| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 2:28:18 PM | Does anyone else sit & wonder about this?
You have a look & see someone who catches your eye so you read what they have to say & you think yeah i'd like to get to know a bit more about them, so you go to send a message but don't know what to say in it to get their attention. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 2:37:11 PM | I try to mention what I like about their pic, if they have one posted, as well as what we might have in common and what especially interested me about them. Don't say too much...ask if they'd like to get acqauinted through a few emails or IM's. Maybe insert a  | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 2:38:16 PM | | Read their profile. Try to connect. Just don't adhere to stupid cliches, or bar lines, or "hey baby" sh!t. If you are a woman, same thing applies. Go like, I noticed you like this type of food or this particular style of dance, where did you learn it, do you practice if often? Something of that nature. If they respond you are on. If they don't, move on. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 2:39:19 PM | | I have to admit, I've never sent messages first so I'm not an expert. I think it would depend on the type of man I was messaging. Take a good look at what he says in his profile, is he wity?, or more serious?, is he passionate?, or less liberated? once you get a feel for his personality (which you probably will already have if since liked his profile) then write your message accordingly. If you prefer the more serious type of man, then you should try to pick something out from his profile and mention a common interest. If you prefer a more outspoken sort of man, then you should try to be a bit less formal, and keep it short and wity. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 2:45:48 PM | "but don't know what to say in it to get their attention."
Not one of you have addressed this point. She didn't ask what to say in the message. She wants to know how to start. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 2:53:39 PM |
"but don't know what to say in it to get their attention."
Not one of you have addressed this point. She didn't ask what to say in the message. She wants to know how to start.
Well I imagine we were all thinking she would start with a "hi" or "hello" or "howdy ho" or whatever you usually start with. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 3:06:53 PM |  ...pamperpooch - you never sent a message first...?! Geez - but a good answer there anyway ;) I would guess you wouldn't have to...send any messages 1st  alright POFers - carry on | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 3:10:14 PM | Oh, and I usually start the email out with something in the line of 'Hi there'...followed by a recent topic which corresponds to (the persons) profile - like 'I see you like the beach life...' or it can be something that attracted you to that profile :) now get writing  | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 11/5/2007 3:11:18 PM | I say that I liked their listing and tell them I am interested in knowing more about them. I usually try to comment on something positive about their listing whether it be a good pic, or something they said that stood out to me. I then try to tell them a little bit about what we have in common, or a bit more about myself. I then ask them to check out my listing. I rap it up by saying I am look forward to hearing from them, and with a question I have to make it easier for them to start with in their reply.
I don't bother trying to go out of my way to try to get there attention any more though. They are either going to like my listing or not. Some I have talked to suggest a joke or being suggestive sexually. I have tried both, and have had luck with both. I now usually leave it to my listing though. I realize most emails are not responded too, so I don't spend too much time initially | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:53:16 PM | Hi, I'm Georgie. I read your profile and just loved it. It seems we have a lot in common from what you wrote, it makes me wonder what we'd also discover in common if we actually talked! Please read my profile and if interested email me back. I'll be looking forward to hearing from you either way.
Have a great day :)
Georgie
This is the type of email I type to someone who lists a lot of interests but very LITTLE about THEMSELVES> which is really hard to do. It is about as easy as responding to someone who writes, "Hi, how are you?" in their first (and last email to me).
You can tell if someone read your ad and what drew them in by what they write back. If they ask what you do, I always want to say, "Read my profile dummy then you might have something intelligent to say about it!" LOL
Read their ad from beginning to end. If it hasn't bored you to death half way through you're doing well. If you are excited about this one after reading everything that is there, tell him/her why their profile excited them.
NOT "I have a high sex drive--HOW ABOUT YOU?" ,--idiots.
Hey there, Jim. Just thought I'd drop a quick note to say I really enjoyed reading your profile. Especially the fact that we both love fishing and camping, consider ourselves well read and intelligent (yet to be determined lol), and that you have a grand child just as I do. I also love the mountains and would love one day to retire to a small cabin on a beautiful lake built for two (Love how you worded that by the way!). My retirement goals are similar. So when was the last time you went fishing and what did you catch? (LOL I'm not talking about POF horror stories lol PLEASE NO). BTW that drink on a pub patio as the sun goes down sounds delightful as a way to get to know each other a bit, perhaps you'll consider inviting me? Looking forward to hearing from you, and learning much more!
Georgie
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:32:26 PM |
Don't ramble. Keep it short. Try to ask a question that needs a reply. It opens doors.
In my emails I try to limit to one paragraph showing I read their profile, what I liked about it, ask a question or two, and comment on their idea of a first date.
I find some who don't want to ramble sink their own boat by making their enquiry far too short, one or two lines. Also by mentioning their idea of a first date that shows I'm not one of these I WANT TO CHAT FOREVER and NEVER MEET sorts of women. I'd prefer two or three emails, one or two phone chats, then meet. I can't count the number of men who want to chat online forever and when you finally ask about meeting, they either go silent or acted blind when they read that sentence.
Some of the nicest emails I've recieved are several paragraphs long. Let me into their world, show me a bit more about their likes, dislikes, hopes, and aspirations, and ask me quesitons as they go. That at least is something you can sink your teeth into to write back. I delete one or two liners without a second thought. I didn't used to, but found when I met these men talking was a skill they definitely were lacking in, especially about themselves.
There are so many RULES< DO'S< DON'T's out there that if we tried to follow them all we'd either have a nervous break down, begin thinking our parakete is looking better and better as a future life partner, or take our ads down and run for the hills.
So, do what feels right for you and be honest about it. If he likes what he reads you'll hear back, if not... oh well....NEXT.... at least you were true to who you are and what you're about. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/23/2009 9:56:52 AM | | Well, since you're a girl, and you're writing guys, I don't think you have to put that much time & effort into it, if he's not out of your league, especially. What about his profile begs some questions? Ask! Nothing too personal, but just ask what's up with a certain thing here or there, for him to elaborate... you're just starting conversation. Don't put too much emphasis on trying to razzle dazzle with advertising attraction. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:07:19 AM | | If I am looking at a profile that I am interested in and then cannot think of something to put in that initial contact message, it is a good sign I am not THAT interested in the person. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/23/2009 3:42:48 PM | | I'm with the OP, sometimes it's just hard to think of something sincere to write to someone you are interested in. I find myself questioning the sincerity of every line I write. On the other hand, if I'm not particularly interested in someone, I can write a message without worrying about my sincerity or intentions. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:09:20 PM | internet glittery magic dust to catch the eye of the prospective buyer, metaphorically speaking.
Honestly, I make a random comment about whatever my gut feeling tells me to based on their profile even if the profile's all length and no depth, and try not to over-think it too much cuz that just kills the buzz. Sometimes I get great responses, sometimes none at all, and sometimes you'd think I killed their dog or something. Figure out what works for you. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/24/2009 6:47:05 PM | | I sent one, but when I went to see what I wrote it's not there anymore because they get deleted automatically after 30 days. I think it was about motorcycle trips. She didn't answer. It must have been less than stellar. Maybe the next time I will put in some helpful household hints like how to make ice cubes in the microwave. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:25:52 PM | I say hello
Then I'll comment on something in their profile that was of interest TO me, and motivated me to initiate an email.
Then I'm direct. I say:
"I liked your profile and am hoping you'll like what you see in mine enough to both answer and get to know me."
If I get an answer.. then I respond accordingly.. Even if the answer is no thanks. THEN I dont make any further contact.
Oh.. I DONT text.. and I WONT do endless emails or phone calls before meeting. | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/25/2009 5:15:27 PM | I have contacted one or two men on here who really intrigued/interested me. And that was how I started my dialogue with them. One lived in an another state in an area I had visited, so I asked how things were there. Plus, he had a lot of things on his profile that piqued my interest.
I will usually only contact men who really catch my eye by what they have written. Doesn't happen to often. The other way is by getting to know them on the forums. That way, I don't really have to break the ice with a statement. I've already been dialoguing with them.
Good luck. Happy fishing! | |
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| What do you put in your first mail to some one?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:19:23 PM | I send the most insane messages...I like women with a great sense of humor..so I refer to pink flamingos,lawn knomes,flying pigs...sometimes this works very well...I use humor.......    | |
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