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Posted: 12/12/2007 6:48:15 AM | WHAT IS YOUR OPINION OF A MAN THAT WHILST IN A RELTIONSHIP PREFERS TO WATCH PORN ON HIS OWN AND RELIEVE HIMSELF THAN MAKE LOVE TO HIS LADY?
I DONT MEAN JUST EVERY NOW AND THEN , I MEAN CONSTANTLY. IM NOT CONDEMING PORN , IT CAN BE EXCITING FOR TWO PEOPLE TO WATCH TOGETHER AND HELP BOOST YOUR SEX LIFE . | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 6:49:41 AM | If a man would rather his hand to his lady than he doesn't deserve his lady.
p.s. no caps lock!!! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:02:08 AM | | Porn can be an enhancement to a sex life, but what you have described is a situation that has gone WAY beyond that. It seems to have become the replacement. This is a problem. It also generally will not go away without help and serious work. Someone needs to have the difficult talk with him and he needs to be receptive to a change. Otherwise, I don't believe that situation is salvageable. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:06:14 AM | i'd say as a man...
the guys trying to learn about sex to surprise his lady with some new moves in the bedroom..
instructional all the way... | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:12:28 AM | I think it's ok for men to watch porn on occasion,if it's done with their partner.
But when a man rather jerk off to porn,then to make love to a beautiful woman,there
is something wrong with that.
From what I've read,many men who do this lack confidence with their "skills",they
have a fear of committment,and they often see women as sexual objects,not people.
This is why some men seem so obsessed with porn.They want their partners to look like porn stars,or perfrom like the porn stars do.This is not only unrealistic,but selfish on the man's part.
I would ditch a man like this, you can do so much better! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:28:57 AM | Please turn off your caps lock!
after reading your other thread, I think there is a problem here. Not knowing the other side of the story, it's hard to make comment. But if all this is happening to you, then the two of you really need to sit down and decide/discuss/communicate what can be done to fix the problems. If they cannot be fixed, then you have to decide what is best for you. Either move on, or stay and hope it gets better. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:36:55 AM | | Sounds to me like hes not into her at all sexually. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:41:26 AM | Not only is typing in all caps against the rules here,
it is considered the same as SHOUTING with the written
word.
So, why are you shouting at us innocent POF forums readers?
Honest, none of us stole the last french fry out of your Happy Meal.
If your spoken word is as your written word, SHOUTING, I think
that I might know the reason that your dood hides in the other room. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 7:55:15 AM |
I think it's ok for men to watch porn on occasion,if it's done with their partner.
Could you give us a time schedule, such as day and time, when it is ok to watch porn, and also for how long.
I would hate to break any rules.
Also, if my partner (if I had one) was not available to watch it with me, could she write me a permission slip?
But when a man rather jerk off to porn,then to make love to a beautiful woman,there
is something wrong with that.
Ha, I have to agree with that one. That beautiful woman must have the personality of a Tasmanian Devil or something to turn the guy off like that.
From what I've read,many men who do this lack confidence with their "skills",they
have a fear of committment,and they often see women as sexual objects,not people.
Where did you read that? Cosmo? or another woman's magazine?
Could it be that jerking off just feels good, and after we don't have to discuss our feelings with our hands or even talk about our relationship?
As for fear of committment; we are talking about sex, and not neccasarily commitement. Perhaps the two always don't go hand in hand, and that's why jerking off is just so much easier.
I would ditch a man like this, you can do so much better!
Ok, back to the porn for me then.
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Posted: 12/12/2007 8:07:10 AM | that was funny ^^^^^
the thing i don't get about porn is, if so many women are unhappy that men enjoy it or watch it....
then why are so many millions of women making pornos?? maybe it's different for ladies....the thrill is in making porno | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 8:08:36 AM | | sorry to you all about the caps lock thing . not shouting and i didnt realize . silly me xx | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 8:47:10 AM | | I can tell you right now, masturbation and sex are 2 totally different things. One does not by any means equal the other. Sex is like Coca Cola, the diet version is never going to be the same.... | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 9:16:04 AM | | Sounds like the lady needs a new man since the current one isn't into her and that is a problem. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 9:28:11 AM | | Porn addiction is real--if he hasn't had a relationship in years and always looks at porn and avoids human contact, it's not a good thing. It's not a normal thing. He's emotionally damaged. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 9:37:57 AM | | A guy watching porn on occasion is no biggie. On occasion to me is around 2 times a week or so. It's simply an indulgence in fantasy. However, it is a bit odd that he would rather masturbate than do you if you were readily available. What do you define as constantly? Everyday? Every other day? Once or twice a week? Has it always been this way? Have you spoken to him about it? | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 10:40:51 AM | The idea that he think he lacks confidence or skills is pretty silly, especially if this is someone you've been with for a while.
Sounds like he's bored with the sex (it happens on both sides, and you didn't mention how long you've been together, so it could be a factor).
And yeah, if he's doing it all the time and never wants to do it with you, there's likely a bigger problem going on. The only thing you can really do is talk to him about it, to try to see why he's not as into you as he should be.
Have you tried watching it with him? My guess is that he'd soon be busy with you and not himself. Might be a way to get him back on track. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 11:09:03 AM | | I can kinda relate. In my past relationship, I could only get really turned on and into the sex if there was some type of porn involved. The sex became monotonous and all around boring. Now I would still want jy partner to be there and patricipate in the sex… I just also wanted the porn there. Maybe you could watch with him? | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 11:30:48 AM | | It can be exciting and a turn on if watched together,but if my man would rather watch porn than have sex with me i would be worried. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 11:53:47 AM | | I'm of the same school as some of the other posters... if he's watching porn and jerking off instead of wanting to have sex with me? He's not someone I want to be with. Porn has its place...but it's not to RE-place when in a relationship..... enhance...tittilate..sure..but replace? Hell no! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 12:25:41 PM | | If he has been masterbating to porn for a long time, sex with a woman may not be enjoyable at first. His body and mind have become accustomed to his normal stimulation and may need time and effort to readjust. He may feel inadequate for not being able to maintain an erection or achieving an orgasm with you. As usual, good communication and a willingness from both to make it work would seem like a good place to start. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 1:13:53 PM | | Porn is just sex with a camera......................just ask my camera.............. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2007 1:29:25 PM | | Then I would think maybe he is in love with his hand. Really. | |
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Posted: 12/13/2007 3:49:21 PM | Sounds Like to me He's Lost his attraction to you
Or the normal things that turn him on no longer
have an effect. Or MAYBE he's just addicted to that
Screen...
i think a woman with a man like
that, should be looking elsewhere.
Just my 2 pence | |
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Posted: 12/13/2007 4:04:11 PM | you people need to ed-u-micate yoursleves...
http://www.google.ca/search?hl=en&q=why+do+men+mastrubate%3F&meta= | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 4:45:48 AM | just thought id say the man im talking about lacks a great deal of confidence in his ability and says he has not had much sex in his life . all through his 20s and 30s he has dated religous women and no sex before marriage has been the issue . he says he has just always sorted himself out ! i have not got a problem with porn just dont think it should replace a healthy sexual relationship .
also he is now in his mid 40s and never lived with or married anyone .so he is quite self absorbed . | |
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