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Posted: 11/22/2007 1:18:59 AM | *Note - This article is intended more for "Dating" & "Longterm"
seekers.
If you live in Saskatchewan and you find dating to be difficult,
or have trouble finding that "special one", keep the following
in mind;
First of all, cities like Regina and Saskatoon, although we think
of them as bigger centres, compare them to places like Toronto
with a population of almost 2.5 million and 4.7 million living in
the Greater Toronto Area. (2001 Census)
All of Saskatchewan has a population less than half of Toronto alone.
Obviously, if you lived in Toronto, you could be kept busy dating
someone different every night, possibly all year long.
(We call that diversified love) (smile)
Reality is, we live in a province that is not so densely populated,
so our resources are limited.
Now if you filter out the most common "non-compatibles", such as
drug users, liars, cheaters and one nighters, from the list of
single males and females, it suffocates your search even more.
If your a non-smoker, you probably want to scratch all the smokers
off your list.
Then you eliminate those who don't fall in to your desired age
group.
Then you have to "ween out" those who can't be honest with you.
Are we all picky or what ? (smile)
Of course it would be the ultimate luck to find someone compatible
who lives right in your area, but chances are, if you don't live
in a Saskatchewan city such as Regina or Saskatoon, you probably
know everyone living in your town already.
If you are considering expanding your search out of your area, you
should first take a good look at a Saskatchewan map, and see just
what kind of radius would be acceptable to you.
The mail settings on here allow you to set "within 75 miles" if you
want to use that option, but that is only a little over an hour's
drive. If your looking for someone that close by (and compatible),
you are probably living in the bigger city with lots of patience.
We all know what kind of person we seek, so what happens's if you
meet that person and distance is a factor ?
If your looking for someone "responsible", that person will already
have a committed job or career that he or she won't want to leave.
In the end, when you start dating someone at a distance, and you
are looking at possible long term, if you ever plan on living
together, one of you might have to relocate.
Or maybe your both simply comfortable keeping your own space, and
continue venturing to one another.
It's all about what YOU want and what there is available out there.
Get to know yourself and figure out what exactly are you looking
for and what your willing to compromise to find it.
If you already know that and your the type that will "settle for
nothing less" (recommended), then all that is left to do is search.
Dating is like one of those "Rubic's Cubes". You see two matches
on opposite sides, so far apart and difficult to bring together.
You twist and turn those squares around, and just when you think
you got it figured out, you find out it's not matching up.(smile)
You could go through any personals site on the internet and see a
perfect match half way across Canada or even another country.
(Don't try this at home, it's dissapointing) (smile)
In my opinion, people shouldn't be scared of a little distance,
when it comes to finding someone who will make you the most happiest.
Even if someone lives 5-7 hours away, it will work itself out if both
of you put your heart into it. Love grows as roads are paved.
In a nutshell, you will decide how important it is to find someone
special and how far your willing to go to find them.
But don't sit around waiting for him or her to come to you.
If your going to fish, you have to throw the hook in the water to
catch one. If you pull one out of the water and it's the wrong fish,
throw it back (gently) and continue fishing. (smile)
It's a lot easier if you use the right bait for the right fish.
Hence - if you want "openness", be more open in your profile.
If your planning on developing a serious relationship with someone,
and you don't want to be emotionally hurt, make your intentions
clear from the start, how you see yourself (with them) in the future.
For example, if you never plan on moving, put that in your profile.
"Not willing to re-locate".
This way, if you start a relationship from a distance, then the
other person will know that about you. (instead of asking you six
months later). Is that person willing to eventually move to you ?
The more you overlook, the more you undersee (smile)
Computers and internet have opened a lot of doors for the dating
scene over the last 15 years, to such a point, some have forgotten
what it was like to search for someone special without today's
technology.
Oh ya, we met people in bars, parties, bingo halls and laundrymats.
(smile)
Back when I met my ex-wife, she was paying for her food at the same
restaurant I was in.
When I asked her out, I was a total stranger and she knew nothing
about me. Neither of us came with profiles back then, but if we did,
we would of found out long term concerns before it was too late.
TIPS:
Profiles work people. If you simply put "Ask Me" in all categories,
your just asking for people to waste your time.
The truly open and honest partner that you seek, will expect the
same from you.
Personals sites are for making the connection. You don't do your
dating here. (more and more people don't want to "chat" on a keyboard)
I personally have no plans on exchanging 100 messages with someone
trying to find out about them.
If I put ALL the questions in one message, then you will have more
typing to do answering them all, than if you typed out a profile.
(smile)
LADIES: There are only two types of males. Guys trying to get laid,
and guys looking for a relationship. Period.
The one you want will never ask for sex, but give him that
sense of affection to let him know you are there.
The one you don't want will prowl with patience. If you can
supress your own appetite, you will figure them out.
If your having problems running into men who are married and
trying to cheat on their wife, try getting a home phone
number. When you finally let him get intimate, do it at his
place. Do not accept a "business trip with him" until you
have spent time at HIS home.
GENTS: If your the type that likes to impress a female, don't do it
just to "get the girl". Be prepared to impress her for the
rest of her life. (You have to wake up your heart and brain)
If your responding to a profile of someone your actually
interested in, try typing a couple of paragraphs, rather than
"Hey, what's up? I think your neato"
Be yourself, otherwise, in 3-6 months, you'll be back here
posting another profile.
The "Nice Guy" routine is not a part time job, it's a 24/7
commitment, but don't crazy trying to win her over with gifts,
it may only get you nothing, but ...used.
EVERYONE : If someone passes you in the store and they smile at you,
it's for a reason.....say Hello and find out  | |
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Posted: 11/22/2007 5:57:08 AM | ((GENTS: If your the type that likes to impress a female, don't do it
just to "get the girl". Be prepared to impress her for the
rest of her life. (You have to wake up your heart and brain)Be yourself, otherwise, in 3-6 months, you'll be back here
posting another profile.
The "Nice Guy" routine is not a part time job, it's a 24/7
commitment, but don't crazy trying to win her over with gifts,
it may only get you nothing, but ...used.))
I so totally agree with these comments....If you arent who you say you are you will be found out eventually...may take 4 months to figure out you're married and your wife is pregnant or it may take longer to uncover untruths about certain things BIG things said . Dating is tough and I find as I get older it gets even harder due to certain people carrying their past in their pockets, not willing to let go of hurts and mis deeds done.
I know my profile speaks the truth of who I am, I dont sugar coat for anyone....If I could read my very first one and this hopefully last one I would find a huge amount of differences. My motto is now....Say what you want, be who you are because those that mind dont matter and those that matter DONT mind..... | |
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Posted: 11/24/2007 6:56:11 PM | | By dating a Bomber Fan, you will get a MUCH longer, MORE fulfilling union out of it. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 8:47:01 AM | hey Dakota - now why would all us Saskatchewan women want to date a bomber fan when there are plenty of Rider fans we could date and Champs at that = even better LOL    | |
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Posted: 12/2/2007 10:57:41 PM | First , I would like to say that I do agree with alot with the first post , but not all ...
not to pick apart ,but this does confuse me
"The one you don't want will prowl with patience. If you can
supress your own appetite, you will figure them out."
I like patience,,, I personally am in no rush ,so I spend alot time looking/reading, and because I am over forty looking and reading again :) lol .. When I do find someone I feel attracted to or think compatible I send an email,,,wait for a respone ,,none then move on. Ones that respond I do like to take time to do the email thing,,,find out a little bit more about each other...thus this Saskatchewan thing .....I live two hours from any major center and I am not going to drive that on just one email back and forth :S I also feel ther has to be some intiation on the part of the other partner as well.......meaning if I am doing all the contact and and only getting simple responses no counter questions ....move on
all this takes time.......and everytone heard this before ,,but I really do mean it !
I would rather spend the rest of my life alone than to get into a bad relationship again!
so I will be very patient. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 5:13:09 PM | | as far as im concerned,,a relationship that is more than 3hrs awway is way more to a minus and a headached than anything....i know. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 11:37:22 PM | | what about when you actually meet someone and they lead you to believe there maybe more and then suddenly no longer contact you???? whatz up with that ???? | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 8:08:59 AM | | those men/women like to "play" the game - they get a self-esteem boost at another's expense. I truly believe there is really good men and women on this site looking to meet someone special to share their life with. With that being said, there is also damaged men and women on this site that would not see themselves if you held a three way mirrow in front of them. They are quick to blame everything and everybody for the way their lives have turned out. They are incapable of introspection and if you meet such a person, you should run and count your blessing that they no longer contacted you. This is just an opinion! | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 5:39:11 PM | as far as im concerned,,a relationship that is more than 3hrs awway is way more to a minus and a headached than anything....i know.
Funny you should say that. Like the author said, we are not that close together. I was in the dating game through online dating sites over 6 years ago. I met a few men from Regina and they all said it was just too far to drive an hour. Gosh, in the big cities, that is a commute to work. Funny thing is I did date some men for more than one date who had come a lot further to meet me. Try in Manitoba, Moose Jaw and the last one was from Calgary.
The Calgary man and I waited for some time to meet but we did phone and use web cameras and really knew each other before the first physical meeting. We both knew we were very much interested in each other. That continued to be flights back and forth for a few years and eventually I moved to Calgary to live with him.
So it didn't work out, he wanted to live alone.........but that doesn't stop me for looking at profiles that are close or not so close.
You just never know what you are passing up for not even trying to get to know someone by phone and computer first. You may be pleasantly surprised to find out that they don't live anywhere near you.
So .............what is the harm in writing someone who is more than your travel distance? You can make a friend for sure and if the interest is there, you definitely will make the effort to meet.
JMHO. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:16:48 PM | Just a few of my thoughts, after reading the opening poster's comments about Saskatchewan not being too densley populated, and about dealing with distance.
I live in a smaller town, and first started browsing sites like this about 2 1/2 years ago.
At that time, I assumed that sites like these would mainly be full of other people, who like myself, lived in smaller centers or remote areas, and were more likely to be using the internet to meet people, due to the fact that there were fewer local people to potetentially date.
Since joining this site nearly 2 years ago, I learned that in reality, the population of these sites consists more of urban people, and often as a rural person I'd feel like an outsider.
I've noticed that a lot of people may not have any interest in getting to know a person who's not in their own city. It is understandable that people, who have plenty of potential local partners may not want to be bothered with the hassles of a distance relationship.
I've also noticed that among the people, who are interested in getting to know someone living a few hours away, many don't have any interest in getting to know someone online for a bit before wanting to meet in person.
I've had, in the past, people ask me immediately (1 or 2 emails) if I was ever going to be in their town so we could meet. It's not really feasable for me to immediately plan to go to Swift Current, Estevan, Prince Albert, Saskatoon, or whereever, the next weekend, just because someone liked my profile or just because they sent me 1 email.
I would consider making a 2 hour, 3 hour, or 5 hour drive to meet with the right person, if I'd gotten to know them well online and decided it would be worth the drive to meet them.
I figure that if someone's taken time to get to know me online, and then we decide we want to meet, chances are we've already realised we have something in common, or have, at least, established a friendship. But I'm not wasting my time to drive 4 hours to meet the person who's just messaging everyone on the site and then going on a "date" with the 1st guy to say yes.
I'm aware that there is a few others out there like myself, who may live in smaller towns or rural areas, who want to try to get to know people online because it's our best available option. I realise there's also a few urban dwellers who want to use these sites to get to know people online before meeting, (perhaps people who are busy with work or child-raising? or just not wanting to rush out on dates with the 1st person to message them))
But we do seem to be in a minority, as many people on these sites, (from my observations) seem to only be interested in using the internet as a means of 1st contact, with people living close to them, who they can meet in person immediately.
I don't want to say that anyone doesn't have a right to be here, we all do, but sometimes I wonder why some of these people, who wouldn't be bothered to get to know a person online, are even here? Wouldn't it be just as easy for them to go down to the nearest bar, and take home the 1st person who desperately makes themselves available? | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 5:15:58 PM | | first of all if two certain on here really look at themselves....if a person is not intersted in certain someones maybe they should stop pretenting...no words were ever said...second...you two only put your ideals in your own heads,,, | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 7:29:30 PM | ^^^^
I read that post a couple of times, and I have no idea what it's saying 
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:46:00 AM |
I've had, in the past, people ask me immediately (1 or 2 emails) if I was ever going to be in their town so we could meet.
I have also had this experience on this site...as well as having men, from the same city I live in, tell me point-blank, that they do not wish to chit-chat online forever. One even told me that if I was not prepared to meet within a few days, I was wasting his time. I figure, it is a waste of my time to be rushing off to meet immediately, without any foreknowledge of the person I am meeting. Why should I rush out to meet someone who turns out to be incompatible with myself? If these people are not willing to have patience and take the time to get to know me, through e-mail and IM messages online first, then they are not interested in a serious relationship. Hence, I am not interested in meeting them. I do not wish to rush, headlong, into the first "relationship" that happens to come my way, I am interested in having a relationship with someone who, truly, wants to know who I am....as I am willing to get to know who they are......is that so wrong, in this day and age?? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:04:12 AM | Most of whatever has been said in this thread is true as far as the distance and the rurality (is that a word?).
More and more females in Canada and in Saskatchewan in particular seem to have
a common denominator in their requirements. An awful lot of them say "Live in
Canada" before a person can initiate communication with them. I live 14 miles south of the border in Scobey Montana. I live closer to most of the women than the guys in Canada yet I am not allowed to play.
To paraphrase a well known advertisement on CKRM .. only in Canada, PITY!.
I know there is a snowmobile advertisement that has that exact line in it, but the girl with the glasses ad started it as Regina.
Bill | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 11:54:20 AM | Isn't the purpose of online dating to do some of the 'getting to know you' online? I for one certainly want to know the basics about someone before meeting them. That's why there are instant messengers and emails available.
And no disrespect, dirsup, but sometimes distance isn't the only factor in choosing a person's limitations as to who can contact them. I used to live within 10 miles of the U.S border yet I preferred to date Canadians. It's a preference thing, not disrespect. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 7:19:37 AM |
One even told me that if I was not prepared to meet within a few days, I was wasting his time. I figure, it is a waste of my time to be rushing off to meet immediately, without any foreknowledge of the person I am meeting.
Isn't the purpose of online dating to do some of the 'getting to know you' online? I for one certainly want to know the basics about someone before meeting them. I agree with these 2 comments.
I figure that if someone's going to consider it a "waste of their time" to get to know you, they're likely not worth meeting.
If someone is not prepared to meet me, until they've attempted to ascertain my character, then I don't really think they're wasting my time.
The person who is wasting my time, would be the one who, after 1 email, expects me to drive for a couple hours, just so she can decide after 10 minutes of face-to-face conversation that she's no longer interested; or just to inform me that she's meeting a different guy off here, each night for the next 2 weeks, and maybe after that she'll see me again.
Maybe if I lived in a large city, with numerous local matches, I'd be more acceptable to the idea of random social dates, such as short coffee meetings?
But currently living in a rural area, with few matches (or no matches) in my immediate area, and having to travel to meet anyone, I prefer trying to get to know people online before making that commitment to meet. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 4:23:28 PM |
The person who is wasting my time, would be the one who, after 1 email, expects me to drive for a couple hours, just so she can decide after 10 minutes of face-to-face conversation that she's no longer interested
That can happen no matter how long you talk to someone online, though. But I understand what you're getting at.
or just to inform me that she's meeting a different guy off here, each night for the next 2 weeks, and maybe after that she'll see me again.
That is a definite waste of time regardless of distance... unless you've predetermined before meeting that it's not going anywhere. And as you've already eluded to, if there wasn't a 2 hour trip involved, that kind of meeting might be more acceptable... but not a dating scenario.
With myself... the biggest problem I have with distance is being the father of a young child. When a person doesn't have parental responsibilities, it's easier to remain more open to greater distances. I don't rule out those living in rural areas, but they have to be within an acceptable traveling distance. This doesn't often pose a problem for me personally as many of the women in my age category are in similar situations having to account for children when making these decisions.
What a person wants out of a relationship can also play a large part in such decisions as well. I don't consider seeing a partner once a month (or less) to be a relationship, but some people do. That said, I would probably also rule out someone whose occupation kept them out on the road a lot (especially if it was out of the province and/or the country). | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 5:03:58 PM |
the biggest problem I have with distance is being the father of a young child. When a person doesn't have parental responsibilities, it's easier to remain more open to greater distances. I don't rule out those living in rural areas, but they have to be within an acceptable traveling distance. I guess parenting responsibilities can play a huge factor on how someone aproaches any dating situation.I can understand that.
Earlier in this thread, I'd commented that it is understandable that some people may not desire dating people who live a considerable distance away.
Parenting reponsibilities would certainly be one understandle reason why someone would not be interested in the hassles of dating over a long distance.
One other factor, regarding parents of young children:
I'd also commented earlier, about people not being too willing to get to know a person online.
I've noticed in some instances, a single parent of younger children may be more willing to spend time getting to know a person online first. Often because the demands of parenting may keep the person confined to the house more often. Also, the parent of young children may be more cautious about who they're willing to meet, than a childless person may be. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 6:06:40 PM |
I've noticed in some instances, a single parent of younger children may be more willing to spend time getting to know a person online first. Often because the demands of parenting may keep the person confined to the house more often. Also, the parent of young children may be more cautious about who they're willing to meet, than a childless person may be.
I agree with this. Although my children are all school age, I am home with them 6 evenings per week. I have the time after they are settled at night to communicate online and get to know people. The time that I do have free of my children is precious and I would rather spend it with people that I feel I have things in common with, rather than meeting someone and not knowing how to start a conversation! LOL.
I would hope that those with or without children are "cautious" about who they meet. Certainly, I think I am cautious. I am not sure that is just because I am a parent though. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 4:21:34 PM | All I have to say about this subject is that dating absolutely SUCKS in Saskatchewan!!!   | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 3:44:57 PM | | its impossible to get to know someone on line...meet the person in real and get to know him or her...on line is just lies | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 8:48:56 AM | | I don't believe that at all. Sure some people lie but I still believe that most are genuinely here for the right reasons. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 3:09:22 PM | ^^^^
I'll agree.
I'd like to believe that if anyone's sincere about looking for a relationship, they're not going to deliberately lie to the people they're intending to get to know.
Perhaps a few people do lie, and falsely represent themselves? But if one is able to take a bit of time getting to know people online, and use sound judgement, it will often become apparent when someone is hiding the truth.
Also, the same people who'd intentionally mis-represent themselves online, would likely do the same in person.
If person is lying online, wouldn't it be a total waste of time, to meet that same person offline? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 7:07:24 PM | | Good for you ... I have found out one thing being on-line dating everyone reads better online but how does it look between the lines? Presentation is everything in lol world and nothing in the real one ... I'm going to be patient too... | |
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