| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:59:02 AM | my husband would never cum (or at the most once in a very long while) at the beginning i thought it was my problem but he told me it's his..
i wonder if it's a common problem? or can I do anything to change that? | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:06:18 PM | I have several males friends who have said they cannot achieve orgasm during blow jobs.
For a couple it is simply the fact that they cannot relax enough. They are worried about it taking too long, the female being uncomfortable, the taste of the ejaculate, etc.
Another friend of mine simply does not like blow jobs. He does not find it enough to get him to ejaculate.
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:14:01 PM | For the longest time I could never cum from a blowjob, I seriously though something was wrong with me. Then as I got a bit older (mid 20's) and the women I was dating got a bit more experienced I found out the issue of not getting off from BJ wasn't mine at all.
So if your guy isn't getting off here are some tips:
1) use your hand and stroke his****while you suck
2) a very wet mouth is tons better than a dry one
3) Practice, practice, practice.
4) Ask him what he likes and when he does tell you don't get all jealous and flip the F' out at him. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:16:49 PM | Nah my ex had this problem.. and had never actually cum from a bj at all before me, he just had to be worked a little harder than most girls were willing to do.
Just takes patience,enjoyment and ask him to tell you what feels good and do that. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:20:29 PM | i have only orgasmed once from a bj. i am plenty relaxed, and have had some amazing bj's in my time, but just can't do it.
mind you, it takes me quite awhile to orgasm from intercourse as well.
probably just a problem with my own body.
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:28:17 PM | your only problem paul is control.. you have it. It's a good thing
It's guys that cum in under a minute that worry me.. 17 seconds once and my god it suprised me. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:36:58 PM | | One of my ex-boyfriends had the opposite problem. He would cum very quickly. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:37:58 PM | | The penis can be so sensitive that it is not pleasurable at all. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:43:23 PM | Why is it a "problem"?
I know women who dont cum when they brush their hair, some who dont even cum when they are wiping their arse and EVEN some who dont cum when theyre picking their nose, but its not a "problem" lol
Seriously tho,
some women dont cum from oral sex, but some do,
some dont from penetrative sex, but some do
some dont cum when just being fingered, but some do
some (well most actually), dont cum from anal sex, but some do
some will come from all of those, some from a few of them but not others
and some will do with some partners but not with others
But are any of those "problems"?
Its only a problem if someone doesnt cum at all, and even then its only a REAL problem if they have done previously and have a sensation to miss
Similarly some men
wont cum from handjobs, but some will,
some wont cum from blowjobs, but some will
some wont cum with a tit wank/tit ****, but some will
some wont even cum during penetrative sex, and most will
some will do one or more of those with some partners and not others
However, if someone HAS cum during a BJ regularly with some partners but dont with you then unless something has changed with them its possibly to do with technique as each persons preferences can differ greatly from the next
The problem is many women arent really very good at giving them but think theyre FAAAAABULOUS, so they see no need to try and improve, some just dont really enjoy giving them so its a bit of a cardboard performance no matter how much they think it doesnt show and some are just drab and repetitive
Firstly you should ask your partner if they care whether they cum or not, because some men quite like it because they get to have one for longer and can, if they wish cum via another method without having to "recover" so its a moot point
If it is something he would prefer you could try to "pimp yer BJ" with some real basics if they cant or wont give you pointers
If its not crossing any ick boundaries for either of you the male G-spot can be massaged by inserting a finger into his rusty bullethole curled forwards and applying presssure towards his groin an inch or two in
It can also be massaged externally by applying a firmer pressure upwards in the area between the scrotum and anus
Massaging his balls and scrotum is something many women dont bother with but which many men love
Also, a BJ doesnt mean your mouth and tongue can ONLY be used on his penis, explore!
Making a tight ring around the base of the penis with one hand and moving up and down cons the brain into thinking the man is sunk to the hilt and is therefore in the perfect moment to procreate for many men
Nails lightly dragged on his inner thigh, the back of his thighs or on his stomach help too if its a sensitive non ticklish area
The major problem/complaint with BJ's is lack of variety of sensation as many women dont do much more than the up and down bobby head thing which gets drole when someone passes age 21
Although many men manage to limp through their lives not having had a particularly exceptional BJ anyway, so an average one will seem excellent to them anyway, and some are just grateful for any BJ however abysmal it is
So try using both hands, your breath, drag your breasts on his thighs, let your hair hang on his stomach, try to make and hold eye contact or anything else you can think of that adds some variety
If nothing seems to work then either fix him up with your brother or dismember him and plant him under the patio lol | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:49:01 PM |
The problem is many women arent really very good at giving them but think theyre FAAAAABULOUS
lol so true 
Goddamn I swear it's always the ones that brag how good they are at giving bjs are the ones that are total ass. Once a woman starts bragging about how good she is I start to ignore her, 9/10 it's absolute bullshit. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:54:04 PM | Aint that the "trooof" 
Objectively tho, they usually think theyre so fabulous because men have told them they were either because a regular average one is better than not getting one, or because they just dont know they get better and/or because some women just lack imagination and also think any BJ is a good one too I reckon | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:39:13 PM | Enthusiasm I think plays a roll. I know a few women that perform oral like they think it's expected (which it shouldn't be) rather then they truly enjoy it. Other enjoy the hell out of it and it certainly shows.
Some men may only have one shot available per evening or per session. Therefore they desire to cum while actually indulging in intercourse. For those of us that are able to "cum on request" in conjunction with having multiple orgasms per session cuming during a BJ is no problem. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:44:32 PM |
The problem is many women arent really very good at giving them but think theyre FAAAAABULOUS
lol so true
Goddamn I swear it's always the ones that brag how good they are at giving bjs are the ones that are total ass. Once a woman starts bragging about how good she is I start to ignore her, 9/10 it's absolute bullshit.
Yup. I agree.
As soon as she brags about it, i know she sucks at it.
(sucks = bad)
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:58:21 PM |
lol, nice subtle shameless self promotion there Paul
not true. i consider it to be a curse. i sometimes wish i could just cum with a quicky, but that is not the case with me.
it used to be, when i was young, i came very quickly. but with time, things have gone the other way, believe me, it can be just as bad not being able to cum. even in those days i never came from a bj.
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Posted: 11/19/2007 3:06:43 PM | I really dont see why women have such a rod up their ass about this to be honest
About a year ago I was nailing a rather hot university lecturer in merseyside and for the first three weekends we were at it like rabbits on steroids and I didnt cum once
Out of the two of us only she had a problem with it and the topic didnt even get breached until I brought it up to make sure she didnt have a problem about it
It didnt stop the sex being amazing and after those weekends she could have wallpapered her entire house without the need to buy any paste so I couldnt see why it was an issue | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:07:19 PM |
my husband would never cum (or at the most once in a very long while) at the beginning i thought it was my problem but he told me it's his..
i wonder if it's a common problem? or can I do anything to change that? It depends on who was giving to whom. If he was performing oral sex on you, he might not cum for quite a while. If he was receiving, there are a few things to look at.
Was he at least partly undressed?
Was he especially drunk?
Were your teeth chattering (happens in cold climates)?
Does he know you dislike cum?
Was your head or other body part blocking his view of the game?
Was his mother watching?
If none of those things were the problem, it could be that he is afraid you would gain weight. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 3:10:35 PM | About a million years ago I was making out with my steady girlfriend in my first car after a high school dance when much to my surprise she went down on me for the first time.
It didn't take very long for me to blast off like Apollo 13 in her mouth...and for her to open the door , lean out head-first and gag on the ground...I guess we were both surprised.
She faked a nosebleed and had me take her home. Not a word was spoken.
And that was the first and last time there was any oral sex between us.
Since then, I think I've always been psychologically haunted a bit by that evening...
Maybe she should look me up and help me heal...it would be the right thing to do...particularly if she still looks 18. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:18:22 PM | I can never cum during a b/j. I like it real rough especialy on the back of the glans. Women just dont seem to get that when their with me.  | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 4:17:43 PM | I have only one time and it was with a girl that was really really good at it. I would love to go back and do that again. She wasn't good at sex though so it kinda equaled out huh. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:52:51 PM | OP....maybe your just not doing it the right way, or at least in the way that would make him cum....can't say I''ve ever experienced that problem when giving one or should I say that the man has ever experienced that problem that i'm aware of....oh I hope my kids don''t come on this site..i'm in big trouble now | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:20:45 PM | | Some women prefer their partner not cum in their mouth and that can be a limiting factor in the man's experience. While he'd like to totally relax and let it "rip" he respects her wish and so must maintain a level of focus and control, and that can prevent him from reaching orgasm. | |
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| not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/19/2007 5:33:19 PM | | Boils down to either bad technique or anxiousness on his part. Too bad, a blow job beats regular sex all to hell. | |
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