| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:53:17 PM | Hello all
I havent dated for 12 years this is my first time back on the ropes ,
What i was wandering is ive had a severe stutter most of my life the last year or so ive reduced it to mild stuttering which has helped alot .
Im asking the question what if i didnt tell the date i had a stutter ,how would you woman feel if i had a date with you and started to stutter ,would this be off putting or would you just except for who i was .
Also what if i phoned you and had a block with my talking .
I think im a genuine guy very funny with a big heart .
Id like you too be honest in your opinion this can also help me with research im doing at the moment aswell .
Thanks
Johnny
This isnt a wind up     | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:05:53 PM | | Johnny to the right woman it wont matter.Alot of stuttering is from anxiety and nerves.Be yourself and let nature take its course.Good luck | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:12:34 PM | Personally I would be up front with them before hand...not that is should matter but this way you can weed out the one's who may just get up and walk out on you.
Sad but there is a lot of superficial ppl out there. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:27:58 PM | What it is girls?
Im on a forum for PWS and this would be a good topic to see what the general public think who are fluent speakers .
My speech is not severe anymore ,i run my own construction business and im very out going ,its good to hear different opinions .
I wont be offended by any replies it just helps .
Thanks
Take care
Johnny  | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:28:54 PM | | Bring it up casually during conversation. I have a friend with a stutter and all the girls are all over him. It really isn't a big deal. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:29:39 PM | | Stuttering...not a problem, however the cross dressing is a deal breaker. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:33:22 PM | Thats my way of breaking the ice i know the profiles mad but that was me joking .
I have a stutter i help PWS .
Thanks for the replies im enjoying reading them .
Take care
Johnny  | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:34:08 PM |
Bring it up casually during conversation
how he gonna just bring it up casually?
errrrrr.. i...i...i...i....i th...thiii....thiii...thiiiii...think yoo....yoo...you shou.....shoul.. should kno...kno.....know .....i....i....i.... ha haa have ..... a...a.....a...a ...stu...stuuu.....stuuuuu...stutter .
sorry for my insensitivity i couldn't resist!  | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 8:01:02 PM | | I stuttered in grade school for a while but my teacher worked hard to break me of the habit by keeping me after school for extra reading help. Since I know how it feels it wouldn't bother me and I think people who make fun of others for stuff like this are cruel anyway. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 9:10:49 PM | I don't have a problem with the stutter either. Quite fun to kiss the nervousness right out of him. Best though to let the ladies know in advance....then there won't be any surprises for anyone later on. The cross dressing however would send me running in the other direction..... | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 9:25:33 PM | | Just be up front with her. I personally wouldn't hold that against somebody, but some people would. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 10:27:31 PM | | I use to date a guy with a stutter. The more excited he got, the more pronounced it would become. I found it rather cute and sexy. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:13:48 PM | Like some people mentioned above, it's probably going to depend on the individual woman. And if she does have a problem with it, she just saved you alot of wasted time. ****! There maybe things that you can do to lessen your stutter more. A speach therapist can help. Hell, it might be covered by your insurance. You don't like something about yourself, change it, if possible. Hey, whatever makes you happy in the long run.  | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 12:35:36 AM | | Personally I think a stutter is just like an accent. Its just there. I know a guy who has torets syndrome and he has a severe stutter but he also has theis flinch when he does it. When I first met him it was a little offsetting but after a while you just stop noticing it, it becomes normal. He is a really nice guy and was the manager of a large corperate store, it just doesn't matter, you get used to it. Don't sweat it the right girl won't care. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 1:36:20 AM | | Most women think a stutter is cute. I used to date a guy who stuttered, then we had sex and he stopped stuttering. The cure! | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 2:30:07 AM | It would'nt bother me at all!! but think its best you tell ya date befor hand, i mean all you will worry about all night is trying not to stutter which will probley make it worse
and if she still wants to meet after you tell her that, then you know at least she is going to be half decent! | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 4:37:11 AM |
Most women think a stutter is cute. I used to date a guy who stuttered, then we had sex and he stopped stuttering. The cure!
Or maybe the stutter was an act he hoped you would find cute enough to increase his chances of getting you in to bed. Once achieved, no more need for the stutter :) | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 4:53:47 AM |
I use to date a guy with a stutter. The more excited he got, the more pronounced it would become. I found it rather cute and sexy.
 sorry, I just can't stop thinking about what his sex noises sound like. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 5:50:43 AM | Not that it's totally on topic but while i was in the post my tab said 'stutter free dating' which i find quite ironic and it made me giggle.
I don't think it really matters but i do think you should mention it before she just thinks your stuttering because your not paying attention to her during a date lol . I think it can be kinda cute.. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/20/2007 6:21:17 AM | Suttering is NOT caused by nervousness. By the way, there is a new word for it, it's called DISFLUENT.
My daughter was severely disfluent, when she was younger, she had a very good speech therapist who taught her many remedies and skills.
She will revert to it when she's extremely tired.
It's a very hard thing to understand. It's not to be made fun of, EVER !
So people, please don't.
It takes alot of patience and understanding to help these people express themselves and it should never be shamed or ridiculed.
Shame on ya'll. I know it's all in fun, but it's really hard for some people. They will shut down completely and not speak. Be kind. There's enough meanness in this world.
Did ya'll know Churchill was disfluent ? What a great man he was. Imagine if he chose to not challenge his verbal skills, because he was made fun of. It takes alot of courage to overcome it. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/22/2007 10:22:33 PM | we all have something that makes us nervous meeting a new person. acne, a big nose, a small nose, moles, bad teeth, scars, frizzy hair, no hair, a nervous twitch, a lazy eye, big boobs, little boobs, chewed fingernails, extreme body hair, no body hair (i think you get the picture).
someone once said to me (when i revealed the thing that makes me nervous meeting a new person).............
it's a part of who you are, and it doesn't bother me at all. and the person that it does bother, isn't worthy of you. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/22/2007 10:51:00 PM | That would be like me saying hey..I have stretch marks still wanna go on a date?
It's who and what you are hun.....so no it shouldn't be a problem.
I dated a man who was disfluent ( i like that word better) I don't think he thought twice about whether or not to warn me ahead of time. And I thought nothing of it when he did stutter. I personally think its cute. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/23/2007 4:07:59 AM |
Or maybe the stutter was an act he hoped you would find cute enough to increase his chances of getting you in to bed. Once achieved, no more need for the stutter :)
Good ploy! Although I would have done him anyway! Shame he ruined it all by proposing later! | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/23/2007 5:54:42 AM | | i have a slight stutter but only when im nervous. i think the person who notices more than anyone is me but thats usually how it goes, we notice our flaws before others and make a big deal out o them becuase we arent " perfect" the way society says we should be. | |
|
| Stutter
Posted: 11/23/2007 6:18:37 AM | i wouldn't be put off at all
one of my brothers, (who now lives in sweden with his own company teaching english to various cooperations and schools,) has a stutter.. it used to be quite severe, but has become less so over the years.. although he's married now, he never had a problem with girlfriends - his confidence and sense of humour won them all over, he's a lovely bloke.. and that does shine brighter than any slight let or hindrance, imo
 | |
|
Home
login 
