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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/10/2007 10:33:25 PM | When contemplating my romantic history, I’ve noticed one of those dreaded repetitious patterns that—like malicious software--are so difficult to deprogram out, even when we are aware that they are sitting there and exerting their unwelcome influence over our behavior and producing unintended and undesired outcomes.
My particular problem is that I think I’m the Love Calvary whose mission is to charge over the hill to come save the day for a damsel in distress. But it’s a distress she has allowed to remain unaddressed and chronic for far too long, and she has been hiding it all the while.
I fancy the life of the party types, but only to later find out that their exuberant personalities are not the result of having all of their stuff together. These are women that are running scared, without the deeply innate confidence and quiet optimism that comes with self-acceptance. They channel their energy outward and thus are very popular as others are seduced and impressed by how dynamic they appear to be, but in private, I labor like all the king’s horses and all the king’s men to put Ms. Humpty Dumpty back together again.
This is not to criticize these women, as I feel drawn to “save” them and nurture them, and hope that I can help this Angel with a broken wing to fly (and even soar) free from the conflict or burden that she carries. I try to give them the will and the strength to confront those issues that are hindering their emotional freedom and spiritual evolution. They hold me in high regard for my concern and support, but then inevitably turn to bite the hand that feeds them, and me the rescuer ends up being injured by heartbreak. In the aftermath of disillusionment, I ask myself what did I do wrong to deserve being let go, since they genuinely seem unable to give me an answer.
For a long time now, I have hidden in my Man Cave instead of circulating in the dating world to risk a repeat episode that would eventually cause heartbreak yet again. This isn’t about pity or blame, this is about stopping and making a self-assessment then taking deliberate, managed action to break a deep-seated pattern that has been producing undesired outcomes for me. Despite some challenges that are looming ever-larger elsewhere in my life, I think that some dialogue on this subject will provide a last-minute tune-up before I venture forth back into the relationship jungle…
Do the Angels with broken wings eventually run from rescue once they realize that becoming “fixed” is uncharted territory that produces its own set of fears? Or is the fear more immediate, since identifying issues and “fixing” their aftermath is painful work with no guarantee of success. Or is their self-esteem so damaged that they accept that damage and have come to believe that they deserve it so they keep holding on to it?
And as for my role as a rescuer, I'm simply a nice guy, and I had a very happy childhood raised by loving, gentle parents that I thought allows me to share strength and easily give support. But I’m beginning to believe that what I feel for them is just as much empathy as it is sympathy… Deep down, do I unknowingly identify with them, but focus my corrective efforts on their problems and not on mine? Perhaps my altruism is really just avoidance behavior that I am exhibiting right along side theirs.
How then to help an Angel with a broken wing to fly someday, and to help a helper to look out for Number One first (so fighting someone else’s battles won’t risk ending up with two casualties)?
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/10/2007 10:42:12 PM | This one is deep and personal.
Too much activity, drink and too late for me to respond to this one.
I know where your coming from though.
The problem is that there is no guarantee that someone won't try to tear your heart out again.
I guess that we cave men aren't supposed to be so sensitive as to let a failed relationship affect us like that.
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/10/2007 10:55:47 PM | Deep down, do I unknowingly identify with them, but focus my corrective efforts on their problems and not on mine? Perhaps my altruism is really just avoidance behavior that I am exhibiting right along side theirs. This is the common thread for the savers. It's much easier to tell others how to run their lives, than to actually run your own. It also serves to make yourself seem sane by comparison. I should know, I am a saver too.
A protective nature towards women and children is natural, as they are often physically weaker than a man is. On the surface it sounds altruistic. We should feel that for anyone who is less than ourselves. But when our protective nature allows other people to thrive in dysfunction, it becomes unhealthy for both parties concerned. For the fixee, it prevents them from facing the big learning process we call life, and for the fixer it becomes a way to avoid their own issues, and feel better about themselves. The process of fixing is too often taken for granted.
The fixee when confronted with the prospect of facing the realities of life, will likely run, and find someone else whom they think will fix it for them. The fixer will look for another fixer upper, to maintain that level of long suffering nobility.
You can support the healing process, but you do not have a magic pill to do it for them. There is only one way for an angel with a broken wing to fly again. They have to tend to and heal their own wings. They are the only ones who can put down the burdens they are carrying. You cannot take those burdens from them. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2007 11:03:46 PM | Everything you said makes perfect sense, but as to
The fixee when confronted with the prospect of facing the realities of life, will likely run, and find someone else whom they think will fix it for them. Do they usually run and look for someone else because they are looking to be fixed, or are they trying to avoid being fixed, so it's on to the next one? | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/10/2007 11:17:23 PM |
Do the Angels with broken wings eventually run from rescue once they realize that becoming “fixed” is uncharted territory that produces its own set of fears? Or is the fear more immediate, since identifying issues and “fixing” their aftermath is painful work with no guarantee of success. Or is their self-esteem so damaged that they accept that damage and have come to believe that they deserve it so they keep holding on to it?
I have been broken. I don't know about the "angel" thing, though.
I think that many of us do, indeed, fear becoming "fixed", because then we are no longer the victim, and thus become once again fully responsible for our thoughts and deeds. And the work of identifying issues and changing our responses and actions is absolutely painful and hard. If it doesn't "work", then we are not the only people we will blame. The "hero" in this story is also Target #1. It might not be fair, but it's life.
And yes, I think there is always a part of us (male and female) that truly believes that we deserve what we get. How else can you explain so many of us repeating our mistakes over and over? | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/10/2007 11:22:19 PM | They run because they want someone to fix it for them, and you aren't doing the job to their satisfaction sweety. You might be expecting them to fix part of it, and whatever it is, it's not enough. Not that I am saying that you are a bad fixer, it's just that often the fixees are a deep well of dissatisfaction that can never be filled. They are emotionally lazy.
Have you ever met these people that are always unhappy? Hate their jobs, hate their boss, feel trapped? It's as if they make their own stress. Sure, they often mask it with cheer and humor, but when you really dig, whatever they have is never enough to satisfy. They lack the skills for serenity and contentment. They will get something and once the novelty wears off, it's more of the same.
Those are the runners. Those are the people constantly scanning the horizon for greener grass, and then when they find it, they are positive that there must be greener grass somewhere, and begin the search anew. In the process they take for granted a perfectly good lawn and it is because they don't want to maintain it. They are totally unable to expend the smallest bit of energy for a maintenance task. Getting the new lawn is easier. Maybe that new lawn will be a slow growing fescue that never needs mowing. Maybe that lawn can afford a full time gardener and they won't have to do it. The next lawn might just be that perfect lawn. The mistake they make is in not realizing that every lawn can be an extraordinary full garden, with work. | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/10/2007 11:30:15 PM | Sock, First commendations on an increadible initial post. Your description of the situation is poetry. And, I think it's something many of us question, although while not knowing how to describe this abstract so concretely.
Next: RE: Your attraction to those with broken wings: My conclusion is that EVERYONE has at least one broken wing of some kind. Some are mended better than others, but no one has perfect wings (we rather just think that there are people out there who have them, or worse, we think that it is more normal in the majority to have them.....but in reality, non-broken winged angels really don't exist). So, while you may be questioning your own self-attraction to 'those with broken wings', you don't need to do that. If you have attraction to anyone, you're attracted to someone with a broken wing. After accepting this then, you can be less self-analyzing (relief to a point), and then must only face the question of how to deal with it the next time it appears (ie: not if, but when it next appears).
A bird or an angel with a broken wing will get around. That isn't a question, that's simply survival. It's rather just a question of how will they get around: Will they fly straight? Will they fly listing to the right or left? Or with a jerky pattern? Or high or low, or fast or slow? ...... Or will they walk. Even if they walk, they still walk with their wings attached, but just not using them. Ostriches are fast and still cover a lot of ground. Every creature adapts to the tools they have to use.
The question for oneself then is more along the lines of asking if I can fly with my own broken wing(s) and aerodynamic tendancies in harmony with the one I seem to be attracted to now? A short flight? A long flight? And are we of mind to fly in the same compass direction in the first place? At times, one flyer might ask the other to take a moment with patience for some interim mending while on the journey.....but here's the trick (!): Everyone must do their own mending! You can stand nearby on the look out and make the grounds feel safer during the touchdown period, but one must never touch the other's wounded area directly, but rather allow them to tend to it themselves, no matter how tempting. The female finch wants the male finch there by her side as she might attend to the wing, and his job is to make her feel safe and secure and perhaps give encouragement and understanding, but as soon as the male finch turns into a nurse finch (remember Sgt Klinger?), the male will be dismissed. In other words, if you can live with their mended wing is one thing, but as soon as they see you trying to change them (even for the better) you've crossed a line......
Given enough time, I believe that angels do fly again (even the 'walkers' will regain trust of their wings too). Each tends to their own broken wings, sticks close to a friend that understands, drops ballast and baggage as each allows themself to do, and then takes flight. But, like it or not, it's all up to each to get through this process doing their own work as they can. Some faster than others. (Footnote: and, as most of you all know my religious outlook, with one's Maker nearby helps, but that could open a different thread.) - o4
Wow you folks are FAST tonight!
Applause to Moma for callin' it all exactly the way it is! | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 12:04:43 AM | o4
If you have attraction to anyone, you're attracted to someone with a broken wing. After accepting this then, you can be less self-analyzing (relief to a point), and then must only face the question of how to deal with it the next time it appears (ie: not if, but when it next appears).
Wise counsel, thank you. And the last time around, I bailed from the situation for a change. As we should all learn to pick our fights, so should we learn to pick our "projects". So maybe I am finally learning how to do so.
(I want to make it clear that I myself am not above being "project worthy". As a matter of fact, I would LOVE for someone to come by a do a Habitat For Humanity restoration on me.... Just not that two-faced idiot Jimmy Carter...) | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:38:48 AM | Dear Noobie,
Of course then can fly.
You are 46 and Acting like a So called " Emo " Kid at school
You look like you are very successful in what you do Dont put it at the top of your list to find a Girl Keep with your job and date people with in common intrests. Dont start getting into a serious relationship for at least 3 months
Dont show your weak to a girl because they will take advantage of that
No matter what they say They will always.
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 7:40:07 AM | You are what you believe you are. You need to change your inner chatter, your belief that you are going to be walked on, so you simply throw your hands up in the air and want to become the next victim. There are women who do this quite freqently, interesting to find that men with lower self esteem have the same problem.
It's up to you to change the pattern. Do you know what the defination of insanity is? It's doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
You are not God, you cannot "fix" others. Come down from the cross, we need the wood. | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 10:32:18 AM |
You are 46 and Acting like a So called " Emo " Kid at school You will find as you get older son, that women not only appreciate, but will actually seek out a man who is more in touch with his feelings. After a few years, that whole "be a man" thing, gets really tiring in a long term relationship. It is shallow and unsatisfying.
After sleeping on this, I realize it's really an emotional sobriety vs. pain issue. So many of our issues come down to control. If I cannot control my own emotions, I can sure exert some sort of control over someone who has little to no control over theirs. This puts me in control again. So I am going to seek out someone who is emotionally a lot less healthy that I am, and hey, getting back to Maslow's hierarchy, that is potentially a lot of people. I can't swing a dead cat without hitting a few of them. The underlying issue of all of this, is avoiding pain. That is what control is all about, in any form.
Sure the person who is out of control is attractive and exciting! They have learned to cope in a way that produces the most distraction from their pain. In the beginning it will distract you as well. It's hypnotic. If you fix them there is a really good chance those old coping mechanisms might not work. They think they want fixing, but what they really want is salvation from the discomfort from the symptoms of their irresponsible behavior. The actual repair job is overwhelming.
When you enter into relationship that is well, maladaptive... One party will often seek to keep some type of order in the ranks. This is a great position to be in, because you feel so needed, but this creates a power imbalance. The "out of control" person controls their situation by not controlling anything, which gives them a victim status, so they are not responsible for anything. The person who enables that behavior has a different kind of control, and they can be the victim of the behavior of the other person, and once again, are not responsible for their own development.
The sauce reduction here is... If you subconsciously seek power in a relationship, you are trying to reinforce your continued power because you realize that person may need you to survive. You imagine if you can "fix" them, they will be eternally grateful and never leave you. You are inwardly hoping that they cannot hurt you. It may present itself as a kind of chivalry and nobility to the outside world and creates an aura of power to the other person being rescued, but it's temporary. For the fixer it's emotional insurance. A lot of bizarre behavior is designed to protect us from pain.
The desire to enter into a committed relationship is always a good sign, it shows that you still have hope. I see and hear a lot of men in our age group talking about never remarrying and having a casual relationship. They use the monetary repercussions as an excuse, when in reality, the dissolution of any relationship hurts, and it's a convenient excuse to avoid pain.
Pain is a sign that something is either very wrong, or very right. Experiencing the pain of rejection is right. It's normal, and should be expected. Pain generated within ourselves with no outside influence, show us that something needs to be worked on.
Work with me here... Imagine you have a festering wound. It does not particularly cause you constant, sharp pain, but rather a dull ache. You know full well that to have it treated, will involve finding and cutting out the infection which will be really painful for a shorter duration of time. Some people would rather take a Tylenol (the coping mechanism) for that dull ache, than to have it properly tended and risk the more intense pain. So they will walk around their whole lives with a achy, festering wound.
I am not saying I particularly like or seek out pain. I do embrace it now for what it is, a sign that something needs some work. I am grateful for my ability to feel the pain, because I see a lot of people just can't manage it. | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 12:54:51 PM | Mystic Magic
To explain my comment about being walked on: It was made in jest to respond to a posting also made in jest that reflected another thread that was very actively running at that same time. So please rest assured that my self-esteem is at a healthy level and I am not a victim.
You say it’s up to me to change the pattern. I find that obvious since I've already stated that, but I'm still wondering what I missed of any contributory value in your stock, pop culture responses to the personal issue I shared. But I did find irony and amusement in how women constantly complain about how the vast majority of men “won’t open up”, then here, my insanity is implied! And as for your “needing the wood”, I agree that you need to lighten up a bit, so I refer you to the FUN WITH CARPET thread I alluded to earlier that is lighting up the California forum. (As only Californians can, by the way.)
PiKip:
Thank you for the career advice about keeping my job, and for the suggestions as to how to properly date. I’m going to hurry up and take the advice of a 19 year old while you still know everything. You say I shouldn't show that I'm weak to a girl because they will take advantage of that, but I don’t date them. I date women, and the women worth dating see sharing a personal issue as strength, not weakness.
And what are “Noobies” and “emo” kids? | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 1:11:32 PM | Hi Sock!
Wow, it's refreshing to read comments from a man that is not afraid to be vulnerable and to open up the way you did in this thread. Thank you for that. As for your question, I have no idea, but I would imagine that personal history, and strength of character and desire to change would really come in to play as to whether an angel with a broken wing could ever fly again. Since I don't consider myself broken (my wings are pretty dented, and pitted, but still in one piece) I don't really think I'm qualified to answer the question. I think though that you should try to open your heart to someone again if and when you are ready to do that. Perhaps by posting this thread that was your first step! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 1:18:19 PM | My apologies OP. I wasn't following your other threads, I was going only by your original post. I seem to have hit a nerve in my efforts to help you see that sometimes there are victims who always seem to be victims and people who are always on the lookout to save them. It's a good match as long as they are both in agreement.
When it's bothering one to always be on the giving end or the receiving end of compassion it becomes a problem, and therein lies the problem. I thought you were looking for a way to stop being on the giving end. Sorry, I will never make that mistake again. I hope the next person you hook up with does not require saving, but has some to give. All the best. | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 1:37:52 PM | Hey Sock,
What you are referring to is kind of a borderline issue, it sounds like you have not sashayed into a full blown hero complex, but rather that you are seeking out those that are in need, in an effort to help them.
It rather breaks down into a few areas in my perspective, and before I babble on, I want to point out, this is just my opinion, I am in no way shape or form qualified to be giving it.
You are looking in part for people that are damaged, not just to offer forward assistance (which at a guess I would say is a legitimate offering) but because your perceptions of yourself are such that you think you will be more appealing if you can step forward and in the door offer support and "give more" of yourself. The problem therein is that you are well, to be frank, you are aiming into the pool of broken people and pulling out fishies that are simply not up to a standard that will be compatible. You have addressed some of your own issues, are obviously aware of, at a guess, most the rest of them, and have either conceded to them, or started the process of repairing them.
So where does that leave you?
Please don't take the next phrase harshly, it is just a reference point. It is like the 40 something man dating the younger girl, aiming to enjoy the benefits of such, but pulling from a less socially mature group in order to fulfill some inner need of their own. In your case you are not going for age inappropriate women, you are going for women that are slightly socially retarded for their age. Not to "take advantage" of, but rather because you want to have your own windmill to jouse, and like that ever so famous Don, you have found that no matter how often you valiantly ride forward, you are simply doomed to failure.
The key reference points are rather obvious, well, at least to me, but I am outside the forest, and therefore not blinded by all the tree's. (It is also always easier to give advice from the outside, fear not, I will probably stuff my biggest issue into your in box later) As I have mentioned before, the wonderful and valueable advice from my grandmother, you can't change anybody, and if you are seeking a relationship that is contigent on that change, then you are doomed from the start with it. Change can only come from within, so unless you are so smitten with one of these angels that you find yourself beholden to accept their broken wings and all, and truly have the internal acceptance of who that person is. The best course would be to learn that this is your own personal foible, and avoid it like the plague.
The only other real issue that I really see as viable here, an honestly brother I don't know you well enough to do more than hazard a shot in the dark, is that possibly your inner picture of yourself is such that you feel that without that extra burden, without that fallen person needing you, that you are not worthy of their attention without it. I will say that simply from the reaction of the women on these boards that interact with you, if the portrayal you put forward here of yourself is even remotely true, that is absolutely not the case. You will need to stick to the brighter bulbs on the tree, but with the right combination of intellect and mutual interest, you will do amazingly well.
Best of luck brother,
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 1:38:56 PM |
sometimes there are victims who always seem to be victims and people who are always on the lookout to save them. It's a good match as long as they are both in agreement.
While I'm not an expert on this, and I'm sure there are others who can discuss this more eloquently, there's a basic flaw in thinking that should be spotted, well actually two. With this, there's an implication that it's okay to be and remain a 'victim' type of person. This is not healthy for that person. Much more healthy would be for a 'victim' to learn that he/she can be greater than that. That they have a right and even an obligation to self for fullfillment which would overcome the esteeme issues associated with this as a gift to themselves, and/or even a birthright gift from God if you want to think of it that way. Nobody needs to suffer as a victim. They may choose to, but it certainly then would be a life in a second-option or second-class status, and I don't think any of us should think of ourselves as second class for any reason. Second, for the 'saver' person working for the victim, as nobody is perfect, where does it leave them upon an occasion when they themselves need help? There's nobody to lean on. Over the course of time, the better relationship allows each partner to lean on each partner when needed. As Moma pointed out, the tendancy of the victim is to run when life is too big. This is not only bad for the victim, but also the partner. LIfe is a long walk and the beauty is walking and sharing the gifts equally and together. | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:09:19 PM | ^^^^ All I can say is that Sock definitely got our "Cali pond of men" thinkin' on a deeper level than I've ever seen before! It's kinda cool seeing men helping men on a serious, thought-provoking subject.
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:11:33 PM |
Nobody needs to suffer as a victim. The whole point of being a victim is that you don't have to suffer. Victimhood has it's perks. That is why people cling to it.
If people feel sorry for you, they are nicer to you to begin with. They will continue to give you special dispensation to act like an enormous donkey, because you have been victimized. They will help you as much as they can because they feel sorry for you. Being a victim is fun! | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:21:29 PM | | Moma: Correction accepted and agreed. by 'suffer as a victim', I just meant more along the lines though of paying the cost of not living life to its fullest potential for the person. .......some responsibility is required, but the payoff is much more! It's the 'opportunity cost' I guess. Thanks for the comment! | |
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| Can an Angel With a Broken Wing Ever Fly?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:26:36 PM | Mystic Magic: No apologies are needed, just a relevant dialogue. And now you have clarified yourself with some good points made, and I appreciate it.
Wow, I used to laugh at AceofSpace for stepping into the lions den and getting himself taken apart like a Tinker Toy, and now I’ve left the safety of my man cave to become a sort of alien abductee, getting put onto the table and getting all examined and poked and probed. Ah, well, since we are all in this unattached pond together, here are a few more angles to consider:
Another twist is that my parents have been happily-married for 61 years, and I grew up in a small family with no other relatives within 2000 miles, so there was little opportunity to closely observe other family’s dynamics (no cousins near, etc.). I’ve come to the conclusion that my parents are abnormally normal—I never heard even a raised voice, a slammed door, absolutely no behavior that signaled conflict. If they disagreed on something, they calmly discussed it or deferred it to another time. They always said (and showed) that they just could not understand what could possibly exist in this world that was more important than “them” as a couple and “us” as a family. So there was never any other priority vying for first place, so they were effective in staying focused and rational on what was truly important.
So my brother, two years senior, and I were probably simply naïve and thus unprepared for being able to accommodate the romantic conflicts that would inevitably arise as we grew up and left home to establish our own families. A twist to the twist is that he and I were both adopted as infants, so nobody in our household was related by blood. He and I were raised by the same adoptive parents, but carried different personality pre-dispositions courtesy of dissimilar DNA. So our little family was a perfect example of raising children in a sort of social isolation chamber that might provide simple, uncomplicated observation. There is always the question of are we all primarily the products of our environment, or of our genes? (BTW, I would never trade my adoptive parents for anything in this world, as they have proven that love is so thicker than blood.)
My brother and I could not be more different. As to the extent of the subconscious effects of our mutual “my mom gave me up at birth so all women must be beeotches/goddesses” thing, I can only guess. But until several years ago, he spent his adulthood chasing and marrying every barfly from here to the next 10 towns over. My parents were mortified. I am so proud that he has finally given up his addictions and self-destructive ways, but for me, it’s difficult to find women who aren’t an ex-sister-in-law of mine. He could change that country western song from “All My Ex’s Live in Texas” to “All My Ex’ s Are Texas”. As he laid waste to himself and others, I kept getting laid to waste. Hurt-giver versus hurt-receiver. Now he’s finally got it right, and I’m determined to be a lot choosier going forward, even though I still hear a tiny voice in my head questioning the (choose proper word to insert here: arrogance OR sensibleness) of that approach. Don't get me wrong, I've had some very satisfying relationships, I just never expected that I would not eventually have what my parents have had all these years.
Maybe it’s simply taken me this long to finally pay attention to the fact that it’s a jungle out there, so maybe I should just lighten up a bit but be a little more careful…
Ace! Jump in here and save me! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 2:34:03 PM | ^^^^ ** I'm still thinkin' Sock's POF account has been hacked by some guy that claims to be my perfect man**
I usually can't control my laughter after reading Sock's posts, but the tears are throwin' me off!  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 2:45:35 PM | I called Robert and he was not answering. I have done all I can there.
Sometimes how you grow up has nothing to do with who you become and sometimes everything. It all depends on your inner resources. I would agree to some extent on the issue of DNA, being adopted and having found my family, explained a lot for me about why I was the way I am.
Look out for the alien anal probe. It really stings. | |
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