| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:31:07 PM | My assessment test told me I should ask this question of men to see what kind of answers I get back.
I'd like to ask both the men and the woman this question:
What would you say is the difference between "Having Sex" and "Making Love" | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:44:00 PM | | Sex is like painting the walls of a house. Making love is like painting (art). Sex is a "fact" of nature (like going to the bathroom/WC for ....), making love is a "fact" of life (art), ie it requires inspiration (by both, but especially the man). | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:48:24 PM | | Who its for... "having sex" is more about your own pleasure, "making love" is about wanting to make sure your partner enjoys it more than you want yourself to enjoy it (and if both people are doing that, its wonderful). | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:57:50 PM | Well, for starters , any position where you can't see the other person's face is nothing but pure, raw animal sex !
And when you're pounding away fast and furious : also sex.
The part where you are looking into eachother's eyes and in a nice slow rhythm of ecstacy...that's making love in my book . | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:00:32 PM | There is a big difference for me between "Having Sex" and "Making Love". In my adult life I have done both and knew the the difference. We can have sex with any old person, anywhere, anytime and basically be self serving, self pleasing with no consideration for your partner....now that's when your married. LOL LOL LOL
Making love is a true gift as I only make love to the person I truly love. It involves wanting to please him, wanting to be his firecracker and only his. The intimacy is unreal and you never come away feeling awkward or unsatisfied.
Now don't get me wrong "Having Sex" can be lots of fun too with the right person but many times women get the two mixed up. | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:01:59 PM | Sex is just that. sex. the raw, animalistic, torrid, dirty nasty act that comes about for the fulfilment of ones own personal desires.
making love is when two people merge together to fulfill each others desires selflessly and intimately. | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:02:28 PM | Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Sex is like cake. Cake alone is okay.
Love is like the icing and whipped cream and chocolate and all the delicious extras that make the cake more than it ever could be alone. I want my cake and eat it too.
I thank you. | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:10:17 PM | | I like the way you put that. I totally agree. Having sex is mostly just physical and a little mental........making loving requires all components of a person: the physical, the mental , the spiritual, and the emotional. That's why I vowed to never have sex again,only to make love. | |
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Joined: 11/26/2006
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:13:04 PM | | seminar leader, author of How to Make Love All the Time, 1987) offers smart insights--all packaged in bland, bite-sized nuggets--on every conceivable aspect of how to get him/how to keep him ... more ยป. Focus on your own life and what interests you, she advises, rather than on remaking yourself to suit a man (""men are turned on by competence and turned off by weakness""). De Angelis decodes male behavior, looking at such issues as why men hate to be wrong and how to deal with this; why men hate to see women upset (men are results-oriented, so ""when you are feeling upset, tell your man exactly what you want from him""). Many men define themselves as a result of professional accomplishments rather than relationships, and if a man's work is not going well, he'll have a hard time with love and intimacy. The distinction between ""having sex"" and ""making love"" is spelled out; DeAngelis suggests that women try both. She also discusses lots of sexual specifics--men's feelings about oral sex, why some men seem remote after orgasm, what turns a man off (this ranges from women who are ""excessively needy and clingy"" to those who wear ugly underwear). Despite its irritating easy-read format (there's much reliance on lists, quizzes, charts, little in the way of anecdotes or narrative), De Angelis packs in solid insights. Useful relationship advice, then, but less gracefully packaged than Berkowitz's rival What Men Won't Tell You But Women Need to Know, reviewed above | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:17:26 PM | I agree with "Making love is heart, soul and body" (from post 19), but I do not agree with the other poster who said that it is like with "the one and only". That is a third "category". IMO, there are many more than 3 "categories" or "types" of such "exchanges". Eg there is the one someone does with a pro. It is not even sex, it is "F'ing". That is part of the reason dating is sooo confusing to some!!! lol lol The proliferation of categories that always existed ((I do not mean different positions or preferences, I mean the mentality behind/during the "act") but were not discussed for many centuries because it was taboo to discuss about sex, is nowadays in the open.
In addition, I guess the Kinsey Report is still terra incognita for many. But that is another ... thread, lol. | |
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| What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:18:08 PM | I think part of my idea of what just sex is, is sleeping with someone that I am not in love with and it usually isn't the best. Physical attraction comes into play. Mentally I have been encouraged to do it and my brain isn't functioning the way it should. Afterwards I often feel ill about it.
Making love, on the other hand, doesn't seem to require any work, everything just seems to happen right. It is soooo much better. You want to please the other person who is pleasing you. Instead of leaving you going why did I do that, you feel like, wow A warm feeling in the heart area. | |
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Joined: 6/19/2007
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