| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/25/2007 9:41:51 PM | Wow I fill like some kind of cyber stocker I went on a date day yesterday It was great I meet what I consider a wonderfully person well it seemed that way at first, Life is been hard for the most part a lot of dating but not finding the right person. Well any way back to the date I meet some person on line We saw America gangster I spent 7 hours with her I liked her She was all most to good to be true. She lives in JO and has a good job and a nice place, So after I took her out to eat I asked her if you don't like me let me know now so I can take you home, (K I was trying to be cheep and not take her to the show if she was going to never talk to me like most people over the Internet do after the first date) So she gave me the go ahead for the show, She held me hand and acted like she like me we talked for hours on end even before the show, so after the show I figure she wanted to go home! No she still wanted to hang out with me I was thinking this must be a good sign, For once after having a run of bad luck for a long time it seamed my luck started to change. So the next day passed I kind of figure I was texting her to much. I know one should act hard to get. But ya know I like her, and I figured she had to like me after spending 7 hours with me! So after texting her for the better part of the day I of course having a great date the night before I wanted to see her! So she told me I could come over so I went to red box and got some moves I even downloaded some stuff for her mac. (yes I know macs suck) but that not the point. So wean it came time for me to come over I got a text saying my best friend made plans and I cant come over. I was ok with that I was a bit upset I had just gone out and gotten some moves to see with her, But you know friends are important I would hope god forbid if I had to brake plans with some one that would understand shit happens! So any way she side she would text me and call me well I never got a call. I figure she was doing stuff. So hours came and went I kept ed staring at my cell phone hopping for a call that would never come, so i was a little upset so I called and sent a text, Noting as I figured I called her to many times I guess I was to pushy like normal and ran her off, or told her my life history and that Did it for me, So I was board and figured what the hay let me run her user name in a few search engines, Boy o boy do I wish I had not done that now I found she had joined some kind of text cell phone blog thing it took me a bit to figure it out but I found her and gess what I read
Nov 25, 2007 at 5:37 PM
Had a good Thanksgiving, parents were hilarious, they went on and on about this new coffee they purchased and made me drink two cups.. I guess they didn't make me, ha.
Finally got all the Christmas lights up, I have one strand of gay twinkly ones I will have to stick somewhere.
Met another dude and finally got to go to the movies. American Gangster was awesome, not so sure about the dude. A person can only say "So....." so much, ha.
About to go stuff my self with more turkey and trimmings, yum bunnies!
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I don't think the dude knows he's annoying the shit out of you. I'd give it another shot. I guess.
So bottom line it looks like she told her friend I " annoying the shit out of you" so figure how she looks at me now after a day of calling and texting her, Boy do I fill like shit But I guess I had it coming that
what I get for trying to better my self Trying to find people to care about! So once more Back into the fold I go only to get hurt once more. So what have I learned The Internet is a good and bad thing it looks like it saved me from being hurt in the long run So thanks mr ISP. Now all I have to do is stop the filling like I had my heart riped out of my chest stomped on and but back in. Buy hay you know what they say what ever dose not kill you makes you stronger right! I just fill dead in side right now lol But time heals all wounds it was just 1 date right? | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/25/2007 9:56:16 PM | OPie ~~ *She's* just a dinner ho. In this case a movie ho. Sorry about that -- you did your best. See if you can't move on. Life is good, really it is. Just takes a bit of practice.
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| Cyber *Stalker* with a broken heart
Posted: 11/25/2007 10:00:03 PM | Yep, it was just one date, you can move on.
And perhaps it would be a good idea not to text or call so much next time. Once or twice in the first 72 hours is really sufficient. It's not that you want to play hard to get, it that you don't want to appear desperate.
Oh, and cyber stalking, especially after the first date, is not considered flattery. I'm sure you knew that, but I thought I'd throw it out there anyway.
Good luck with the next one! | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:50:21 AM | that sucks... what a rotten thing to do to you...
like you said, at least it was just 1 date and you found out in time to stop her from taking advantage of you again...
better luck next time ;) | |
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| Cyber *Stalker* with a broken heart
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:52:49 AM | Sorry OP this happened but aren't you happy you read it, now you know how she thinks and feels, I would say it has nothing to do with you so don't take it too personal, Be thankful you were a gentleman, bought her the nice dinner, movie etc, One thing she can't say is you were a cheepo, if she wasn't bashing you it would likely be another dinner dude.
They are not all like that. | |
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| Cyber *Stalker* with a broken heart
Posted: 11/26/2007 3:11:29 PM | IMO you should leave an anonymous comment on her blog saying she should give the guy a chance, she could be passing up something really great.
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/28/2007 12:07:12 AM | | I just wanted to say thanks for all the support She did end up calling that night hours latter, We talked and the day after that to. But I went back to her blog 1 last time to check it out. I'm not going to post what I saw there is not point its worse than the others stuff that was posted before. I was upset that she was even wanting to talk to me after posting stuff like that. so I called her up and in a very nice way and Told her I did not want to see her any more Because of what I read . It kind of sucks One never knows what could have been, But if I did not say some thing I would have felt like I was selling my self out. and setting my self up for a "I don't thank this is going to work" down the road. I think for the most part She must have mixed filling about the hole thing I mean I guess that would freak me out thats why I called the post Cyber Stocker with a broken heart , But all in all I would like to point out that her blog was public if she did not want me to read it she should not have posted it So i guess any one reading this there are a lot of people that will look on the Internet and if you don't want some one to read what you think about them don't post it, | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/28/2007 1:05:59 AM | Oh my goodness!!! Way too needy!!! Too many calls and texts! Next time talk, go on your date, and let her have a chance to determine if she wants to do it again before
overwhelming her!!!  | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/28/2007 1:19:01 AM | | She probably wanted to appear like you were at her desire's whim to her friends who read her blog, and that caused the discrepancy. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 11/28/2007 1:48:21 AM | | Chin up brother, you win some you lose some. Maybe take the advice for what it's worth and try saying "so" less. Thought that can't be the only reason it didn't click. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/7/2008 10:59:37 PM | BOP,
this was ONE and i repeat ONE DATE...
There was so much checking, texting, calling, talking, discussing, thinking , looking at the phone, searching the web, cheching up on her...#^%$&^%&*&
Are you for real?
NOTE to self:
*don't give own number but take his
*first date keep it between 1-2hrs. max
*remind him that I'm only meeting him and not marrying him if i consent to this date.
Dear God!!!
P.s
Broken Heart-------let me tell you something...save $$$$$ for psych. sessions
Listen some of us just need a good slap in the face to wake up and stop being so ridiculous... If this was your long term or fiance or wife fine,.. heck even if you dated her ... i'd understand.... ONE DATE...
 (pisses me off...cause it makes me feel guilty for hurting him... but trully sorry for meeting ya... i'll stay away next time.. i didnt know you were going to think we are married already)...
Ok.. fine i'll admit im taking it out on OP, just because i had this happen to me twice before... after ONE DATE .... as well... and oooo man.... ITS CRAZY SH*T!!!! | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:11:19 PM | Awww you got punked, the girl was bored, obviously had nothing better to do that day thats' why she stuck around for 7 hours, she wanted to see the movie, and didnt want to pay for it herself, wanted to be a cost freee princess for the day and u were the lucky bachelor who made her day. Some guys these days are just too nice.
Just think of it as playing the lottery, you gotta pay if you wanna win. Some people play $50 and some only play $2, either way you're not going to win unless you're lucky. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:29:48 PM | | i didn't read anything that you wrote, the first few sentences were painful enough. you need to invest in some form of spell check. i won't even touch the grammar, one thing at a time... | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:48:34 PM | | Good grief! This guy admits that after ONE DATE he tells her his life story, calls and texts constantly, and even admits to being pretty much a cyber stalker. I don't know if the majority of people here are just feeling pity because he can't spell as good as the average 5 y/o or what, but this guy needs to get a grip, get a life, and perhaps get some counseling!!! Glad there are some who see what he did was creepy/wrong!!!! | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:38:33 AM | Don't be dramatic - you asked, you got your answers (by snooping, and that's okay because you weren't getting reception or communication from the other end - so you actually did something good, kind of, by doing that ... you heard it from the horses mouth) ... HOWEVER it was only one date. Don't let one **** ruin it for you or the next person you go on a date with.
For a next first date, may I suggest that you try a cup of coffee? Or dutch? After all, it is a getting to know you kind of thing, and you can't do that in the dark in a movie theater ... | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:49:27 AM | You should've known better to never treat a chic...
Whatcha should've done is asked her to get down or lay down...
Best advice treat them like they're supposed to be treated like... Sshit. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:57:59 AM | that was funny... painful but funny... ALL MEN TAKE NOTE.... BEYONCE AND DESTINY CHILD CREATED A SONG CALLED "BUG-A-BOO"... THATS A MAN who calls and bugs a woman once they meet because he really wants to get with her...
STOP IT.... NO WOMAN WANTS TO BE BOTHERED BY A MAN THAT THEY DONT EVEN HAVE ANY TIES/RELATIONSHIP TO.... REMEMBER NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU CARE ABOUT HER AND HOW GREAT THE DATE WAS , THATS HOW YOU FELT...NOT HER... CHECK YOUR FEELINGS UNTIL YOU GOT SOME SURE FIRE SIGNS OR ANSWERS... AND EVEN THEN DONT LET YOUR GUARD DOWN. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:00:36 AM | | BY THE WAY.... RUN YO TYPINGS AND BLOGS THROUGH A SPELL CHECK HOMIE..... YOU ARE A HORRIBLE WRITER ... IM JUS SAYIN.. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:01:41 AM | OP, those initial feelings one gets when you first meet somebody you are attracted to can be really intense, but you came on waaaaaaaaay too strong, too soon. You scared her off and she bolted.
I met a local guy on here when I first joined a couple of years ago. At first, it was just friendly chitchat back and forth. Then, I gave him my phone number. He would call me sometimes more than ten times a day if he knew I was working from home. I told him to quit because he was tying up my phone lines.
I did end up having one date with him and it was a nightmare. He drank too much, tried getting far more intimate than I was comfortable with, told me he loved me, and then cried when I would not say it back.
After that date, we just stopped communicating because I did not want to give him the impression that there was going to be anything further between us. It also completely turned me off of dating.
A couple of months ago, he resurfaced and began contacting me again. He had saved my email address and was contacting me there looking to start fresh. I told him no. He made a new profile and was contacting me here. Again, I told him no. He would change his profile repeatedly, put up new ones without pictures, and still contact me.
I finally had to be very rude with him, which I hate doing, but I felt it had gone on long enough and needed to be stopped. Now, when a local guy with no pic on his profile says hello to me, I always wonder if it's him again.
Nobody needs or wants somebody who comes across as too needy early in the relationship. It's a bit creepy. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:06:29 AM | 1....how did she hurt you? She said she wasnt sure about you....who is sure about anyone after a first date??
2...You admit yourself that you were calling and texting her WAY to much. Which in my book is VERY ANNOYING!!..
one text saying...."had a great time last night..can I call you sometime" would have been perfect
3...I find it kind of strange that you had nothing else to do with your time then to sit in front of search engines trying to check up on his girl...very creepy indeed!! You should have sat and watched those movies you rented instead.
You are your own worst enemy!!!!!!
One doesnt have to read between the lines to k now you have self esteem issues..Perhaps you should consider working on those before you think about a relationship where you drag another person into it...
I am suprised that you didnt admit to doing drive bys at her house, to see if she was there and who she was there with. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:10:09 AM | | Don't invest too much in one date. I don't mean money, or time, (yet they matter) but emotions. First dates are best kept simple and honest. Empower the KISS rule. Keep It Simple Stupid ! And keep your expections grounded. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:50:04 AM | OMG after one date this thread is posted in the Broken Hearts forum????
Hate to see where he would post it after two dates! Suicide is Painless Forum....
Get a grip, get a life, and please OP get spell check................. | |
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| Cyber Stocker with a broken heart
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:58:20 AM | just as I thought after reading this thread, you're a Level 5 Clingy Wilnot, yikes
Im surprised she has made a beeline to the next state to avoid you.
Of course we are only getting your side of the story but Im betting you were really clingy, wimpy and were annoying the hell out of her, now she should of had the decency to tell you but I suspect she was trying not to hurt your feelings and then you pull this stunt.
I wouldn't be surprised if she threatens you with a restraining order after the stunt you pulled, buddy you need to work on your issues, if you don't you will either end up in the Wack ward or on Maury or Jerry. | |
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