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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:05:32 PM | | I have been a member for just a few months. I am wondering what you think about my profile? Thinking about a change. Just wanting an honest opinion as to which direction I should take. You will know what I mean once you read my profile. Here goes! Bottoms up.......... | |
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:22:39 PM | | I'd say to add a recent picture and lighten up. Halfway through your profile, I swear I had to scroll back to the top to see if it was a man or a womans profile I was reading. It was that *hard* sounding. I think that would scare most men off. JMO | |
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:42:46 PM | | Thanks!....really...thank you for that. The "hard" sound was my intention. I figured that I would clear the way so that any "Playa" types wouldn't waist my time. I , like so many other woman, have been hurt, rejected and pushed to the point of no return. I can not do the lesbian thing and I am not looking to go back to the 'Club' scene. I figured that if a MAN with true intentions were to read my profile and 'still' Email me afterwards, then we would at least bypass all of the bulls@#*$ that would normally follow. I have found that 'Playa' types look for weak woman, just my way of letting them know I am not that one.... | |
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:52:55 PM | No pictures, you filter too many people out, you don't seem the least bit friendly or playful. I could go on but...
I mean, don't even WANT a relationship or dating and I do try to discourage guys who are just looking for a quick fling--and I'm still friendlier than you are. If you want to find a man here then you have to make yourself more available. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's true. xoxox | |
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Posted: 11/9/2007 5:57:24 PM | I have to say that if there is a wrong way to write a profile, this is it. I don't mean to sound critical of you, only the way you present yourself.
In your profile, you come off as overly demanding -illustrated by the length you go to in describing what type of man you DON'T want- all the while never giving anything in return, i.e., no picture and no description of yourself. Reading you're profile, I'm left wondering what it is you have that would make me go through all that for. Not that you wouldn't be worth the trouble, only that I can't tell from your profile if you are or not. My own profile is written to weed out a lot of responses, which I can tell is what you're going for, but I try to do it in a way that doesn't turn people off.
If I were you, I would completely re-write it. You're bound to get messages from people you're not interested in, but you can weed them out then. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2007 6:01:03 PM | I disagree with you in laying all the issues out on the table like you have in your profile. I think it shows that you are hurting and vulnerable and makes you a target for people only interested in "getting to" vulnerable people.
Perhaps, NOW, is not the best time to be seeking someone for a relationship. It is okay to take some time, think about things, get on with your life, doing the things you like and make you happy - just for yourself.
After some time has passed and the issues that happened to you before have had time to settle and heal themselves - perhaps that would be a better time for you to post your profile in a positive frame of mind.
Take care of yourself - you deserve it. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 9:28:07 AM | First, I appreciate what you felt you saw as honesty and straightfowardness in my profile.
When it comes to your profile my take is this. You have to be you. You have no choice but to interpret all your own thoughts to the form of words on a page that are to attract the person that is really RIGHT for you.. Although I look at the advice of the many before me that have offered their wisdoms to you and wonder what, I will say this. You are only going to find the guy who gets you! If these are the words you are comfortable with choosing then, so be it! I can't see how anyone can honestly feel as though by you changing the way you convey your thoughts in words is going to help you find a long-lasting relationship. You may attract more but, these will never last because you were not honest about how you are. Be you and there is someone that will get you! Advice is good but changing you is not the proper answer. these are not just words ona page. This is your signal in the night for your hero to find! God be with you.
Eric | |
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