| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:53:24 AM | I was at my friends house, when her husband shows up with his friend from college. I wasn't interested, since he is 7 years younger than I am. But then I kept bumping into him here and there and seeing him over at my friends house.
I thought I was crazy for having a crush on a puppy!
But would it be so crazy to date this man? I mean I have a lot of baggage, and he is only 18 and just starting his life, I have a handicapped child and am with out transportation, that could be too stressful.
Should I stop this fling thing, before it even starts? | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:59:34 AM | you're asking if you should date a 18 year old guy, and you're 25 years old? well first thing is he's a adult you're a adult, the legality is not a issue, whats the issue here is you have baggage as you claim, you have a handicapped child
Yes you should leave the guy alone, worry about taking care of your child, assuming your child is very young, a handicap child needs special attention and your entire focus. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:02:35 AM | Cougar 
7 years age difference is not that huge depending on where it is. 19 year old dating a 12 year old. 25 with some pretty heavy burdens dating an 18 year old.... After 21 I could never see dating anyone that could not go to clubs. Now that I am over 30 I really think 10 years younger is my cap. To each there own but this sounds like a mismatch considering your situation. Probably need someone with more life experience especially with a special needs child. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:03:31 AM | Why not? You're both adults....... I say go for it.  If you like him , what does it matter? Age is just a number.  | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:09:46 AM | Let's see...
Your friend has a husband who is friends/schoolmates with an 18-year-old. So how old is your friend and how old is her husband?
It sounds like you normally enjoy the company of younger people anyway, so why not date them?
As far as your "baggage" is confused, as long as you don't plan to burden those you date with it, why would it matter? You're on a dating site so you must feel ready to date.
As far as the child is concerned, if you are able to take care of the child yourself and don't plan to make people you date take care of your child for you, that shouldn't be an issue, either. If your child keeps you from dating, don't date anyone.
OP, the issues you bring up stress the question of whether you are ready to date anyone, no matter how old they are. If you're ready to date, date who you want to date as long as the attraction is mutual and it's legal.
If you're not ready to date, don't date. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:11:17 AM | I wouldnt worry about it,...he is 18,...and if got the hots for him,...go for it.
But i wouldnt expect an 18yr old guy to give you what you need ( non-sexually),...specially with a handi-cap child.
Go get you some!
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:11:41 AM | You're both adults, so legally, it's OK. I think both people need to be honest, though, and admit that you probably don't have that much in common. There aren't too many 18 year olds who are on the same level as a 25 year old, intellectually or with regard to life experience. It sounds like lust/infatuation, and that's OK if both people recognize it for what it is. It will probably run its course, and both partners need to be ready for the end of it.
Being that the dude in this case is the 18-year-old, some concern has to be given as to whether he's already with someone. There aren't too many normal 18-year-old guys who aren't paired up with someone at any given time. Obviously, the guy will risk that relationship for the chance to get with a puma (a twenty-something babe with more experience). That could be destructive to his girlfriend.
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:24:05 AM | My friends in this case are in their early 30's, and my son is only deaf and slightly handicapped in the motor functions(walking, grabbing, etc.)
But I have never heard of an older woman having the hots for a younger man, it's sounds so unnatural.
I guess I am going for it!
Thank you everyone! | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:27:01 AM | | It depends on his maturity level--and yours--he already has a lot to get in order in his life, and you have a lot to take care of in yours--if this is a fling, go for it--but I don't think I'd go into it looking for a future with this man---I date a lot of guys younger--and they are always the one to come on and persist--we have fun, no serious talk--my choice, many are very mature- thirty and fortys--some older don't have the responsibility of a 10year old--its all a matter of who that person is and where he is in life values.....jmo think it thru with your head, nothing else.... | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:29:38 AM | | It is ok to date 18 year olds when you are 18. You can rationalize all you want. Pediphiles think it is perfectly normal to date 4 year olds. If I dated an 18 year old girl, people (women) would be all over me about it, and the "she's legal" argument would do me no good. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:30:32 AM | Thats Hard to Answer for you, I could answer that if it was Me! in your Position
But I would have a problem Posting my Private life,to answer a basic question! As I checked your profile!,and many others.I try to maintain a private life,Have local friends to ask a opinion! without writing to Dear Ann Landers! for the world to see. Sooo If it feels right do it! | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:33:02 AM | | Think about it before you do just think if it dont work out the damage you will do to him, really he is not old enough to take on this responseablity. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:37:05 AM | If you like him go for it, just dont expect him to act like a 25 year old when he is 18
accept him in all his immaturity or just dont date him | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 10:43:28 AM |
My friends in this case are in their early 30's, and my son is only deaf and slightly handicapped in the motor functions(walking, grabbing, etc.)
But I have never heard of an older woman having the hots for a younger man, it's sounds so unnatural.
I guess I am going for it!
Thank you everyone!
There isn't anything wrong with it, IMO. I think too many women are afraid to date down a bit based on what others might think of them since the norm. seems to be dating up in age. Also, 7 years isn't a very big gap. However, at 18 he may not be prepared for the same things you are in a relationship. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 11:26:09 AM | Personally I wouldnt date a younger guy (thought thats probably because my brother is 19) but if its just a bit of fun why not?
I know guys over 30 who have 'seen' girls of 17/18 which personally I find very weird! | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 11:39:02 AM | | Gosh, that's only 6 years difference. I can understand the physical attraction and if you two can talk on the same level - go for it. I can tell you for a fact that there are an AMAZING number of older women (middle 40's) that are with men in their 20's and early 30's. And it works - at least for a while. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 11:41:53 AM | When I was 26 I dated a guy from my work who was 20. He was great. He didn't have the life experience I did at the time, but nonetheless, he was cute, hard working and very caring. The only problem we had was that we had no idea how to communicate to stay together. He was also pressured by someone at work to date her younger sister. They eventually got married and had kids. We saw each other years after we had broke up and he asked my what happened to us.
The moral of the story is, why not date him but keep the lines of communication open.
As far as your child goes. Seems like the child just needs some extra attention, but could be well guided to lead pretty much a normal life in the long run.
I hope all works out for you. Attraction is one of the key functions in pursuing a relationship. At least for me it is. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:00:47 PM | Well at my age I wouldn't go for an 18 year old. And even when I was 25 I wouldn't have. But if you are interested go for it.
Personally I like younger men. Their the spice of life. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:47:35 AM | | If you were 77 I would say go for it . What the hell you are breaking no laws. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Do not let SOCIETY dictate your life . | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:49:46 AM | | 18 is legal age and it's ok to date him. you may find you have nothing in common or everything in common, make a new friend or a new love. if your looking for a man with a good job, some world experience then you may have to look elsewhere. | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:43:07 AM |
I was at my friends house, when her husband shows up with his friend from college. I wasn't interested, since he is 7 years younger than I am. But then I kept bumping into him here and there and seeing him over at my friends house.
I thought I was crazy for having a crush on a puppy!
But would it be so crazy to date this man? I mean I have a lot of baggage, and he is only 18 and just starting his life, I have a handicapped child and am with out transportation, that could be too stressful.
Should I stop this fling thing, before it even starts?
Maybe, maybe not.
Certainly, the odds are against you having a "normal" relationship, but if you're into him, and he's into you? It may turn out to be a very enjoyable, memorable experience. It may turn into a life-long commitment (doubtful, but possible), or it may be a "9-1/2 Weeks" kida thing, but whatever... the odds are more likely that it won't last/develop, so proceed with caution. Do a little research, though: ask your friend if the feeling's mutual.
The biggest mistake people make, in my honest and never-humble opinion, is they think the circumstances they have NOW will be the circumstances they have for the rest of their lives.
Arlo  | |
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| Is it okay to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:18:06 PM | | My last boyfriend was a toyboy, 15 years younger than me, I was 40 then and he was 25. He was an absolutely gorgeous, fit, athletic man and I loved him to bits. My only problems with him were the attitude of other women who wondered how a big, old, woman could pull a man of that calibre!! So many younger girls tried to mess it up by flirting with him and eventually, due to my lack of confidence, the relationship broke down. They were jealous and destructive. I am still very good friends with him now and care about him deeply. I had nine months of turmoil and loved him so much I cried when we were apart. It was like lightning striking me when I met him and I fell in love at first sight. If you are attracted to him and feel a connection, go for it, don't let anyone else blur your view. Whether it lasts 9 days or 20 years be happy!!! You only live once and if he is decent to your disabled son so much the better. | |
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