| Keeping and printing E-mails
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:01:39 PM | Greetings to all fellow POFishes!
Read an interesting subject in a Posting the other day and made me think of a similar experience.
I had saved a persons e-mails and one day in conversation , I bought the fact up that I had saved them. She was horrified and thought my behaviour very strange!
What are your thoughts on the printing and keeping of e-mails !
Is this Romantic?
Stalking?
Or Just over the top?
I should add I kept them as one would keep a Love letter.......
Comments are eagerly awaited!
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| Keeping and printing E-mails
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:09:49 PM | | Yeah, it's pretty psycho to print out emails and save them and to bring them up at a later date. | |
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| Keeping and printing E-mails
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:15:46 PM | | Depends. If you think of them like love letters, I would say that is just the sort of thing that people used to do, and is romantic. If you kept them for ammunition, that's just plain crafty. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:20:30 PM | Keeping e-mails doesn't bother me. I've never pretended to be someone I'm not or been a jerk . Some women are sentimental and like to keep things in case a relationship develops.
I have no problem at all with people keeping e-mails.
Why would it matter, one way or the other, if the truth is being told? | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:27:43 PM | | I agree with Tantric, except that I would rather the person save soft copies than print them out - save the trees people! | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:28:24 PM | Maybe he keeps his e-mails is because he does not get that many in the first place.  | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:28:41 PM | | Personally I have saved conversations with people that I was really getting to know well, not every person off the net that I talk to. None of them were ever creeped out by it. I did it so I could go and re-read them later. Now I've gone through and deleted the conversations I had with people that I no longer speak to because it's in the past and what they said doesn't matter now. I'd never print them though. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:30:43 PM | | I was misunderstood. Saving them is one thing, printing them and poring over them another... | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:32:38 PM | | Tantric is right on the mark. I'm one of those sentimental women that will save emails from the person I think is special. I also save movie ticket stubs, cards, wrist bands, etc. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 6:35:48 PM | | One reason she may have freaked is because perhaps that those emails were solid proof she was doing something wrong. Maybe she feared they woud be found and read by the wrong person. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:01:47 PM | | If someone is concerned about having their emails saved by another, than perhaps they should have been concerned about what they said in the first place. It appears the stealth of being on this site is not as fool proof as originally thought... | |
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| Keeping and printing E-mails
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:05:44 PM | | Your obsessive compulsive behavior instinctively instills a sense of fear within me. Don't admit to her that you secretly organize your printed e-mail correspondence in a binder, filed first alphabetically by username and then by chronological order. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:22:10 PM | | I don't print emails but I keep pretty much every email from a man I'm involved with..even the day-to-day things can be very sweet to look back on... | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:23:33 PM | judging from the majority of responses.. i'm a flat out psycho too... not only do i still have a shoebox at my parents house full of "love letters" from high school relationships, but I've been a computer user for most of my life, including an old, rarely still used chat program called IRC, i still have logs of chatrooms from ten years ago, and i have my instant messengers set to log conversations. for me it's like keeping a diary, not ammunition. maybe once every 3 or 4 years i'll open up the logs of chats between my better friends and myself and see what we were talking about back then..
if you're printing em out and tacking em to your wall that could be kinda weird, but just saving em should be fine.. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:42:42 PM | Are you just saving the emails in folders in the email program or actually copying them to your hardrive? I don't know why, but for some reason copying the emails and pasting them into documents would bother me a little, but saving them in your email account would not. And I would actually think it very strange if you threw out hand written letters. I don't know why I feel that way.
I guess I always seem to hold onto hand written letters from friends and relatives for years, but email is different. If it is important and I want/need to save it, I will sort it into various folders in the program. Actually copying and saving a personal email just seems odd.
Anyway, it might be strange for you to keep them (and even stranger to tell her about it) ..but there isn't any real harm in it. Maybe she was someone who doesn't even save emails at all and just deletes them when they are not completely necessary. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 7:46:43 PM | Scripta manent (aka anything written "remains")
So be careful what you write and to whom!
Always been this way (see love letters, eg).
What's new? | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 9:31:24 PM | I have always saved conversations/emails that were important to me. I usually save them just to a folder on my computer, but I'd probably print them too if I wasn't so anal retentive about not adding clutter to my house.
I had never mentioned this habit until an old flame recently brought up details from some emails I had sent him that HE had saved for the past 5 years (I had also saved his to me but had never told him). And another guy I was getting to know (that was long distance) told me that he was saving and had been saving all of our emails.
I actually think it's cool and romantic. You never know when someone's going to be "The One". I'd hate to look back in 40 years and wish I had some record of our first correspondence, hard copy or soft. Computers die, get stolen etc.
I should actually print off some of them. They're a road map of where I've been and my daughter might be interested some day. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 9:46:01 PM | I think it's very sweet. I usually just keep them in a folder on my computer also, but I could see myself printing them out too. There's nothing weird about it. This is what I use to tell my daughters, don't put anything into writing that you would not want the whole world to see.  | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 10:46:54 PM | | It is perverse and bespeaks a twisted soul searching for unspeakable nostalgic glory. Put them back into the computer with your scanner, before anyone finds you with them in your possession, and then repent, beg forgiveness and never, ever do it again. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 10:53:21 PM |
It is perverse and bespeaks a twisted soul searching for unspeakable nostalgic glory.
*Blink*
You say that like it's a bad thing... | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 11:04:56 PM |
repent, beg forgiveness and never, ever do it again.
*trying to think..."what WAS Worth Saving?"*
Nope=NoThing
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Posted: 11/15/2007 9:21:04 AM | | I wouldn't print previous emails, but I certainly keep them if I'm going out with a particular person. Although it's rarely needed, that way I could refer back to them if I needed to (like something factual, like a birthdate or so we don't go over the same subjects over and over). However, once a relationship is over, I will delete them. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2007 9:56:54 AM | I don't see anything wrong with saving them. If you're having conversations with someone, you can look back if it's been a few days and remember the gist instead of ...so what was that you said about _______? I have lapses of short term memory due to a head injury, so it just makes sense to me, I don't always remember everything.
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