Suz40
|
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 1 | |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 9:57:12 AM | | How many women have met someone from a dating site, thought you made a connnection, go on 3 or so dates, get intimate, then the guy all of a sudden disappears, doesnt respond to your email nor does he sign on to the site at all? Guys has the same thing happened to you? What do u make of this situation? | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:11:02 AM | This only happened to me once. Without communication there is nothing to be made of it. There are a hundred scenarios for what happen and you will never know unless he sees fit to tell you. In my case, her Marine husband came home unexpectedly early from his overseas tour; she conveniently forgot being married but I found out from a mutual friend.
You did not ask, but I consider it very inconsiderate behavior on the part of either a man or woman to have sex and then just disappear. | |
|
Suz40
|
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 3 | |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:14:39 AM | | I just never figured him for the type, we went to the movies, dinner, bowling, we got along so well, I sent an email thanking him for the date the night before.. the email sits unread (yes i met him from this site) | |
|
| |
Suz40
|
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 5 | |
| |
| |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:21:12 AM | | See, it's idiots that are players ruin it for the rest of us guys. I would say a lot of us (being guys) are on this site to genuinely attract a partner to have a good time with be it a casual date or a long term thing. Honest to god, some of us on here are NOT explicitly looking for a sexual hook up. While most guys would relish that physical intimacy as an added bonus, some guys just like to ruin it for the rest of us that respect women and aren't just looking for that. I personally have never done that, though I know guys that have. I chastise them, but what more can I do? | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:27:50 AM | | Its too bad some guys have to ruin it for those that may be sincere. I hope you have better luck finding what you're looking for. | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:48:50 AM | | there are no guarentees some guys will sitck around till they get the sex and then be gone no mater how long it takes ....as a mater of fact for some it being harder to get just makes the game more fun..but no mater when they score they are gone ....this is why i contend that when you put out has little to do with whether a guy sticks around for most guys. if he just wants the booty hes gone when he gets it ...if he is really into you getting the booty will just make it stronger...unless you were really really bad in bed | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:56:26 AM | | This is a horrible crime. I am seriously thinking of writing the Supreme Court to tell them there should be a law against this. Don't laugh, because it is a violation of an EMOTIONAL CONTRACT. Besides, any so-called "man" that would do this deserves much worse than jail ;) | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 11:13:16 AM | | I feel really sorry for all the men who have to pay the price for that guy being a complete as$hole. He definitely wanted you for sex and he probably does that all the time with other women! There are very nice sincere and incredible men on here - it's just difficult to find one you will conect with. In this situation you simply have to move on and perhaps learn that you have to keep it longer - until you are certain you actually have a relationship! | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 11:15:47 AM | You gave it up for him; had sex.
That's what he wanted.
He got what he wanted and left.
Simple.
There are lessons to be learned here.
I a tad surprised a woman your age hasn't figured it out yet. | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 11:17:38 AM | ^^ Thank you mr. sensitive (filmmanrich)...moving right along...
I have had it happen on this site too...The ones I run into just keep me around until they "find something better" but convienetly are the ones calling me back after realizing the grass wasnt greener...then you have those that commit to me and then I get emails with proof they have been cheating while I was nothing but faithful no matter what distance between us...MOST of the men I have met, talked to, or what have you are A$$'s from what I have seen...the others are some good friends!
You will have this no matter where you look. Its in RL too I am finding that out the hard way! | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 11:18:45 AM |
This is a horrible crime. I am seriously thinking of writing the Supreme Court to tell them there should be a law against this. Don't laugh, because it is a violation of an EMOTIONAL CONTRACT. Besides, any so-called "man" that would do this deserves much worse than jail ;)
That was such a "Wonderful Thing", you said. | |
|
| |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 11:53:25 AM | | Maybe he got arrested and can't get to a computer right now. Or maybe he thought that the sex was no good and doesn't know how to let you off. | |
|
Suz40
|
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 17 | |
| |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 12:04:37 PM | | you let him have all of you too early. you two were just getting acquainted, and finding out about one another. Way too early, for that kind of intimacy, on both your parts. A shame, i think. You both used each other sexually..... and never developed any real friendship with each other.. | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 12:17:49 PM | i guess its safe to say you got the wool pulled over your eyes , used and abused , taken for a ride ,chewed up and spat out.
thats what i make of the situation. | |
|
| |
| |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 1:18:53 PM |
3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
3rd date sex? talk about breaking the cardinal rule .
3 is a cursed number in dating... sex by the 3rd date implies "Easy". | |
|
| |
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 1:25:39 PM |
Sir!! Scoff if you will, but I don't see any of the women here referring to you as "sensitive"
I rest my case!
lemme guess you enjoy long walks on the beach and candle light dinners. | |
|
| 3rd date Sex then the guy disappears
Posted: 11/9/2007 2:03:07 PM | Yes, this happens with both men and women but more often to women. I'm as confused as you are because it's not like men just have sex once and never want it again.
It's hard to tell what happened to him or the reason. I'd be curious if you were to his home or not and If you had his home number and not just his cell number. Was he married or did he have another girlfriend and was hiding it is what I am getting at.
All I can say at this point is that you did nothing wrong. A 3rd date is not too fast to do what you did if you felt a connection. He's the flakey one. | |
|
Home
login 
