| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:19:08 AM | | Since I have only been with 2 different people in my life, I would chalk up in-experience for what men would call a lazy woman in bed. I've tried to be on top but can't seem to move to help the situation. Maybe it's my position. If I'm on top and my knees are on the bed I can't move. Am I supposed to squat on top? I prefer bottom with my legs wrapped tightly around my partners waist.....Does it really mean I'm lazy guys? | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:24:23 AM | I'm so sorry, but I couldn't help chuckling a bit when I read this.
Just try to find a position that works for you. Maybe ask your lover what he would like for you to do. If you truely can't figure it out... try watching some pornos for fresh ideas. The Kama Sutra may also be a useful tool.
And yeah... if you just lay there with that glazed-eye look for 20 minutes, it doesn't neccessarily mean you're lazy. It just means you're not a whole lot of fun haha. | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:30:17 AM | Maybe more communication and experimenting and generally being playfu and trying things out is in order.
"Maybe it's my position. If I'm on top and my knees are on the bed I can't move."
Im not understanding. Knees on bed - knees to thighs, thighs to hips. Two joints per leg.
Should allow for some motion there. Unless you missing some joints or something else.
Lazy is not putting in any effort - preferences dont denote lazyness - lack of effort does.
I stand by the first thing I said. | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:34:49 AM | sweetie , you are a "Registeredwoman" and you Have To ask this?!?   
*sigh* you can STILL 'move' with your "knees on the bed" (use muscles, motive, and enthusiasm).. just MOVE, experiment,squat & ride, (Yehaw!) .. umm, is HE moving? ;-) | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 9:54:39 AM | | You do not have to be sitting upright when on top. I find that very difficult to last long that way, so hard on the knee joints. I keep my knees bend but lean forward, chest above chest, and ride him that way. Sliding in and out that way also gives your clit some stimulation. | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 10:04:51 AM | | Honey, I weigh over 200lbs and I can ride till he pops like warm champagne. Its not like there has to be major movement there. You're only sliding up and down a few inches. You are there to satisfy yourself and him, so try moving every direction until you find the one that brings the most pleasure. If you get on top, on your knees, toes pointing back towards his feet, then lean a bit forward once you are impaled on him, you'll find out your more sensitive areas make contact and can be stimulate by either up and down, side to side or back and forth motion. Find what feels best to you and I'll bet he will enjoy it just as much as you do. | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 10:10:59 AM | | I have only experienced not being able to move once when the guy was larger (and I'm not talkin' about his member) and that's when the squatting position came in handy. I'm a tall girl with long legs, so I can imagine it being more of a problem with shorter women. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 10:30:07 AM | well i found that when you get on top and just move your hip around in circle that work the****all over the inside and he can feel ever wall and play with your clit that drives them crazy and you too | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 12:42:55 PM | Blondy wetf your name is....I don't think my name on here has anything to do with my posting. I'm asking for advise not critism.....so go find another post beotch.
Greeneyes914- Thanks for the tip. That's what I was looking for.
Christy_ I think you're right about your man being larger, when I strateled him, there was no room for movement, but maybe I'm wrong. Thanks to all of the other posters for their honest, non-critical opinion. To the rest....go get.....you know.....that is if you can...... | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:17:59 PM | personally, I prefer my women on the bottom. So you wouldn't have that problem with me. One position you can try is one I like. You sit on the a barstool with your legs up and your man stands while thrusting you or the bed corner works really nice too, unless you have a footboard then that doesn't work so well. Good luck.  | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:28:25 PM | This is almost tooooooo funny.......
What are you use to? You want the man to do all the work and reach to soon or wonder how long it will take you to get where you need to be? Please......
The whole point of love making is to enjoy and please each other, and in the end, to make sure that the both of you get your own needs met as well......
Being on top does not mean that you have to face him, you can face away and get in deeper and feel other things as well, or you can face to the side and try that position. There is nothing that says you have to be on your knees when you can squat and bounce all over the place......lol
Have you tried placing your legs out more and leaning back to get more leverage and feel? Or, have you tried the spoon position? How about doing all of them and then just explode together?
Maybe you need to have him do you from the rear and get in deeper that way for you to enjoy, or to bend over the bed and see how that feels. The possibilities are endless, and we have not even talked about the end.......
Maybe what you need is to have some sensual music, wine, and talk about what you both want individually and together, and once you start that conversation, move towards it and build the anticipation for what will finally happen, then make it so.
The important thing here is for the both of you to enjoy it and want it again and again, and for me, if my partner is pleased and happy, then I will be as well in the long run.
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:29:04 PM | creeksidedude...
that is one of my favourite positions as well.
as for the woman on top, the only one i find i like that much is me sitting on the couch and her sitting on me facing the same way, sort of works like an upright doggy. plus, that way, we can both watch the game too.
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Posted: 10/28/2007 2:19:59 PM | Msg 9 Ms. R.W. i did think that your 'name' was cute in relation to your question (and that's 'blondago56', NOT 'beotch'.... such manners).... and i did give some insight (NICELY) that might have been helpful in concurrence with other posters..... read the rules, i was trying to make a little funny and it backfired/or the perception was wrong, and i apologize for that..... there's alot of good people here in The Forums Pond, and i'm sure you will be one of them... hugs & peace...   | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:27:52 PM | There is no right or wrong way to ride. I mean if you climb on top and just sit there...that would be a bit lazy, but if you lean forward a bit and rock that is nice...or lean back.....men are very visual, so seeing your breasts and smile always are a perk. If you need better leverage, and you're legs are long enough...have him move close to the edge of the bed and have one foot planted firmly on the floor and the other foot resting on the bed with your knee bent and rock on him that way. If he has a flat head board have him sit up more and place your hands on the headboard for better leverage and squat over him.
Use your muscles to squeeze going down and loosen up moving up or the reverse. Missionary is fine too...I don't think it's a lazy position......but personally I would rather have my legs up on his shoulders ....gives a person deeper penetration ( course it also depends on how big his package is ) As a few posters alluded too...try different things. Bottom line...be comfortable in what you are doing or simply find an alterior position that suits both parties. Doggie style is awesome too. Switch it up and have fun. I'm sure he'll be happy to oblige ya.
Good luck and have fun!! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 2:39:45 PM | | Not really, it depends what else you do in bed leading up to lying on your back. And try differnt positions as well. Kama Sutra book or Porn films can give you some ideas as well. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:26:01 PM | To Creeksidedude.....I've done that, it's one of my favorites.  I've done doggie too, but just can't seem to get the top right.
To Blondago56..... I accept your appology, please except mine for misunderstanding your posting. So many people are judgemental or just plain stupid. Thank you. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:35:54 PM | OP you are of the heavy set type and also look like you don't exercise much. Being big doesn't mean you don't exercise, just going by your pictures and this silly question.
Maybe you are being lazy in that you can't figure this out on your own. I have been with women who are like you and they are not fun in bed, they just want to lay there. So boring.
It's great with a woman on top facing you as a man, so much fun to make their face funny from orgasms as it is a great way to screw. Moving hips fast up and down rubs many nice places for the lady, by the man. Most ladies that just Move a Few Inches are not fun to ride and looking else where is what mostly happens while laying there waiting for them to get their jollies off. Very much like the stereotype of a man doing that.
Doggie, real doggie where hips are above the other, causing the hot warmth of the peni rubbing that nice little hardened nub in the lady is awesome. You can do this with the lady on top too, leaning forward or even leaning way back, Not with your knees bent! Experiment! Exercise too! Be healthy for you and your partner, fun can only happen from that! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:44:22 PM | | Lord Lord - I love riding. Just relax & let your backbone slip the rest comes natural. Also try climbing ontop facing away from him. That's way hot girl. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:48:30 PM | Put Name Here-
Dude, that is pretty harsh! From your picture, you are of the heavy set type and also look like you don't exercise much. So, be healthy for you and your partner. She asked for advice, not criticism of her pictures, body, and lifestyle!
I say, woman on top doesn't seem to work for you. Try another position. Use props (chair, edge of the bed, headboard, footboard). Get a book or use Google! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:57:20 PM | I don't think size has too much to do with it. I'm 5'2 & my ex grew to over 300lb (& at one point I was 200lb) & I managed just fine. I've also been with a living toothpick & that was fine too.. Use your feet to help you move if hes a larger man (use them to hold onto his outter legs, or if your tall enough, put your ontop of his.. hope that made sence lol). Also have your weight on your hands. Do not lay chest to chest with no weight on you hands, thats crazy hard to do if you just learning how to get the movements right. I find the best places for your hands to be is either on his chest near his shoulders (arms out straight), or on the bed, or on the pillow his head is laying on. The feet help a LOT if your short like me :)
If this guy realy likes/loves you, he'll help you get it right :) Even as him to grab your butt cheaks & lend you a little hand to get the feel of the movement you need to do.
Best of luck :) | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 4:04:04 PM | here's and 'addendum' to my previous post.... while you 'squat'(Not the knees on the bed thing) squat so your tush is (i can believe im typing this)down far knees up, feet flat on bed/floor/balcony/pooldeck/whatever, and hold his hands fingers intertwined-kinda grip, and THAT Way, you have oodles of leverage and can kinda do a combo Ride/Rowboat thing.... it works and it is awesome for the female (you) and will drive him nuts, and then you can control the speed/elevation/etc (slower to rest) then and just enjoy! *sigh*  | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 5:44:05 PM | | I haven't been with many men either nor used this position much but like everybody else said you simply gyrate your hips or thrust back and forth. I'm a big girl too and that didn't seem to get in the way. And, as they say, practice makes perfect and if you're going to practice something, let it be sex! | |
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| How to when you're on top....
Posted: 10/28/2007 5:50:27 PM | Hi Greeneyes,
I love it when a lady is on top!!! Also, since I'm fairly well-endowed,
women sometimes like to get on top and control the action. | |
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