| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:30:46 PM | Hi everyone, my name is Thomas and have lived out in california for about a year now. I have tried different ways of meeting girls but none seem to work.. Need some help when it comes to this subject, I have alot to offer but when a good looking girl comes around I go into this shy mode.. I dont usually go to bars because I dont drink or smoke.. Never have and never will, so that takes me out of alot of good places to meet people. I just dont know how to approach a good looking girl, guess I have some confidence issues, altho once people get to know me I always get " wow why didnt you show your personality like this the first time we meet" or something to that extent, and by that time its to late one of my friends is already wtih them.
So i ask what can i do to overcome this? as I have stated before i have lived out here in california for a bit over a year now and havent met anyone guy or girl besides the people I work with. So any suggestiosn are welcome also if my profile needs changes please let me know | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:40:39 PM | | Forget about whether the girl is good looking or not, approach all of them, make some friends, get involved with people who do things, and while you are busy with that you will meet her along the way. The direct stranger pick-up is about the worst method there is for meeting someone. | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:44:38 PM | 1. Go To Borders
2. Seek out book "How to get beautiful women into bed" by Mystery.
3. view his website http://www.themysterymethod.com
4. Grow balls
5. Enjoy life.
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:51:44 PM | 1 DO NOT take Marcobs advice unless you want to be considered just another typical Man Wh*re.
2. Be yourself and just make friends. Enjoy life. It's true that "she" will show up when you are not lookimg. AND she AND you will be happy that you did not buy into the "how to get women into bed" crap. Women HATE things like that. | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:58:20 PM | Yes, take my advice.
The education you get there, is invaluable in terms of understanding your own confidence, and learning how to approach women without that fear of rejection. Using "some" of the methods to get out of the gate initially and be ABLE to at least approach/talk to girls is fine. If you aren't a man whore already, learning some tricks in dealing with the female species will not turn you into a man whore. Being a "man whore" is not based on what you learn ,but how you were raised to respect women. | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/14/2007 11:47:57 PM | Learn to Dance, Ceroc Salsa and ballroom, it gives you confidence and intelligent girls love a man who not only can but will dance.
The most unapproachable women can sometimes be the friendliest, its figuring a way to get a conversation started! | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 1:01:08 AM | | You seem like a nice guy (god that sounds so gay!?) anyways my advice on your profile.. inject some humor into it.. yeah i know mine reads like a 5 y.o.'s but i don't particularly care and I'm sure you could strike a happy balance besides girls like a guy who can make them laugh. | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 1:06:02 AM | | Shyness can be cute to a girl, but the kind of apprehension you're showing generally isn't. Work on building your confidence up. At the same time, work on your social confidence by just talking to girls, even and especially ones you have no interest in, strangers most importantly. It's not healthy to only talk to a girl if you're attracted to her. Talking to the opposite gender is just part of life, after all. Having that become a mundane part of your life will help once you find someone worth pursuing. | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:46:23 AM | | Tom Kat is right Thomas. If your having trouble due to confidence issues the only true way to overcome it is by getting comfortable with it. To do this you need to start talking to every woman at every opportunity. Try to make one girl smile in your whole day and your already ahead. | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:21:26 AM |
as I have stated before i have lived out here in california for a bit over a year now and havent met anyone guy or girl besides the people I work with.
That's the problem...California. Move.
Not really and just kidding but there's a little to it. I lived in SoCal for 5 years (PB for those tht know the San Diego area) and I definitely noticed a few things.
**Now these are blatant generalizations and NO, not every lady or Cali girls fits them, I know, it's just light-hearted banter.**
1. Cali girls were, in general, the best looking girls in the world in my opinion (been to 42 countries and it still stands)
2. They knew it.
3. Unless you drove up in a 911 and were pulling about $250K yearly, they weren't that interested.
4. SoCal, by it's nature, creates very distant and superficial attitudes. The people weren't very friendly in general. They don't know you, don't really want to know you, please don't speak to me and make me acknowledge you.
Having said all that...I loved it and always said that I'd go back if housing wasn't so damn overpriced.
So I moved to Texas where it was infinitely less competitive to date. Plus, I love them Cowgirls too!  | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:24:32 AM |
I have alot to offer but when a good looking girl comes around I go into this shy mode..
i would rather a man put on a show than get quiet. finding the girl of your dreams is worth acting out for a few minutes...
i didn't say put on a front, i just said give her something to watch | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:44:32 AM | | Thanks for all the replies everyone i will work on the things stated.. If anyone has anything to add please feel free | |
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| Need help! when it comes to girls..
Posted: 11/15/2007 12:25:02 PM | | I have to say that Mistery's advice is quite solid. And what you learn is very respectful of women. So take marcob's suggestion. | |
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