| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 8:35:18 AM | | You don't know them, they live a million miles away, they may even have a spouse or SO, but you find them very attractive both in body and mind. You know you will never ever meet except on here in the forums. They are strangers but in a way you do get to know them because they are telling you (and everyone else) personal information. With each and everything they say you become more enchanted. This is someone you could love but will never meet. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 8:41:18 AM | short answer... no
because its generally make believe in your head kind of love reading a post... maybe moved.... but nothing more. The internet medium is lacking in what real life conversing has to offer above just plain text. A person's full expression is what will definitely make me feel like i have been smitten lol.
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 8:42:15 AM | There are a couple of men here on POF, whose posts I LOVE. Just the right mixture of humor, wisdom and charm. But what stands out about these two men is that they show emotion, they talk about their feelings and their life experience and as you read their posts you actually feel their feelings and for me their posts actually help me better relate and understand men. Smittened indeed | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 8:50:30 AM |
With each and everything they say you become more enchanted.
And then, by some strange chance you have an opportunity to meet in real life ... and it is then when you find out that she sounds like Mickey Mouse when she speaks, when she laughs it's a weird kind of snorting sound, and she has the most horribly offensive BO ever ... enough to knock you off your feet.
You're projecting your fantasies onto nothing more than a handful of electrons my friend. Why is it .. that which is unattainable is made all the more desirable simply because IT IS unattainable. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 8:58:19 AM | Smitten....yeah...there are a number whom, if and when I travel to their area for any reason I will contact them and ask if we can satisfy our mutual intrigue...to put some body language and sound to the words.
But it's not just an admire from afar thing...if I see somebody I'm really interested in from their words, their posts, etc., I'll kick off an email saying so...and conversely, I've received quite a few initial hellos. With some the dialogue is ongoing. My problem is that almost all of them are in Canada or the Pacific Northwest.
I think what is more amazing is how many incredible women are not being recognzed as such and subsequently swept off the market.
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 9:19:34 AM | Smitten
hehehe....i like that word!
interested, intriqued and yeah i guess smitten as well.
there are some people here that are really great at getting their point across in a well-written, very provocative way.
but alas; then i come to realize that i'm enchanted my their words moreso than them. :) | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 9:21:07 AM |
I think what is more amazing is how many incredible women are not being recognzed as such and subsequently swept off the market.
I so agree. There are a few woman on here that on a scale of 0 to 10, are like 1000 ... Their beautiful. smart, charming, witty, sexy.... Seems they would be in the dating pool under a week before so many men fell to her feet and she picked one and was not looking anymore. Yet, they remain available. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 9:54:09 AM | but you find them very attractive both in body and mind.
IMO, you find them attractive because they are happy in their skin and their mind-set is clear. They don't mind baring body & mind on forums ... giving little snippets of their liking, dreams, but also their past that should be firmly swept under the carpet but yet, we all are humans afterall, regardless the gender, so what is there to hide or be ashamed of?!
This is someone you could love but will never meet.
I beg to differ here. Click on SUCCESS STORIES and exceptions to the rule are there on display.
Are we so "deep rooted" already? Hmmm ... I think OP that behind your statement is "the wall" you've built and you stick to it unless the earth under your feet shakes you up. And it doesn't have to be a highheeled hurricane to cause the tremors  | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 10:03:57 AM | Not since they outlawed nude pics. Oh, for the good old days.
There are a few women on this POF thing, this pale blue sleeve where hearts are worn, who exceed all of my needs with regard to love and a re-, re-, a re-, getting along. It's all there in one great package, promising enduring happiness. But I don't get smitten. Not without those all-important nude photos which have been banned. I guess you could say, maybe not so much smitten as smutten. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 10:06:37 AM | I agree with puppet master. There are a few people that post and exhibit such intelligence and passion. One thing I've come to appreciate over the years is the vast amount of interesting people you meet. Some people just have so much insight to offer, that you wish you could sit down and pick their brain for hours. On this website I have found that those people are to be found right here. The best thing about people with life experience and worldly knowledge is they are alway willing to share it with anyone willing to really listen. When it's a woman that I would be attracted to under other circumstances, then yes, smitten is exactly the word I would use.
Warmth, the reason these women remain available is because they are the ones who have a fulfilling life and are looking for someone to complement them, not just fill the void. For them, the void doesn't really exist. The kicker is that these are the women that we all want; they don't follow convention and as such are more desirable. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:26:50 PM | Yes, I have been smitten by the someone's posts.
I think it's a case of 'falling in love with the words'. Words can be very seductive. It's a rare instance where it can become anything more than a crush.
In my case, it seems to happen when I am most emotionally vulnerable. Usually it's on the heels of a crash of what I, mistakenly, thought was a promising romance. In some ways, I think it's safer and easier to fall in love with words. People hurt you. The words you love, can't.
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 2:31:39 PM | My feeling is, if he can't seduce me with his written words, it's not gonna happen period.
IRL, it's invariably the sound of his voice from across the room. A quality of mind: that word-nerd precision. Techie, handy, bookworm types. Someone conversant with his own thoughts.
These are the only guys who ever intrigue me. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 4:19:50 PM | On another site, I have found well spoken people that I felt attracted to. Maybe it will happen here, too? Communicating well is important, and something most of us strive for. So I think I'll start participating in these posts a lot more often on POF and who knows, maybe someone will become smitten with me?  | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 4:53:47 PM |
Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
not at all.
I think it's delusional to get feelings over someone because of a pic and a few posts.
There's always the chance that when u meet them, they aren't that same person or you could have misread their posts as sarcasm or just an act.... or maybe it's cut and paste and not even their words? | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/25/2007 6:41:13 PM | Smitten, not yet. Appreciative, respectful, admiration... perhaps. Even for those few I keep an eye out for another post. Typically I will check their profile out and see if/where else they have posted, trying to get a deeper insight into their mind and thinking. Then again, I've only been active in the forums for about 1+ weeks... so I may still get smitten ;).
I think I agree with both sides of the argument. I believe that if I can't be "attracted" or become smitten by what the person is saying/typing... if he can't express himself very well... then I am not as interested. Meanwhile, it is also realistic that what you see is not what you get... at least, at first. The more and more the person posts, the more and more you get to know them... and their thoughts. If they are "acting"... or "cutting and pasting" someone else's words... it will usually come out in the wash.. well IMO anyways.
I do believe, even though there aren't any body language and nuances through the electronic medium... that you can still get a very good idea of some people's personalities. It is in there... in their post... where they put the smile, where the ACCENTUATE various words or IDEAS in order to add meaning or emphasis on what they are saying. Throw in some... pauses... or even a comma, or two, in the correct spot .. and it CAN seem like you are actually there with them, within their mind, hearing them speak.
And no, that isn't coming from me after only 1+ week on the forums. I may be new here.. but not to the net on the whole.
In any case, it can be VERY appealing in reading what someone wrote - particularly if they think in a fashion akin to yourself. | |
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/29/2007 3:24:48 PM | Its me OP isnt it- give it up- I know its
me. Its always me and its all about me.
Mr. Dynomite- I saw a thread that eventually got deleted
by someone who was real smitten by you!!-LOL!!!
Smitten - that is such a cute word and yes you can become
very attracted to the written word here. You can meet them
you know, magic does sometimes happen.
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| Ever gotten smitten over a man/woman because of their posts?
Posted: 11/30/2007 4:27:03 PM | | Sure, and then I read their profile, and find out that they are NOT looking, or for some reason or other are NOT a match, and it's like, DAMN, another one bites the dust. But then you hope they become at least friends. I've never been "smitten" back by someone whose words I was "smitten" with. Hmmm, maybe intrigued is the better word for it. | |
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