| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 5:08:49 PM | | I have a broken heart not 0ver anyone in particular but with men in general. I am disapointed that I keep meeting the same waste of time every time. I know they say we choose who we allow in our lives, but what if our radar just isnt what it use to be, to weed out the fools, and liars , when everyone sounds so convincing. I think I am a good mate, and am open to different types of people, but I just cant seem to get it right. If you have your guard up and your defensive then guys feel as if your damaged goods, or drama material. If your optimistic, then disapointment looms around the bend. When can real hope become a reality , and when can you truly trust that the person you met is right for you, and not a fictionalized version of it. Im a lil boo hoo today maybe its that time of the year, the holidays ..when you wish you had someone special close. What happened to someone just wanting to call just to say hi, or to hear your voice...when did all these other types of men evolve, or have they always been there and I didnt see it.. When did dating become a menu and you order possible partners like you order your dinner. When are you ever the main course?... | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 5:43:48 PM | Kitcat,
Right now would be a good time to spend time with loved ones (family members) if there are any here in the NYC area. It's the holidays, and it's time to reconnect with those who will give you unconditional love and emotional support. After the holidays are over and you have given your heart a chance to heal, then jump back into looking for a partner.
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 5:59:22 PM | .
I am disapointed that I keep meeting the same waste of time every time. I know they say we choose who we allow in our lives, but what if our radar just isnt what it use to be, to weed out the fools, and liars , when everyone sounds so convincing. I think I am a good mate, and am open to different types of people, but I just cant seem to get it right.
It’s good that you are apparently starting to realize that the problem is with you and not the guys. Maybe you’re picker is broken, eh? You’re choosing them, after all. Perhaps you should start meeting men in better places.
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 6:36:11 PM | | yes I have done some serious soul searching ..and yes I am an adult so the choices I make are all mine.. | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 6:51:17 PM | | I agree with you totally. What makes some women the type that men want to make their girlfriends and marry and other women just the "good time" girls??? Especially when the "good time" girls have much more going on than the girlfriends including good jobs, intelligence and good looks. Are men intimidated by independent women? Do soulmates exist or do we fall in love with what we think the men that we are attracted to can be and not what they are??? Do butterflies really exist in true love or is that pain in our stomach the anxiety we create by being with the wrong men...... | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 7:02:43 PM |
If your optimistic, then disapointment looms around the bend.
I have to disagree with this, kitcat. You need to remain optimistic regardless if what continues to happen is, or at least seems, disasterous. I can relate with you and sympathize with regard to your choice(s) in potential mates. I used to allow negative feelings to take me over every now and then. However, there came a day when I realized that the only person capable of making me unhappy was...ME. Allowing yourself to even make that statement means that you're not being true to the one person who can truly make YOU happy. It takes a lot of inner peace and a lot of practice, but if you refuse to allow negative thoughts to even come to the surface no matter what the situation, the right kinds of experiences as well as people are drawn to you.
Ok, sermon done. I do hope you meet a worthy person and find that elusive ecstatic happiness we all seek.
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 7:03:24 PM | its funny they always say if its too good to be true it probably is...well why the hell is that statement true??..I have had good, and great men in my life that wanted to be with me and only me...its possible..and I will have that again in my life. Negative people bring you down, people who lie to get what they want are only lying to themselves...people who use intimidation and insults to pick themselves up have insecurities...people who have nothing to hide have everything to gain.....:)
christina in the city | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 7:04:40 PM | | thank you oddsrhuge..because I believe that the odds are in my favor..when I stop the choices I make ..and be true to myself | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 7:13:13 PM | And here's is just something I heard once and I really like it.
Remember always that no man is worth your tears and the one that is, will never make you cry.
Anonymous
Peace
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 7:20:02 PM | | We're all damaged goods to some extent,if that takes any of the stress off.Just keep your radar on except don't home in on your regular targets.Have some specific questions in mind maybe?We're not all bad out here,it just may seem that way,don't paint us all with a single stroke.Maybe it's time for a change up,we are all different from one another you know. | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 7:21:29 PM | I know they say we choose who we allow in our lives, but what if our radar just isnt what it use to be, to weed out the fools, and liars , when everyone sounds so convincing.
I would recommend that you flip the script. By that I mean start rejecting the people you normally go for and start accepting the people you usually "weed out" for some reason or another. I think that if you genuinely try what I suggest, you will be pleasantly surprised
Also, have you not noticed that you have been favorited 67 times? I am sure you have your pick of the litter, just like most women. I don't feel sorry for you!
Im a lil boo hoo today maybe its that time of the year, the holidays .. when you wish you had someone special close.
Me too, definitely! Maybe it is the time of year, or just your circumstance, or your outlook.
When did dating become a menu and you order possible partners like you order your dinner.
Personally, I believe it was when people started to close off any possibility of contact from others who are not like them in every way that they desired. When some are "too" selective, most lose out.
When are you ever the main course?
Don't tempt me - I've got an amazingly hungry mind (and eyes:)
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Posted: 11/29/2007 7:43:54 PM | I dont feel sorry really .......life is beautiful..and I am truly blessed in so many ways...
but life is so much sweeter with someone who makes your world brighter | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 8:09:14 PM |
life is so much sweeter with someone who makes your world brighter
You have to be ready to let that person into your life. It would not matter if prince charming himself came and proposed his undying love for you if you are not ready to accept that love.
What do the men you are attracted to do that you are not open to allowing them to love you?
I am sure there is lots of love to go around, but most people are so closed minded that they cannot sense love in their midst unless they are looking at a virtual carbon copy of themselves. Sad isn't it?
Do you see many pimps in Brooklyn? | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/29/2007 10:22:56 PM | We'll if Brooklyn is breaking your heart - you should come to Detroit for a little vacation! Lot's of work here!
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/30/2007 10:11:31 AM | Don't give up kitcat.
Our city is one of the hardest places to find the right someone in the world its true. However its also one of the most romantic places in the world too. You have to brace yourself against the superficiality of it. You need to avoid the centers of foolishness where everyone is trying to play up their images, and advance their personal adgendas.
Just find some laid back and relaxed places that merge your interests relax and have fun. It will get better and with luke the right person will be doing the same thing at the same time :) Good luck. | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:27:50 AM | thanks so much for your kind words...
we all will find the happiness we deserve   | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/30/2007 12:40:48 PM | I had a cat once named kitcat.... lol....
We have a pimp on a date site, HA! HA! HA! HA! Just when I thought I was getting used to this, now a wench is thrown in! Deal or No Deal! ok, I am recovering fast, thank you very much!
kitcat.... you'll sort it out because you are looking for answers. I don't know if you are seeing anybody right now, but maybe you do need just a little break and enjoy the upcoming holidays with family and friends?
Good luck, and God Bless1
Chela | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/30/2007 1:44:04 PM | | yes I am giving myself a much deserved break.............:) let the chips fall where they may | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:05:21 PM | | Dating scene in NYC is a mess in general. People are always looking for an "upgrade" here. | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 12/1/2007 4:31:35 AM | try to meet men at pubs, at least you will meet the most loyal men you will ever meet, i mean, loyal to their football clubs
now seriously, love will come sooner or later. once you get it you will be forgetting your own words above.
by the way, welcome to the real world  | |
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| broken heart in brooklyn
Posted: 12/1/2007 12:38:17 PM | the real world..thats a funny statement..the cyber world is as fake as they come..a lot of false advertisement..to sell a product that doesnt exist..slimy sales men and women who lie to achieve personal gain, a quick fix..and an ego boost..I will not say all..but a majority out there are into the thrill of the chase... Upgrade..that is also a funny word..that is true for so many people looking for the next best thing...That is why so many people who want love, that want that one..and want to share time, a friendship..maybe a life.. get hurt and disapointed by people who never had any intention of wanting more than a one night thing......one night..or a cyber fling..
The last guy I met really made me see how the game is played...and my eyes are wide open finally to things I never saw before in myself..and in others.. | |
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