| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:12:16 PM | If you were in a relationship with a woman who had previously been married, and she got pregnant with your child, that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband..
would this bother you? | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:15:27 PM | Im not dating no slut me....
My women have always been pure and unbroken.
Mind you they know some moves. And there has been a few who sat on the toilet seat not long after a gentleman has vacated it and got them selves pregnant loike
but no wouldnt bother me unless she had 12 kids and they all had diff surnames... | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:15:37 PM | | No it wouldn't bother me. Ideally I'd prefer to be married to her before we had children but if it happended before I would still be the father no matter what the surname of the mother was. | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:18:57 PM | that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband..
Not always the case so there, what about if she kept her maiden name when getting married.
What about when getting a divorce and reverting back to maiden name, if she had taken her husbands name on getting married. | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:19:46 PM | | Seeing as how my son has my ex's ex-husbands surname I can atually relate to this thread. It bothers me in so much as he is mine & I guess I feel he should have my name, but he is now old enough to make the choice for himself & I respect that | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:19:56 PM | the baby would have your surname when registered yes, but on all the official paperwork in the hospital to do with the birth, it would have the mum's surname on, which in most cases would be that of her ex husband.
the reason asked is someone commented on it in work today - a mum...said something along the lines of her partner would go mad if he saw 'that', meaning some paperwork with her ex husband's name on...
i just wondered how many people really would get upset by it..
oobbbvviiiooouusslllyyyy hatty, this question ONLY applies in the cases where the woman hasn't reverted back to her maiden name...pedantic tit lol | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:36:37 PM | oobbbvviiiooouusslllyyyy hatty, this question ONLY applies in the cases where the woman hasn't reverted back to her maiden name...pedantic tit lol
Well i was only commenting that it may not be the case, anyway this pedantic t*t ( takes great pride in being pedantic,oops i dont, that aint me , its that other bloke who's on POFALOT) Anyway i aint bothered as i aint having no more kids if i can help it. | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:53:32 PM |
If you were in a relationship with a woman who had previously been married, and she got pregnant with your child, that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband.. would this bother you?
Hell yeh. No way would the kid have his name. Ideally, the child would have my surname but I wouldn't be that bothered if it had her maiden name, but her married name..........No way?????????? | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 12:58:26 PM |
If you were in a relationship with a woman who had previously been married, and she got pregnant with your child, that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband..
would this bother you?
I'd like to think I've more about myself than to get into a relationship with a women who is still legally married. I think most women who are divorced revert back to their maiden name. And if they don't, then they ought to. | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 1:09:09 PM | i don't understand why whether you would get involved with a married woman or not is relevant to this topic?
and i would disagree that 'most' women revert back to their previous name after divorce..in fact i don't know anyone personally who has.
anyone know why the title has changed?
it's obvious that it's ask a guy in the uk as that's the forum it's posted on.. | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 1:14:16 PM | thats why us ladies shouldnt have to change our names if we marry someone and the children should take on our names anyway.
I never married my ex but we have two kids together, they both have my name not his. I had no desire to marry, still dont. No desire to have more children either but id still stick to my principles and give them my name if i did want children with anyone else.
I dont see why the child should take on the mans name anyway, wtf is that all about? | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 1:19:42 PM |
i don't understand why whether you would get involved with a married woman or not is relevant to this topic?
This is a 'thread' and not a "topic". A "topic" is something you would buy from a sweet counter. We do 'threads' in here.
and i would disagree that 'most' women revert back to their previous name after divorce..in fact i don't know anyone personally who has.
Perhaps you don't know that many divorced women then? Do you spend alot of your time indoors? | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 2:11:36 PM | | I always thought a baby could be registered under the mother or the father's name, or is that only if they are unmarried. My son's baby has his name because that's what they both wanted. | |
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| Surnames - A question for the men...
Posted: 11/1/2007 2:30:26 PM | As far as I was aware, the "baby" doesn't have a name until its born.
Any mail coming from the hospital for the Mum would obviously have her current name on it, but I'd think the new man would be aware that's her married name, if they'd reached the stage of having a child together !
If its that much of a problem, she can always change her name to his with the GP and the hospital - problem solved ! | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/1/2007 4:59:37 PM |
If you were in a relationship with a woman who had previously been married, and she got pregnant with your child, that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband..
would this bother you?
The name wouldn't bother me half as much as the fact that the stupid bint had managed to get up the duff in the first place. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/1/2007 5:29:16 PM | As far as I am aware, for unmarried parents, in order to have the father's name on the birth certificate, the father must be present, to give his consent to his name going on it.
I would imagine then, that if both parents agree, the child could be given the father's surname.
I kept my married name, so as to have the same surname as my then 9 year old child. I don't like it and would prefer not to have the constant reminder, but I did it for the love of my son. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/1/2007 5:30:59 PM | I married my ex and my kids all have my name.
The fact that my ex continues to use my name pisses me off, she doesn't deserve to have a good name, she should revert to her maiden name as fast as she dumped me.
My eldest has had a child out of wedlock, he has it's fathers name, which is only right, it doesn't mean I have to be pleased about it though. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 2:25:54 AM |
If you were in a relationship with a woman who had previously been married, and she got pregnant with your child, that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband..
Why would it have the previous husbands surname? | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 2:32:11 AM | Glad im not gonna have this problem, not planning on ever getting wed, dont see the point.
My daughter has MY family name and if i was to have more children they would carry MY family name as well. My reasoning? I dont want my childen growing up with different names, IF i was ever to get married and thats a big IF, either both children would carry said man's name or neither would. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:11:11 AM | puddles, if the mum had kept her ex husbands married surname, and then gone on to have another baby, that baby will automatically have the mums surname, which at that point in time was the ex husband's name.
you have up to six weeks to register the birth, and as someone else pointed out, when registering the birth the father has to be present (unless married) for the baby to have the new surname.
it wasn't a question to rub anyone up the wrong way, i honestly was just curious how important it really is to men that their child has their surname rather than their partner's ex's name.
as i said, even if the baby 'does' have the ex partner's name at birth, it is only a temporary thing, and can be changed when the baby is registered, but for some, even that is an annoyance. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:46:15 AM | I have nothing to say other than this is the most topical topic I've ever had the pleasure of perusing. OP my darling..you are a truly marvellous and inventive individual, keep up the good work my dear.
Edit:
vvv yes I enjoy a bit of insanity every now and again. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:49:01 AM |
I have nothing to say other than this is the most topical topic I've ever had the pleasure of perusing. OP my darling..you are a truly marvellous and inventive individual, keep up the good work my dear.
i'm so glad that my ponderings are tickling your fancy  | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:53:21 AM |
If you were in a relationship with a woman who had previously been married, and she got pregnant with your child, that baby would initially be born to the surname of your partner's ex husband..
would this bother you?
Couldnt the mother choose to give the child her maiden name? I ask because my son has his fathers name and i didnt even need him present to register my son, nor did i require his permisssion. | |
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| Surnames - A question [Ask a Guy in the UK]
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:55:46 AM | i'm pretty sure the law changed a couple of years ago, and now, if not married, the father has to be present if the baby is to take his name.
edit: if the father cannot be present at the registration, but they both want his name on the birth certificate, the father has to sign a statutory declaration form acknowledging his paternity.
i'm not sure if the baby could take the mother's maiden name, but i would doubt it unless she had legally gone back to her maiden name. | |
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