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Posted: 10/26/2007 2:20:25 PM | Maybe I'm asking the wrong people. So any guys with helpful advice, jump on in.
But here's the situation. And this has happened multiple times, and it frustrates me completely.
I went to a club. My first time in a few months, I find a girl who's attractive and willing to talk to me. Hooray! She seems really nice too. Completely not testing me or making me fight to impress her. I'm really interested! (Plus, she had the "girls" out on display, very large and shapely, and I did my best to maintain at least an 90% eye-to-eye contact ratio...)
I was not the aggressor, she approached me but seemed shy, so I helped push it along. I have no problem with that. Her friend joins her and introduces herself. I'm talking to both of them. The girl I'm interested in "accidentally" leans into me and stays there longer than necessary. I'll take this as a good indicator. They whisper to each other. Her friend says "I'm sorry to have to do this, but we came to dance and get exercise. We have to get going now."
------------You have 2 seconds to make a decision------------
How do you handle that???
(My real thoughts were somewhere between "Well I'm here to meet women and drink" and "You b1tch! You know exactly what you're doing by dragging her away, and I have no clue what I'm doing or how to handle this!")
Not knowing a better response that didn't make me sound completely childish or pig like, and accepting defeat, I smiled cheerfully "Well don't let me stop you!" and motioned towards the dance floor. They walked that direction...and right past it. They didn't dance the whole night. I knew it was a lie from the beginning anyway, so it didn't matter. No more eye contact with her for the rest of the night could be gained, and I figured it to be a lost cause anyway.
But, how do you deal with something like that? It's not the first time, and I think it's a pretty common thing.
Oh, and my curses to you if you have ever been that friend.  | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 2:23:11 PM | If she's that easily influenced by her friend, I'd say you dodged a bullet.
If I liked a guy and wanted to continue talking to him, I'd tell my friend to get lost.
But that's just me. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 2:35:07 PM | Interesting you should use that phase Ubkobalt. Second time I've heard it. The first was when Stifler said it. It's interesting because I've noticed you seem to be obsessed with sex, a lot like Stifler.
Everything you ever post has a tangible subtext - "I'm obsessed with sex and it frustrates me that women aren't as obsessed as me." It's quite an art how you manage to work that into every thread you contribute to. No matter how removed the thread you manage to bring it round to that fact. You should list that as a skill.
Incidentally, when a woman does that for a friend she's usually been instructed to do so beforehand. It goes like this:
Woman 1: After about two more of these I'm going to have beer goggles.. you need to stop me if I look like I'm about to cop off with the biggest loser in this place.
Woman 2 (AKA C**k Block): Sure thing, I got your back.  | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 2:53:33 PM | I'm sorry your vagina is broken. You seemed so nice.
Although thanks for that second part. It was useful. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 3:12:28 PM | Just guessing about that whispered conversation ...
Girl to friend: "Why does he keep staring at my face and not my tits? What's wrong with him? I even leaned into him and ... nothing! He just wants to talk."
Friend: "Freaky. Want me to take care of this?"
Girl: "Yes, please. Just get me away from him. I'd like to get laid tonight."
Friend: "OK. Leave it to me. I'll give him the old 'We're just here for some exercise' excuse."
Girl: "Thanks. I owe you. Let's go to a bar where the guys aren't gay."
Seriously, OP, if that girl was really into you, she would have stuck around. Sounds like she and her friend had an arrangement to bail each other out. Don't blame the girl's friend, blame her. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 3:22:01 PM | One woman bailing out another is as common as dirt.
The whispered convo gave it away - more practiced woman can signal "the exit" with just a glance at her team mate.
The leaning in thing might have been nothing more than she was having difficulty hearing you over the noise of the bar - you were not doing as well as you thought.
Better luck next time! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 3:24:44 PM | Not a lady, but here's may advice on what went wrong.
You need to let her know that you're interested in her as more than just a friend or she will not be attracted to you that way. Touch her arm during conversation, smile, give her the eyes, all that good stuff that communicates "I find you attractive". Don't go overboard and hang all over her though or you'll freak her out!
Second, you should never neglect her friend! Include her on the fun conversation or she'll get bored and want to drag her friend away to find someone more interesting.
And yes, there is no doubt that her friends job was to act as an escape route. However, if you had kept both of them interested then they would have hung around. Never ignore the friend. It's just not good manners anyway. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 3:29:56 PM | Nightclubs are much like maximum security prisons. What you want to do first is make an example out of one of them, and make sure the whole club sees you. Find the biggest tease in the place, strike up a conversation with her, and when her****locking friend comes to bail her out, you ****slap her Rick James style. After that, you won't get****locked again all night.
Also, violence is attractive to Southern women, and country music fans, so you might even get a few extra numbers out of the deal. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 3:38:37 PM | | There's no secret female agenda here where we all know the answers and you (as a man) don't. We women don't know what went on, either, or why. Don't obsess about it, nothing REALLY happened at all, right? You weren't in love with her, you maybe didn't even know her name, so why worry about why she had to leave/did leave? Even if it WERE because her friend was "saving" her from you, do you REALLY care? You don't know her. Shake your head in disbelief and walk on. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 3:45:21 PM |
You need to let her know that you're interested in her as more than just a friend or she will not be attracted to you that way. Touch her arm during conversation, smile, give her the eyes, all that good stuff that communicates "I find you attractive". Don't go overboard and hang all over her though or you'll freak her out!
Wasn't there yet. But that time was to come.
Second, you should never neglect her friend! Include her on the fun conversation or she'll get bored and want to drag her friend away to find someone more interesting.
She was not neglected. I did intentionally bring her into the conversation. I should have sent her for snacks. Kept INTERESTED, I can't guarantee. But I did what I could to have her involved.
Also, violence is attractive to Southern women, and country music fans, so you might even get a few extra numbers out of the deal.
Noted. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 4:24:42 PM | If your going to be slapping people, don't forget the babypowder.
Now as to the problem, we usually do have the talk of 'don't let me do anything I don't normally do tonight' when going out and having drinks.
But if she were truely interested she should have let her driend know this. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 4:38:50 PM | The****blocker....Mans worst enemy. The****blocket is a breed of female that is usually the inferior one in the group and if shes not having a good time NOBODY is having a good time.
Cock blocker piss me the F off but you have to keep your cool. Going solo on a C-ock block is tough if not impossible. Thats why you need a wingman to take one for the team to keep that crazy C-ock block at bay while you interact and get digits.
Doing it solo, man the only way you can pull it off is so friend the C block, keep both girls interested, show interest in both.
Good Luck. C blockers should be shot | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:49:18 PM | I had to comment on this one I am afraid Imperturbable gave you some bad advice you slap some of us "southern girls that listen to country music" and Ya just might get your a** kicked,being southern girls and putting up with an infinite number of jerks at a club have made us tough.So it might not be a good idea to around slapping us,you could wind up with your "jewels" in a box.As to your experience ,it was the "help me ditch this guy",for what ever reason.Just something wasn't clicking.
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:52:50 PM | Women tend to band together in the bathroom, so what you do is have one of your girl friends go to the bathroom the same time the****locker does and they can strike up a conversation there. It happends we talk about the oddest things in there sometimes.
Your friend can mention that she's here with some friends and they should come over to where your at and hang out. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:56:48 PM | And don't expect southern girls to pick up on sarcasm, either. They only graduate the 6th grade before they start poppin' buns out the oven.  | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:04:44 PM | LOL I know you were joking around Imperturbable, no offense was meant.And yes some of us made it past 6th grade.Not everyone can recognize sarcasm and I didn't want a bunch of you "northern boys" to wind up in the hospital,you know some people take these forums as gospel.Just trying to keep some poor dude from getting seriously hurt.  Jez don't get so bent out of shape . | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:10:07 PM | Had that happen a few times. I ended up dancing with BOTH at the same time often.
just relax and be yourself. Above all be aw bit daring and confident. Just because you're hitting on one doesn't mean the other isn't hoping to find someone too. I like the fact I can hand a woman off to my friend and he'll dance with her. Comes in handy for these situations. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:16:02 PM | Alright, alright,.. thats quite enough of that sort of thing,.. C blockers and slapping and baby powder and whatnot. Settle down now.
Alrighty then,.. as a woman that has, in he past, thought that someone was the bees knees through beer goggles,.. i have issued instructions to my best friend to save me from myself, if she thought I was too tiddly and charming up a storm with some poor man who i wouldnt normally bother with.
I believe Ubkobalt, that this has what has happened here. not much you can do about it,.. but twirl your moustache,.. swish your cloak,.. and mutter 'Foiled again'.. before making a dramatic exit. DAx | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:25:26 PM | | You're such a wet blanket, DA. I was having fun with the slapping and the baby oil, and you gotta traipse on in and ruin it! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:31:30 PM | | Thank you Imp, I'm employed by the Devil to be an uptight, repressed, holier than thou minion. I'm here to spoil everyones fun,.. glad to see you think I'm doing my job well. DAx | |
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