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Posted: 10/30/2007 4:44:40 PM | Well,here I go again,she's the one that wanted the ring,not engagment ,but ,something like a promise ring,as she said,not to break her heart,or anything like that,so, what happens,is ,I get the phone call,sorry to tell you this,but I forgot to tell you ,that I'm in treatment for drug abuse,depression,and whatever else there is in that catagorie,I'm ****ing pissed,again ,I give all I got ,and I get a phone call Like that,after going out to Raks,in K-town ,this past week-end,and having a great time,and then getting shit on,like that ,after 4 months,like I said in my up-dated profile,bring the nessesary documents,if you would like to chat or even think about a date....Thanks again for listening,I have to go and finish,the other half of the 40,of Crown ROYAL,my only friend at the moment....ROCKET | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 4:52:23 PM | Hi, sorry to hear of your trouble. Try to chin up, it'll get better, just give it a little time and, don't lose the faith.  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:04:34 PM | | Tried to give U my opinion but said U don't except msgs from MY COUNTRY??? | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:14:06 PM | so what do you want?..a pity party?
Coming here saying poor me I think I will get drunk!!..
Like that solves anything!!
You cant blame anyone for your behavior, you certainly cant blame this lady for making you drink..
I know I am being harsh..but posts like this piss me off....and they wonder ......nope..im stopping here!! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:20:04 PM | | I'm with you! I am getting so tired of this dating. Aren't there any normal, decent people out there! I never thought it would be this hard! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:20:42 PM | nice one ~rain~ ............a pity party-i like that one.
anyway whats the big fantasty with sail boats............sssshhhhhhh i promise not to tell. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:27:03 PM | | i dont generally do public posts, but i went to your profile and was blocked from sending you a message. maybe you should re-evaluate what you are seeking, or at least take some of your restrictions off. maybe, jus maybe, youre blocking the woman that youre seeking........head up. good luck | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:36:51 PM | | Well!!! The nerve of some people…how dare she be honest and admit she has a problem and is doing something about it…if you really cared about her you would be happy or at least supportive of her decision…perhaps the real problem is you lost your drinking partner…hey but you still have the bottle…baby bottle that is…geez….I thought this place was for adults….I don’t mean to sound heartless but worse things can happen than recovery….not a dirty word….maybe things will get better for the both of you | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:43:19 PM | | Cry me a river! Maybe if you it is enough you can do something about the droughts. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:48:05 PM | | Sorry to hear you got burned my friend. All I can say is put the drink away and keep dating until you do find the right one. You may get heart broken another ten times who knows, but when you truly find the right woman it will be worth it. I had my heart broken a few times but I try to keep moving forward from it. Never let life and dating failures beat you to the ground, keep fighting get up and find that love you deserve. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 5:54:10 PM | | By all means Rocket, drink till your hearts content. If it makes you feel any better. She should've been up front and honest with you from the begining. She should of told you all that before even getting involved with you. She shouldn't of been on here looking for a relationship, untill she had her own life straightend out. It's people like that, that piss me off. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:00:03 PM | Coming from someone who has struggled with drinking and depression in the past, it can be a really difficult thing to bring up in a relationship. You never know how someone is going to respond. If she had the guts to tell you it means she was caring and respecting you enough to be honest. And the fact that she is doing something about it is wonderful. If you aren't man enough to be supportive and caring and even a little proud of her steps then i feel sorry for you.
Now there is the possibility that you didn't explain well and she in fact used this as an excuse to break things off then she's also doing something honorable... It is difficult enough to deal with addictions and depression on your own but to do that while in a relationship is double... It's much easier to do on your own and instead of dragging things on and dragging you down with her she is going it on her own... if this is the case you could tell her she can contact you when she's doing better and you will be a friend to her... but at the same time keep looking...
Honestly... i hope you are not as pathetic as you sound... because you sound like some loser mad at a girl for having troubles and trying to deal with them... and turning to the bottle to make it all go away (which doesn't work, believe me).
"Do not let your fire go out. Spark by irreplaceable spark inthe hopeless swaps of the not quite, the not yet, and the not at all. Do not let the 'hero' in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists. It is real. It is possible. It is yours." - Ayn Rand | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:00:30 PM | This is my view, seek the healing and guidance of Christ, try not to put your heart in a person to fast, i know what that is like. At the bottom of that bottle you will only find its empty like a bad relationship! Thanks U R Special! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:04:32 PM | donT drink TOO much !
(jist be careful-being PHYSICALLY sick isnt gonna help the sitch)
ya, heartbreak SUKS A S S!
the ONLY thing that will make it subside (to the point of Not being in HE11)
IS: T I M E
just PuuuuuuSH through it | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:11:28 PM | Maybe she said all that as her way of ending everything because she thinks you drink way too much. Ya never know. We can read that you don't want to deal with her problems........and, just maybe she doesn't want to deal with yours. Just a thought.  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:12:37 PM | | so whats the big deal,thats about the right timeline to find out about that,4 months in your still finding out about each other.a promise ring huh,oh god,please shoot me,no wait,i've got to hear more,anyway,if you want to buy her a ring my man, just buy her a ring,don't call it anything at 4 months,just a gift,weather she wears it or not,and forget about it,and get back to getting to know her ,at 4 months ,you should still be picking up the tab,and thats it,nothing deeper,don't 'give all you got' at 4 months,save that for 2 years from now,because chances are ,you won't even remember nellie needles by then | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:14:18 PM | Re: "Sorry to hear you got burned my friend. All I can say is put the drink away and keep dating until you do find the right one. You may get heart broken another ten times who knows, but when you truly find the right woman it will be worth it. I had my heart broken a few times but I try to keep moving forward from it. Never let life and dating failures beat you to the ground, keep fighting get up and find that love you deserve. "
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I agree with "Fun guy's" post. Put down the bottle!!! It's unfortunate that you didn't find this out sooner, but at least you were told. How you handle it from here is up to you. If she is someone you care about...then be supportive and helpful. If she is not important enough to you ...then be kind enough to give her a proper explanation and then move on.
Keep your chin up! 
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:19:56 PM | sounds to me like she used you.. maybe as a shoulder to cry on while she was trying to sober up or maybe using at the time.. anyway.. like anything else.. u fall down then u get urself back up and dust the dirt off you... and try again...
as for ur bottle.. it will wake up with you empty as ur heart.. so keep ur heart healthy and go for long walks and start dating again.... i wish u lots of luck ... | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:20:52 PM |
I know I am being harsh..but posts like this piss me off....and they wonder ......nope..im stopping here!!
I always say honesty is the best policy, but there's no harm in teaming it with a little compassion. Not everyone's hearts are completely untouchable. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:26:43 PM | I don't get what the problem here is, is he mad because she didn't tell him all her issues up front? Did he break it off because of that? Then gets drunk with his only friend the bottle?
Hmmm..... There is too much room to read this too many ways.
I don't tell anybody I am a bipolar, pill popping, ex junkie, alcoholic crack head man hater until AT LEAST the 5th month! Yeah, I hide it well... sorry to make light of it, but she's the one with all the issues and she's the one trying to be honest and trying to deal with it.
This is most likely one of the reasons it is suggested by sub abuse groups and therapist to NOT get into a relationship the first year. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:39:01 PM | I dont think people choice addiction over loving relationships. Even if you gave it your all, her problem is not about you its about her own demons . I think you should wish her well in her recovery and move on with you own.
just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:44:34 PM | I agree with many of the opinions previously expressed ..... 4 months in, you're still getting to know each other and it takes at least that before feeling comfortable enough to share 'private' information that we may be embarrassed or scared about sharing. Also, I think anyone asking for/or giving a 'commitment' ring in that short a timescale should ring a few warning bells re their insecurity or low self-esteem.
BUT I didn't infer anything about the OP being a heavy drinker  ..... altho I do think you were saying you were quite angry about the situation, Rocket .... and whilst it may have ended badly (in your present opinion) you did have more than 3 months of sharing good and possibly great moments together, and it was probably better to find out now than in a year's time!!
Hope things become better for you ...... with tlc  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 6:54:40 PM | Geezus...if your punctuation is anything like your life...just give up now
...it's just too late for you.
Man, and people wonder why they get duped, sucked into bulls**** and/or "fall in love" at the drop of a hat.
Yeah, that's good...go get drunk instead of taking a class in English. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 5:23:53 AM | wow-i originally advised "dont drink Too much"
after reading some of these posts?
ya, drink da whoooole bottle 
Ha, really-hope you enjoyed your drink, hope you feel a little better today
just Keep on Truckin
(sheesh, whatda say when one is HURTing?)
i know what you DonT say  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 8:29:04 AM | | The punctuation probably comes from the drinking lol | |
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