| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 4:55:55 AM | Hey, we all have had bad experiences in the dating or even marriage world, but that doesn't mean that "all men are users and **stards" or "all women are shallow gold digging ****es." I see WAY too much of that attitude at PoF. Anyone who thinks they can feel this way and believes that people can't intuit it is sadly mistaken. In its own way, that sort of attitude can become a self fulfilling prophecy.
I can't imagine a sadder existence than the one spent disdaining half the human race.  | |
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 7:33:00 AM | longte...and paradoxx...great answers from a couple of my fave ppl...
paradoxx...been a while scince we ran off tha outlaw...you still rock gal!!
................and behold......when tha mask was removed.......we were standin there ....lookin at a human.............a member of tha forgivin race............ | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 7:41:35 AM | The crazy thing to me is that since some seem so bitter and angry.....why are they even online looking? If they who bash "males"aren't looking for women why waste time bashing them on the forums?The same is true for females who bash men.Those who consider themselves hetro but still bash the opposite gender perhanps need to just stop looking and heal. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 7:44:34 AM | wise words from tha marathon man...no surprise there.........
and paradoxx i would love to go fishin with you..........have missed the threads you used to start...allus so thought provokin............. | |
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 7:51:02 AM | A lot of the time I think it is done, simply because it is easy
"You are not showing your Strong side, if you don't Bag people"
Probably in everyday life they would not do it.
But here there is the anonimity of cyberspace, so perhaps they feel they can let things go here
But even so, I still cannot understand it on a Dating Site
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 8:00:27 AM | @wicked
its a good thing to be positive I agree but you have to take into consideration
dating is not easy.. a road of ups, down, surprises and people are only human and they get upset, frustrated and they vent... part of healing and many are trying to heal.... and some are trying to take advantage of them... they get upset. I doubt anyone means any of that. I take it with a grain of salt. | |
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 8:04:34 AM | Hi MS
Yes some of what you are saying is very valid
But on a Dating Site, surely you would try to put your best foot forward
There are plenty of off site chat rooms to go and vent your spleen etc
doing it here must affect your chances of meeting someone???
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Adiana
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Joined: 5/11/2005
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 12:23:18 PM | Marathonman,
You are so right! I also think that there are trolls that occasionally like to find their ways into forums to stir up sh*t, though. I also have to admit that I have fell for their sh*t sometimes! LOL! Oh well! 
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 12:31:46 PM | ya gotta lick tha salty rim when ya drink tha margarita....aint tha so fid........
theres allus gonna be bashin an trolls........its what makes it worthwhile when ya dig a lil deeper............. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 5/21/2005 12:32:23 PM |
Yes some of what you are saying is very valid
But on a Dating Site, surely you would try to put your best foot forward
There are plenty of off site chat rooms to go and vent your spleen etc
doing it here must affect your chances of meeting someone???
Yeah, I am sure in the heat of the moment, everyone has had at least a few seconds where they thought that maybe members of the opposite sex sucked. But I have to agree here that immortalizing such sentiments on the internet....especially where the entire world can read them, doesn't seem too bright.
If I was talking to someone privately and saw them post such a thing in here, I'd probably not be interested in them anymore. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/14/2005 10:24:23 PM | *applause*
As someone brand new to the site, I am amazed at the overwhelming amount of negativity, whinning and complaining that occurs in the forums. What a shame that people just don't understand that life is about choices... | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/14/2005 10:26:47 PM | I am also amazed at the turn of the tone of these boards lately. It's become worse and almost nothing but a biotch fest for the bitter apples.
The fun stuff is okay, the jokes and such, but lately it's been a knockdown drag out war of words and it gets boring real quick.
I hope we can change it. I'm personally sick of it. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/14/2005 10:41:24 PM | First thing I noticed too but I wasn't terribly surprised to see it to be honest.
Firstly you've got to remember exactly what you said which is that this is a dating site. That means you've got men and women interacting with each other about , well, men and women. So on any given subject you're going to see the male/female thought patterns clashing.
Secondly, given that this is a forum for dating, again it's no surprise that people are going to be reminded of something or somethings that made them angry with the opposite sex.
Some people go too far IMO when they start talking about how all men are **stards or how all women are ****es. Personally, I think those threads and posts should be excised.
To use myself as an example, as I am new here as well and haven't had time to form an accurate picture of peoples' characters, I'm not too worried about who I am impressing or pissing off because I have no intention of getting on a plane to meet someone who lives somewhere that requires me to get on a plane to meet them. So I say what's on my mind. I try to be objective although , naturally because of the dichotomy I mentioned earlier, it will be interpreted in the wrong manner because a) this is the internet and we can't see each other to gauge the mood or manner of what the other is saying and b) men and women see things differently on many subjects. Plus I have an abbrasive tone in my communicated expressions.
So, that's my take on it anyway. I happen to agree that those with those attitudes are definitely not going to be finding love anywhere in their lives anytime soon with that attitude (and they carry it with them in the real world too of course) They will find themselves miserable until they get some objectivity in their thinking. As a consolation, despite the fact that I would hope they found happiness sooner or later, my instinct is to let them wallow in their own misery and see how great that is as opposed to what the opposite sex offers. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 12:35:39 AM | I don't have a problem with ****ing or mis-o-dry-ogyn-whatever but I do think that there should be a basic standard of excellence enforced for posts, where you should have to say something either intelligent or amusing to get posted. I just started checking these forums out a couple of days ago and I can't bear wading through a thousand imbecilic subjects like, "Why don't women like quadraplegics?" or "Are steaming, putrid, unshaved armpits a turnoff?" filled with sub-moronic responses like, "Hee Hee" or "  "
I mean I'm sure that somewhere buried in this enormous digital outhouse of the human spirit, there is somone that has something prescient to offer about the condition of single people today, but if its in here, I sure haven't been able to find it yet! | |
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khama
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Joined: 3/31/2005
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 1:03:16 AM | The battle of the sexes, is a raging fire that will
burn for all eternity...
Only problem is everbody is trying to control something that
has a mind of it's own... Be the dominant sex...
We are all strange animals, and each of us behave differently
than the other to a given stimulus.
Mens are from Mars
Women are from Venus
There will always be that 10 degrees of seperation....  | |
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nrk
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Joined: 3/31/2005
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 1:08:47 AM | Yes...what is UP with all the negativity lately?? If ya hate the opposite gender so much why not just switch sides?
Personally, I always look to see if someone I'm communicating with posts in these threads because how someone behaves in a 'group' setting can be quite telling! Turns out one fellow I met can't stand women from BC...sheesh...wish I would have read that one (single...only ever made one [NEGATIVE!] post!) before meeting him for coffee. Holy bitter-pills, bat-man!! | |
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khama
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Joined: 3/31/2005
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 1:35:45 AM | RE: NRK
If ya hate the opposite gender so much why not just switch sides?
That's a little easier said than done...
Why does everyone consider it bashing... I see alot of bashing from both sides
on POF... So, What's wrong with a bit of competition...
It keeps life interesting.... | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:01:27 AM | Started a thread here myself a couple of weeks back asking the same question...I don't understand why folks that are VISBLY "crispy" from previous experiences with members of the opposite sex, are on a dating site in the first place!!!
When I was feeling burned that way, I steered clear of dating PERIOD, and it wouldn't even OCCUR to me to come to a dating site....
I really wonder why they feel it's necessary to come and try to convince everyone ELSE of the validity of their bitter views, too...
I mean, if they SUCCEED, then is that going to make them happier?!?!?!? Hmmmmm....Dee | |
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