| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 6:21:10 AM | I am not going to go into too much detail on this as I know that I will be leasving myself wide open to all sorts of comments, some of which I would not really want to here.
Can someone explain and truly define what EXCLUSIVE would mean in a relationship... | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 7:15:37 AM | | I don't understand how "Exclusive" could possibly be ambiguous, or is it just that you don't know what the word means? Exclusive in a relationship means you each stop seeing other people and only see each other. To me the term is black and white and shouldn't need defining. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 8:12:51 AM | It is pretty much a no-brainer....when you are exclusive in a relationship, you are seeing no one else...you are devoting the time and energies to get to know one person, further...you are seeing where the relationship might go to without interruptions and distractions and competition of dating others at the same time.
Often confused with sex...people assume sex = exclusive...not always true, though often associated with. :O) | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 8:24:59 AM | speaking strictly for myself...
when shes it...thats it...period.
im off these 'love' sites looking for someone. i dont look at other women. i turn down getting 'hit' on...
my entire focus and energy is on my honey.
she is exclusive.
its one thing to be trustworthy...another to keep proving it.....
women where i live dont seem to want this...go figure...shrug... | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 10:11:56 AM | This is exactly my view on the meaning of exclusive, but what if your one true love is still activly on a website with a profile that still suggests you are available, even though she is adamant that there should be nothing read into her having 'fun'
I am speaking from my own point of view and know that this is simply going to bite me in the backside as I can alkready see what is coming now!!!
Lord help me!!! | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 12:42:08 PM | Yes Lord help you!!!!
I am here to bite you in the backside!
Can someone explain why you need to air your dirty linen in public-maybe you should be talking to your partner not to everyone else!
She is going to be very unhappy with you!!!!! | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 12:57:13 PM | | If I've got this right, she's still got an active profile that you think implies she's still available. If you've had "the talk" and both agree you want to be "exclusive" then she should be more respectful of your concerns and either hide/delete the profile or make sure there is no doubt in its content that she isn't looking or available. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 1:13:37 PM | | If yu two had discussed becoming exclusive....she should no longer be on this site...and if she is.......shes waiting for something better to come along.......i dont get this at all. When u commit to one person, what need is there to be on here any longer........some may say...the forums........i call bs!!! I for one, if and when i find the right person, will be gone in a flash.........no need to be on a dating site when u have found someone and commit to each other. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 1:14:11 PM | Oh dear OP I noticed your "fiancee" has now taken the statement off her profile saying she is happily engaged and added a nice little line about "her stalker".
I think you fcuked up BIG time! Why didn't you talk to her instead of posting this on the forum?
EDIT: Oooh, it's ok....I got the testimonial mixed up with the profile...I don't think your fiancee ever had anything about being engaged, or even not single for that matter in her profile!
Having looked at said fiancee's profile....I have to say I wouldn't be very happy. There is no indication whatsoever of your existence!
Still say you fcuked up though....you should have spoken to her instead of posting this.
EDIT AGAIN: To the above poster....I have been happy in my relationship for a year. We have an adult relationship based on trust. My profile couldn't be clearer and neither of us have any issues with me still being on here for, YES THE FORUMS!
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 1:18:10 PM | You already know what exclusive means or you wouldn't be bothered about the fact that the love of your life is still looking for "fun" on a dating site.
Sounds to me as if exclusive to her means, you will do until the right one come's along.....
So you can either accept it......or get your fishing rod back out of the shed.....
Life's far to short to "accept" less then we deserve......
I for one am glad to know that their are women like that out there, gives me hope that a good one may be put back in the water and I can catch him!!
Your instinct's speak loud and clear, all ya got to do is listen.
p.s. The woman who suggested the profile be hidden.....way ta go..... | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 2:13:03 PM | Read your profiles mate and sympothise with you.
Would you like a definition of 'player', because either way, she is playing with you and you will be left to pick up the pieces on your own, losing all faith in women in the process, which is never good, they're not all bad, read the comments above mate.
She's obviously looking for someone better, sorry mate... | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 2:39:34 PM | Unless I'm mistaken I saw your "fiance's" profile and it said not single/not looking..
However...it had stuff about a first date and stuff in the description, the behaviour of someone keeping the info up incase something "better" comes along..hmmmm | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 3:29:44 PM | Um, it's not the work "Exclusive" that you're having the problem with, it's the word "Liar".
Here's how it works:
“A” lies. “B” excuses. “A” lies. “B” confronts. “A” denies/minimizes/claims it’s an exception/makes excuses/justifies it/blames you/questions your sanity/claims honourable intentions/claims it’s pragmatic or at least half true/legitimizes it because the feelings behind it were real/claims the right to be imperfect. “B” doubts self, not liar. “A” gets angry and accuses. “B” backs down. “B” frames own actions in the best possible light. Friends and family help the wounded party doubt themself.
Fact: She's playing all the bingo cards she can find, all at once, looking for a winner (i.e. not you). She's lying in order to get what she wants and avoid the consequences.
You're lying (to yourself) to "save" the relationship. Don't bother. You deserve better. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/8/2007 4:36:39 PM | | Drama after high school is so ridiculous. Give me a break. If my significant other - who i was exclusive with - left up his profile on a dating site, I'd not be with him any longer. There's no need for unnecessary drama and games. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2007 1:20:34 AM | Just for the record and also in her defence, she is not a 'player', I do trust her immensely and love, well, there is no question or comparison.
My search for answers had lead to disaster, but there you go, my own insecurity has now meant my own downfall, I am not after pity, I bought this on myself really, so no need for name calling, I know what an idiot I have been.
Yes, I felt insignificant and probably read far too much into something that wasn't there, again, my own insecurity. so there you go.
Problem solved in a way that I didn't want it to be... Thread should not be at an end. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2007 1:25:12 AM | | If you have to ask what EXCLUSIVE means...you'll never know! I am sure the other posters have answered this for you and this should be a dead post by now; however, exclusive means you only see one person and they only see you. no cheating, no dating, no night clubs with out permission or without her. | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2007 3:17:40 PM |
If you have to ask what EXCLUSIVE means...you'll never know! I am sure the other posters have answered this for you and this should be a dead post by now; however, exclusive means you only see one person and they only see you. no cheating, no dating, no night clubs with out permission or without her.
What he said.  | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2007 3:32:19 PM | | it means in latin, donnut notus chetus uass dicus stupidus,or in english dont cheet dum ass ,or dont use youre trouser snake on any one else,and the same goes for youre bird to .come on couldnt you think anything better than pretending you didnt now what she ment you need a better exuse than that... | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:31:06 AM | ^^^LMAO!! Yeah...what he said!
Well, the OP is obviously gone...thought this was going to wind up turning into yet another thread filled with people claiming how people in relationships cannot possibly be on the site unless they are still window shopping or looking for greener grass...when they obviously do not know jack about every single couple; only themselves! Grrr! WHY is it people assume because THEY have trust issues, because THEY cannot resist temptation, because THEY cannot seperate friends from flirts...that ALL of us are the same?! Sheesh!
Oh...and Nortatem..."permission?!"  I think what you said is generally true...but flinched at the use of that word! Night clubs are fine for non-singletons...but I give my partner the respect of letting him know I am going out...and texting or calling him throughout the night, usually...yet I do not need permission! LOL | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:13:42 AM | Exclusive can mean 2 diffrent things to two diffrent people. So when you say lets be exclusive I would suggest that you both agree on what exclusive means to you. There's those that would term exclusive as a way to stop there partner from having friends, this type of exclusive is unhealthy.. Everyone needs there friends. For some agreeing to exclusive can mean two people having a healthy one to one relationship whilst maintaining a healthy relationship with friends and family, this exclusive is when two people enter into a healthy relationship where both have the freedom to keep there friends.. There is also an exclusive where as your girlfriend has clearly felt is the type of exclusive you both were, where even tough you both agreed to be exclusive you both should have the right since she clearly still is to continue making new friends.. If she didn't like you posting this on here maybe its not so much the case that you are insecure, Its more the case that you have communication issues. You knew full well what exclusive meant to you.. In this case it was either the first or the second type, where she also knows full well what exclusive means.. to her its the third type.. So my suggestion is.. right now the pair of you .. if you got to that stage where you both wanted to be exclusive, you did it because you liked each other and you both felt that you may have something going right??? So instead of bickering over the differentials of one word. Sort yourselves out and realise that your lack of communication caused this mess and ruined what you both had.. This isn't just down to you do sort out, but her too. You both messed up in your lack of communication.. Don't allow her to bully you into thinking that you are totally in the wrong.. Yeah you over reacted but she failed to communicate to the point that your frustrations got the better of you.. Go talk and both sort this mess.
Catherine aka star. x | |
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| Can someone explain the definition of Exclusive to me!!!
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:37:59 AM | EXCLUSIVE MEANS ONLY THE 2 OF YOU. ITS ALSO CALLED A 1 ON 1 RELATIONSHIP. BUT SO MANY DONT REALLY WANT THAT THEY SAY THEY DO BUT ONE MANS NOT ENOUGH FOR THEM, THOSE ARE CALLED PLAYERS, CHEATERS, LIARS, USERS,  | |
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