| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 8:35:53 AM | | I am a 61 year old man I hav a 13 year old daughter She wants me to be in a relationship I can just about do anything any other man can do as far as a relationshp Yet most women want give me chance because of my daughter Why?? | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:23:45 AM | For starters, please check your spelling and punctuation. You show a lack of attention to details when you do not proof read your typing. Everyone has an occasional error, but you obviously do not even review what you write. For me that is more bothersome than having a daughter.
IMO,
BZB | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:02:11 AM | I symphathize with your struggles. Unfortunately, women around your age are probably long since done with having children around and that could be a stressor they don't want to have to deal with. Women young enough to still enjoy having children around (and who probably have children themselves) are usually dating men closer to their own age with whom they have much more in common.
I think anytime you are an "outlier" in that your age and lifestyle/lifestage don't fit very closely with the norm, it is much much harder to find compatible mates. I wish you good luck. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:32:24 AM | It's tough in the dating world, whether young or old, with kids, without kids, and etc.
perhaps you should do a post on the forum for older people, and see what their opinions are in dating someone who has a teenager. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 12:22:11 PM | Your amazing,
Well for a starter, Im a single dad also and Im 50 years old, to me my child is more important to me, then proof reading my typing,
it seems that you put more interest on the A.B.C. then on a human being,
This man was asking for advice, not opening himself up to be knock in the ground cause of his spelling mistakes... | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 12:29:08 PM | You misunderstood. The child is not less important. The child would not bother me, the lack of attention to detail does. I am suggesting that the fact that he has a daughter is perhaps, the least of his problems. BTW, this is not the first time the OP has posted this message.
BZB | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 1:21:36 PM | | Why in the world do people have to point out your faults instead of just giving advice on the question that was asked....If some one is not happy with the way another person spells, puts commas in, or the persons grammar, damn just get on with answering the question if you choose no need to point that s**t out. If that is what you are comfortable with doing and you feel you need to do it, then go find a post that asks "how is my grammar" | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 1:30:16 PM | It is probably because most women your age, if they have had kids, feel like they have been down that road. They have raised their kids and don't want to have to deal with another person's.
Forgive me if I spelled something wrong. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:13:35 PM | bizeebee, if you are going to berate someone about their grammar or spelling, I suggest you make sure your posts are grammatically correct!
OP, you haven't met the 'right' woman yet. I've found that it is easy to blame others and sometimes condemn oneself. I believe we do this, rather than admit that we don't understand, because it is natural to want to be in control. We can't control Cupid, we must let him do his work in his own time.
Have confidence in who you are, be yourself, keep looking and thank your daughter for caring about you so much. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:26:28 PM | good things come to those who wait.
hope there are nooo spelling errrors on this page  | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:43:01 PM | | Thanks to everyone that posted a reply Got a kick out of it And my daughter means the world to me And I learned years a go when someone cuts someone elase down they do it to make their self feel better | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:11:06 PM | Hey OP.......
hang in there.
Young or old, being a single parent in the realm of dating is never simple. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:15:06 PM | | I'd recommend you try finding women who only had boys to raise. A woman your age who has raised a daughter knows that at 13 they have the potential to make any kind of dating relationship a nightmare. I'm not of course saying your daughter is one of them, just that any woman who has ever raised a daughter knows that the teenage years are something they do not want to repeat. From age 12 to 17, my daughter could run a date off faster than I could make one. There have been several times that I've gotten emails on here from men with daughters in that age group and I had to really think hard about going out with them because I really do not want to have to go through that again with another teenage girl. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:31:12 AM | yes im a single mum and i have a five year old and im 45 no what its like to be in an older group of single perents who have younger chidren you just got to be your self someone will come along one day with pashiants  | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:05:42 AM | I too am single ( older c/w my kids age ( 7,10 &11) so I do sympathise.
BTW I do not feel the comments re: spelling were meant unkindly - do a spell check - it clears up possible misunderstandings etc - it is far tooooo easy to misconstrue on here - short text messages without gross misspelts etc... | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 7:28:18 AM | ^^^^what airdancer said!
I do not think the comment about spelling was meant unkindly.
I think spelling and grammar is important when one is trying to get a message across.
It really is about attention to detail.
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I have a 16 year old and I am 46 (and at the time I thought that I had a child late!)
My plans for when I am 61 is to be a grandmother not a step-parent to a teenager.
Different life stages, and the energy for them.
Good luck to you OP!
And please do consider having a look at your profile and cleaning it up a bit, it would make for a much easier read. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 10:55:24 AM | | OP you may very well be a nice guy with a lot to offer, however other women in your age range may well be looking at being grandma not a step mother or live in step mother. Your daughter is entering a time in her life when she will rebel and push boundaries. That may be something women in your age range may not want to deal with. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:26:15 AM | you are dating the wrong ladies ,,there are a lot out there who would love a 13yr old daughter to hang out with and shop with etc. there are empty nester's with empty lives or no life after the kids grow and go ..thats just one example ..some women miss the young ones being around .. take a better look around and stay clear of the types who have only just found freedom after many years of being stuck at home and only want to have someone take them out ..or start to look at younger women who are still mothers ..just think ..in 6 more years we will all be jealous of that man sitting with the beautiful young women and the young people over there,,while we are all talking about our dogs .
..your lucky .there loss .just take a better look at the types you are dateing or stop dateing and look for relationship material.. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:46:53 AM | Bizzibee = judmental and holier than thou...wow, how constructive and thoughtful, a set of very attractive qualitys...smirk... how do you know this man wasen't crying from frustration and lonliness while he wrote?
Valley...keep the faith man, I have 3 girls and no mommy around, it can be rather frustrating. Take solace in the fact that I constantly hear the same thing from woman, so it's happening both ways... I think people at our age can be rather selfish with "there" needs...afterall, we only have so much time left...lol
Having my children with me is a blessing that I will always cherish...abiet a lonley blessing...
good luck | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/19/2007 8:38:21 PM | I have to agree with most of what is posted, and am shring the pain of what Johne102 wrote. I have a 14yo son who has gone out of his way to be discourteous, disrespectful, etc. to the ladies that I had thought would be a good fit. I have tried to be discrete in my dating waiting until I was comfortable with a particular lady before introducing her to my kids. I have found that it does not matter whether she has kids of her own (various ages), is an empty-nester, or has never had kids in how our relationship went. Except the for the pain my own brood has been.
Keep looking, the right one will come along and it will click for you and your daughter. At least that is the approach I am taking. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/20/2007 5:04:31 AM | | Im a 50 year old single dad and have been for 11 years. I still have a 16 year old daughter at home and have dated some. The only problem I have is that if I get in a relationship and my daughter likes the woman and it doesn't work out between us then I am afraid that another woman has left her life. Her mom has only contacted her three times in 11 years. I would rather just wait a couple more years and give her my attention and affection. | |
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| Single older dad
Posted: 11/20/2007 5:03:40 PM | | You're a little older than what I am probably looking for, but, and I don't know if this is going to mean anything to you or not, the fact that you have a younger child would actually win you points over the other older men who contact me. I actually think the sexiest thing a man can be is a father (well, a good one!) and I don't usually date men with already grown children because I don't like having missed seeing that side of him. | |
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