| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/1/2007 2:19:54 PM | Oh man oh man. Never thought in a million years this could happen. A lovely woman from our Pond here actually thought enough of me to see if I might be relationship material, and I spent hours talking to her on the phone. She was someone I would never thought I'd have a chance with, considering she's on the favorites list of around 40 suitors. 
I need to check Hell to see if it froze over. (Yep, I think it did.)
My record in the Fish Pond now stands at 1 for 294,697, LOL.
In the distant past before my monastic academic career, I've done the usual dinner, movie, coffee thing and that just bores the tears out of both me and my date. I would like to do something different, but it's winter here in New York so the more interesting outdoors walks / tours are out of the question, especially considering that the lovely lady does not like going outside when it's cold.
So I appeal to fellow Pond Residents: What unique activities would you take a first date out on during the Winter? Especially thankful for any Long Island-specific (Nassau/Western Suffolk) suggestions from fellow New Yorkers.
Thanks in advance!
(Yes, I tried searching "winter first date" and nothing came up).  | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/1/2007 2:28:53 PM | Invite her for a walk at a local, preferably upscale shopping venue. Take the time to first spy out some good spots...places with incredibly interesting designed products (Bang & Olufson or Bose stores for music, Art shoppes, some classy women's shops). Avoid the big stores, just take an hour wandering around, commenting on things you like and find out what she likes. Net cost is $0.
After an hour or so of wandering, tell her it's time to end the first date. If you like her and you feel the chemistry is working, immediately ask her if she'd like to go on a second date with you. Assuming she says yes, drinks and appetizers...keep it light. Not too much pressure.
Ohhhh, and what's with the 18 year old stuff on the profile. Is that really the message a 37 y.o. man wants to be sending to women in his age range?
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Posted: 12/1/2007 2:32:43 PM | Ooo.. That's a great idea Eazk, thanks man. Yeah there is definitely some upscale malls like that here on Long Island with trendy shops and great eateries in Garden City. I'll definitely see if I can do that.
Well shoot, I haven't dated since 18, so 18-year-old stuff is all I know!  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 2:35:31 PM | get some ideas from her and what she would like to do. a mutual activity first date has better potential for a second date than one that we might think is cool...but winds up sucky for her.
good luck...'er...skill | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/1/2007 2:41:10 PM | Actually, while listening to what interests her is a good idea, just being the man, taking control of the moment, planning and executing the date, will impress her far more as long as her needs are being met. EG: if she's not into fish, Sushi is a bad idea. Trust me, women hate being asked to co-plan dates.
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Posted: 12/1/2007 2:46:13 PM | come on now sweetheart, tis the season! you can think of wonderful things to do!
have you decorated your home yet?
How about: ice skating~~~~sledding~~~Christmas parties~~~~home Christmas tours~~~~Christmas caroling~~~~volunteer work with a local church...
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Posted: 12/1/2007 2:50:26 PM | I'm not from your area but some of the things that I've enjoyed in the past might help.
Right now is a great time if you celebrate Christmas. Here in Georgia there are many venues that are extravagant light displays with everything from a shopping area to a live nativity.
The favorite part for me is taking the train to see the lights (this is at Callaway Gardens...surely you have something similar)...you take a blanket and sing caroles ..lol.
Other places are just small shopping villages that are decked out and have special entertainment. You can pack some wine/cheese and just take a tour in the car.
In New York, you can go see the Rockettes or stroll Rockefeller Plaza and see the Great Tree....or go to an ice rink and just have coffee and dessert in a viewing area.
Some of these you might think corny...but maybe they will get you thinking.
Becca
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:00:29 PM |
How about: ice skating
That's usually my first winter suggestion too. It's pretty easy to find a rink and rent some skates. Even if you can't skate well, well, that can be fun for you both too (as long as you don't hurt yourselves).  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:25:40 PM | Suggestions tabled for consideration! Thank you fellow Pond Residents! 
I will try to see if I can persuade her to try some outdoors activities like skating (that's what I love to do), but she tells me she hates being outside when it's cold so I'll have to gradually work her up to that in the future (if things turn out good).
The thing with Long Island is that we don't have any big art museums here-- For a nice one like the Metropolitan Museum of Art (I love it there) I'll have to consider the logistics of getting into New York City from 50 miles away (she's in Suffolk). That'd be cool though if I can pull it off.
I think having a stroll around 30 Rock with the rink and Christmas tree would be great, maybe on a second date I can keep her warm if she lets me walk close enough next to her (I don't think I should think that far ahead however, in case things don't work out-- knock on wood). Logistics of getting into Manhattan will also need to be considered here..
We'll have a conversation tomorrow and see what suits her. Thanks again! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 3:32:53 PM | | Skinny dipping in a hole through the ice and then, running naked together to the heated whirlpool. How's that for a first-date ice-breaker? (pardon the pun) | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/1/2007 3:37:00 PM | ahhh.....sings..
"new york snow this time of year, nothing more beautiful to me....except for you!"
..sighs..
I love that song!!
whew!!..where was I?
oh yeah..
umm..go skating!...
bundle up and go for a carriage ride ( bring hot chocolate),
Go to macy's to see Santa...{see if she wants to tell him what she wants for christmas}
Go see that Ginormous christmas tree!!
just be creative..I am sure that what ever you do..she will remember it!!
good luck and best wishes to you! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 4:42:31 PM | | For a cold night, phone around the local pubs or restaurants, ask if they have a fireplace. If they do go check the place out by yourself, and if it's ok, reserve a table or seats next to the fireplace and take the lady there. | |
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/1/2007 5:43:58 PM | Anywhere with a fireplace! Panera Bread has them. Enjoy a cup of coffee, pastry and decent ambience very cheaply.
The Vanderbuilt Mansion in Northport. Check your local bookstores for Meet the Author (readings), cooking class, etc. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 6:15:22 PM | OP
A walk around the tree and glass of wine at the Rainbow Room. Gives you time to talk and some romance. Don't go overboard with full dinner etc. See how it goes. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 6:39:44 PM | This is going to be a first date and you had one phone conversation and your profile now says:
12/01/07: I'm in the process of arranging a meeting with a lovely lady from here on POF, so for now I will be unavailable (hopefully that will become permanent.) ;-)
Don't be surprised if she cancels the first date when she sees that. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 6:54:22 PM | Thanks for the additional ideas everyone!
Selenanj: I don't play around and try to date more than 1 woman at a time. That's all that means (and she is aware of that). :-)
(Now why all of a sudden are people looking at me like I'm some rare mutant 3-eyed fish?) | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 7:09:53 PM | There are always severel sides to any topic, if your presumed date is above board you will have not a thing to worry about. I shows gumpshun and you care about making a good impression enough to ask a school of guppys there oppinion about what would be aceptable for a date , you, good sire have passed with flying colors, go forth an be real. The rest to follow will appreciate your efforts  ,and but one of many dates to grow and become the real you...t.r.7 | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 7:25:34 PM | Because apparently you ARE a rare, mutant three-eyed fish....Got any brothers? ; )
Even though I don't live in New York, I have enjoyed reading people's winter first date ideas. Best of Luck to you. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 7:35:57 PM | Shovel snow @ a driveway, snowball fight, ice fishing, ice skating, snowmobiling,
make igloos, snowballing................. From a former L I ,er. Go to Dix Hills......ride sleighs.....is there any space left there? | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:20:15 PM |
Well shoot, I haven't dated since 18, so 18-year-old stuff is all I know!
Lol I am only 22 so ya... anyways I would love to go for a walk in the park. Sit down a bench and have hot cholate ready in a thermos thats only if its not really cold.
Or go snow tubing at a local hill (thats the younger person version).
If it is crappy out I would go with some in door venue. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2007 9:22:43 PM | A museum...oh man if I could find a guy who would actually go to an art museum with me and enjoy himself, he would be husband material 
Seriously though, I definitely agree with many of the posters...but don't put the pressure on her. I have had dates that leave it up to me, and I am sorry, with all that I do during the week with my kids, having someone else come up with an idea is a refreshing change. I will give my input, but definitely like when a man makes the suggestion of things to do. If you are going to ask me out, listen to what I say my likes and dislikes are. Get a feel for who I am.
And do not try to go over the top to impress her...keep it simple like others have suggested. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2007 2:00:00 PM | Thanks all for your very helpful suggestions! 
to Notafollower: LOL, unfortunately I'm an only son. :-D
to Veetwinflyer: Funny you should say that. It snowed 1.5 inches on Long Island today! I'd go out there and help her clear her sidewalks but somehow I don't think she wants that as a first date, haha..
Anyway, we spoke on the phone today and we are set for a Thursday meet in Garden City for a stroll through one of the malls there.
I definitely want to try all the other ideas too-- For a second date, if this one turns out well.
LOL this is where I start getting nervous reading the various threads on the board for do's and don'ts for first dates.. So far from reading the threads I know to: (checklist time)
- make myself look presentable. (check. Got a haircut last week, got freshly dry-cleaned clothes in the closet.)
- make sure my smile looks presentable (check. I would bring shame on my profession if it is not!).
- wear a nice cologne (check. I got my English Leather)
- don't bring gifts or flowers (at least that's what most of the threads seem to say I think).
- Keep it simple (we aren't going to hit any fancy expensive restaurants-- Just the Cheesecake Factory at the mall).
Any other advice or common faux pas to avoid would be appreciated!
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| Need winter first-date ideas!
Posted: 12/2/2007 8:45:00 PM | Scratch Cheesecake Factory. If you get stuck in a long wait, or have a crappy waitress, or whatever, it blows the date. You're best to keep it to and hour or so...or at least let her know that is the loose plan. Be very spontaneous...be prepared, but see how things flow. Sitting nose-to-nose at a first meet can be tough...can almost feel like a job interview.
Walking, seeing things together, whether it's stuff, people, whatever, give yourself a chance to create some moments together. Swing into an art store and find out how your artistic tastes mesh...or a geeky store (Sharper Image, etc.) and see if she likes to play with the toys...a women's clothing store and see where her fashion tastes run. You're going to find out real quick if she's gonna click with you. | |
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