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 LovingMyMan
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 1
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I've heard that you shouldn't say thank-you after sex but I thank my bf and he thanks me. My thanks is another why of saying I appriecated what you just do to/for me. I take his thanks as a compliment. What's your opinion??
 B771102
Joined: 2/7/2006
Msg: 2
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Saying Thank-you after sex...
Posted: 11/22/2007 6:57:02 AM
What about something like "That was great, want to go again?"
 paulguy
Joined: 6/29/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/22/2007 6:59:01 AM
i don't see anything wrong with saying it. if that is how you feel, why not.
 LovingMyMan
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/22/2007 6:59:50 AM
I didn't mean that I only ever say thank-you...just want to see what people have to say about saying thank-you
 Euroalex
Joined: 2/20/2007
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:29:41 AM
why it matters?

you say thank you, your partner does the same - it's not forbidden or illegal to say so

whoever thinks what, who cares

it's called Freedom.
 Cunning_linguist
Joined: 10/19/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:29:45 AM
But I thought it was just good manners to say thank you when someone hands you your change and a receipt?
 TenderNSoft
Joined: 5/12/2007
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:42:04 AM
I always say "Thank You" when someone does something for me

Thank you for doing what you just did for me.....mmmm.....WOW now, it's my turn to do something for you.
 Moto Monkey
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:43:43 AM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8291259.aspx
That's another thread about it, no need to thank me. Was it good for you?
 WarmthNpassion
Joined: 7/18/2007
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:44:47 AM
Interesting question because I have noticed that most of my female frends that have dates may get an "I'll call you" but that's about it. I've usually followed up with a short e-mail note or a call afterwards or something. It's not so much a thank you and more like "you're wonderful" kind of thing. My friends usually do not hear much of anything until the guy wants another date. It is a little like a gift so I don't see anything wrong with showing appreciation. (Please, spare me the notes on how it is something shared and not a gift because I unwrap it and it's just want I wanted so "gift" seems to fit the situation.)
 fun45
Joined: 11/17/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:53:54 AM
As a man I think it only good manners to say thank you. As women my partners have always told me not to say thank you. I have never received a good explanation of why I shouldn't but, of course I comply after the first time
 rowdysheis
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/22/2007 7:56:49 AM
Who said you shouldn't say thank you after sex? If you want to thank your partner, by all means, do so. I've said "Thank you! That was wonderful!" or "Thanks, I really needed that!" on more than one occasion and I meant it wholeheartedly.
 eazk
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/22/2007 9:08:13 AM
I think it depends on the context and the people involved.

For example, I had a g/f that really didn't like oral...giving or receiving. However, I loved it. Whenever I could get her to go there, I always felt like afterwards I should say thank you...but I didn't want to say it on that basis because it made it sounded like a debt being paid...which of course it wasn't.

If it is said in absolute appreciation....as Rowdy~ indicated, I think it is perfect.
If it is said as an expression of somebody doing something they don't particularly enjoy...eh, not so good.

Oh...what I learned to say wsa something more along the lines of "...Mmmmm, I really appreciate your enthusiasm and willingness to pleasure me like that. I hope you enjoyed feeling me react to you." IOW, I wanted it to sound less like owed gratitude and more like appreciation for who is she chooses to be

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 Duckman_2
Joined: 5/15/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/22/2007 9:56:36 AM
I usally say you owe me 50 bucks...
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 11/22/2007 10:49:25 AM
Nope, never said, and cannot see ever doing it.
I am pretty sure that my whole being would say it otherwise and the glow would underline it.
 Cunning_linguist
Joined: 10/19/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/22/2007 11:43:12 AM
That might be true, but believe me when I say that holding up score cards EVEN if its a good score goes down far worse than a thank you does,,,,,,
 vahbsc
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/22/2007 11:47:56 AM
it makes it so trivial. like thanks for letting me borrow sugar... i'd say no. just say how good they were...
 AceBugger
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 11/22/2007 2:25:19 PM
I don't use words but just a nice KISS!!!
 4ever_evolving
Joined: 11/18/2007
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Posted: 11/22/2007 2:28:39 PM
I'VE SAID THANK YOU BEFORE AFTER SEX. I THINK IF SOMEONE IS OFFENDED IT MAY BE BECUZ OF PREVIOUS ENCOUNTERS MORESO THAN ANYTHING
 mr. dynomite
Joined: 9/11/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/22/2007 2:34:58 PM
Getting upset over a show of appreciation...


wow... what will they think of next?
 crowmobe
Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/22/2007 3:36:47 PM
hmm cant ever recall if i have but, y not another way to boost the old ego! never hurts!
 seadove
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 21
Saying Thank-you after sex...
Posted: 11/23/2007 8:02:02 PM
The last time I said Thank you,,,,I got a weird look,,,,and he said,,,,I never heard that before. I personally will say thank you,,,because I appreciate YOU/HIM letting me do those things that I do best and because SEX is a very intimate thing,,,,you should be thankful for the blessings that you share.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/23/2007 8:13:40 PM
yeah, i've heard that you shouldn't say it because then it becomes like a business transaction with money involved.... personally i think that's very weird - so i shouldn't say thank you to someone when they bring me a coffee, unless it's a waiter? i shouldn't say thank you to my kids if they draw me a picture? to the person who holds a door for me when my arms are full?

well, if i say thank you for someone who does something so small for me, why wouldn't i thank someone for giving me something so intimate and intense?

nope, just can't see how, "mmmmm thank you.. that was amazing.... c'mere! " as i roll over and grab him again... is insulting..



... you know, the idea of not saying thank you just sparked another in my mind (yeah, i know.. freaky ) ... it's kinda like that old "Love Story" quote of, "Love means never having to say you're sorry"... which is also totally bogus (thanks Bill & Ted ) ... like love/acts of "love" mean that manners should go out the window..
 Barbies Older Sister
Joined: 6/8/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/23/2007 8:31:00 PM
I, too, heard that one should never say "Thank you" after sex, but I'm not sure why. Shoot, I'm grateful, and I have excellent manners. Of course I'm gonna say thanks. Say it if you want to. Who cares what "they" say?!!!
 mommietobe0709
Joined: 7/13/2007
Msg: 24
Saying Thank-you after sex...
Posted: 11/23/2007 10:07:55 PM
Thank You is not a bad saying. Me and my man say it every time we have sex. i say thank you to him, and he says "NO, thank you in his sexy voice. it does just mean that you appreciate what the person is doing or did. i always tell him thank you for doing anything for me or to me. there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. it's just polite.
 eazk
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/23/2007 10:09:42 PM
Great Answer, SeaDove~...that captures it so nicely.

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