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 stink456
Joined: 9/18/2007
Msg: 1
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So, I've finally met someone and we haven't had sex yet but I know he wants to and I certainly want to but we've agreed to hold off until we know each other a little better. The question is, when do I tell him I like really freaky sex? Not your ordinary routine stuff, but pretty much more extreme stuff. Is this something I should be discussing now before we get to that point? Or should I just enjoy the routine stuff for a while and then let loose later?
 gennyisagem
Joined: 8/7/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:47:52 PM
I would say take it slow, while I know men don't take most hints well, I think this is 1 place where you can give him a few hints and he might actually get it. Guys always say they want a freak but most don't really know what a freak is, so take it easy on him at first see how far he is willing to go before you let loose on him.
 corpusmorte
Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:51:20 PM
well it depends how much you like this really freaky sex. If its something thats a part of you and that you need to have in the future then i think you should slowly ease the other person into it. But if it doesnt seem like your cup of tea, i do suggest that you find someone else that is into it.
 billybaloon
Joined: 6/20/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:51:42 PM
it can't hurt to pose some questions like what do you think of .............?
how freaky do you think. this is..............
 rcuhljr
Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:52:15 PM
A lot of it depends on what the relationship goals are, and how much of a deal breaker it is for you. If this is something you'd like to be long term and you feel that a non traditional love life is something you have to have it's probably worth at least broaching the subject, not necessarily specifics but let him know that the subject is important to you and you'd like to talk about it as you get to know each other better.
 RogueGnome
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:53:09 PM
Better to be a little "too up front" about it,
than to be totally incompatable as sexual partners.


Is this something I should be discussing now before we get to that
point?

Yes!
 cjgregory
Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 7
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Posted: 10/26/2007 5:56:28 PM
I once had a young woman tell me before anything happened..."I like to be REALLY used." Of course the way she said it I got the point. I was planning to somewhat ease into it anyway so it was not an issue. It saved a lot of time. :) I have no idea how you would handle that.
 linedingold
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/26/2007 9:22:13 PM
You are already thinking he's possibly too conventional for you without knowing his preferences. Hopefully for you he's more of the extremist !! Just be yourself unless your "extreme" causes suffering........then you might want to discuss it first.
 mr. dynomite
Joined: 9/11/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 10/26/2007 9:32:24 PM
I don't know how freaky is freaky...but for the love of God, if you are into something like poo poo eating, tell him BEFORE you kiss him. please!
 NerdStatus
Joined: 1/9/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/26/2007 9:33:29 PM
How critical to the relationship is this kinky sex?

The critical things should be discussed early (first few dates: thoughts on kids, marriage, etc). The more critical it is, the more important it is to start talking about it early on.
 jdrocks
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/26/2007 10:37:23 PM
Am I the only one who wants to know what you consider really kinky sex?

I need some details to make an informed decsion
 tenbears17292
Joined: 6/25/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/26/2007 10:42:31 PM
Did you ever give it some thought that just maybe thats the reason he wants to get to know you a little better before sex because he has some perversions that hes afraid to tell you about too.


we all want details on what you would call kinky sex
 HereN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/26/2007 10:49:24 PM
What's kinky for one, isn't for another - details girl details!!
 Aljay04
Joined: 10/3/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/26/2007 10:56:42 PM
Well what is realy freaky?
I enjoy the ALT side and its sometimes difficult to meet someone, and then there is the ignorance that has been given, but i met a lady that was curious and now she is into exploring, but that is lucky, maybe you should talk about this as it might (repeat might) affect you in the furure, Best of luck
 blubuz4u
Joined: 8/9/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/26/2007 10:59:37 PM
Ease him into it. Handcuffs one night, handcuffs and whips the next, handcuffs, whips and goats the next and so on.....
 bear45408
Joined: 7/30/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/27/2007 5:06:18 PM

What's kinky for one, isn't for another - details girl details!!
Yes! Kinky sex has such a wide range. To almost everyone, where they are and somewhere near there is quite nice, and there are people doing things that are disgusting. Even I, who consider myself very open minded, am surprised at what some people do.

That said, I think you want to start discussing it, along with sexuality in general, fairly early. Ease the topic into it. It's not that hard to introduce into conversation. Most people are at least interested in the topic of kinky sex, even if it's out of their experience. See how it goes.

You may also want to try other sites, such as Alt or Collarme. The latter in particular has good people. If bdsm is what you have in mind, most cities have local groups which host munches, which are get-togethers, usually at a local tavern. You'll find the folks there friendly, supportive, and not evangelistic about their lifestyle. A good resource for the curious.
 Luv Karla
Joined: 9/29/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/27/2007 5:10:20 PM
Talk about it before hand,you don't know what he is into until you ask.
If he claims he has never tried certain things,ask if he is willing to be open minded
about it.

Either way,if he cares about you,he will not be turned off by you sexual preferences.

In fact,he might just surprise you and be very turned on by your freaky side!
 Ginger Fizz
Joined: 10/14/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/27/2007 5:29:20 PM
LOLOL I love these forums, they always give me such a good chuckle.... At a certain age you just know how your body works and what it responds to and you just talk to each other about it like two grown adults, until you come to a comprise you are both comfortable with. NOTE You both must be comfortable with it... hehe
 vegastout
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 10/27/2007 5:53:58 PM
take a dump on his chest and ask him how he feels about it?
 Pfm1011
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/27/2007 5:56:06 PM
Dont discuss it yet..might scare the poor lad off.. Just fade him into it, never underestimate how kinky the other one is also but might just need a push ... Of course ..what is really freaky??
 Charlie Shift
Joined: 12/5/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/27/2007 6:43:20 PM
Tell him now. No one wants to get attached and then find out that they don't like the same kind of sex. You don't, either, do you?
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 10/27/2007 6:46:49 PM
Start off with the normal stuff first - then gradually add in the 'freaky' stuff. You may actually find out he too enjoys the walk on the wild side! He may even have a few tricks of his own to show you!
 EastSideEddie
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 10/27/2007 6:52:32 PM
What if he is more of a freak than YOU are?

Depending on your prude level, nobody knows what you consider freaky. I knew a girl who was such a prude that leaving the lights on was sexy to her.
 .Selena.
Joined: 9/3/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 10/27/2007 6:53:09 PM
With the user name of stink, i don't think I want to know just how freaky her freaky can get..
 finneganne
Joined: 7/31/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 10/27/2007 6:57:31 PM
Depends on how really freaky your freak is. I like to know up front if we will be sexually compatible before chatting too long. If a guy needs me to choke him, shit or piss on him, or ram cucumbers up his ass - then we probably aren't going to get along. I don't want to find this out later - after we've had emotional and physical connections.
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