, control our partners. Giving permission implies a power structure. “ You no longer control things. I do.”
I am pretty sure cheating occurs when her flesh smacks his flesh. Any thing less is a grey area.
If i ever find myself in a relationship i am not going to worry about the grey areas and instead concern myself with the grey matter.
 resa105
Joined: 6/25/2007
Msg: 16
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:30:04 PM
I've said it before and I'll say it again....you can cheat on someone physically, emotionally or intellectually. If it is more important for your friend to jerk off to the webcam than to stop upsetting his SO, then his priorities are in the wrong place and he is being selfish.
 Ole Rog
Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/23/2007 4:34:17 PM
What ya don't know, don't hurt ya.
 Thorb
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 18
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:42:07 PM
A. When does this occure
B. What has she said to him
C. Is she being honest about it all as to her position on it
D. How did she find out
E. Was he/is he hoping she will discover him doin it and join in.

It is really up to them as a couple to work this thing out and make it a problem or make it fun.

 dutchpirate
Joined: 3/4/2007
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Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:57:12 PM
It's cheating. You are showing great disrespect for your partner and doing something behind their back sexually they probably don't approve of. Cheating.
 dunnrunnin2
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/23/2007 4:59:16 PM
I agree with thorb, he said it well. It's up to them to use it or lose it.
 Savannah_Sam
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 21
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:59:50 PM
deerdog1 said it best...

if he is hiding it and lieing about it its cheating


If a SO does anything and is hiding it from you, then it's cheating, deception or whatever you want call it. Period.
 SweetSassy
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 22
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:04:59 PM
I think it is cheating in a sense. Why is he not doing the "naughty" with his gf instead of with strangers online? Does he like touching himself watching a woman online more then he likes touching his gf and having her touch him?
 tmotts
Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 23
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:12:01 PM
I would not like it at all!!!!!

Anything he does with her he should be doing with me.

If your in a relationship you should be able to explore these things together and only together. I think it is much different than a playboy magazine.

What ever happened to Honor and Respect? Why would you want to do this to someone you loved? to me its cheating.
 Ice-ey
Joined: 10/19/2007
Msg: 24
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:13:36 PM
Of course its cheating. The whole webcam thing I never quite understood, but although cyber-sex isn't really sex per say, it would still constitute cheating.
 SweetSassy
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 25
Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:15:30 PM
RKB.....really? Would you be feeling the same if you found out your woman was having an affair on you??
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