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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:36:29 AM | | Ditto...........if they don't know the difference between were, where, wear and ware, then I don't bother. It gets too difficult to figure out what they're trying to say. The other one that really grabs me is now and know. A lot of people cannot seem to figure out which is which, lol. I see a lot of postings where people interchange to and too???? Go figure. I can understand typos because we all are guilty of that, but basic spelling, well......... | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:39:07 AM | It seems that you may be cutting some really great people off at the knees for something that isn't a marker of whether a person is quality or not.
In no way does it indicate how they will communicate in person.
Kind of like deciding a person is not worth while because they don't have the color of hair you like in a person.
That is being to critical, and superficial...
HOWEVER, your ID name kind of spells out your thinking....Which NO disrespect but there is no such thing as a perfect life, with a perfect guy... Life has its twist, turns, major pot holes, and even road blocks..
If deciding the value of a person by their grammar is one of your criteria you can be limiting yourself from someone really great.
There are deal breakers in seeking that perfect match...I would hope that just because they are not a member of a spelling ace club would be a deal breaker for you. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:03:18 PM | Nexthyme:
My screen name in no way says I am picky. It means..............aperfectlifemoreme is in Heaven. It has meaning to me, but not anyone else.
I have met men with a high school education who are very articulate and interesting, and men who are college graduates who cannot carry on an intelligent conversation. An intelligent mind is very sexy to me. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:05:31 PM | I don't blame you, Nexthyme, for finding it narrow-minded to eliminate someone on the grounds of grammar... in theory. 
But, when you take into account that the spelling and grammar in their first message is an early indication of what's to come, it can be quite sobering.
POF mail leads to IM, leads to e-mail, leads to phone text-messaging. Not to mention, one's grammar and vocabulary are direct indications of a person's use of speech...
Frankly, when I get a message that says "hi, your funny," or "your welcome," or "their going to a club," I hit delete. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:07:04 PM | If it's a person's profile, I'd be more critical because everybody peruses through it and so one should put effort to make it presentable, coherent and legible...free of spelling errors. First impressions do matter on here.
However, if I receive emails and there are some mistakes here and there...I wouldn't be too bothered by them as long as they're not too bad. On the other hand, if the individual is a teacher, lawyer or executive...I'd expect better written emails and would take note...lol.
Most of us when we're sending emails or chatting, we tend to do it rather quickly...because sometimes we think faster than we type and even I'm guilty of sometimes interchanging homonyms. With chatting, sometimes I skip over entire words because I THOUGHT it but my typing hasn't caught up! haha. If I catch the mistake, I'll change it...or sometimes don't even bother if it's a person whom I am familiar with – because they know it's simply a typo and can figure out the rest. Even the know and now...I have done that before...I'm sure if there's a test...most would pass 
My personal advice is to reread your email before hitting the send button. It'll make a better impression on the recipient. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:18:41 PM | Bad grammar YES! Misspelled words NO!
I read in another post, that if you type out certain things that's the way they talk! So true! Iz sitten here! yous funny! We be!
For the spelling thing, I work with numbers all day, and have for years. So when I started using a computer my memory on spelling and i before e except after c was a bit and still is fuzzy! Spell check is my best friend!
The way I see it, in a conversation people don't spell as they speak! I do not hear letters, I hear their words! I am not saying there wouldn't be a line in the sand, but spelling is a whole different story from grammar....( for me)
~Belly~ | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:19:41 PM | 1. if a letter is "careless" than chances are I also don't care to answer, why should I care )
2, if it seems OK, I answer. as English is my 4th langauge only, I am also not 100% sure about English grammar... so also don't apply very hard standards for those that write to me
on a general note, I would say "correct grammar" as an indication of intelligence is not really a reliable one. some people are better in grammar, some don't find it that important.
in Norway "correct grammar" is far less important than in the US....maybe because we don't even have one "unified" language, Norwegian is in fact 2 languages and several dialects...each is nice and you just write how your region speaks it - it should be equal to the "official" one. we have got lot of debate on language -but mainly academic one, people care less.
The Norwegian Language Council aims to ...........among others...........quote...."promote tolerance and mutual respect among all users of Norwegian in its different varieties".
We don't have a"one-and-only" standard, so also more flexible to read what others write or say | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:20:36 PM | | Though I try to be as precise as possible in the written (and spoken) word, I don't get too tough on people who are not as skilled in English. Their skills lie elsewhere, like with logical matters, such as math. My brain is a sieve when it comes to math (and other things, actually; like couth, for instance!). There are plenty of misspelled and misused words in my correspondence. I have a tendency to make up words, at times, too! I have found that some people really have an extra hard time in the communications department, and sometimes it's just not funny, especially to them. But, for those who I do know much better, and who have a better sense of self-deprecation, it's very funny to point out the miscommunication. (For example, "So-and-so's son is a lesbian." And "These vitamins have anti-detoxants." -have been great sources of comedy, for me, anyway!) You may be missing out by dismissing these people on the merit of poor grammar and spelling alone. They might be like Mark Twain and his dialect thing, but so what? I just think there would be far better reasons to eliminate someone than that. They very likely can carry on a conversation and reason just fine. I personally admire people who are multi-lingual and who are good at math beyond the 5th grade level. I'm simply sunk in those two and, sadly, many more areas! | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:29:58 PM | Although I do appreciate a well written message, I normally try to answer all of my emails, regardless of the spelling mistakes or poor grammar. As long as I can make out what they say, it's all good:)
English is my second language, so I myself have a lot of difficulty with my grammar and the structure of my sentences.
One of the best thing I ever did was to download the Google Toolbar which comes with a built-in spell-check ... but it still doesn't help me with the formation of my sentences...but at least, I no longer have to consult the dictionary every time I'm not sure of the spelling of a word:)) 
Also, there could be tons of reasons one is a poor speller which has nothing to do with that person's intellect. Dyslexia, ADD, ADHD are just a few of the reasons one might be a genius and still have difficulty with spelling and grammar.
I guess the bottom line is, how a person writes is only a small percentage of what makes up a the "whole" person ....some people expresses themselves brilliantly on paper, but not so good in real life, and vice versa. The best thing to do is to look at each case on an individual basis and go from there:)
Love and peace 
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:30:01 PM | LOL ~ if I've taken a certain med that day, I misspell and use words a sailor might be embarrassed to hear. My friends still respond to me.  Am I critical of those things? No. I'm well aware the English language is difficult, especially for foreigners who weren't educated as this as a first language and quite honestly ~ those who suffered through the "site learning" years in US schools didn't learn phonics, so many have NO clue how to sound out words or apply rules and exceptions. Personally ~ who am I to judge anyone else?  | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:31:34 PM | My take on it is: if you can't be bothered to type like an adult, then I can't be bothered with you. "How r u", "your so cool and their not", "that's so l33t" = no, no, and no. I can forgive some gaffes, then and than for example, because I know I make some mistakes. However, punctuation, proper grammar, and capitalization are all taken into consideration. In the rare case that the person sending the email that looks like it was written by a three year old is actually testing to see how I'll respond, they are already failing one test of mine, so that's a double negative against them.
One question would be, while grammar can clearly irritate some people, what about acronyms? IMHO, BFF, BRB, etc. Are those as annoying or are they sort of accepted at part of the Internet experience? | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:43:30 PM | | I have a friend that is very intelligent and very creative - draws, paints, crafts and has made her home a beautiful, comfortable place for pennies on the dollar. She can't spell worth beans. We met online checking out men. Had I judged by her spelling I'd have missed out on meeting a wonderful person. | |
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| If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:47:47 PM | This is how I look at it-
Someone here who is probably scared to death to even be here
and is scared to death of rejection joins this site because they are sick of
being lonely. They join this site- they take the chance and email you -
You fucking critique their ass off - spelling, grammar-
in the end you either delete their email - you block them, you dont
answer them.
Switch this around once in a while- If you want to meet a Rhoades Scholar
then I suggest you join a site which caters to the well educated. Most people
around here are just regular people. Some maybe did not even finish
high school maybe for reasons that are none of your business. But my God
to start thread after thread about grammar and spelling is just another way
of picking on innocent people who mean no harm and just would like
to meet a nice person.
curlygrl~ | |
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