| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/19/2005 4:27:48 PM | | I don't know just what the deal is, almost every woman that has mailed me on this site is just out for sex. I'm a guy and yes I like sex too but hell I do want more than just that. Whats the deal???? | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/19/2005 5:19:07 PM | You mean there are women on here just looking for sex? Sorry if I sound surprised. No offence men, but I thought men were the only ones. Well, I don't consider a day good unless I learn something, that is my lesson today!!! I guess it makes sense as we have needs too. I am at the stage of the game where I just want to meet a fella that wants MORE then that. If all I wanted was sex I'd just go downtown on any given night, have a few to drink and head home with someone.
So, to answer your question cowboy, I for one am looking for more then just sex.
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/19/2005 5:29:42 PM | | omg...what an interesting role-reversal. well now, that blows my gender-stereotyping all to hell, jk...there are a lot of nice people that i've met who haven't brought up the subject of sex, and the "block user" comes in handy for anyone else... | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/19/2005 5:31:48 PM | honestly, I want more than just sex. I've been single for a year or so now. since last boyfriend, and masturbation gets lonely. So I had all the sex I needed.
So if it's all about just sex, they have stores for that. | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/19/2005 6:25:47 PM | | Well HONESTLY now...I think there are alot of WOMEN looking for more than just SEX...I know I am, was, and will continue to keep looking for more than just SEX...i will keep hoping to find someone worth my time, and well once I am comfortable with them as a friend, we can move beyond that and he may have my body as well...BUT I WILL NOT JUMP INTO BED with anyone... | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 5:11:46 AM | cowboy,
Just open those beautiful eyes of yours, and really look....it's kinda like not being able to see the forest for the trees, ya know?? And right now, it sounds like you got some bad trees...look beyond those to a beautiful forest, ok? | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 5:20:03 AM | | Hey "Cowboy" (which means what? that you pump gas or drive a truck?).... maybe you want somebody who's dumb enough not to know your FOS? How do you get your Bicep SO BIG ??? is it becasue your pushing it up with your hand ?? anyone smart enough to log onto their system can see that you're a manipulator... first with your stream, then with your picture... oh yeah....and that you're a "Cowboy".... go get 'em tiger ! | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 6:45:51 AM | | Nope, not just sex. I want the "full meal deal"! I want the loving relationship, and I want it to mean more than just getting "laid". I have waited 36 years for sex, what's a few more years to find my best friend for life...It will be much more special than to just give it up to a whore... | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 7:00:50 AM | | New Beginnings....you will be waiting alot longer than 36 years if you keep using words to describe women like that on a dating website. Trashy or not....spare the rest of us women the "endearing" terms. | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 7:12:46 AM | Is this reverse psychology oregon_cowboy? You know by saying I just want a
decent girl to have a serious relationship with to get all the women crawling out
of the woodwork? I mean I may be a little cynical and I apologize if you are truly
being straight with us and I know not all guys just want sex but I haven't known
many to refuse free hand outs. All I know is that for a smart guy to get sex sooner
all he has to say is just let me know when your ready (believe me guys if you want
to get laid this works). Nothing is more desirable than a guy who doesn't paw you
on the first date and spends the time to get to know you so if this is truly what
you are looking for and your a sane person, I'm sure you will find what you are
looking for.  | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 7:41:25 AM | well, i am definately looking for more than just sex... don't get me wrong, i enjoy making love very much (who doesn't!), but i think it should be something special shared between 2 people who care for each other... plus, there is more to a relationship that that... just my 2 cents!!
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:06:07 AM | I think sites like this are catch-alls for people on the net so you get all kinds.Its my observation that many even mean different things even when discussing types of relationships,even the word relationship and the phrase "just sex".For some it seems a FWB is a realtionship with MORE than just sex but no design for commitment.For many of THEM "just sex" is a term used for 1 night stands and FB's(f**kbuds).
It takes 2 to tangle, men AND women are involved.I tend to believe that women and men over 25 cannot claim to be victims if the same things keep occuring to them(outside of propositions).The SERIAL victim is a willing victim.Now,this is different from those who've been victimized a time or two and as result complain abut the disparity in numbers of men and women who are looking for "more" than FWB's,more than FB's,more than 1 nighters and more than players of any type from those who are.
I think a key here is again the word "looking".It seems that since to some it isn't "pc" to say one is looking, many of course don't,still ACTIONS speak louder than words as the saying goes.I think that someone who is in a FWB,FB relationship but says they want more may WANT more but aren't really trying as the man on the corner pandhandling for money for wine, may very well WANT to be sober,WANT to be a millionaire but but isn't really trying for either at THAT time. In a large sense those who say they are "looking" for more but are in a relationship of any KIND(FWB,FB,1nighters) are cheats because they stack the deck.This is true regardless of gender.
Those who are not a part of "the game" are few and far between online or off,but particularly online.Online it seems the majority of people men and woman may say in profile the "pc" thing about "looking for more" but 75% of them are involved in something else and/OR are serial victims(multiple/many FWB,FB,1nighters,played). Just my thoughts on the topic  | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:10:33 AM | Hehe. I don't buy it. Sure I don't doubt that maybe he has gone on a date or two with someone from here and it ended up in bed - that happens. But to believe that a vast majority of Portland women are looking to get laid by some countrified dude with a cheesy barbed-wire tattoo (no offense guy, but those type of tattoos are more cliche than white trash with mullets) only reflects negatively on the caliber of Portland women.
I agree with Redamber on this, it smacks much more of someone attempting to gain exposure while hoping to make themselves seem desirable.
Hey I may be wrong though, maybe the women of Portland are sex-fiends (in which case I'm packing up my video camera and going on a road trip).
Oh, hey redamber, some girls disagree with you. I've been told by many girls that they can't stand guys who leave it up to the girl, and that they would rather have a guy who takes initiative. Who knows huh?
Personally, I like it when you're out somewhere with the woman in your life and she leans over to you and whispers, "lets go home, I want you to **** to my ***** while I ***** all over your ***** and then stick ***** up ******. And then we can have lunch." | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:21:21 AM | I agree with catch me on this one. Maybe because I'm getting tired of New Beginnings belabouring the point that he's a 36 year old virgin who's greatest hobby is shooting large slow moving animals (If I gave any credibility to Freud, I'd really wonder at that one).
New Beginnings: if a woman is willing and interested in having sex without being in love with someone, that does not make her a whore. Considering that you are 36 and have never had sex with a woman who loved you or otherwise, I think it would be wise of you to not make generalizations about things of which you do not know. And yeah, Catchme is right, if you walk around thinking that women who are "sexually liberated" (hahah) as whores, then you're probably going to be a 46 year old virgin in ten years.
Unless of course you were talking about whores as in those lovely ladies of the street corners, vending machines of sexual gratification. In which case, my guess is that they may be your only recourse for sex if you keep on bi.tching about being a virgin ALL THE TIME.
Seriously buddy, how many posts on this website deal with you whining about your virginity and how you must lose it someone you love? You're just shooting yourself in the foot, because I can't think of anyone (woman or man) who would be turned on by that enough to even go on a date with you, let alone fall in love over the course of a year. If losing your virginity means that much to you, go get a hooker. If being in love means that much to you, then stop fu.cking complaining about being a virgin, start looking for someone without any consideration of whether or not you may fall in love and/or lose your virginity. For most everyone, love just kind of happens, it's not something you force, or something that you can hunt down and capture. | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:40:38 AM |
Oh, hey redamber, some girls disagree with you. I've been told by many girls that they can't stand guys who leave it up to the girl, and that they would rather have a guy who takes initiative. Who knows huh? (I'm trying this quote thing for the first time so if it doesn't work I'm inept)
Sorry I should be more specific. When a guy doesn't pursue sex or take the initiative
it makes the girl more hornier because it's the chase. Most of us prefer the guy to make the first move but we still want what we can't have. For instance I have had friends who have dated guys (or maybe it's just the same guy?) and they use the old line of I take kissing seriously and I don't want to do it until it feels right so what does she want to do even though she herself doesn't like to rush things? She wants to grab him a kiss him! On top of that, she is going crazy wondering when is he going to kiss me? When guys say they like to wait for sex (whether it's a line or not) it makes him all the more desirable. I mean most girls have had a guy(s) pressure them for sex and it's a turn off. | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:47:31 AM | Hello
Just a quick one.......... i am not on here looking to have sex.... now thats shocked ya............in fact i don't no really why i am here?.......... to learn and help others maybe have a laugh in the mean time!............ oo and of course i love to flirt!
So heres one women that doesn't want sex!.......... mind you the thoughts nice | |
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| Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:59:08 AM | Redamber, I agree with you. And regarding the above post about loving when the woman in your life talks dirty to you, remember, that's a woman that's *already* in your life. There's the difference. Guys, if you're trying to establish yourself with a woman, hanging back and being respectful doesn't mean not doing anything. It means flirting, holding hands, huging, kissing. You can take the initiative on that. But realy, give a woman some time before you try to get naked with her, and chances are she'll grab you and take the control herself once you've given her an obvious green light like a kiss.
New Beginnings, yes, that's whiney about being 36 and a virgin. It smacks of deperation and will turn off most women. You are not the only old virgin that has ever existed. My dad was 37 and a virgin when he met my mom, and now they have been married 30 years and had two kids. It just happens, if you stop focusing on it, whining about it, and just get on with the rest of your life.
Mack, it's cruel when shallow people make a hobby of writing nasty letters to people they find unattractive. I get the odd one myself, but they're far outweighed by the admiring letters. The thing is, your photos are completely unflattering. Go outside where the light is good, do something you like to do so your smile is genuine, and yes, *actually smile*, look at the camera, and take the photo from eye level.
I really hate seeing men's photos taken too close up or too far away, or from too high or low, with a deadpan or aggressive expression, in poor light, and with a cigarette hanging out of his mouth. You don't have to be a professional photographer, but do be aware that if your picture is poorly taken, you'll look bad and you won't get much response. | |
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