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 firefly202
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 1
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?Page 1 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
What is with guys now days? Ten minutes after you start talking to them they start making references to sex or how they like tits etc. Why cant we sorta get to know each other a little first before that comes into the conversation?
 Bluezzz
Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 2
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 2:41:41 PM
It's really hard to answer this when we know nothing of the previous 10 minutes worth of conversation. Was there a lull? Had there been some flirting and sexual innuendo going on before? Was the conversation going one way and then BAM, he changed it to sex or tits?

We really don't have a lot to go on here...



Bluezzz
 WonkaBar
Joined: 2/3/2006
Msg: 3
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 2:57:57 PM
Much like I said in another thread,


It's the modern equivalent of the dirty creep wearing nothing but a raincoat... but the difference is, online you can't pepper-spray him because you can't even find out who he is. A lot of these clowns don't care if you're into it. I'd wager a lot of them aren't even looking for a hookup. They get off on the fact that you got bent out of shape over them forcing their inappropriate behavior on you. If you huff "well, I never!", they've won. If you get so tweaked that you come here to rant against guys who have nothing to do with it (IE, nearly everyone reading your post in 'Ask a Guy') then they've just won gonzo points in the Lame Game.
 firefly202
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 4
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 2:59:55 PM
No we were just talking normal ,about our kids,exs how long single,that sort of stuff and then little by little it starts to change and go in the other direction.About hes a lover,blah blah blah,and then if you tell them lets not go in that direction ,they dont much to say after that.
 beerbag
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 5
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 2:59:58 PM
tits and sex are great, some of my favorite interests. I figure women have experience in at least one of the two so rather than talking about hockey I choose topics they can relate too.
It's all about leaving the lines of communication open.
 kevinmach
Joined: 3/29/2007
Msg: 6
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:01:51 PM
I don't speak for everyone, but in general...

This is dating site, and eventally, that's where most of us are hoping to end up-with an intimate relationship-guys and girls. How soon it gets there depends on the people involved. I've had girls go there in the first 10 minutes, and some who rarely seem to go there after I've talked to for weeks or months.

At the same time, there are no shortage of people who are looking for things to happen to quickly, and are only out for themsevles.

It's really just a process you have to weed through-it's really no more complicated than that.
 psssst
Joined: 6/4/2007
Msg: 7
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:02:30 PM
I figure it's cause they don't have either one... which begs the question, Why don't they want to talk about brains?

 MrVitamix
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/28/2007 3:03:15 PM
on a dating site, it's going to be a subject of interest- just like in church we talk about god and jesus,in dating we talk about sex and other dating commodities, when go to a restuarant I talk about what they have to eat.
hope that explains things better ;)
 Mafiachixrule
Joined: 5/4/2007
Msg: 9
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:07:25 PM
Well~ according to non-scientific studies, this is how it goes on PoF.

Men’s Top Ten Favorite Conversation Topics

1. Sex
2. Romantic fantasies
3. Hobbies/interests in general
4. Hopes and aspirations
5. Music
6. Dreams
7. Movies
8. Entertainment
9. Vacations
10. Travel

Men’s Top Ten Least Favorite Conversation Topics

1. Past relationships
2. Other dates
3. Celebrities
4. Religion
5. Politics
6. Antiques
7. Money
8. Fashion
9. Gardening
10. Marriage

 mr. dynomite
Joined: 9/11/2007
Msg: 10
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:07:25 PM

....you can't pepper-spray him because you can't even find out who he is. I'd wager a lot of them aren't even looking for a hookup. They get off on the fact that you got bent out of shape over them forcing their inappropriate behavior on you. If you huff "well, I never!", they've won.



Bingo!!
 firefly202
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 11
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:16:19 PM
I haven't been in this dating scene very long but I can keep up with any subject,no matter where its going.I am not a prude ,not by a long shot.
So what Iam hearing from all of you is that this is normal IM conversations on a dating site and that I should not think too much of it.Am I right?Cause I can talk about sex all nite long ,but I did not want the guy to think I was some cyber slut and I talk dirty to every guy I meet on here.Just looking for some pointers on how a lady is to carry on a conversation with a man nowdays.I am not saying all you guys do this either.
 psssst
Joined: 6/4/2007
Msg: 12
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:20:41 PM

So what Iam hearing from all of you is that this is normal IM conversations on a dating site and that I should not think too much of it.Am I right?
No... this isn't normal.


Cause I can talk about sex all nite long ,but I did not want the guy to think I was some cyber slut and I talk dirty to every guy I meet on here.
Why not discuss something that you are comfortable with?


Just looking for some pointers on how a lady is to carry on a conversation with a man nowdays.
Read a book on etiquette... it's still valid to many people today, on and off the internet...

Cheers...
 inertiacoupling
Joined: 10/31/2007
Msg: 13
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:27:36 PM
Don't include me in this generalization.
For some reason, I've never needed to talk about "sex and tits" so I can get better acquainted with a woman I've just met.
So I guess I can't offer you any answer to your question.
 stephenlikesto
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 14
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Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:38:48 PM
Really! If this was the really the case then this would be a redudant thread. Either that or it's you.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 15
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:59:33 PM
A more important question is: why do men ask the OTHER women about sex and tits after ten minutes? I NEVER get that from men. Pick better men to speak with...

Stupid men and their treating me with the respect I demand, I just don't get it.
 fouthempire
Joined: 9/30/2007
Msg: 16
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 4:04:04 PM
I've never talked about tits or sex to the women I've met here. It's not men; it's the men who you're talking to.



Actually I have brought up sex. I ask them the last time they had sex. And I ask this to see if they are taken or not. The women I've talked to here seem to say they had sex within the last 3 months. I haven't had sex once this year.

Personally I wouldn't want to get involved with someone who's had sex so recently. There are probably lingering vestiges from the previous boyfriend.

If nothing else, at least I can honestly say I am in no way, shape or form involved, taken or dating a woman right now. I'd hope to find someone who can say the same also.
 MrVitamix
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 17
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 4:10:10 PM
talk about brains? lex luther would talk about brains, I could care less if she has tasty brains. I dont plan to eat her brains
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 4:12:40 PM
I actually like to talk about politics or to just joke around about whatever .
I like to have sex , not so much just talking about it... It seems kind of childish to me .

I think the reason so many guys want to talk about sex so much , is because they just want a bit of a cheap thrill on here.
It gets pretty boring playing the virtual games where you mail endlessly and chatting and playing on the merry-go-round .
I think that guys don't take this internet dating too seriously about actually meeting someone real and having a date .....so they just get a quick and cheap thrill.
 nigelwright
Joined: 3/24/2007
Msg: 19
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 4:14:21 PM
Why not be upfront about what you want ?

Why beat about the bush ?
 Moto Monkey
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 20
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 4:23:57 PM
The reason I always start talking about sex and tits is because I am a man. As you know, we always do that. I would not do it except it it what is expected of me. If it was up to me I would always start talking about motorcycles and the good old days.
 DJ_Surreal
Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 21
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 4:29:56 PM
Men are "always" thinking about sex, according to researchers at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University. By that they meant that 54 percent of men think about sex several times a day, compared with just 19 percent of women, they wrote in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Scientists.

Think that's a lot? It's nothing if neuropsychiatrist Dr. Louann Brizendine, author of "The Female Brain," is correct. She writes in her book that men think about sex every 52 seconds, while women tend to think of it just once a day. If men are thinking about sex more frequently than once a minute, how do they get any work done?

Blame it on a society that is bombarded with subconscious erotic images. ABC News reports that researchers at the University of Minnesota concluded that sexy subliminal images competed for attention in the human brain even when those images were not right in front of the person's eyes. Weirdly, most people are not even consciously aware of them!
 dproberts
Joined: 9/19/2007
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Posted: 11/28/2007 4:36:27 PM
That was about 10 minutes right? So...about those....


LOL you are just picking the bad ones. I've never started a conversation with a stranger about sex and tits unless that person would also be familiar with the term, "Lapdance". Quit picking up guys in the strip-pits and you should do better Firefly202.

DPR
 signora1
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 11/28/2007 4:42:39 PM
i dont no either lolol firfly mind u most think these datin sites r a lazy mans answer 2 free sex n porn lolol im sick of it 2 n i agree cant we get 2 no each other first b4 sex becomes an issue p.s. most do think with wots in their pants first lolol but i no there r good ones out there just wish theyd make themselves known lol from jane

wel thats the thing u wunt b gettin if u do chat about sex n titts in the first 10 mins huny lololol this a DATING site not a free porn site after all


its ok sayin that but until u chat 2 sum1 how do u no wot they gona b like? cum on fellas WE NEED HELP KNOWIN WHO THE PERVS R??????? LOL
 clorin
Joined: 11/4/2007
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Posted: 11/28/2007 5:12:30 PM
all men are alike and all women are alike? I thought we were all different.
 Dominique777
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 25
Why do men always start taking about sex or tits?
Posted: 11/28/2007 5:41:17 PM
No, no, no...most guys are cool and have normal sexuality and ways of talking to women. It's hard to say because we aren't privy to your IM and mail and thee guys profiles. All of the old-time pervy crank phonecallers and flashers seem to have found a second life on the internet. Regular guys don't do this stuff.

Here are some basic pointers since you say this is all kinda new to you. If you're running your IM wide open be more selective set it so only your friends can IM you. Don't answer mail from guys with no pic/1-2 line profiles who message with one-liners. Don't answer guys whose profile are full of stuff like"intimate" "cuddling" "kissing" ideas of first dates/meets/dinner is at home and watching a movie. Or a bunch of trite "flowery" romantic language. Pay attention to what days and hours hes calling. Is he going around times and days singles are usually free. Is he guarding his name, land-line phone, work, address like a cheater? Is he only getting in touch during work hours- bad sign. Browse the forums and read the respected ladies posts to learn about internet dating- they'll call BS when they see it.....
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