| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/13/2007 10:04:18 PM | I have read untold profiles on here from countless nice, well meaning women from all walks of life. It seems to me that the majority of them may have "dreamed up" a super kind of guy, Mr Right. The nice guy, the perennial quarterback, Mr Higher Educated, mild mannered, has plenty of free time to devote to only you. Mr Politeness man, with a 6 figure income, and endless resources, able to drop everything and explore yet another south pacific island. I wont say this guy doesnt exist, but seriously, what are the odds? 32 football teams, each has about 3 quarterbacks, that leaves all of you gals chasing 96 men, more then half of them married. And the 6 figure income? Well michigan is on its ass bad, Still I am sure there are some CEOs laying around, despite most companies ditching all but essential personnel, so it could happen. Higher education? They are fleeing this state as soon as they graduate.
I am a michigan native, son of michigan natives. Same as most of the women here. I, nor anyone here have any ties to royalty, nor fame and fortune. I am just the guy next door. The same as most of the women here. Its possible, that many of you have got such high expectations, you may end up alone. I have seen it time after time... I will not settle! Fine, live alone. By demanding such lofty expectations, your also screaming at the rest of us that you yourself are not only perfect, but above all women to the point that you and you alone can decide which millionaire superhero you will toddle off into the night with.
I seriouisly think that if your dream man is Brad Pitt, or Brett Favre, you may as well fold up your profile now. This is and always be a working mans state, and we are working men. Perhaps the Madonna image will work for you in California. I too have lofty dreams, One of them is a woman that is happy to live in Rome as the Romans do, not as Caesar. I want to set and watch my novel play on the Imax. I want to see the world as much as the next man, it just hasnt gone my way yet.
Either way, good luck. | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/13/2007 10:24:38 PM | I'm quite certain many of the women on this site could quite easily write up a similiar complaint from the female perspective about men here.
My advice to anyone on the issue would be this: Don't expect anything special from this site; it's merely another means for many to try meeting the opposite sex and trying to find that 'special' someone. Some have too high of standards, some too low. You're going to find all kinds here.
I personally have high standards, and therefore don't expect to meet anyone here. But it's entertaining nonetheless. :) | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/13/2007 10:39:19 PM | | Wow bitter much are you? Perhaps this attitude is what keeps women away from you. Lumping everyone together or generalizing is never a good idea. Are there men and women on here with insanely high expectations ? yes certainly , but not all or even most of us think like that. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 10:48:53 PM | | go read some profiles. i have been on here for years. see what your take on them is. its my observation, i dont expect anything, this is entertaining anyway. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:01:33 PM | I like your main photo there... very shiny and spiffy.
Have you tried dating a tricycle? | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:01:35 PM | I hate to say it, "I agree you sound bitter as heck"...Well theres Brad Pitt guys on POF...Guess us normal guys are lucky...There arent any woman on this site that look as good as Michelle Pfiefer or Jessica Alba...Geez, "I hope I spelled those names correctly...But there are some pretty damn cute good looking woman on this site...This is a free site, "your getting what you pay for"...Get it...
If you meet jus one nice woman on this site, your ahead of the game...Better than nothing...Not to put you down, but a picture of a Honda motorcycle wont do it...Get a Harley Davidson, maybe that will do it...Yes I have on, (A Hogley Davidson)
Get an attitude adjustment or some woman will give you one...    | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:07:06 PM | | I can always tell a hardly worthitson guy right off. They dont know the difference between a Suzuki and a Honda! Sorry guy i dont need a penis extension, nor a hopelessly outdated road sled made of parts from all the 3rd world countries combined. That vinatge Suzuki is 100 percent japanese, and unlike your bolt pile, is going up in value. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:12:23 PM | Like I said attitude adjustment is needed...My bolts etc...are worth 4 of that broken down Jed Clampett hot wheels thing, you call a motorcycle (hehehehe) ....Good luck, man..Youll need it...I dont want to speak off topic and get thrown off this site ....Besides its not worth the time...Take your medication and give Mommy a call  | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:13:47 PM | | is the OP jerry garcia? | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:22:04 PM | So you're suggesting that a woman should just settle for any guy who happens to offer to make himself available? It's a funny thing, but if I were in a bar or club, I would expect certain types of men to approach me, and certain types of men not to. On a dating site however, it seems to be misunderstood by some people that a dating site is a free for all, and that everyone on here must be desperate to find a partner. If you don't expect every woman in your area to want to date you, don't expect every woman on the internet to either. Some of us are quite happy single, and will wait until we find a person who can enhance our lives, rather than drain it. Judging by your attitiude, I would say a week in your company would drain a persons life considerably.
Get over it, it's the same on here with men and women. We are not all desperate! | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:27:29 PM | Theres the attitude adjustment, Read Pamperpooch000 response....I told ya...Honda, Suzuki, Yamaha. Hot Wheels, Sanyo...Ahhh there all the same...See ya...Oh, the old saying is "Wouldnt want to be ya"..whewhew 
Maybe you should give a better perception of yourself...Would that be lying? Damn, jus cant win , can ya? | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:31:59 PM |
I am a michigan native, son of michigan natives. Same as most of the women here.
I’m neither a Michigan native, nor the son of Michigan natives. However, A B C D E F G H I gotta gal in Kalamazoo. | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 12:27:57 AM | *ALERT*
Spiffy,shiny RED UNIcycle
New to the 'dating scene'
Low miles, comfy seat
Could My one round, firm wheel
fit nicely between your 2 full HARD wheels?
i enjoy being ridden
all day looong
Admit: there IS some slippin and slidin
til you get the ~feeel~ for it
just have to find a rhythm, hang on
you'll wanna go fast, i'll wanna go sloow
wanna meet?
somewhere in the middle?
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 3:54:22 AM |
that leaves all of you gals chasing 96 men, more then half of them married
Yes, I call it the "Dating Vacuum". Those 96 men (in reality, the number is probably a little higher:) are in the vacuum. For them, they don't see how a man can have trouble finding a woman. Men who are not rich, tall, slim, white, doctors (and the like;) find themselves outside of the vacuum. They daily experience how difficult it is to attract women when you are not up to the artificially high standards of today.
Higher education? They are fleeing this state as soon as they graduate.
Higher education doesn't help very much, if at all, when it comes to attracting women. Unless you use that higher education to become wealthy or famous, of course! I'll be staying in MI after I graduate, most likely.
you alone can decide which millionaire superhero you will toddle off into the night with
It's like those "96 guys" just keep being presented with the opportunity to be with virtually any woman they choose. However, if one is not one of the "96 guys", then you are S.O.L. because almost no women with have anything to do with a guy who is not one of the "96 guys"!
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 3:56:53 AM |
Some have too high of standards, some too low.
There is no such thing as having a standard too low, trust me, I know | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 4:10:31 AM |
So you're suggesting that a woman should just settle for any guy who happens to offer to make himself available?
Funny thing is, that is what 99% of men do! Why shouldn't it be equal? What about this feminist mantra of "equality"? Does it not apply here?
Some of us are quite happy single
For the most part, being a single woman is a far more pleasant experience than being a single man. This is because most women who are single, are that way because they choose to be single. Of course, there is occasionally the real fattie or the total hag that really can't get a date, but those are few and far between. On the other hand, most men who are single, are that way because they have no other choice.
These truths highlight an obvious sexual inequity that is growing ever larger in our society. It makes you wonder why, doesn't it?
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Posted: 11/14/2007 4:36:32 AM |
On the other hand, most men who are single, are that way because they have no other choice.
I can't speak for "most men", but I very well can speak for myself.
I have a choice:
1. settle for less, lower the standards. a nice woman, respect her, like her, but don't love her....yes, it's possible to learn the way to love her...but it's not the same thing.
2. actively wait a better match. I realize I made some mistakes in the past - who didn't - most probably I didn't do as good as I should have in the "dating arena". I think I learnd from it -hope it's like that- and ready to find my best probable match. Not looking for anyone perfect, it could take a million years, but as I am 35years, let's say before I get 40y - not a golden rule written in stone, but about this time horizon - so let's say within the next 5 years I plan to find my best match.
bottom line is it takes ___TIME___to find the one for you.
especially if you have ____HIGH STANDARDS___.
I would advise everyone:
1. set high standards for yourself and your future partner.
2. try to be realistic. too high standards may backfire.
you need to balance these two
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Posted: 11/14/2007 4:50:11 AM | 500 cc Titan if I'm not mistaken.....
There are MANY different kinds of women here. Your post smacks of sour grapes, as in the women who you would like to date don't really want to date you. Which may be a testament to your silent "I won't settle" attitude....holding out for a partner for which you don't posses the correct relationship 'currency'.
Both sexes will have choices based on what they, themselves, actually bring to the table. If you want a pretty, fit, active partner w/ a minimum of negative traits...then you'd better be able to deliver the same or be prepared to buy your way in.
If you'd prefer to wait around for your dream date to see thru the surface you present & 'love me for who I really am' then you may have a lot of free time on your hands.
I read many posts that the gist of is "I've always dated X...why can't I find one now?" from BOTH genders. The painful truth is they do NOT have the same things to offer as they used to...... | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 5:40:33 AM | I noticed something about subjects in school: most of the people who believed they were good at something and put in a reasonable effort, were good at it. most of the people who believed they weren't good at something, weren't good at it. This included everything from sports to math. I saw the same thing in real life.
But I noticed something much more significant that this: most of the people who were good at something, practised all the skills they needed. People who were good at sports, played sports by themselves, when no-one else was around. People who were good at math, did lots of math problems by themselves.
If people are shooting for the moon, that is OK, so long as they practise the skills they need for dating. These are typically the people who work out regularly, like putting on different styles of clothing, engage others in conversation, and ask others to do things with them socially. Things like that.
Remember, these people do these things all the time, when they are NOT in a dating situation. They do all these things when they are just with friends, or by themselves.
The rest are clueless, and tend to ask for the impossible, because they are NOT practising those skills, and so don't really understand what they are dealing with.
That's my $0.02 | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:10:48 AM | Hummm! ??? A good life depends on one's ability to know an opportunity when you see one. ~
That's where you need to start ~
Second, take a pad, and write down what you want.
Third, whats important to you.
Forth, arrrange theses important things ~ starting withe most to the least
Fifth, ` ~ what is associated with these important things
there lies your opportunities ~ dar | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:14:49 AM | GMain,
Great observation. It made me laugh because it is oh so true.
I hope you find that lucky lady because not all us gals want super-quarterback material, some of us do like those boys next door :)
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:11:10 AM |
Great observation. It made me laugh because it is oh so true.
I hope you find that lucky lady because not all us gals want super-quarterback material, some of us do like those boys next door :)
Great observation? lmao. Well I wouldn't have called it that exactly, but each to their own I guess. I personally came on dating sites to widen my horizons from the boy next door, and find someone I feel more compatible with. The wonders of technology I hope will eventually reduce the divorce rates accordingly. | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:36:57 AM | | Pamper - I wouldn' t bet on that one. I think a lot of people make out their profiles to be what they "wish" they were instead of what they really "are". | |
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| My Observations on Online dating
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:44:05 AM | Op.. if your looking for a women I think one of the worst things you can do is come on with a negative attitude claiming to know what women want.
Forums is where we meet a lot of our friends and dates but usually the ones who pick our spirits up and have a positive attitude,
Me I'm only looking to widen my horizons as well, some one with a heart, who wants to be loved and give the same in return. | |
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