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Posted: 12/4/2007 6:38:07 PM | | Well I have had a problem since i can remember, i would like to know if anyone has this also and what to do about it. I have been in many serious long relationships, my most recent was 5 years and two kids. He has cheated on me several times and each time i knew before i was actually told by him or anyone. I would already know and confront him only to get lies. I would not snoop or dig or even concern myself with it but then all the sudden i would just tell him exactly what he has been doing who she is where she works and how they met, and how long he has been cheating and lieing each time before i confronted him. I do not know how i know this or where it comes from, but it has always been right and pinned on the head. I have friends that would come to me with some issues and i would ask a few questions and then i would start telling them exactly what is going on even though i didn't know anything prier to that time, and all of it was true and very accurate (99.9%) It has effected the way i look at relationships and people but i don't know how to get past this and why i am like this.... can anyone help me out please... | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 6:54:21 PM | You're very intuitive. You can pick up on slight clues and your inner sense makes reason out of it in accord with life. And you're usually correct.
Why would you think that's a problem? That's a great ability. Most people don't pick up on clues, nor listen to their intuition and fight against how the world spins. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 7:05:10 PM | Wow you're so young to have been in so "many" long term relationships. Being only 23 and you dated last guy for 5 yrs, at what age did you start dating? Anyway, sounds to me like you should be making a whole lot of money if you can tell people what's going on in their relationships and they haven't revealed anything to you! You've got a gift we'd all like to have!! We don't need the show "Cheaters" when we got you! Honestly you should be trying to make a profit off this special gift you have. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 7:29:58 PM | i dont see it as much of a "problem" ....lots of us wish we could do that!!!
i myself have learned to run on gut feelings. when i was married, i would get a "gut" feeling my wife was up to no good, but i ignored them. only to find out i was right.
so now when my gut tells me somethings up i follow it.
you seem to have more of a real ability and i would use it every chance you had. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 7:56:55 PM | You should get cheated more often so you can put your gift to work.
Actually, you live in denial. So people tell you one piece. Another tell you another, and the signals are right there in front of you. But you deny them. Until one day wamm! It all comes together and you think you have a gift.
Stop allowing men to cheat on you. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 8:08:07 PM | | I don't live in denial, i want to believe that everyone has good in them, and so i give them the benefit of doubt, but my only thing is it is painful at times this so called gift that you say i have but it never goes away until the truth comes out. I started dating at 13 yrs old had a 3 year relationship and that ended and then met my last bf when i was 18 and that just ended. But the between time was about 2 years and the guys i were with were not all cheats, but most of them couldn't keep it zipped. Being a millionaire? what and claim to be a pyshic like all these fake computer programmed peeps out there i mean half of them i could tell you a bit about them that would send them home crying but to exploit something like that is not my thing. A gift or not it bothers me sometimes as it deepens and it is not all bad just painful. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 8:19:38 PM | First I never knew that two long term relationships constituted being considered many. Next, imagine that 16 and 17 year olds having a problem keeping it in their pants, hell thats all life is about at that age for a guy.
Then theres the patern that you describe in regards to the people you have dated, hmmmmmmmmm, me thinks you are attracting this type of person. Maybe take a step back and re-evaluate what you look for. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 8:30:54 PM | | well it can't really be age or a pattern for one the first guy was 18 whne we dated, and the last guy was 34 when we started dating he is now 39 plus he has a history of doing nothing but cheating that i didn't really know about untill after the fact. As far as re-evaluation your right i do, but i never said it was only guys that did the cheating, i have never cheated and never will but i know some women who do and alot of guys who do, just like i know quite a few people on here who are not really who they say they are and i know a few who use this as only an outlet so they can cheat. Take for instance love song1979, he is not really from jacksonville and he is married with 4 kids and a history of cheating, i read his profile once and thats the truth, he is using this site to find women to cheat on his wife, again... i said way too much but if you assume that i am asking for guys to cheat on me, far from it so it can't be the fact i look for the type because then that would be redundant why would i want to hurt all the time( by the way two long time relationships is considered alot when most people can't keep one in a life time) | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 8:45:26 PM | You're psychic. As Creativguy said, you're very intuitive. It basically amounts to the same thing, except psychic just admits that it can happen beyond what people reckon it could. Either way, makes no difference.
It's incredibly hard when your intuition screams stuff at you, because you have info that you is a bit much to take. Sometimes, it can feel like you've got an extra sense that other people just don't have. Like having an eye in the back of your head, when everyone else doesn't. Freaks them out when you tell them to take their hand out the cookie jar.
It can also drive you up the wall, because you sometimes know where a thing is heading before it's happened, so you don't even go there. It can make you very pessimistic about things.
The thing that made me come to terms with it, was by accepting that I was tapping into the Cosmic Power of the Universe, and I had to accept the concept of a United Universe into my life, and understand that I was living in a Spiral Arm of that Universe. What I have, is not for me alone, but also to help others. What I am shown, is to help others. If my intuition sometimes brings a little confusion and pessimism to my life, I must be extra optimistic that the same Force that sends me this intuitive knowledge, will equally well look out for me, and make sure that I have equal opportunities for happiness as anyone else. But for me, those opportunities might be a little more difficult and less well-lit to see, because I see other things so brightly.
If you want to know more, just email me. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 10:22:26 PM | I'd have to say this. Why wonder where that power comes from but rather you should be more concerned about your cheating husband and what to do about that.
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Posted: 12/5/2007 3:24:53 AM | You are here on POF..you read all the latest in how men cheat on women.
You can read between the lines..something that a lot of people can't do.. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 3:43:25 AM | | The only help you need?.....Is to follow that wonderful inner sense you've got! I've got the same thing and rarely wrong.Only problem I found I had was picking the wrong people who usually ended up doing the same things or had the same patterns.I came to realize that the problem was more me than "them",I fell into a pattern.Had to work hard to dfine difference between lack of trust and "intuition".Matters of instincts don't have to be nailed exactly....Just enough for one to know they're on the wrong path.I always follow mine now and communicate w/ someone.Usually things will emerge and I'll wonder....Now it's mostly w/ people I've recently met.I've become astute at sensing things so I don't even put myself in bad situations.Something you've already mastered,it's a good thing,roll with it and you'll see. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 3:49:00 AM | I don't understand why your gift of intuition is such a problem for you. I don't understand why you feel that it is your superior insight and intuition that is causing your relationship problems. I am curious as to why you don't mention what happened before the cheating -- I have never cheated not been cheated on, but my understanding of it is that there has to be some degree of disconnection in the established relationship before one person will go and cheat - there has to be something wrong, something lacking before the cheating can occur -- and I wonder what your intuition was telling you throughout the earlier part of the relationship. I also wonder why your intuition seems to have led you to a place where you seem to regard people in such a negative light -- doesn't your insight give you greater understanding for their feelings and the reasons behind their behaviour?
I find all your posts quite confusing so far. You have this recurring problem with being cheated on and you are angry about knowing it? Do you think that there would be no problem if you simply didn't know about it? The "ignorance is bliss" perspective? Is your view of men (or your view of yourself) so negative that you think you will not be able to find one who won't cheat on you? Not sure what you are getting at -- maybe you can be more clear?  | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 7:05:34 AM | Hi Tweety,
I would love to see if you can help me out with an issue that I am currently in.
What do you think? Help a sista out?
I tried to email you privately but because of your restrictions, I couldn't.
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Posted: 12/5/2007 9:49:01 AM |
just like i know quite a few people on here who are not really who they say they are and i know a few who use this as only an outlet so they can cheat.
You need to have a gift to be able to figure this concept out?
Take for instance love song1979, he is not really from jacksonville and he is married with 4 kids and a history of cheating, i read his profile once and thats the truth, he is using this site to find women to cheat on his wife, again...
I don't think you can call someone to the carpet like this. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 10:00:10 AM | | Why you put up with it for one instant speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself and how you feel about yourself determines the quality of your relationships. You are not psychic but picking up on cues that he's just not that into you any longer. You need to be prepared to walk out on a relationship and make it abundantly clear what behavior you won't accept, and communicate that you will walk away from the relationship if you're boundaries are exceeded. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 3:03:41 PM | I love all this "women's intuition" woo-woo type mumbo jumbo.
It's really quite simple: Women are much more socially calibrated and intelligent then men. They know how to disguise, and in some cases, completely hide the telltale signs they give off when they are insincere.
What your boyfriend said meant jack shit. You read into HOW he said it, WHAT his body was doing, his INTENTIONS.... and found it not to match what he was saying to you.
The body doesn't lie. Even if your WORDS sound amazing, your body will be fighting the inconstancy. That is the beauty of social dynamics!
Yours truly,
Jeremy | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 5:57:52 PM | | I'm curious myself. If you have such a great gift of intuition, how come you can' intuit that the relationship is going to go south before you get involved? It seems that would save a lot of time and aggrevation. Maybe you should talk to a good mental health practitioner about this situation, he or she may be able to help you sort it out. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 6:13:54 PM | | I strongly suspect this not the only way your intuition manifests itself. On the whole, as we mature we learn to ignore this aspect of our 'self ' and become confused by the chaos around us. I think there is a part of you (as indeed, a part of many of us) that thrives on that bit of chaos and even seeks out relationships (not just those of a romantic nature) that will perpetuate this need. Of course there are always signs around us. Learn about this and trust yourself to grow through it. Stop punishing yourself and recognize that you cannot save everyone and you cannot fix everyone. Work on yourself. You know what some of the issues are and it is time to address them. Feel, see and grow. Don't waste your time dawdling with that which is not part of your Truth just because some wanna be uses all the correct mumbo jumbo. There is work to be done...so get to it! | |
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