| | Spitting on someone is abuse!Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I saw something today that left me totally flabbergasted. As I was heading into the town square on the bus, there was a young couple - maybe early 20s, walking up the sidewalk. It was obvious to anyone in the vicinity that they were having a heated argument. Then the young man turned to his friend/partner and spat in her face!
This started a discussion among those of us who witnessed the disagreement. All the ladies said they would never tolerate that kind of disrespect. For me, any disrespect is "grounds" for the end of the relationship.
We all agreed that what he did was not only disrespectful, but abusive. What do you think? | |
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| Spitting on someone is abuse!
Posted: 11/16/2007 4:26:39 PM |
We all agreed that what he did was not only disrespectful, but abusive. What do you think?
What was the arguement about?
Can't give an answer until i know. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 4:34:52 PM | | I only heard bits and pieces of the verbal exchange. It contained words like sl*t, two-timing ***hole, lousy lay, and the following sentence: "If you are going to sleep around you could at least have better taste!!" That was said by the woman to the man, while the other words were tossed back and forth from one to the other. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 4:42:39 PM | mr. dynomite - you crack me up! There are times that I'm skimming through a thread until I see your post - put on the brakes and I *have* to read your comedy!
Thank you!
OT - Abuse is abuse. It's a matter of a person's boundaries... either you have them or you don't. Personally, name calling is a deal breaker for me. Spitting? Notta chance!! | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 4:47:55 PM | I'm in total agreement with you Parula. I must admit that I questioned dynomite's response. His replies usually show great insight and a slightly off-the-wall point of view, but always make sense to me. This one didn't do that.
I'm sure that he would never treat his lady the way the young man did his in my OP. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 7:14:02 PM | Spitting in public full stop is a nasty habit! It's a great way to spread disease. To spit in a persons face because of a disagreement is childish behaviour, let alone its degrading. What does it achieve?
Regardless of what the argument was about it's a nasty thing to do and would be grounds to end a relationship.....Who needs to be dating a child? | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 7:58:59 PM |
what he did was not only disrespectful, but abusive
Not only that, it was a criminal act. In Canada, spitting at someone is considered assault. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 8:10:15 PM |
I must admit that I questioned dynomite's response. His replies usually show great insight and a slightly off-the-wall point of view, but always make sense to me. This one didn't do that.
You gave almost no info as to what your OG post was about. All it looked like was a set up to be answered as "no...never ever spit on a woman...ever!"
c'mon now.... i know a trap when i see one. I walked around it and got right to the point by asking what was said in the arguement. Whats so "off-the-wall" about that?
I wonder what judge judy would have asked? ....probably the same question i asked :
"just curious...... what was said in the arguement?"
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Posted: 11/17/2007 12:57:55 AM | I would think it all depends on the arguement. If this couple were both accussing the other of cheating, then of course it was wrong doesn't matter who did the spitting.
For me to accept spitting on someone, it goes to the arguement. If I had a girlfriend that cheated on me (which to me is the ultimate no-no you could do in a relationship and is degrading as well), I can't say I wouldn't spit in her face in disgust, but I know I wouldn't accept it and take her back.
Now I not saying it's right because it isn't...but for me I go by action and reaction. Going by the little information that is giving about the couple, the guy is totally wrong. But I'm sure there is always more on the other side. JMO | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 5:06:57 AM | To mr. dynomite....
My post was not intended to trap anyone. I was simply so shocked at this behavior that I wanted to know other's opinions.
To the poster who indicates that spitting on someone is considered assault here: The bus driver did ask her supervisor to notify the police, and the police were on scene before the buses left the square for their next trip. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 5:29:38 AM |
All it looked like was a set up to be answered as "no...never ever spit on a woman...ever!"
I think the set up was for the answer "never spit on anyone." It's the hallmark of a sociopath.
Case in point. I turned into a road and slammed on my brakes as an idiot was tearing up it at, what I estimated to be, 50 miles per hour (a good 20 to 30 miles over the speed limit). He didn't expect me to turn into the road, understandably, after all no driver expects there to be other cars on the road. 
Anyhow, he executed a NASCAR style sliding stop, spitting chunks of gravel as he came to a standstill inches from my car window. He proceeded to hurl obscenities at me, presumably for having the temerity to be using the same road as him, and then spat at my car window. I was slightly bemused as the rain cleansed my window of all traces of his bodily fluid moments later but it would have been far more distressing if the incident took place on a sunny day when I would have had my windows open.
However, would I have been more deserving of being spat at if I had been in the wrong? Say if I had inadvertantly turned down a one way street? I think not!! | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 9:55:16 AM | Words fell short I suppose.
He spit/spat at her?
I agree it was horrible and quite disrespectful.
The problems in a relationship? | |
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NateC
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Posted: 11/17/2007 10:14:59 AM | Sounds like they were both trash; ie., they were made for each other. But spitting on people = bad. Arguing like that in public is also pretty juvenile, regardless of the situation.
They both sound like inspirations for birth control. | |
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Geilis
| | Joined: 10/17/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2007 11:25:45 AM | Actually spitting in someones face is classed as common asault and you can be charged and done at court for it! So says the law....I know cos a friends ex got himeslef a criminal record for doing just that! And rightly so...its one of the most vile and disgusting habits and I would quite cheerfully press charges if it happened to me!!
Geilis x | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 5:51:40 PM | Yes, spitting is a form of abuse. Also someone can catch a disease or cold from the spitter's saliva. I also agree that it is a disgusting habit right up there with chewing tobacco, women who treat toilets like they are in a barnyard by peeing all over the toilet seat, and flicking live cigarette butts out of car windows. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 7:15:55 PM | To designingwoman:
So true re the women who pee all over the toilet seat. They're so paranoid about catching diseases from a toilet seat that they don't care about how they leave it for the next person!!
Quite frankly, they probably have more chance of catching something from the taps or even the door handles.
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Posted: 11/17/2007 9:25:37 PM | To spit in someone's face is like the final slap, only worse. It is the ultimate put-down. It has deeper emotional meaning than anything else I can think of.
I have only been spit on once to memory. A six year old boy. His father's response, "What did you do to make him do that?". He and I soon stopped dating. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 1:04:53 AM | hey
I had that happen to me, my GF spit me in my face after calling me all kinds of names - I grabbed my GF by the arm and when she tried to run away to hide in the bathroom, her arm was twisted before I could let go - hearing the argument/disturbance the neighbor called the police - I was arrested for Domestic Violence and i'm soon going to trial - how can I prove that she spat me in the face?? - well - I can't because police just assumed that I was the guilty...and never asked me any questions.
Innocent until proven guilty ? - forget that !! if you are in a domestic case in Canada, then its automatically your fault as a guy.
ofcourse she never told the police in the video testimony she gave that she actually spat me in my face BEFORE I grabbed her arm. so I am in for some deep shit in about a month. By the way I was also verbally treated like shit - and I dont know why I put up with it - I guess it was because I really loved the woman very much...so I was blinded.
This case has from the time it happened to trial taken 13 months...
The actions of the police left my girlfriend homeless , slutting around for food and me with a $6000 laywers fee plus it put our life on hold for the duration of the case.
and by the way - I live in Toronto and someone in jail told me it was assault - but what good is that when you are in a jail cell. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 2:09:20 PM | | Ewww, I've been cheated on and I never spit on the person nor did I strike them. I said alot of bad stuff to him though lol. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 3:26:22 PM | We all agreed that what he did was not only disrespectful, but abusive. What do you think?
Of course it is abuse.Regardless of what the argument is about if you can't restrain yourself from spitting on someone you obviously have some deep anger issues. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 4:53:40 PM | | Assault in California and if it's domestic 273.5 p.c. in California domestic assault is a feloney although alot of it is downplayed..But I've heard of people getting time for spitting on others. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 8:03:18 PM |
Spitting is wrong
Swallowing is wrong Too funny! But I think this is in the wrong forum!
Spitting is not something I care for, but in some cultures it seems to be perfectly okay - not that I get that. But spitting in someone's face or on them in anger or retaliation- its abusive. I have seen unsuccessful panhandlers chase people down the street and spit on them, but by the time the cops arrived, they were gone.
And just to put it out there - cause I can - there are those times when one person spits on another in an intimate situation and its perfectly acceptable...... | |
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