| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:36:53 PM | | SO...I went on a date with this wonderful guy, everything was going great, till the end we were back at my place watching a movie, and all then after just laying there holding each other, then he informs me that he doesnt feel good, which I was thinking it was me, so I got him some water, and he went to the bathroom....then I told him he should probably get going before it gets even sicker, which i personally think it was from the food we had for dinner....(had to go to the bathroom)lol but anyways....soo he texted me and told me that he was going to be okay and he made it home....then i wake up this morning to find out that he deleted his profile, and has not contacted me all day....what do I think? I think that he has no intrest....but heres the thing, he even told me, that if it isnt going to work out with a girl, he would tell her, that hes very honest and open about it....and a true gentleman....now im sitting here can't sleep or think anything but what was soo wrong with me that he hasn't called....anybody with any advice or help???? | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:48:52 PM | OP:
Its not a good feeling when this happens....I heard that there is a "three day rule" when it comes to contacting after a date. I'm not sure what exactly it means though. The fact that he deleted his profile is disconcerting--maybe he has another means of contacting you?
Please let us know how it turns out...(for the best, I hope) | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 9:51:48 PM | | well...i did text him today, i waited till 7 tonite to text him....just said hey and was wondering how his day was going....b/c he always texts me but no response.... =( and i actually thought i met a good one for change! | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:11:22 PM | Sorry to hear that hun really.
It is possible that there is an explanation.
but if he hasnt contacted you in a week then it would be safe to assume that hes not interested. Some men get scared very easy of the unknown. A possible relationship does this to a guy. Just leave him be for now and if he dosnt contact you then I would not bother again.
If he messages you then great just dont get diappointed if he dosnt. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:32:19 PM | My guess is that the deleted profile may not relate to you, but who knows? (BTW, there's another thread on POF about when he deletes his profile that you might find interesting. I think it was from last week.)
Ironically, I had a similar experience, only I was the one who got sick on the first date. I'd felt a little weird earlier in the day and didn't think anything of it, but by the time we were leaving the restaurant I felt like my belly was going to explode. He was trying to walk me out to the car, and I just knew I was going to need to be near a restroom very soon again. I told him I was sorry and ran for my car. I felt really bad because supposedly this was his first date after being divorced three years earlier. I sent him an email apologizing and letting him know it wasn't the food, etc. Never heard from him, and I noticed his profile was deleted from the site a few days later. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:48:59 PM | I was going to say "well jeez... its only been a day".... but then i saw u said he deleted his account..
that makes it complicated... because it's only been a day... maybe he deleted it cause he met you? I think it's still too early to tell... maybe he DID get sick?
give it 2 more days to make it the 3 day rule. don't jump to any conclusions yet.
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:52:50 PM | However if you put out then he may of just gotten what he wanted and ran.
^^^^^^ why is it some people always think so trashy?^^^^^^^^^^
Tell you what cute, chances are he got caught! The person that caught him also had him delete his profile! I hope I am wrong!
Think of it this way, you had a good meal and got to cuddle and watch a movie!
Not bad for a sat, night!
Shake him off like a bad post and get back to fishing! One way or another after dinner and a movie, you deserve a call the next day!
~Belly~ | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:58:00 PM | thats right!!! i have no idea why there is no call or a text....but it still only the day after, but i would at least hope that if someone had agreat night with me would want to talk to me the next day..ya know?
and i even thought abuot that last night after he left i wanted to delete my profile, b/c i met a awesome guy, and even if it didnt work out i was just going to let things go, and move on....
then i wake up and find he deleted his...and maybe he thought the same way, but i doubt it!!!!!! if he did he could have texted me back or at least called
=( <---- tired of having her heart broken!!! | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:20:28 PM | Bella,
It's a shame, but that sort of thing happens all the time. The worse thing is the not knowing what happened or why. You had a nice time with him, and leave it at that. Getting that excited over someone after just one date tho, is probably not a good thing. You don't know much about him. Things come out after a couple weeks, a couple months and so on that will turn this Knight in shining armor into a slimey toad real quick if you're not careful.
You're young, have fun. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:41:39 PM | If I had a date like you OP, and read this thread I wouldn't be talking to them anymore either. Not that your date was bad, but how you acted after the date. WAAAAAY too clingy and self centred.
Have you not stopped to think that maybe he's still sick and sleeping it off, which is why he hasn't called or replied to your text messages? Or that he possibly got even more sick in the middle of the night and went to the hospital? Last I checked they don't allow cell phones there. And even if he isn't sick, you've been on ONE date. His world doesn't revolve around you. Maybe he decided to go out with his friends or went somewhere and didn't bring his phone, or is just busy doing something so that he can't get back to you right this second. Give the poor guy some room to breathe!!! Plus, the deletion of his profile had absolutely nothing to do with you? Maybe he decided he didn't like internet dating or someone was harassing him through his profile?
And while we're on the subject of the deleted profile:
and i even thought abuot that last night after he left i wanted to delete my profile, b/c i met a awesome guy, and even if it didnt work out i was just going to let things go, and move on.... Maybe he felt the same way and acted on it as soon as he got home.
I bet if you grew up and started thinking that people have to be at your beck and call every second of the day you wouldn't end up 'broken hearted' so often. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:40:08 AM | 
I was thinking of posting a thread of the same title! Not same story as yours though. I was on a date with this guy...it went ok...he wanted to see me again. We had each other's numbers and were on each other's msn. But the next thing I know is that he's not on my favs list or I on his anymore...I can't remember his POF name to do a search. I figured favs was intended for that. I wanted to take another look at his profile and compare information and take a closer look at his pic again.
We only met the one time for coffee, and he wanted to see me again...I can't think of a reason for his profile to disappear. Well maybe he didn't want me to spot the lies on his profile? lol... (He wasn't all truthful). Of course that part didn't leave a good impression on me. I could msn him and ask or call...but I think I ought to just avoid the dude.  | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:34:04 AM |
SO...I went on a date with this wonderful guy, everything was going great, till the end we were back at my place watching a movie, and all then after just laying there holding each other, then he informs me that he doesnt feel good, which I was thinking it was me, so I got him some water, and he went to the bathroom....then I told him he should probably get going before it gets even sicker, which i personally think it was from the food we had for dinner....(had to go to the bathroom)lol but anyways....soo he texted me and told me that he was going to be okay and he made it home....then i wake up this morning to find out that he deleted his profile, and has not contacted me all day....what do I think? I think that he has no intrest....but heres the thing, he even told me, that if it isnt going to work out with a girl, he would tell her, that hes very honest and open about it....and a true gentleman....now im sitting here can't sleep or think anything but what was soo wrong with me that he hasn't called....anybody with any advice or help????
He had to TEXT you...?
You didn't call to see your sick guest made it home OK?
I would have thought it was rude (or a lack of concern) not call to check on me after I left your home ill....
Sounds like he didn't have a good time all the way around and has moved on...
You should do the same.... | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:43:04 AM | | POF is a free site. There are all kinds of people here. Married guys can make up a name, put a profile on where nothing is true. I am kinda surprised that you had this guy back in your apartment after one date......that's NO good. You have to be more careful.....you really dont know this guy. Could be he is married and got scared....that's the feeling I get here. Move on but be more careful of yourself in future....Best wishes. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:56:26 AM | He may be married and maybe that is what made him ill. Maybe he realised that he can't do it. Maybe your date created some good.
Look on the bright side, if he is married, aren't you glad you didn't get more involved? Now you can meet who you are meant to meet.
He's just not that into you....great book to read. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:38:26 AM |
you didn't call to see your sick guest made it home OK?
I did text him and asked him if he was okay, and to say that I had a great time, he texted back and said cool, it was fun, and that he stomach is cramping, but he will be okay, and sweet dreams......nothing after that! | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:50:18 AM | | He was a sh1thead. There's no shortage of them! I hope you find someone soon who turns your head and not your stomach. Best of luck! Love, Titus | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:05:27 AM | I don't know why he deleted his profile, there are several answers that we could give you, but would any one of them be true? Worse case - maybe someone found out about the post and made him delete it. But, he did owe you an explanation as to what is going on. Any gentleman would call you the next day after, just to say he had a great time....etc... But, there are also those "males" that want to fish and not commit and won't call.
Don't delete your profile immediately because you thought you found an awesome guy. You never know what the next day or week will bring. If you feel really strongly about it, change your profile to friends and add in there that you are only here for the forums and the friends you have made.
A lot of guys do not like to commit right away, so you always need to be careful and not fall hard for him when you go out on that date. Give a guy some time to adjust and he will come around. If it is meant to be, it will happen, if it wasn't - you didn't lose anything because he never had anything worthwhile to begin with!
Wipe your slate clean and get to know people a bit better before jumping into a date. Things will work out, we all have had our hearts broken and never thought they would be mended, but they usually are with time and patience!
Good luck, Mr. Right is out there for ya - just go day by day! | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:15:11 AM | I would give it more time...
But I have a question of my own since we are on this subject. I met a man on here and we hit it off too...he removed his profile but I notice when I sign in, he is still in my "who loves you" file and it shows me when he signs in...so how does he sign in if it's been deleted, or does it just show up when he's on line...duha...lol! I've done a user name search and a regular search and it shows nothing..
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:20:09 AM | Maybe his wife found his profile?
Whatever the reason, just be glad you dodged that bullet. Sounds like he's hiding something ... and it probably is a wife. | |
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| Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:39:20 AM | Well to answer lovesaclickaway....he is just hiding his profile, if he is still on your fav list, and shows when he logged in last, then he deffiently didnt delete his profile, if you search for his username, if he deleted it, it will state the time and date when he did delete it.....soo he just put his profile on hidden...
and as for everyone else whom think he is married....that really hasnt crossed my mind at all..for the fact that we have talked at all times of the day,and from talking to him hours on end, I know he's not married, but maybe the girlfriend thing might be...but deffiently not married....
he's 27, and im 20, and i thought he would have a little more maturity to at least let someone know if things arent going to work out!! I used to say I like older guys b/c there more mature, but found out in the past that everyone older is not!!! he just seems that he has his life in order, and was looking for the same that I was.....just doesnt make any sense at all!!!! | |
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