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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:24:46 PM | Hey guys,
For me, when a guy sends me a contact email it's a real turnoff when they say something like "Your pics are hawwwwwt" or "I want your bod." Even something as innocuous as "I think you're cute" can be a bit creepy if that's all that's written - I mean, you wouldn't go up to some strange girl and say "I think you're cute" without saying anything else, right?
So my question is this - do guys feel the same way? I'm assuming here that girls do the same thing - send you comments on your pics without saying much else. Does it make you feel creeped out if a girl does that? Or do guys like receiving purely physical email? Is that why they send it?
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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:33:16 PM |
I mean, you wouldn't go up to some strange girl and say "I think you're cute" without saying anything else, right?
Actually....they do this too. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:36:35 PM | Someone with a little class might comment on good appearance AND about some common interests noted when they READ the profile.
If you don't think the person sending you the message is showing enough respect...
Read... block... delete.
NEXT!
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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:37:13 PM | Are you serious? Do guys really send you ladies e-mail like that? 
I suppose, in their defense, the only thing I can figure is, either they are shy, trying to be "cute" or they are just plain idiots and hope you are ignorant enough to fall for it.
Just my thoughts! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:39:43 PM | | Maybe its just a compliment, nothing more. Its hardly poetry I admit but if you think the guy is cute too then perhaps its a start. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:40:08 PM | I've gotten a few wierd comments on my pic... "What are you trying to prove?".. or women accusing me of not being me..."Why are you using a fake pic?"... the odd time i get a compliment on my pic. If it's just a one line msg saying "nice pic" or "you're hot!" ...i usually just say "thanks" and the convo is over. If thats all she has to say then i guess thats all she has to say. It doesn't make me feel happy or mad... i just kind of brush it off as someone with no convo skills and move on. It's not creepy if thats all thats said... but it's creepy when she has no pic in her profile.
THATS when i get creeped out. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 7:57:02 PM | How about a guy messaging you to ask if your friend in the pic with you is single, available and on this site...and when you tell them she is single but not interested and not on the site, they write back and attack you as a person?
LOL...some people on this site drive me nuts! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 8:48:11 PM | "Hey! Great Tits !"
This may be an extreme, but in general, there is not much to say when all a person has is a few lines about “having fun” and “ my darling cats/kids/opossums/collection of Princess Di Memorabilia."
If you want more than a comment about your looks, give people something to talk about in your profiles. Many guys are a wee bit visual, so they email women and comment on the one thing that made them pick their profile out of the crowd. It may be creepy, but would you prefer:
“ Wow ! I collect Fergie spoons! Wanna trade jpgs of our collections ?”
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“ I understand you like FUN! I like FUN to ! I ‘ll bet it would be FUN to have FUN together ! My Dungeon or yours ? “
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Posted: 11/7/2007 8:49:53 PM | | They are not literature majors...what do you expect them to say...they are men sitting in front their computers finding you attractive, that's all. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 9:27:46 PM | No doesn't bother me.
I like the positive feedback.
Be more worried if someone wrote "Damn you look ugly!"
So count your blessings OP.
Some peeps here get no compliments or emails atall. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 9:39:22 PM | | I would be happy to receive an email complimenting my appearance as it is shown in my profile pictures if I had any, which so far I do not. There is no way I can imagine being "creeped out" or insulted by anyone who sends me a compliment even if that is the extent of what they have to say in a very short message. In fact when I try to imagine a woman being put off by a compliment all it does is stir up bad memories from before my life changing brain surgery, that is, what would be memories if they ever were to come into focus and were no longer merely murky sensations of emotion clouding my otherwise upbeat personality and outlook. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 9:51:14 PM | wow i've been pretty successful with the whole 'just cute' line, and leaving it as it is.
... but I guess it doesn't work equally with everyone.
Oh, and the proper way to respond to a line like that, is "thanks!" | |
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Posted: 11/7/2007 9:57:19 PM | I would be flattered if a woman sent me a note that said she thought my pictures were attractive. If that was all she said though then I would be left also thinking. umm ok thanks but... is that all? In other words if your going to send me a email and you like my looks then great, but take the time to put some effort into it and let me know if you really think I'm relationship material, then why.
As for a comment like. "I want your bod" nah I'll pass on those comments too. I don't know you, I'm not about to sleep with you unless your my wife so it won't happen anyway.  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 11:31:47 AM | | Hey I'm fifty eight years old. Love intelligent chat. Love to hear how great I look a bunch more though. Shallow of me? Uh huh. Got me a vette didn't I? | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 11:53:54 AM | Why can't you just say "thanks" or "I know" and move on?
These guys are just making an observation. Don't feel like you need to write something deeply thought out as a reply (unless you want to).
If they actually want to talk to you, they will send another email if you at least acknowledge their existance by replying to the first one.
BTW: Replying "I know" can get you some pretty interesting second emails!  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 11:55:18 AM | | I don't think I've sent any messages like this on PoF, but on some other sites I have, it normally just means for some reason (distance, something else) I don't think we are a match, but I still wanted to send them a compliment (interesting profile, great photo, etc) | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 12:16:56 PM | | I get a few e-mails like that every now and then. I don't mind them though, its nice to hear someone thinks you are attractive. Its better than them e-mailing you and telling you, "hey you might want to lose a few pounds!" | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 12:39:08 PM | I get some like that...but mostly not disrespectful ones. You're cute, you're attractive is nice. Hearing, "Your hot!", wouldn't bother me either. Someone making reference to how I am in bed in a first message would be a turn off though. Thats like crossing the line a bit.
I think some people just don't know what else to say, and like another poster on here said, maybe it's just a line, to see if you will bite the hook...LOL!
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Posted: 11/8/2007 12:42:26 PM |
They are not literature majors...what do you expect them to say...they are men sitting in front their computers finding you attractive, that's all.
srsly. I wonder what'd happen if I started sending out snippets of Shakespeare... | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 12:46:28 PM | OP, well I don't think there is much wrong with it. I get it quit abit and I just take it as a compliment. I had one lady when she sent me a message, she gave me her e-mail in her message to me without mentioning anything else at all in the message.
It happens, I try to take it as a compliment. I don't go all crazy like some do when people message them, like someone I read on another thread, who feals very "offended" when in her words "fat, short, ugly lookiing men" contact her. lol
I take every message as a compliment if it is one. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 12:47:05 PM |
I wonder what'd happen if I started sending out snippets of Shakespeare...
Great idea ! I always liked Macbeth. Start out with.
"Out, Out Damn Spot!" | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 12:49:18 PM |
I've gotten a few wierd comments on my pic... "What are you trying to prove?".. or women accusing me of not being me..."Why are you using a fake pic?"...
.... So why ARE you using a fake pic?  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 1:24:41 PM | yea I do it whats the big deal
just today i was on the forums and looked at the posters profile .. she had the most amazing green eyes ... she was a gozillion miles away..... wasent my type and because of her restrictions i could not email her but i just had to comment on those eyes ..so i went off topic and told her ...baddd boy ... i wsan't being fresh... i know i will never meet her but i hope i made her day better | |
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Posted: 11/8/2007 1:36:47 PM |
BTW: Replying "I know" can get you some pretty interesting second emails!
so... i'm not the only one who's done it.
nice.
heh | |
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