| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 7:19:01 PM | Do guys intentionally play mind games with girls that they are friends with and when they know that the girl is interested in them??
To me that just seems mean. What benefit comes from that. I am just so confused. If I knew that one of my friends was interested in me, I would be totally upfront with them about it. Does this make sense to anyone??? Or have I just completely lost it?? | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 7:23:22 PM | | It's part of life and dating. Get over. Figure it out. And those who say, they don't play them are full of sh!t. They do. It's only for other people to figure out. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 7:25:15 PM | Let me say this better.
How do you know when it is mind games as opposed to complete ignorance or fear?? And what do you do about this??? Suggestions please!!! | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 7:41:10 PM | | OP, are you saying that you have a male friend who you are attracted to, have sent what to you are obvious signals, and he's acting as if nothing has happened? If so there could be a couple of things going on. One, maybe he just didn't get the clue. Guys are famous for that, you know? Maybe he is not attracted to you in that way and just doesn't want to tell you so because he thinks it would be hurtful to you. He cares about your feelings so he figures the easiest solution is to play dumb, no rejection of you then. Maybe he has other girls he's trying to romance and he doesn't want to string you along in the meantime. Of course, he could be a manipulative prick too. But you would be in a better position to decide which is the case than anyone in this forum, don't you think? | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 8:12:29 PM |
Do guys intentionally play mind games with girls that they are friends with and when they know that the girl is interested in them??
To me that just seems mean. What benefit comes from that. I am just so confused. If I knew that one of my friends was interested in me, I would be totally upfront with them about it. Does this make sense to anyone??? Or have I just completely lost it??
You have totally lost it. You are a "upfront" type person. One thing you will understand later, You will get walked on so much. People who are not upfront about thier feelings towards you, are afraid of being hurt again. maybe, they are not that into you. Read all the posts about friends trying to cross the dreaded "F" line. You will understand why. They could lose a friend... might gain someone special. Most will not chance it. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:08:51 PM | | by mind games i mean saying that they aren't willing to do or be anything more than friends and then constantly flirting. Telling me not to wait and then when i come out with another guy or another guy starts talking to me when we are out, more flirting but when we are just by ourselves or with other close friends acting like i am not even there. Having in depth conversations or just joking around about what we like significant others to do, and then somewhat teasingly acting them out. Example. this might get a little PG-13 sorry, we were out the other night and he jokingly said something along the lines of "I don't care how much girls try to deny it, they like having there hair pulled." and I laughed and said yeah and then the next night we went out with a bunch of friends and every time he walked by he pulled my hair......stuff like that.... | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:27:01 PM | I don't play mind games with anyone. If I'm interested, I'll let a lady know I'm interested. If she isn't interested in me, cest la vie. I can't be mad at her. I don't know who's playing mind games with you, but not everyone does. It has to do with that individual. If you find yourself around a lot of individuals like that, you may want to examine the company you keep. While I'm saying that, anyone who refuses you should be left alone. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:32:38 PM |
every time he walked by he pulled my hair
That sounds like something a nine year old child would do because they don't know how to convey their feelings properly. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:36:41 PM |
by mind games i mean saying that they aren't willing to do or be anything more than friends and then constantly flirting. Telling me not to wait and then when i come out with another guy or another guy starts talking to me when we are out, more flirting but when we are just by ourselves or with other close friends acting like i am not even there. Having in depth conversations or just joking around about what we like significant others to do, and then somewhat teasingly acting them out. Example. this might get a little PG-13 sorry, we were out the other night and he jokingly said something along the lines of "I don't care how much girls try to deny it, they like having there hair pulled." and I laughed and said yeah and then the next night we went out with a bunch of friends and every time he walked by he pulled my hair......stuff like that....
Girl, you are asking the wrong crowd. Most people here believe that people do not play games, or mind games or any type of games. They are straight and honest and they tell you what they thing.
bull, bull, bull.
And every person in this site that says that they don't play games is full of it. Every individual, man or woman, gages the outcome of what they say. If you don't, you are plain stupid. If you do, you are playing a mind game.
So get over. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 11:15:30 PM |
Do guys intentionally play mind games with girls that they are friends with and when they know that the girl is interested in them??
In this case, I think it's just karma coming back to bite your a** for you cheating on a guy 4 times.
*taken from another post you made* :
...when I was like 16 I cheated on the guy I was dating like three or four times
Karma : better late than never
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:10:09 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Excellent. Each time some some flake starts whining like she does, those complaints are always filled with hypocrisy. It's hilarious how the people who complain the most seem to hate it when people give'em a taste of their own medicine.  | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:19:02 AM | | I would love to know the connection of cheating to this. You have conveiniently left out the part that at the time I was being cheated, and after I realized my mistakes and stopped, I was still being cheated on. There is the karma, and it already kicked me in the ass. I am not whining and don't see how in this situation I am "getting a taste of my own medicine". I never lied about what I did. When I cheated in my first relationship, I told the guy everytime. I posted this thread because I thought that the point of these forums was to discuss things with other people and maybe get insight. From the majority of the comments that were left, it is no wonder that you people are still on a dating site, even if just for the forums. You seem to be mean and heartless people that a good person wouldn't want in there lives anyway. To those of you who did give an answer, and didn't just mock, thank. I will keep your words with me. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:26:12 AM |
When I cheated in my first relationship, I told the guy everytime.
Every time? So it was more than one time? | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:36:45 AM | How can someone who only *laugh* cheated on their ex 4 times expect someone else to be honest???? I was in a relationship 10 years NEVER cheated a single time. We were honest loving/caring with each other, thats why it lasted 10 years.
Maybe I am old fashioned but if you truly love someone you don't have sex with every tom****or harry, or jane, jill, and suzy behind their back.
Its like owning a car, I sure wouldn't want everyone in the neighborhood driving my mustang. | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:00:13 AM | [quote}How can someone who only *laugh* cheated on their ex 4 times expect someone else to be honest???? I was in a relationship 10 years NEVER cheated a single time. We were honest loving/caring with each other, thats why it lasted 10 years.
Maybe I am old fashioned but if you truly love someone you don't have sex with every tom****or harry, or jane, jill, and suzy behind their back.
Congratulations, would you like a cookie??? Your 56, I was 16. Do we not see a little bit of a difference. A 16 year old doesn't have any idea what love is. And even if I was enlightened enough to know at such a young age, that would not have been it. That was a delousion of a little girl that was desperate to belong, even if it meant having sex before she should have, losing her friends and family, and being abused....And I am not in anyway complaining. I am stating facts. I chose to stay and let him do it, and I have come to terms with that. So sit on your high horse that as an adult you were able to have a long fufiling relationship without cheating and a confused 16 year old girl could not say the same....do you feel good about that??? | |
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| What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:08:50 AM | I sit on my high horse because I am not a cheater... no excuse at all for cheating.
A 16 year old abused girl still knows the difference between right and wrong... you decided to do wrong.
Moving on... as for your mind games question..
perhaps he enjoys making you suffer?
As a sadist, myself, I do enjoy playing mind games and confusing the hell out of people.
It gives me satisfaction to cause anarchy and pain to others.
My favorite thing to do is to lead on a woman to the point of having sex.. then leave... it's just fun!
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| What is up with the mind gamhttp://forums.plentyoffish.com/addpost.aspx?SID=fuwpks551sivcb45b1bxes??
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:15:02 AM | It's amazing what you can find when you Google it: "why do guys play mind games?"
Playing mind games isn't about love. It IS about control and anyone who interprets mind games as love is already a victim of such a man's control and is as good as brainwashed. A woman who knows that her mind is being 'played with' should have enough self respect and self love to GET OUT of the relationship. People who play mindgames have serious issues with themselves i.e. insecurities, fears or they just get off on causing confusion and upset to the woman they supposedly 'love.' Love isn't about playing games, it's about respect, truth and consideration. So in answer to your question, men only play mind games with women who let them - nothing to do with love or hate.
I think you can substitute friendship for love when it comes to your hair puller.
He's just not that into you. | |
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