| is sexual intercourse actually cheating
Posted: 12/1/2007 8:59:11 AM | i am actively involved in road safety campaigning,one of the consequences of spinal trauma can be impotency of the male.
if the lady decides she cannot live a life without a sexual dimension,could she have sex with his best friend,or is this cheating?
alternatively,if she leaves him,isnt that worse to leave him alone in his hour of need.
i know someone personally in this dilemma
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| is sexual intercourse actually cheating
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:13:27 AM | | If he loves her enough to give his approval for her to get her sexual pleasure's elsewhere she is definately not cheating... If after getting his approval to have sex with other men she leaves him for one of them that is very low..... | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:13:46 AM | | It is cheating if it breaks an agreement. If her partner supports and approves of her filling her sexual needs elsewhere, then no, it isn't "cheating". It would be cheating if she were deceiving him. Should I end up in a situation like that, I believe I would allow my mate to have someone who filled that need. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:15:31 AM |
f after getting his approval to have sex with other men she leaves him for one of them that is very low
Agreed. Even if she did develop feelings, which would be understandable, I would hope she would remember where home is. | |
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| is sexual intercourse actually cheating
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:16:50 AM | questions that beg to be answered...
have they both sincerely arrived at a place of enough enlightenment, to indeed be free of their conditioned concepts about intimacy and relationships...and the third person...how flexible are they???
in an ideal world one could imagine it is possible that all 3 of the people involved were fortunate to find this 'Kismet'
and i am an optimist...it has been done... i know of 3 different families that are successfully living in committed relationships with 3 people and one with 4, on going 20 years now...but this is Holland..lol...and Amsterdam at that, which is unique in many ways in terms of it's liberal and open lifestyle.
so ...yea they have to be painfully honest with themselves...and have courage to do something different , but be prepared for what the ego may show up with....they could have a few surprises...lol | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:17:23 AM | | I wouldn't consider it cheating but I would also suggest that they do some reading because there are ways to find pleasure with a partner without completing the sex act. If they enter into this arrangement, they need to make sure that she is just having sex and that they keep the intimate connection between them. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:54:17 AM | If they are a _Loving_ couple . . they will discuss the situation . . and give-and-take
allowances . .
It's up to Them how they handle it . . | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 10:14:27 AM | | it's only cheating if you get caught... what is ths shyte asking if intercourse is cheating? do peopes IQ's lower when they get horney ? | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 10:22:07 AM | diffenately cheating.....
if it's a friend of yours for example........ she wants to screw him instead of you while the two of you are together YEAH cheating for a fact!! BEAR in mind if you let her go on like that, you cheated yourself somewot allowing it!! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 1:01:45 PM | | Do you people read? The OP's friend is in this position because he was rendered impotent by an automobile accident and has indicated that he is okay with his wife satisfying a physical need somewhere else. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 1:24:59 PM | | well now thats a tough one for me. I would deeply adore that man for being so unselfish,but,the woman on the other hand would be selfish if she were to have sex with another man while still with the impotent man. If she truelly loved him, she would find an alternative to fulfil her sexual needs. And leaving him for sex would also be cheating unless she plans to have children in the future. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 2:46:16 PM | Oh Good God...
What is wrong with this picture? If the love of my life couldn't perform the act of intercourse with me anymore for a medical reason, I sure as hell wouldn't be asking permission to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Perhaps this situation has just brought to light the weakness that already existed in her character and she is using his injury as her excuse to step out on him. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:00:09 PM | | The main thing in life is sexual intercourse. Everything else is a distant second. She has a duty to do whatever it takes for her to have sexual intercourse as soon as possible and as frequently as she can. He will understand. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:00:19 PM | What is wrong with this picture? If the love of my life couldn't perform the act of intercourse with me anymore for a medical reason, I sure as hell wouldn't be asking permission to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Perhaps this situation has just brought to light the weakness that already existed in her character and she is using his injury as her excuse to step out on him.
You know what I think is great? I think it's AWESOME when people give that bullshit line about what "I'd do if I were in that situation". The truth is, you don't know what you'd do. And condemning someone else for doing what you THINK you won't do (should you ever end up in that situation) is lame.
Desiring sex isn't a weakness in character. If it were, Viagra would have never been invented. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:06:30 PM | | Why is the Monty Python song "Sit On My Face, and Tell Me That You Love Me!!" playing REALLY LOUD in my head right now??? When did men become such uninventive morons as to not know how to please their woman WITHOUT the use of their penis??? He knows how to KISS doesn't he?? "What's wrong with a KISS boy??"......what about his hands? his fingers?? His Tongue?? He knows how to install BATTERIES, doesn't he??? WTF?? While this couple may be seemingly sounding 'unselfish' in allowing the woman to 'get it elsewhere'....the REAL problem here is that the couple never apparently learned other ways of making love except to give the ole' HEAVE HO of the HIGH HARD ONE..... Maybe now would be the PERFECT time to actually LEARN..... And this guy is 'educating' people?? How bout learning this stuff and applying it to 'the course'?? Could turn out to be REALLY BIG BUSINESS..... If HE doesn't do it....I'm sure as hell doing it....I didn't break my back for nothing either..... | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:10:36 PM |
When did men become such uninventive morons as to not know how to please their woman WITHOUT the use of their penis??? He knows how to KISS doesn't he?? "What's wrong with a KISS boy??"......what about his hands? his fingers?? His Tongue?? He knows how to install BATTERIES, doesn't he??? WTF??
What's sad is there are so many men with fully functional penises that still need to learn this stuff. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:12:51 PM | This is tough to answer I honestly would LIKE to think the strength of our love would work out ANYTHING. I wouldn't want to be with anyone else but the man I married. I mean I took the vowes "for better or worse, richer or poorer" this would fell in the "worse" catagory. I would try everything possible before I could even think along those lines.
OP my prayers to your friends. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:16:46 PM |
But, honestly, after years of hearing that you women wouldn't DARE get with a 'musician type' because of all the preconceived 'reputations' you thought they had
Ha, not me. You've seen my profile, I *love* musicians  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:26:46 PM | I agree with many of the postings regarding other means of satisfaction for his wife, but a thought occurred to me that makes me, for a moment, the devil's advocate.
It's possible his wife doesn't feel satiated until her partner is as well. I know that when I have ever been with someone who could "give me mine" but I couln't return the favor, regardless of the reason, I didn't feel "successful" or totally satisfied. I don't think that's just me...part of the enjoyment of sex is giving enjoyment as well as recieving.
But of course, it's also impossible for some of us, including me, to not have any emotions involved while having sex, ie. making love. So I've contradicted myself? Now there's a first! haha | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:34:53 PM |
if the lady decides she cannot live a life without a sexual dimension,could she have sex with his best friend,or is this cheating?
Well she certainly can't have sex with my best friend! I don't care how good a friend he is, I'm pretty sure that him sleeping with my wife would put a strain on our friendship.
But on a more generic note, it's a hard question. Having a relationship without a sexual component is quite difficult. How long would it last? How long could the woman be having sex with a 3rd party without developing any emotional attachment? Is there any chance of "fixing" the husband's impotence problem? | |
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