| What women mean when they say they're "sexy"
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:38:20 PM | This is somewhat light-hearted, but meant in earnest. Given that there are POF in the sea, we have to make snap judgements on scant knowledge of who is worth contacting. It is to the "About Me" description that I give most weight - what people say about themselves is the most revealing of their character, and this is principally what interests me - a woman's character (or lack thereof).
I encounter this quite often in profile descriptions - women declaring themselves to be "sexy" and it always makes me go "Huh?" - "what do they mean by this?", "why are they telling me this?"
Does it mean they like sex?
Does it mean lots of people want to have sex with them and they know this for a fact?
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I'm not expecting a definitive defintion here, but perhaps some enlightenment. I might be missing something here, or getting the wrong end of the stick, so to speak.
I'd value the thoughts of any POF posters who fancy chiming in on this, including the thoughts of my fellow hetero-male profile-sifters on how they read this female self-description. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:43:22 PM | | I think to a lot of women it means that they are in touch with their sexuality and are willing to let themselves enjoy it and all that accompanies it to a level that they consider healthy and sufficient. It is more about attitude than how many men fawn over them or where their neckline falls. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:45:27 PM | I'm sorry, and I know this is a serious thread and question but I just couldn't help but think of Fat **stard from Austin Powers rubbing his nipples and saying, "I'm so seeexy." | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:53:23 PM |
Does it mean they like sex?
Does it mean lots of people want to have sex with them and they know this for a fact?
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It means someone told them that at least once and that sometimes that is how they feel. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:56:49 PM | It means it's a jungle out there in the pond of courting fish.
They know the men on here are more likely to be turned on by sex than other attributes, at least for initial contact anyway, and they are trying to nab the largest number of men they can, because men rely on visual (the women's photos on their profile), and the sexual comments they write to accompany their photos.
Pam xx | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:59:35 PM | Why would a woman would call herself sexy any more than men call themselves handsome? It is a description of her appearance, as exciting, or intended to excite sexual desire. She's not saying she's beautiful or pretty, rather that in her opinion, her appearance will illicit sexual desire from a man. To me, whether one is sexy, pretty or handsome is determined by the one looking....To claim oneself sexy, would shout out to me that she may have no other redeeming qualities, or that sex sells..so advertise it.
Did you think she was sexy? | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:06:41 PM | | She is stating that she is in touch with her sexuality, that she's not repressed or prudish, but honest and open in her desires and passions. She makes an effort to look sexy, and she feels sexy rather than humble and downtrodden. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:24:22 PM | I agree with Happy Chatter.
They know the men on here are more likely to be turned on by sex than other attributes Smart women (if they can be bothered) know that to catch a man...all u gotta do is play to their ego's and throw in just the right amount of sexuality.
If a guys all about sex...sell him that...if he's all about morals...sell him that with a touch of feminine wile.
If he's lacking or overinflated in self esteem or ego....and depending on what he reacts positively to...either pump his ego or puncture his ego.
If he likes his independence, give him that... if he's needy, give him that.
Give a man what he wants when he wants to suck him in to get what you want.
Its not a very nice way to go about it (and I wouldnt do it) but then again it works.
Basic priciples of business work on personal levels too.
This is why both men AND women should be more concerned about the person's character & behavior than what someone is telling you about themselves & letting you see. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:25:10 PM | they think about possible new applications of Einstein's Relativity Theory with special attention to the electricity saving and environmental impact of the summer / winter time switch of clocks | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:32:15 PM | I've never felt the need to announce to somebody I've met that I'm sexy. Sounds like somebody thats pretty full of themselves if you ask me...besides, what might be sexy to one man might not be to the next, no?...
I believe if you truly exude sexiness, there's no need to mention it, it just shows...JMO, but what the heck do I know..lol | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:46:19 PM |
Did you think she was sexy?
Interesting opinion 'magicdove' and thanks for your thoughts. There's no 'she' per-se, I've read this many many times. Sure, from the pictures I thought some of these women were attractive - well, that's why they posted photos right? But what were they trying to tell me by saying they were 'sexy'?
Interesting what herdingcats said -
It means someone told them that at least once and that sometimes that is how they feel.
So its a feeling then? Of what? Of feeling desirable? So, a woman saying this on her profile means she feels desirable - presumably either most of the time, or at least when she wrote the profile? Hmmm - perhaps comprehension is dawning.
Thanks to all contributers | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:50:05 PM |
I'm sorry, and I know this is a serious thread and question but I just couldn't help but think of Fat **stard from Austin Powers rubbing his nipples and saying, "I'm so seeexy."
textodd11 - no worries! Any and all contributions welcome. No topic-policing here.
Thanks for a close tea-spitting-through-nose moment! | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:53:54 PM | As you mentioned ;
"Nothing is either sexy or ugly, but thinking makes it so"
(hamlet version)
There is always a blind man for a lonely blind girl. And for the blind guy she is the most beautiful girl on earth. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:57:45 PM | Peculiar Purple Pieman hit the nail on the head !!!! I'm surprised to see a man know this.
Sexy to most of us means...We think of ourselves as sexy based on how men get light headed when we wear those certain tight jeans and tight skirts. We see how their eyes follow us so we add to our movement.
We learn from mens actions towards us that we see in public that we are sexy. I am sexy and know it.
Janet | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:57:56 PM | So its a feeling then? Of what? Of feeling desirable? So, a woman saying this on her profile means she feels desirable - presumably either most of the time, or at least when she wrote the profile? Hmmm - perhaps comprehension is dawning.
For me it is a feeling. Sometimes I feel like I've got it going on, and sometimes... meh... not so much.
When I AM feeling sexy and someone looks at me, I'll probably think it's because I'm hot and damn I'm glad I wore these jeans...
When I'm NOT feeling sexy and someone looks at me, I'll assume I've got a booger.
Depends on the day, the time of month, whether the hair day is a good one or not... How the rest of the life is going... When I feel good about my life and confidence is high, I'm likely to feel sexier.
Not something I announce to anyone though since what I consider sexy and what someone else does are not always on par. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 4:08:28 PM |
Sexy to most of us means...We think of ourselves as sexy based on how men get light headed when we wear those certain tight jeans and tight skirts. We see how their eyes follow us so we add to our movement.
Very interesting replies Janet and Herdingcats - thanks.
As I'd often read "Im an...attractive, sexy...woman", I'd think, well why are you telling me the same thing twice?
Now from reading Janet's response, I guess what they may be trying to convey by saying 'sexy' is something beyond knowledge of their attractiveness. From what Janet is saying it's maybe more like a feeling of sexual power - the power to affect/attract men? So women saying this explicitly are saying that this feeling of sexual power is an important part of their makeup? | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 4:17:18 PM |
This is why both men AND women should be more concerned about the person's character & behavior than what someone is telling you about themselves & letting you see.
Very interesting Kynnie - who knew us guys could be 'played' like you say! :)
Sage advice I've quoted from you here, but initially the ONLY thing we have to go on is what people tell us and let us see on their POF profile. We do not have the time and luxury to find out every fishes character & behavoiur. We must do a lot of sifting based soley on profiles - hence my quest for enlightenment. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 4:18:19 PM | When I had a regular profile and was available, I always tried to use descriptive words that could be somewhat proven. (educated, hard working, ambitious....) Not quite as subjective as "attractive" and "sexy". Sometimes I think I am, sometimes I don't probably like many.
Here's the basic scoop on people's opinion of themselves. It's only what they think, not that it has no value, but it's not necessarily what EVERYONE else may think. I prefer to think for myself and formulate my own opinion, but that requires spending time with someone. If it's strictly a "looks" thing, that's pretty immediate.
Opinions will vary, I tend to have steered clear of the ones that are insistent their own opinions of themselves are valid and state them as if they're fact. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 4:48:21 PM |
Very interesting Kynnie - who knew us guys could be 'played' like you say!
^^^Clearly its not as fundamental as it may seem to urself....or we wouldnt have to listen to damaged men whine about how they've wasted their time, money & emotional energy, wining & dining women who are nothing as they hope or expect them to be.
the ONLY thing we have to go on is what people tell us and let us see on their POF profile. We do not have the time and luxury to find out every fishes character & behavoiur
^^^Every character & behavior isnt relevant. Finding out about character & behavior of ONE u are interested in is, unless u wanna spend life creating ur own drama.
Asking about the reference to sexy would be pertinent to ur enlightenment but then again u've answered urself in ur original post when u said "I'm not expecting a definitive defintion here"
If there's someone in particular u have in mind...best to ask them directly cos broad based subjective opinions & context of the word isnt likely to inform you of anything. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:56:18 PM |
I've never felt the need to announce to somebody I've met that I'm sexy. Sounds like somebody thats pretty full of themselves if you ask me...besides, what might be sexy to one man might not be to the next, no?...
I don't announce it on my profile either, but I thought the OP wanted to know what they meant by it. I personally agree that if you feel something you don't need to shout about it, but I don't think that thinking they are sexy makes them full of themselves though, and anyway, if it does, where's the harm in it. Surely it's better to feel sexy than insecure and miserable. | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 11:03:22 PM | Subtle sexiness from a woman to a man makes him more keen on her on an emotional and a physical level than overt sexiness which usually just acts on his physical desires only.
Pam xx | |
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| What women mean when they say they're sexy
Posted: 11/15/2007 11:16:59 PM | HUH???
I'm with you on this one OP..
What is the need to say such thing... its in the eye of a beholder...(pictures)
Intelligent,caring, understanding etc (personality traits) ... Can't tell so from the pictures, can you now???
p.s
I did notice comments from my sex stating: it means she is in touch with her sexuality...HUH??.. Why can't she say something along the lines of sexualy open minded, or list this under her interests: sexuality... | |
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