| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 10:42:23 PM | My ex boyfriend and I ended very badly and I know he was upset about it (or at least i dillusion myself into thinking that). And in the 8 years we were together I never once seen that man cry. Why do men hide their feelings? Crying is not a "woman" emotion. Everyone feels sorrow and pain which includes men. I have a ton of friends that are men that say crying makes them weak. Where does this philosophy stem from? Just wondered what everyone here thought about it. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 10:55:47 PM | | Its the way they have been brought up & conditioning by society. When boys get to a certain age, it was always considered sissy for a man to cry and they were taught to push down their feelings. But I think that is changing and more men are allowing themselves to show their feelings. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 10:58:53 PM | ^^^^
Pretty much sums it up!!!
What do you mean men don't cry I have made plenty cry
Yes...........yes she does.....BIG meanie lady!!!!  | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 11:04:06 PM | | Most men may not cry as often as most women ,but don't think that they don't cry. They are more private and reserved about it perhaps ,but that doesn't make them wrong, just different from women. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 11:06:25 PM | | There have been some break ups I have and haven't cried over, I for one don't feel the need to hide my emotions. I don't know why some guys hide their emotions inside, like Squirrly said, it's probably the way they were brought up, I was lucky and was raised in a loving home with great parents, and not once was I ever told by either of them that I should hide my emotions, just let it out, its part of life. Maybe your ex did cry, but when he did it was never around you, I don't really know. Sorry that the two of you ended badly, hope things get better for you. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 11:12:53 PM | Some men do cry sometimes, but obviously, not as much or as offten as women do. Men do not hide their feelings, they just handle them differently than women do. Women cry, seek support, and seek out someone to listen to them, tend and mend. Contrary to pop-psychology, men do not bottle things up inside, even though that's the way it may appear from a woman's perspective. Instead, they often prefer to work things out in their own minds, through thier own self-talk. In short, they tend to sleep on things. They have real feelings just like women do... they just are not big drama-queens (but there are no absolutes, some men are!)!
I like to refer to this as one of many a laws of love, one of the differences between men and women. You will never understand the opposite sex fully, you cannot walk in their shoes (well, unless you want to take hormone shots and have a "change"!). In the process of understanding romantic relationships, some things we just have to accept on faith. This is outlined in one of the most famous relationship books of all time written by Dr. John Gray. Perhaps you have heard of it - Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus.
Sure makes life interesting. As they say, opposites attract! And the word interest is synonymous with love.
Incidently, I met one of his associates once... we met after chatting on a dating site. I guess counselors need love too! Sorry to hear about your breakup. Time heals though, the only way for you to go now is up. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/25/2007 11:18:42 PM | > Why do you think men don't cry?
Weeping, like anger, when sincere is a form of protest. So it's simple: men are not allowed to protest.
They are simply too vital to the functioning of our civilization. The whole system collapses the day men stop performing to go on strike and start protesting. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 2:00:41 AM | If you didn't know, men are suppose to act like men.
We're suppose to be strong, big wanged, Marlboro men. This is, in part, because it's what you as women expect us to be. Think about it, we have a hard enough time impressing you, to make you want contact us here on POF. What if we told you we cry allot,or were on the more emotional side of things. You'd probably say you want a man, not a woman.
Personally, I do cry, but I've always leaned toward the emotional side of things. But I understand the pressure to "act" like a man. It's allot to do with gender roles. Men are big and strong; we want nothing but sex and love beer. Even though not all of us follow that sterotype, it's good to be able to hide behind it. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:00:05 AM | From what I’ve read, there are two reasons:
1) Men are problem solvers. They are less likely to cry about something than women because they are more inclined to solve the problem than seek sympathy/sympathise.
2) Crying is a sign of vulnerability. Men generally exhibit the desire for power, thus displaying their vulnerabilities could allow for another person to take advantage and gain greater power over them. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:01:01 AM | | OP. I think men are generally emotionally stronger in some ways than women. That isn't to say they don't have feelings, but they don't see crying as a way of dealing with those feelings, they see them as a reason to look for a practical solution to the problem. I've seen strong men cry, for example when they have lost a loved one, and I've seen weak men cry at every little emotional hurdle, and being fairly emotionally strong myself I'd rather have the former than the latter. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:07:54 AM | We don’t cry because we are strong….and rule the world!!!!...that’s why we are called MEN!!!!! Followed by the household pet, and then women………………………. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:07:57 AM | If I was crying, my ex boyfriend would say "Are you crying? Crying is a sign of weakness".
'Nuff said. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:08:02 AM | I cry all the time. Well... not ALL the time.
Excuse me... I have dirt in my eye.
Seriously though... I dated someone who thought that I wasn't strong enough due to the showing of emotions.
Crying doesn't make me weak, but it doesn't seem to be helping my marketing campaign any... 
It's actually a running gag among my friends that I "get dirt in my eye" during sad movies.
Someone dies and, "do you have dirt in your eyes?" "It's freaking sad, okay!?"
Quick, everyone point and laugh!  | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:08:37 AM | simple. their tear ducts are hooked up via their foreskin.
I know.
its true.
I had anatomy class with a real human cadaver and i got to see all that stuff.
the REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAL problem is the guys who have NOT been cicumcized. OMG when they start crying and boo-hooin.....get outta the way!!!!!!! its like a frikkin firehose!!!
ok ok ok...its late, im tired.
nite-nite
and merry xmas
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:28:38 AM | | Umm, it's not like I feel like crying and don't because it's not manly. When I feel sad or depressed I just don't get the urge to cry. Sure, I sit there and mope, but I don't cry because that's not how I express those emotions. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:41:46 AM | | Interesting posts here...Especically from the men...The person who said men just work out conflict and sadness differently from women....They process it in their minds privately, sleep on it...I think lot of women do that too...I certainly do...But I also cry openly when need be...I dont hold it in with people I trust...I do both....So are men just more guarded about opening up with those they trust?....I also think its sad that men think women expect them not to cry....I certainly dont want that....Im openly moved, not upset or turned off, when I see men crying.....During 9/11, I saw alot of men crying, both on TV and around me and it was comforting and reassuring to me...A sign of their humanity...Not a turnoff by any means...Maybe younger, more insecure women who need a father figure to be in charge all the time dont like men crying...But older women often welcome mens tears..We arent looking for men to be some kind of childhood "ideal" for us | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:44:05 AM | | Some men do. But many people call them weak for it. Women most of all. Women don't want to date a weak man in our society, and crying is associated with weakness. It's that simple. | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:57:16 AM | Well,
I am a very Manly Man with an updated ManCard with many points on it.
And I have cried a lot the last 2 years, it is inescapable.
If you have ever been in love for many years and watch that loved one die and you do not cry, there is definitely something very wrong about you.
But, I am getting well again. I am alive and will be happy again, too.
Life is for the living!
Regards, Bob | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 4:22:24 AM | | Crying is not a sign of weakness in men...There are many women who believe that...Perhaps men need to find more compassionate women who will support that...Women all dont think alike here...Any woman who berates a man for crying is emotionally insecure, immature and has big issues and baggage of her own...Is she really worth being around? | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 4:31:48 AM |
simple. their tear ducts are hooked up via their foreskin.
I know.
its true.
I had anatomy class with a real human cadaver and i got to see all that stuff.
the REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAL problem is the guys who have NOT been cicumcized. OMG when they start crying and boo-hooin.....get outta the way!!!!!!! its like a frikkin firehose!!!
This would also explain why some see things rather kockeyed as well..... | |
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| Why do you think men don't cry?
Posted: 10/26/2007 5:05:20 AM |
Crying is not a sign of weakness in men...There are many women who believe that...Perhaps men need to find more compassionate women who will support that...Women all dont think alike here...Any woman who berates a man for crying is emotionally insecure, immature and has big issues and baggage of her own...Is she really worth being around?
This is true, it's up to each individual, but personally I prefer men who don't cry all the time, because I don't cry all the time, and I'm not overly keen on women who do it either. I think sometimes it is used to emotionally blackmail people, and I don't think it's a fair way of playing. As for relationship breakups, that's different, but I admire those who do their crying on their own more, than those who are forever crying in front of other people. | |
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