| Do I just attract all the "winners"? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 10/28/2007 3:58:06 AM | Am I just setting the bar to high? I am confident, and Im not fishing for compliments. Maybe its just the local women over here? I always seem to attract: women I have no interest in, women 10,000 plus miles away from me, or psycho women with some serious issues. I thought maybe online dating would expose me to a whole new world of girls, at least a girl who knows the difference between "theyre" / "their" / and "there" would seem at least literate and might not be living with her parents still... but then I get completely ignored by women I have interest in and now I have 20 emails from girls I just dont have an interest in. Then when I finally do find a nice girl that I could see myself dating, one that shows an interest in me as well, she lives 3 states away or something...
Sometimes I feel like I just dont appeal to the type of girl I am looking for, and I am a magnet for the others... Are there any normal / half decent looking girls who dont have mental/drug problems and at least have a job? Even if you still live with your parents at least have a job... Is it me, or do Washington girls just have high standards? I dont feel like I should have to "settle" thats just setting myself (and whoever I would settle for) - up for annoying and inevitably hopeless content. | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 10/28/2007 6:36:01 AM | I had to check your profile, so don't drop dead when you see an "mature" visitor, lol. It's a fishing expedition and you'll need to throw back a few before you find that special one. Also, because you are young, the girls in your age range will tend towards the superficial. Not all of them mind you, but enough. You do come off as intelligent and thoughtful. I'm just making an assumption here, but if you focus a lot of attention on the hottest girls, you may miss the cute girl who perhaps doesn't have the best picture in her profile. Dig a little deeper into some of those emails you are rejecting. You may be overlooking a diamond.
Good luck! | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 10/29/2007 5:39:27 PM | | Yeah, I feel for ya! Girls your age are very fun. Just show 'em a good time. Dont be a typical dumbass who just wants sex. Young girls are always offered sex. Be a friend. Establish yourself. Learn what's important to them and become that. Learn to dance. What sets you apart from the pack of dudes you hang with (you look like a bunch of young horny drunk dudes, lol! What are your talents? Bring Hawaii to Washington, Alex! Look for the girls who hang Hawaiin lays from their rear-view mirrors. They're usually cute, and you have Hawaii in common. The rest is chemistry . . . | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 10/30/2007 11:12:54 AM | alexmaui,
You are not the only buy in Washington with this problem. I'm finding either 20' somethings with some serious father issues / looking for a sugardaddy, and on the inverse 50+'s or BBW's none of which I'm at all interested in. Of the few that I have met most had me heading for cover after 30 minutes of hearing about their probation officers or rehab escapes.  | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 11/3/2007 9:41:21 PM | LOL Crazy in head = crazy in bed.
OK, I'll agree that's just about dead on 100% of the time, but after I had one nutty broad break in while I was at work and just about clear me out.. I'm a hell of a lot more careful about who get's my phone number or finds out where I live!
I had a phsycho stalker this July that required me to rig a surveillance cam and keep the cops on speed dial to get it resolved. I still ended up with a garage door that was kicked in and everything not locked inside my house stolen. All if this while I was on vacation for 3 weeks in California! But that whole story is a basis for a complete thread on it's own.
For me, if you have a parole officer, been in a 12-step program or know your optimal dose of Prozac or Lithium... I'm not interested! | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 11/4/2007 7:07:49 AM |
I've had pretty decent luck here too, many fewer Psycho's then I'd normally run across ROTF!!! Gotta love the the diversity of the people in this world........
Makes me wonder how much of what you read on the forums is accurate.
"All the women/men are psychos/needy/creepy/want sex"
"Women get 50 emails a day"
"I'm a guy who has never been contacted"
"No one ever writes me back" | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 11/12/2007 5:53:32 PM | wow. too bad you aren't about 20 years older. bummer. good enough grammar, accurate spelling, and reasonably intelligent content. And you are a cutie!!!
Don't give up. I've been doin this off and on for about 4 years. I do have an observation, perhaps off base, but here it is:
Girls your age are too immature to think that someone like yourself is not a complete "loser" for being on a dating site. The girls you meet lack self confidence and self esteem. I can only speak for myself, but at your age, there is NO WAY I would ever have joined a dating service. (I really didn't need one, either). So, the "cool" girls are out there, maybe they're just not "fishing". At least not on this site! Perhaps you should try other avenues for meeting girls that would interest you. Or try women a bit older? Maybe in their mid to late 20's?
Just a thought.
Good luck, hang in there.
Women gotta kiss a lot of frogs, don't know why men shouldn't have to as well!!!   | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:46:34 AM | Not at all. While you need to set that bar high, you also have to sit back and realize not everyone is exactly like you. It's taken me alot of soul searching to realize, not everyone is going to be perfect. Just remember that. Previous responses were very correct. The date is a fishing tool, kinda like a game. treat it as such. Nothing compares to going out and meeting new people for the hell of it. Chances are too, that you'll find the right one when your not looking.
Well best of luck, and no, not the only guy out there that feels that way i'm sure ;)
Jack | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 12/2/2007 6:52:53 PM | Your not alone.... I'm 30 years older and I have had a similar experience. I thought I was being too picky, (to, too, two) or setting my standards too high as well. Listen to what a wise person once said I quote :
"Sometimes I feel like I just don't appeal to the type of girl I am looking for, and I am a magnet for the others... Are there any normal / half decent looking girls who don't have mental/drug problems and at least have a job? . Is it me, or do Washington girls just have high standards? I dont feel like I should have to "settle" thats just setting myself (and whoever I would settle for) - up for annoying and inevitably hopeless content."
That is some excellent advice!
Best Wishes!
Doug aka StormCalmer | |
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| Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high?
Posted: 12/3/2007 10:39:11 PM |
at least a girl who knows the difference between "theyre" / "their" / and "there"
This isn't just a woman thing, it's an internet thing. People are just illiterate, or don't care to know.
And...saying crazy woman is like saying wet water. Everyone is nuts, it just depends on how much "crazy" you can put up with. | |
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